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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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im 13/f ..
i would like to lose weight before january to march.. or even christmas. waht do i do so that i can lose some fat in my stomach [i have a flabby stomach =( ] and also my thighs [whenever i walk theyre always touching.. that is not sexy] please help me. i`ve been looking for this [lose weight fast] for a long time. i dont wanna take those medicines or other drugs, i just wanna do something like.. i dont know. lol please help!! i want a nice body.
=[
Welllll. Theres alot of things you can do.
You could just cut all junk food away [ you'd be EXTREMELY surprised how much you can lose from that.]
You could take long walks, & drink about 12 glasses of water per day. [depending where you live, its snowy where i live, so if you live somewhere where its cold, that wont work.] But, if you can, that boost up your metabilism & you lose weight pretty quick.
As for an actual dietttt, you could try..
The atkins diet. (:
You eat strictly protein. That doesnt mean just meat, it also means, peanuts, cheese.. & so on. Your not allowed any carbohydrates, so make sure u check the labels!! (: Thats a really easy, good diet.
BUT. since your only 13, its probably not the healthiest. inless you do it only like 3 days a week. hmmm. i don't really have many other ideas besides that, because i dont really ever diet. But, when I do, I usually do that stuff. (: It works best.
im rilly confused my mom hits me but its kind of my falt so it just dosnt seem like cild abuse to me but my best friend was over one day and saw what was going on he ses i need to tell but i rilly rilly dont want to . what should i do????
plz tell me what i should do
thanx
13/f
You are gonna get alot of different opinions on this.
But, this is mine. & if your mom is anything like my mom, then there is no need to call 'child abuse' You know when your little, your mom will spank you or something? Its basically the same thing, if you do something bad, you get hit & sent to your room. Your mom only did it, because she was punishing you. There was a reason for it. The people that tell you oh yeahh call child abuse or something, I personally think are wrong. I don't think they realize how big of a deal that is. That could get your mom into alot of trouble. & really for no good reason. don't do it.. you'll regret it. Inless your mom actually starts starving you & hitting you or if shes an alcoholic.. then call child abuse, if not... DON'T.
Every parent raises their kids differently. Think how loving your mom is to you, when shes not mad at you & how she trys to get you things you want for christmas [or whatever you celebrate.]
Don't call or anything, seriouslyyy. Listen to me on this one, it'd be a HUGE mistake. Parents get mad, & parents make mistakes. There humans. When you beat up your brother or sister, you don't see them calling like the police or whatever on you. [Even if you dont have a brother or sister, you get what I mean.]
Maybe just talk to your mom about it, like.. why do we use violence, when we get mad at eachhother or something? You know.. just talk to her about it.
The only way I'd call child abuse, is if your mom has some mental problem & she does this when you don't even do anything at all. Or if your mom has a problem with alcohol.. & it doesn't count if she gets drunk like once. It has to be repeatedly. Do you have a dad? Can you talk to him?
I hope I helped.
the convo between me and my friend in IM
friend: does it matter if i look at his myspace?
friend: NO.
me:iono its your choice
friend: yeah i know
friend: but yer like so surprised
me: wtf im not
friend: yer like REALLY?
friend: WTF?
me: (laughing out loud)
friend: and stop saying WTF
me: noooooooo
friend: say WtH or something
me: wht
me: why*
friend: cuz its not a good habit
me: i like wtf better
friend: just dont use it when yer talking to me
friend: you give me the wrong idea
friend: lke your mad
friend: haha
friend: iono
me: why do you think im mad
friend: cause you say
friend: WTF
me: so?
friend: nvm
what is she trying to say? whats wrong with saying wtf? i mean why does she cares if i say wtf? but is she trying to be a good friend for saying this?
WTF=what the f*ck
Yeah, I get what your friend is saying like completely. The only time I say WTF is when like someone will say something funny & i'll be like laughing, yano what I mean? or.. when I'm mad. & it didn't sound like you were laughing about that thing or whatever. you sounded made. Just don't say that around her, because she obviously doesn't like it. She can't really understand why your saying it in the first place, & i dont think she thinks its a nice word either. I think she is being a good friend to you, because shes trying to keep you from not swearing & stuff.
16/m
I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.
I was kinda like this.. for awhile. Well, nott that bad or anything. But, I guess I can understand how you feel, kinda.
