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I hate my stepdad
In brief, I hate my stepdad, and have done for about 3 or 4 years now. Because of this, I ant to get unadopted (if that’s possible) from him. I am currently 15 years old.
When I was 2, my parents separated, and left me, my mum, and my 6 month old brother. When I was 7, my mum met my stepdad, and he helped her because she had a thyroid problem, which had left her in bed for the majority for a year. Before they got married, he was very kind and always played with us, and always smiled. It stayed like this for a couple of years after their marriage, and why I said he could adopt me. I now regret this because as years have gone on, and he has gotten more angry and short-tempered. He used to hit both me and my brother, but thankfully he has stopped that after I had punched him in the stomach after he shouted at me for being tired at a wedding party. However, he still hits my brother and step-brother. My stepbrother is nuisance because of the way my step-dad treats him, and this can be seen in my bother too. He still shouts at us though, and all he ever does is do ‘work’ on his laptop – reading the news from 8am until 10pm. Recently, I have shouted at him because he hurts my brothers for no reason. After that, I have run away from him, and have talked to my mum saying that when I am older I am going to pay for a divorce.
If anyone knows how to get unadopted or any tips, please tell me as I am sick of him.
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Okay, first, never run away. No matter how bad it is at home, it's gonna be better than having no food or bed. If the beatings he gives your brothers are leaving marks, please contact Child Protective Services, because bruising or leaving any kind of mark is illegal in some states. Try going to a counselor to deal with the stress that comes with this obscene behavior. If your mom is well, tell her about this abuse, but do it calmly. If your mom actually wants him to leave, but can't afford it, or whatever reason, please try to get a restraining order, or something to get him away from you kids. Child support and other funding will help your mom if she doesn't work because of the thyroid problem. Best of luck.
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I am sorry to hear this. I really am. A lot of step fathers don't realise the commitments of bringing up someone else's child with or without their partners and then sad things like this happens.
I suggest you talk this over with your mum. Say how it's making you feel, and how bad it can be in the long run, physically and mentally for you and your brothers.
If she can't do anything go to a local police station. They'd know about unadoption and child abuse. If you have no way of getting there or you're too scared or something, go to a teacher or a school counsillor. They HAVE to deal with things like this if a student comes up to them. They'll either already know what to do and tell you all about it or they'll do some research for you, or set you up with an appointment with the right people.
Just remember (and I don't mean to go all 'anti-police/government on you) if the police don't do anything/say they will and they won't don't give up. Go to a teacher. The police WILL do something but I've heard stories and that's just in case.
And always remember you're doing nothing wrong. It's your step dad and everything will go right if you just hang on and wait.
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