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i dont want to stop eating......but now ive just started to eat less and less.....my friends say that im fine......but thats my friends......how do i know if i am anerexic.........??

how is the image of your body? do you hate how you look? are you always trying to lose a couple more pounds? do you starve yourself even though you know you need to be eating something?
those are all signs. eat healthy..live happy :)

im so sorry for the late response..i had account trouble

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ok this might sound stupid and all but all of my friends have gone out with like a million guys and i have like never. I like never liked anyone except for this one guy, but I don't really know how to tell if I really like him or not. This makes me wonder if im like a lesbian or something even though I don't like girls but still, I don't seem to like anyone, how do I tell if I like guys the way I should?

Please I hope you can help!!
--Jess

i dont think there is anything wrong with you. you just arent boy crazy..its not a big deal at all! i know a couple girls who focus on school and thats it. it doesnt make you a lesbian.

ps- im so sorry for the late response.. i had account trouble!

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If I'm on my period, and I have a tampon in, what should I do if, while making out, my boyfriend starts to put his hand down my pants? Should I assume he is going to finger me, and immediately warn him that I have a tampon in? If so, what/how should I say it? OR should I let him do whatever he is going to do, and then IF he DOES begin to finger me, should I THEN tell him to stop? Thanks for your help.

Hey! im so sorry for the late response..but i have had account trouble. better late than never though! ok yes ive been in this situation before and it can be an awkward one for sure. It would be good if the guy is someone you have a bond of trust with and who cares about you ...this will make telling him why he needs to back off for a couple days easier. communication is important..and if you are able to tell him the reason why...he wont be all confused thinking you dont want him to finger you.
hope i helped

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I'm 15 female
I can't stand my family, my dads an alcolholic,my brothers a pot head and has been locked up 3different times on his way of getting locked up again, and my mom is working her way to become an alcolholic, my other brother is in the marines and i don't speak to him. It's like I'm the only one is my house that's normal that doesn't smoke pot or drink barely get in trouble. I'm just so sick of it. I'm scared that pretty soon im going to be all by myself. Like my whole family is going to die either from doing drugs or drinking to much alcolhol. How do i deal with this...make it all go away and make it where it doesn't bother me anymore.
Thanks in advance.

i know you want it all to go away, but it cant and it wont. :( The beest advice i can give ya is to keep on the right track and make a better life for yourself. Keep in mind you are not alone...many others are in your same position.Sadly, not everyone comes from a good family..but that doesnt mean you will grow up to have a dysfunctional family. Take what you have gone through as a child to
make your family that much stronger.you wont be
alone,you will have a family of your own someday..hopefully your family will be apart of
that..but for now just stay strong and stay on
the right track

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Hi. I like this girl a lot and i was thinkin of writing her a poem or song but i cant play any music for it since i play the drums not the guitar. I'm having trouble writing the poem. Any ideas on what i can do?

thats sooo sweeeet! awww!
ok just write what you feel or whatever..and if you cant turn it into a poem or song..then just list lines of sweet stuff or something..make it unique..make it your own
thats adorable she will love it!!!!!!!!

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My boyfriend is constantly trying to tease me. He'll show me his underwear, say kinky things to me, and try to get me in "the mood". It didnt bother me a whole lot, but I got the idea that he wanted a lot of this in return. So I started giving it to him. Only he responded by saying that I was no longer his innocent girlfriend, how I've changed, and how surprised he is at me. He seemed so dissapointed. This type of thing keeps happening. I'll show him what I think is a great picture of me and he'll somehow suggest that I have low selfesteem and I should realise how beautiful I am. I dont get it? Should he be the only one in our realtionship who acts this way? Did I go too far? I rate.

no you didnt go too far..he was doing it so you thought you would chime in also. the only way to settle this is to talk to him on how your feeling that he can tease you and get a little crazy, but if you do it back how that shouldnnt be wrong. let him know acting like that with him doesnt mean he lost his innocent girl..its just bf and gf having some fun.