How you keep saying, how your so worried about all those things, you need to stop. Stop worrying about yourself. Think about other people..oh & when you say.."i hate everyone, espically happy people." LIKE WTFF. wow, that'd really wanna make me be your friend. I mean, come on are you hearing yourself speak? Your only unhappy & everything, because of yourself. Its no one elses fault. You need to realize that, people arn't going to always try to be your friend, you have to try to be their friend. When people would tell me.. "you can make a million friends by being active & doing stuff in school" i thought, pshhh, yeah right. you don't need friends to do that stuff. When I joined some stuff, oh my goshhh, friends came like rollingg in. They all have the same interests as you, therefore.. your bound to make new friends, which will make you happy, which will make you less depressed. Then, overtime.. you'll be alot more happier.
If you ever need help with girls, just ask another question on here, on how to get them! I'd deff. be happy to help you. Since I am a girl, & have very much experience in all that.
Nothing is as hard as it seems. I used to always make things so difficult on myself. Thinking it was more to what it was, espically with school things. I then realized it wasn't.
The only thing your doing wrong, is not trying. That was good that you went to therapy though..
Why don't you like your friends? Try to like them, bring out the positive things about them. What do you mean "people don't meet my standards, they never will." ha, kidddooo, you can't expect people to be perfect. Another thing I figured out, just last week. I was expecting so much out of people, & so I was constantly pushing people away from me, & being mean to them. I realized, no ones perfect, & i'm sure they see things about me that isn't so great either.
What do you like to do? I like photography.. & drama club, & cheerleading [ ok you probably won't like that one, but.. lol] & foreign languages, & stuff like that. If you don't like that stuff.. but you've never tried it, well you'll never be certain if you like it or not, if you don't try it! No one will most likely understand you perfectly. But, if you meet alot of new people, every person, can understand you in one way..
you'll deff. have a job, mcdonalds hires like ANYONE. & next time you eat there, they say stuff about how their hours fit anyones. & stuff.. so trust me, even if your not smart enough for college, you'll still have some type of job.
Don't kill yourself, people care about you if you realize it or not.
Anywayss, I hope you take my advice. That stuff isnt gonna happen over night. It will happen over a period of time. Try writing your feelings down. Then, at the end of the month, look back at them, & try to find small changes, like.. how maybe you made a new friend, got a girlfriend.. or something like that. It may help. I hope this helped, If you listen to me, & really try, I gurantee you'll be feeling alot better, soonn.
Oh right, & powerful words of an old friend of mine, who died because of cancer..
"Look on the brightside, no matter how hard it is. No one else can help you be happy, thats up to you"
He said something similar to that, anyways. Just try what I said, I hope it works.
im really popular now
but im so scared that im not gonna be throughout highschool.
Ive been pretty popular for a few years, im just scared
and i know its not all about being popular
but once you get used to it, then its hard to not be it.
help??
Yeah, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I rule my grade, & I was thinking like, what if its not the same when I go to a bigger school? Well, I guess once you get into like 10th grade or 11th, it doesn't even matter if your popular. You know who you are & stuff. Anyways, I figure, if I'm popular now, why wouldn't I be in highschool? Yanoo? I mean I don't plan on changing or anything. So, you'll probably still be popular too.
13/f
okay lol . im just wondering so when i get older ill know how to do it.
1. how do tell your parents youre pregnant?
2. how do you tell them you want to get married or getting married?
haha kk thanks.
Well, do you plan on getting pregant any time soon? Haha, I mean, if your like not married & stuff.. & it was an accident, lol then I'd just say like "Mom, dad, I got under pressure, & something happened, & I got pregant" or something, I'm not really sure how to answer that? Because I don't plan on getting pregant. lol..Anyways, if your like married & it happens, you just say like guess what? your grandparents. or something. If you wanna get married, then you just tell them, like, I think I'm ready to settle down with so&so. I guess, I don't know. I didn't really know how to answer that.
Haha, hope I helped a little! kbye (:
i really neeed your advice:
who do you pick? the person who first loved you? or the person you first loved?
The first person you loved.
13/f
i really need advice. do you know how to lose weight? especially in my stomach and thighs. whenever i walk my feet are always touching and whenever i sit down, my thighs look like flatout pancakes. are there any tips? i know doing situps or crunches are good, but i seem to not do it coz of my laziness. [lol] im serious i get tired after doing about 20 situps then i stop. are there any food i shud avoid to lose weight? ive heard that if you lose weight and start eating whatever again, youll gain fat back. and that scares me. i wanna be fit and healthy for the rest of my life. pls give advice! and thanks in advance! =]
Ha, yeah I'm lazy too. But, the thing with me is.. I'll be on the couch watching tv, & not feeling like getting up to go eat something. hahaha. Anyways, theirs this diet I did for a little while. Because I gained like 5 pounds. & I like flipped out, because I usta be fat & then I got like super skinny, so yep. ANYWAYS, its like a nice diet if you don't like meat, you may not like this diet. But its the Atkins diet. Its where you only eat meat & can only have like 10 carbohydrates or whatever. [Check into the exact, I forget] You can't have any fruit or anything, Just vegetables & stuff. It sounds like a suckish diet. But, I lost like 10 pounds in 3 days, [thats only when you first start though] Then its like 3 pounds, for 3 days. & you don't have to stay on it for like ever. You can do it for like 3 days go off, & eat normal food. Then go back on. Like I remember I made like salads with like chicken in it & stuff. & then I got that dressing where like just one spray is 1 calorie or whatever. lol And drink like ALOT of water. & if you live somewhere where its warm out, or semi warm, then taking walks is a good idea too. (: I gurantee you'll be skinny in no time on that diet.
