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he says he loves me we are having great sex, but i think he is already engaged to someone else but has not told me (link)
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Why do you come to that conclusion? And if you feel that way than maybe you need to follow your gut and move on. If he's engaged then you should move on.
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he says daily he loves me but he has a girlfriend. Should I just leave or try to see if he will leave her? (link)
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Put yourself in the girlfriend's shoe. How would you feel if your boyfriend was telling some other girl that he loved her. How would it make you feel if you found out? It wouldn't feel good would it? He has a girlfriend so you need to back off and move on. And even if he was to leave his girlfriend whats not to say he won't do that to you if you're with him.
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this is just a general question,if you are starting to see someone, is it ok to ask how their past relationshp ended? just to make sure your possible relationship won't end the same way? (link)
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Yes and no. It can be argued both ways.
First off depending on how long you've been in a relationship with this person its okay to ask casually what happened between them and the ex. It can't be a constant discussion though.
And last don't ask about the ex so you don't make the same mistake. The reason for this is the relationship that you're in and nothing like any other relationship you and your partner with anyone else. It's not good to compare and take notes on past relationships.
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What does it mean for a guy to say you are naive when it comes to relationships? (link)
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If a guy says your naive when it comes to relationships its means to him you don't seem to have a lot of experience.
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Ok, my boyfriend is the nicest person i know. He completely loves me and does so many nice things for me. He doesn't have a car though, so i drive us everywhere and he usually pays for food and other things, because he feels bad for the gas that's wasted that I have to pay for ya kno? Anyways hes a complete sweetheart, and i know it, but i don't appreciate him enough maybe? Like for some reason since he doesn't have a car I get mad at him a lot ,cause i have to pick him up to hang out from his friends or his house. It's just annoying to me that my boyfriend can't be the one driving cause i feel like it should be that way? I really wish i could change my attitude about it ,but i really just don't know how..it's one of those things that just puts me in a mad mood too much and I don't want it to have that affect on me/us anymore. advice? (link)
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I'm in the same situation with my boyfriend, only he's the one always driving and I don't drive. I don't have my license. I don't think it matters whether the girl or guy in the relationship drives it should be equal. I love my boyfriend to death but he isn't a taxi driver. Nor are you to your boyfriend. Maybe the reason you get mad is because you feel like you're driving him all over the place which is a normal way to feel. Maybe you feel like you are being used at times because he needs a ride here or there?
Is he saving up for a car? Maybe suggest he start saving up and have a goal of getting his own car? That way there is a goal and he gets a bit of independence.
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The last three times me and my boyfriend have hung out it really hasn't been any fun.. we were bored and got really irritated with each other easily. Since this bothered me so much i texted him while i was at school the next morning saying "i dont want to fight anymore. it makes me sad i cant stop thinking about it" and he told me "every couple needs to work on things.. please dont be sad." and then i tried to talk more about it in a deeper aspect and he just said "i dont want to get upset today if i dont have to. were just living. its all good love" but its not all good.. it upsets me he doesnt want to talk about it.. and i got frustrated and told him i didnt want to see him at all this week, but i said it in a nice way not an ignorant way. I dont even know if thats going to help or not? what should i do or say.. im really upset because i love my boyfriend and hes like my dream guy forreal.. but things arent as perfect as i thought they would be. (link)
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Nothing is perfect. There is no such thing as perfect.
At the beginning of a relationship there is a 'honeymoon phase' where you are so "goo goo gaga" over each other. That phase lasts about 3 months to a year and then after that its not so much.
You mentioned you were getting bored and you were irritated with one another. Maybe you need time apart or maybe plan some activites with friends? Do you hang out together all the time? Or do you hang out every other day?
Maybe the reason he doesn't want to talk about it is because something is bothering him or maybe he is scared of what you are going to say. Relationships go through tough times its what you do in those times that make the relationship stronger. Don't give up! Put your foot down and talk to your boyfriend and let him know this is bothering you. You should be able to talk to him about anything. Good luck and hang in there!
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who my future husband?
does my boyfriend now love me so much?
he will be the one my coming husband?
he likes me so much?
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No one truly knows what is to become of your future. You won't know until it happens so its best to just 'live in the moment'.
"Who my future husband?"
It could be someone you have known for a long time or a a total stranger you haven't met yet.
"Does my boyfriend now love me so much?"
I'm sure if you're boyfriend is with you and how long you have been together I'm sure he does love you.
"He will be the one my coming husband?"
Again no one knows if he'll be your husband. I'm sure its nice to think about but its not a definite.
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I been with my boyfriend 4 months but before him I dated girls only I feel very confuse because I still like girls and i miss my gay life I love him but I'm not in love with him. (link)
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Well you need to be honest to both youself and your boyfriend. Can you see a future with your boyfriend? If you're happy with him and you want to be with him than go ahead for it. If you miss dating girls than I would say you need to be honest with your boyfriend and tell him. Whatever you choose you need to be honest to yourself and your boyfriend!
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Hey guys!
Thisis kind of a long story but I could really use any advice..