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Is it possible to fall in love at 17? I have been with my boyfriend for only 4 months, but there is such an intense energy between us. We talk all the time and are together at every moment possible. we are similar in our core beliefs, but disagree on many topics. Disagreeing has sparked tons of interesting conversations between us. everytime i think about him or someone says his name i smile and get a warm, fuzzy, happy feeling. we trust and respect one another and have good sexual chemistry (we have not however, had sex and will not for quite some time)

I am almost positive that i love him, but ever since i was young people have always told me that you can't fall in love in high school. I want to get some outside oppinions and find out if the things i am feeling are what is generally classified as love.

thanks loves!
me*

i dont agree with people who say you cant fall in love unless your a certain age. how can they deny YOUR feelings? you know? everyone has the ability to love..you dont have to be out of high school or whatever to feel the connection. dont let anyone tell you your not in love..if your feeling this way and its love in your eyes, then congradulations..your in love :)

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15/f
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months now and i still havent given him a handjob yet because i am so nervous (ive never given a handjob before).. can you please tell me everything i need to know.. like should i use lotion or not? etc.. and just any tips would be great.. if you can't say it on here then you can give me your sn for aim.. thanks

lol im def not an expert..but i'll try. i cant say here because its against the rules or whatever..so IM me on eatapasty
also..keep in mind dont do anything your too nervous about or arent ready for.

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My boyfriend has had dreams about us having sex lately. of course I'm not ready for that. I have to get on the pill first but I don't know if I really want to do it. He wants me to come over to his house. Yeah his room can be locked and well, it's kinda isolated from his house...and he's usually alone. We've been going out for almost a year. I'm just...afraid. He wants to make out with me in my underwear. What should I tell him or do?

definately dont do something you dont want to or are not ready for! it can ruin the good stuff you guys have going. you seem to be feeling pretty weird about all this..so definately tell him! you have been together for almost a year..thats a long time! im sure if you express how your feeling weird aobut it..your bf will lay off..because i know i dont ever want to make my bf feel pressured or anything..im sure your bf feels the same way.
-meliss

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hey peeps i was just wondering what you think... should a girl tell her b/f if she is taking pregnancy pills?? xoxo i'll rate good for good answers! thanx

yeah i definately think so..communication is important..and i think the guy has a right to know
just my opinion anyway
-meliss

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my mom beats me up all the time...she has problems with my dad and takes them out on me!!..when im sleeping sometimesi see her put her hands round my throat and try to choce me ..i love her so i dont want her to go to jail...what do i do??

i know you love your mother, but right now shes not stable enough to take care of you. she neeeeds help! your not safe , and every child desserves to be safe in their home. you have to tell some adult and get this taken care of.

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Okay well my boyfriend and I have been going out for 1 month now. Well we're not very close and there are certain things i want him to do but i dont know how to tell him. Everyone says i should just tell him or whatever, but i dont want to. And i can't really hint at him because hes kind of oblivious sometimes lol. And im like not in his profile and when he signs on or i sign on im always the one to IM him. What should i do? How do i get the word across to him of what i want him to do? I just want him to you know hug me and you know...lol just be close with me. Yeah i know that sounds retarded. So I'll rate really high for good answers thanks soo much for your help ♥

hey that doesnt sound retarded at all..everyone has their own pace..his is just a little slower thats all. i think thats a lot better than having a pushy bf , you know? so try things like you take the initiative and go for a hug goodbye or somethn. hes getting into things slowly..its ok! your his gf..you wouldnt be his gf if he didnt care about you. try litle things like that..keep me updated k?
-meliiss

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OK, see I'm going out with this guy...and he's really really sweet and nice and everything, he's what I think every girl would want. BUT the only thing is...he's not good looking....at all I guess...he's not like the ugliest person on earth...but he's just not cute at all. And like I'm afraid people at my school will make fun of me, because you know, Blue Valley..think about it..girls here..we judge...what do I do? Do I dump the guy? or do I keep on going out with this guy and ignore everything?