To me, thats better then doing situps & junk I hate doing those things. lol
Ok, i hope I helped!
13/f
do u knowany good straighteners out there? like really good ones that lasts all day without being frizzy ? but not too expensice ones.. maybe something that i can afford. [im 13. lol] ihave curly hair and my hair has been damaging due to hair dring and constant straightening. [also maybe because of all these different products i use for it like serums and sprays to make hair shine] i hope this doesnt sound confusing and i hope that you can help me!
ps. does hair dyeing also damage the hair?
THANKS IN ADVANCE.
Well, I don't usually straighten my hair, but what I have is a conair or something. If you have thick hair, gett a bigger one. Theres one for like i think 105 dollars or something, that a couple of my friends have. That works really well, if you have like, a beauty store, or something.. go there, & ask them. They'll know. Hair straighteners can run from like 10 dollars to like 100 & something dollars. Mine was like 50, it works pretty well, & it stays straight for the whole day. My friends, don't straighten it like everyday, like, my one friend, like her hair doesn't get dirty quick or anything, so sometimes she takes a shower every other day. So it doesnt ruin her hair as much. & like I mean you don't have to wear your hair straight everyday, yano? Like, I usually put my hair up in a pony tail one day, have in a headband another day, & then straighten it another day. & yeah, your hair could be getting damaged from all that stuff you use.
Oh, & hair dyeing yeah, it can damage the hair. I was gonna get my hair like highlighted, & the lady at the salon, told me I shouldn't because once you start, you like ALWAYS have to do it. & everything. & espically if you want it done right, & all that.. that will also cost some money, if you'd like have to pay for it yourself.
Anyways, I hope I helped.
kbye (:
is it true that using crest white strips to highlight parts of your hair really works?
...and does it damage it?
Yes, they work really well. But, how old are you? If your not passed like 15, it will damage your gums. Talk to your dentist. (:
Ok soo theres this guy and i guess he likes me,ALOT! But i've known him forever, like preeschool, and i dont want to ruin our frinedship over it. My friend said he was going to ask me out like soon, and i don't know what to say i don't know if i should go out with him, or if i should tell him no, but if i tell him no what should i say?? please help! =]]
oo and im 13 and a girl =]
I went out with like 2 of my guy friends. The one, I stayed best friends with afterwards, well, were not anymore.. because its a long story. The other one, I hardly talk to at all anymore, I mean when I talk to him, were like aww yeah, hey! But, its not like we talk every day anymore. That kid was immature. Once I broke up with him, he like got all mad. The other one, we stayed friends for like another year. It depeneds on the person, I mean if you like your friend, then go out with him, but say.. I don't really want out friendship to change after this. If he promises it won't, then go out with him.
Even if you don't really like him, then just give it a try. Because, I gurantee if you don't go out with him.. its gonna get rocky after that. Espically with guys egos & all these days.
If you do decide to tell him no, just say like exactly what you said to me, about the friendship thing. If he says it won't, then just give it a try. Thats what I'd do.
ok hope it works out, bye [:
Ok so i use to be plus size and i have lost weight over the years and now i have slimed down a lot over the years. When i was plus size i did eat a lot but i stayed full for a mad long time. Now since ever i lost weight i eat all the time im like full for a little bit and hunry like 10 15 min later.. i dont think thats really normal and the thing is that im not gaining weight, and people even say i eat a lot for my size but i cant help it im just always hungry.. i am and active person and my mom was saying how i have ADHD so do i just burn off all of the food and it doesnt stay with me so im hungry again?? or does it have something to do with my Motabolism, its just weird because it started ever since i got thin
so can you all please give me ideas on why im like that
I'm pretty thin, well 80 pounds, & i'm 14. & like 5'2. I just lost alot of weight, but that was because I would be too lazy to get off the couch to eat or something. lol Anyways, it could either be your medication, my other friend has that, & shes really skinny, so maybe? or it could be your metablism, if you also drink alot of water & are active [which you said you were] So, that could be it too.