the guy is sweet, caring, makes you happy..right? thats what counts!!! if you live your life listening to others and what they think..when will YOU ever bee happy? stay with this guy..he sounds special
-meliss

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ok the other day my g/f and i were making out and i dont know what got into me but i stuck my hand down her pants and she didnt like it. she was ok that i put it down there but not too far and one time i think i got a little too far cuz after that she seemed depressed. now i feel like a jerk. afterward she said she sortof liked it but im not sure. wut got into me and how can i make it up to her? by the way im 14.

you got caught up in the moment..just next time your hangin out keep what happened in mind and dont do that..let her know you dont want to make her feel uncomfortable and your going to back off a bit..so if she liked it and wants you to do it again, she will initiate it. some ideas is flowers,chocolates,just a card you make, letter,poem, something sweet ..but most important..to make it up to her just let her know you got caught up and your sorry you made her feel uncomfortable..etc.

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Is it possible for a 14 year old girl to get a job on a cruise line over the summer as a waitress or table busser or clean up or anything like that?

that would be an awesome job! my friend and i used to talk about doing that like when we are in college..its a great way to travel for free..
the only problems i can see with this is being that your 14 they may be hesitant to hire you because your so young and you will be on the ship for several nights at a time..

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My last relationship didn't end well. My ex broke my heart and it was just horrible. Since then, I haven't had a boyfriend because I never let my feelings show and push any potential relationship away. I'm so scared of falling for someone and having them not catch me. A certain boy has come along and he's very interested in me. He says it's not fair I compare him to my ex and assume he's going to hurt me too. I can't help it though and I'm scared I'm going to push away this great guy, who I actually like. How do I let go of this fear and take a chance?

you take things slowly. get to know this boy..dont rush into things..go out with him on a few dates..and just take things nice and slowww..he will understand and be patient.

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lately i want to go bi because i dont like having sex with men anymore ive never been intimate with a girl before i mean their were lots of times but never all the way im physically attracted to woman but emotionally attracted to men but want absoulutely no sex from guys whats wrong with me im only 21

nothin wrong with you..i mean you gota go with what you feel. your feeling attracted to women, go with women..you dont want sex from guys, so dont have sex with guys. follow your sexuality..just because your different from others (straight people) doesnt mean there iis somethin wrong with you

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I have been dating a girl for almost a year now. I am 29, she is 27. I recently found out that she cheated on her previous boyfriends. Do you think there is a better chance that I'll be cheated on than if I was dating a girl who had never cheated?

yeah i mean its natural to think that..but look people can change their ways. just because she has cheated in the past..doesnt mean she will with you..howevvver, always feeling like she might be out with some other guy is no good either. talking to her about it is a good idea..in a relationship the two people should definately talk about stuff on their mind..concerns..etc. its important. keep me posted

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okay is it wrong to be so outgoing? i mean when im with my group of friends boys and girls.ill be one of the boys..im always the one making jokes and talk with attitude.but sometime i feel i should slow down be more reserved and sweet.becouse even tough im friendly n outgoing my girlfriends seems to be getting all the boys.why? i need advice badly becouse im in love with one guy he doesnt know about it.so i dont want 2 mess things up this time. i dont want to look like a clown.pls help.

being outgoing is GREAT! Always keep this in mind..you be YOURSELF and nothin else..if your an outgoing person...donnnnt become reserved just because you think that will get you a bf..because #1...lots of guys love outgoing girls..and #2..you have to be yourself..you dont want a guy to like you for someone your not
stay yourself! :)

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is there any way for boys to "finger" themselves?

boys dont finger themselves. they jack off. the only way they could possibly "finger" themselves is if they were into the anal pleasure thing
-melis

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