Hmm, if it stays like that, then maybe go to a doctor? Or you could call like an advice nurse, or something. If they have that where you go to the doctors or whateveR?
I don't know, I hope I helped a little! (: ok bye
I'm 14 years old and a female.
I have a boyfriend who I have been going out with for 4 months now and at first he was so sweet and really nice to me. Over time he started getting mad at the littlest things,, like how I dressed or did my make-up. He would call me a whore or a slut and other things, and about a month after that he bcame abusive. He would always loose his temper and hit me. Never in front of anyone though, and he just got worse and worse but I never told anyone. So after school yesterday I tried to break up with him, he got so mad and punched me. He said if I ever tried to break up with him again I would regret it. After he left I was just sitting in the hallway crying when this guy I really liked(I didn't know him that well but I like him even before I had a boyfriend)came p to me and knelt beside me and asked me if I was okay. I tried lieing to him, telling him I tripped and fell but he wouldn't by it.(I'm guessing my black eye gave him a hint) He asked me if my boyfriend did this to me and I said yes. He lives close to the school so he asked me if I wanted to go to his house to get cleaned up and I said yes. When we got there he helped me wash the cut and everything and we started talking. He asked me if it was the first time my boyfriend did this to me and I told him no, then I told him everything. For some weird reason I trusted him. He walked me home and when we got their he hugged me and then he kissed me. He said he would take care of my boyfiend. I ddn't really know what he meant but I let it go. I was to happy he kissed me. I was late to school the next day, but when I got their I was just in time to see the fight between my boyfriend and the other guy (Lets call him Matt). They were broken up by the police officer. They were both pretty beat up.Both of them got sent to the principals office. Matt got suspended for a week, and my boyfriend 3 weeks. (He has previos fighting records)I caught Matt as he was leavigng and asked him why he would get in a fight over me. All he said was "I love you and I couldn't stand to see you hurt like that" and he walked away. What should I do I really need help.
oh my gosh, its obvious, lol go with the guy who stuck up for you. he obviously cares alot for you. & that other guy seems like a real jerk. if my boyfriend ever called me a slut or anything, that'd be the end right there for that relationship. The other guy may care about you, but he has to much of a temper, & then.. break up with him, where a BUNCH of people are around.. & be like "Look, I like you & all.. but, I think you need to get some help with your temper or something" if he even like tries to even hit you, i'd tell your parents & get a restraining order on him. You don't need that type of kid in your life.. I know you don't wanna hear my little story, but I'm gonna tell you anyways. lol..
There was this guy, that I dated.. & he was all around a bad kid. He got kicked out of his school & everything. But he was just sooo cute, & he seemed nice, or to me he was. So, then he asked me out later on, he was a 'sexual' type of kid, & he'd always be like to me "You are soo hot, you should be a f'in model. i wanna bang you soo bad." & I you know thought he was KIDDING this one time when he said it & then anyways, to tie that part up, he came to my house in the middle of the night. YEAH. I sent him home. I haven't talked to him much since. He only hit me once, he usually took his anger out on his brothers.. yeah, when he broke up with me, he like messed his little brother up completely, & sent me a picture of his brother & said "yeah, you are lucky I didn't do that to you." So, basically.. I'd get away from that bad kid. Hes not worth your time, even if hes cute or something.. theres other cute boys in the world. [:
kayy bye.
Good arguments that atheists might use against religious people, usually Christians? I deal with a lot of rather annoying fundamentalists.
(And if you are going to answer this by telling me how I need to let "god's love into my heart", then please press the back button on your browser now. There's a pretty good chance you sicken me."
If I were you I'd just ignore it. People, I guess like you.. ask me Why would you believe in God? [I'm religious, if you didn't get the hint.]I simply just tell them, "Because its what I believe & I don't need you trying to tell me I'm wrong. You won't change my mind" Thats all I say, personally.. I'd just ignore it.
There is this guy that i like, and um... i want to tell my firends because i am not good at keeping secrets(i am kind of a big mouth), and um...well the problem is that...i like a guy that they used to like, but now hate because he wasnt interested in them. And i think hes rilly hot, but i am afraid to say anything, because they call him ass hole and watever, and i dunno, if i shud tell them. I mean when my friend found out my other friend liked him she got pissed off. And i dont want to get into a fight. Does someone have advice they can give me, so i dont screw up anything. Thanks! Love ya :)
I'd most likely, try to like someone else. Its not worth it. Plus, say you do tell him, & he likes you back, you go out.. & then you get like mad at him. Your friends won't be any support. They'll probably just be like I told you so! & stuff. Then, what if you want to go on a group date? If your friends hate him.. they won't wanna go. They'll also all probably end up talking about you, saying like "I can't believe her" which.. could also cause problems in your future.
Basically, theres not enough good things to come out of dating him, to be worth it.
Hoes before bros (:
kbye
Am I the only one alive who thinks it's terrible that kids (13-16) are having sex? I'm only 18, but when I was 13, I was riding my bike and doing karate, not giving blowjobs on the school bus. But thats the norm now, and if you haven't had sex by the time you're 17, you must be ugly or way religeous. What on earth!? Am I the only one disgusted by this trend?
Yeah, I think its wrong too. I used to have like boyfriends when I was in 4th grade & kiss them & everything. & I wasn't even named a slut, I was thought as really cool & stuff. Now when I think about it, I think I was such a slut. I didn't even now what a blow job was, intil 6th grade, because boys would ask if I'd give them one. I thought they wanted me to paint there nails or something, so I'd always say sure. I never did do it though. I'm now only 14 & guys constantly come to my back door to try to bang me. Its like they think I have no morals! I think it all comes from TV or even music.
Hey,
last night my best friend called my cell phone at around 10 and told me that her mom has colon cancer. When I heard this i started crying because I know my friend and her mom are really close.
So my question is, what can I say to my friend? I mean i dont really even know how to react to this, its one of those things you never think will happen to you. Does anyone know what the chances that her mom will die are? Thank you so much
-marsbars
Three of my really close friends, all there parents have different types of cancer. One had skin cancer, one had breast cancer, & the other one has some weird kind. This one boy I knew had cancer too. Actually, he was my best friend.. but anyways..
The one that had skin cancer, she had surgery, they got rid of it & shes fine now.
The one with brest cancer, they got rid of it too.
The one with the weird kind, is fighting it still. Hes had it before & it went away. Were hoping it will too again.
The one boy I knew, got cancer & died.
Theres probaly a slim chance her mom will die. It depends how serious it is. If your religios at all, pray for her. Just show your friend, you care & that your there for her. Don't start asking her a bunch of questions, it may make it worse. Just listen to her. & be supportive.
I hope it all works out! kbye
My bf is kind of startng to annoy me. he wont even look at me when i talk to him, im pretty sure he listens but it seems weird that he wont even look at me. and he wont just like stop and talk to me in the hallways, i always hav to start conversation. And today he like ignored me when i ran up to him. hes really not a shy person its just around me. And at first i thought he didnt like me anymore but he said he does. should i just dump him? i still like him but he acts weird sometimes and i HATE how he wont look at me!
No, awww. Don't dump him! Thats how my ex-boyfriend was, he would look at the ground when he would talk to me, he could hardly talk, & everything! Don't break up with him, hes obviously shy, & for some guys.. when they really like a girl, it makes it hard. Like, my ex I'd ask him why, & he'd say.."Because your so perfect, & I know I'm nowhere near it & I just don't wanna mess up around you." I bet thats how he thinks of it. Ask him why, he doesn't talk much. & tell him you really like him.
I hope it works out. kbye
There's a really really REALLY hott guy in my class...let's call him...tim. Well, Tim is a really popular guy who is really nice and well, HOT :)...basically, if you looked at him, your heart would melt...lol. And, well i'm not a popular person..It's not like i'm a total geek or anything but i'm not the most popular girl in my class...im just normal...
ANYWAY...
At my friend's halloween b-day party, my friend told him "You and Em would make a great couple...you should ask her 2 dance"...
Tim didnt ask me or anything so I thought that he didnt like me....
Since then, he's talked 2 me a little bit and I even saw him looking at me a little bit...does this mean he likes me? I doubt this but what do you think? He broke up with his girlfriend a while ago but at the party i saw them dancing together...
Should I give up now while I'm ahead? Any advice would be GREAT!!!
Thanx!!!
*~*EM (13/f)
He sounds interested. He may not like you, completely type thing. But, like.. you've got his attention. Which is good, keep going for it.. like smile at him & make small talk. Like if you sit by him in any of your classes, like ask him if you can borrow a pen, or paper. Just to where, it breaks the ice. You get what I mean?
It deffinitely seems like hes interested. Don't give up.
I hope it all works out (: kbye
Do you think horoscopes are true in any way?
Well, on myspace I always look at mine. & its completely right. Like, sometimes theres like one tiny thing wrong with it. But, its always right.. so yeah, I guess I believe its true.