My boo and I broke up around a month and a half ago and I cant shake him from my head. Its not that im sitting at home moping...i just cant stopconsidering if maybe he was the one for me. We just werent working out and the break up was mutual although he talked about dating in the future. He hasn't said reallly anything to me except wish me a happyyy birthday and tell me he loves me.this was like 2 weeks ago but nothing since.I'm so scared that me going and hanging out with other guys is going to ruin my chances of him coming back but my friends insist that I'm doing the right thing and he isnt whats best for me. I wish I believed them but I just keep thinking of him coming back like he previously has. I know it won't work right now but I feel so empty and like I'm going to be alone forever.it's noy that I have a bad personality or looks, guys seem to be interested in me alot..its just I find things I dont like about them and consider waiting for my ex who honestly kindatreated me badly at times. I reallly want to move on and trust that if its meant to be then it will but I cant help thinking that everything worth while ids hard work...although he should put in the work since he wasthe one who began pulling away. Can someone please help me. I know I cant go back but I'm confused if I'm making a mistake letting him go...please help, havent been this messed up in a while..:( (link)
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It's hard to let go of someone you have been with for awhile. You feel hurt and you feel like there is no one in this world who could make you feel like he did. I don't know what is to become of your future. No one knows who they are going to end up with in the end. You talking to him is not going to help you move on and by you thinking that there is a future between the two of you is not helping you move on. Now I'm not saying that it won't work in the future but you can't hold on to that hope. Go out there and be yourself and date and have fun. Life is too short to concern yourself with just him. You have to make you happy and this time is about you not him. Trying be positive and try thinking about yourself and what you want out of life. I hope you feel better!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. I really like the jewelry they have at james avery and pandora. I like james avery's rings and pandora's charm bracelets. My uncle stole a lot of my jewelry from me and i'm left with nothing but pony bead bracelets. My boyfriend has never given me a piece of jewelry besides buying it from forever 21 (which were a dollar fifty a piece - literally) and they were cute but i was hoping that one day for a gift he could buy me a charm bracelet and like start me off with two or three charms. he could get them offline for way cheaper but he says he doesn't want to waste money on that. if he got it for me i would wear it ALL the time. especially the charm bracelet. but the rings from james avery are really cute too . I know people who always get nice jewelry from their boyfriend and i'm wondering when or if he will ever feel like it's not a waste of money. for gifts he will give me money to go clothes shopping and that's really nice, but i wish i got one single thing that i could look at in all of its beauty and know he put more effort into it. he is usually the guy to learn is lesson. one valentine's day i baked him brownies and bought him russel stover chocolates and bought him a pair of his favorite sunglasses and he gave me the gift his mom got for me, cheap chocolates that tasted like rubber and sugar and a three dollar pillow. he didn't even pick it out (that's what really botheredd me...he put no effort) and after i told him that, the next year he picked out flowers and got me awesome chocolates.so i was wondering how i could tell him that not every gift he gives me has to be jewelry, but at least something. he has given his other girlfriends (who lasted way less than two year) jewelry that was really nice. i wonder if he doesn't think i'm worth it. I've bought him a kinect, his favorite shoes that were around 80 bucks, gauged earrings made of horn and a gift card to buy one new xbox game that he lost. (link)
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I know how you feel because I've been there. One of my exes use to say "the shiniest thing I'll ever buy you is a wrapper from a fast food restaurant". Romantic wasn't he?
I have come to the realization that some men don't know how to show that they care. Just because he hasn't bought you jewelry doesn't mean he cares less or that you're worthless. Think about the ways that he shows you he loves you. Focus on that. Whether it be if he makes you laugh, listens to you when you need someone to talk to, or even takes you out to dinner. So you buy him all these things, to be honest just because you do doesn't mean he has to as well. Sometimes guys need to you to tell them what to do and what you want. I catch myself at times when I'm with my boyfriend and I'm upset about the fact that he doesn't know what I want. Guess what my boyfriend is not a mind reader nor a psychic last time I checked. Sometimes if you want something you have got to say it.
And another thing don't compare yourself to the other girlfriends that he's had not a good idea.
I would also say talk to him about it and ask him what the deal is. If he is your boyfriend you should be able to talk to him about anything and let him know what's bothering you. I hope things work out!
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I'm M/16. I'm a Junior in HS. I used to be good at school. My gpa was 83 in freshman year. In sophmore year my gpa went down to a 69, by the end I got it up to 79. This year has been okay but, I just don't want to do homework. I pay attention & do class work but I don't feel the same. I'll get home, play video games & research random things on the net. At around 11pm I'll look at my homework and just put it back in my bag. Then I'll end up going to bed at around 1am, fall asleep by 3am, and wake up at 5:30am. I've tried to sleep earlier and I just can't. Its like I've lost motivation & will power. I have nothing tol look forward to. Then I'll try in school but they think I'm dumb. I'm not the same, I used to help people with work & stuff. I had my first chemistry test & got a 50, even though almost all answers were right. Thats a disgrace, I loveD science, I used to get streaks of 100's in earth science. I just feel lazy more than ever. I'm always tired too. How am I going to get into college if I go on? (link)
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Things happen and as you get older things change. When I was in middle school I was in my room for hours after school doing my homework. My parents would have to pull me out of my room to take a break. I worked my butt off to get my stuff done in middle. When I got to high school things changed and so did my priorities. I didn't do as much homework and it wasn't because I didn't care I just didn't have the motivation and I found things that were more important to me. It doesn't make you a bad person even though I know you feel bad about it.
I have ADD so when I need to do work I try to concentrate on what I need to get done and then take 15 minute breaks inbetween. When you get home sit in a place where there are no distracts and focus on the task at hand. When you feel yourself getting tired or bored take a 15 minute break and then after that go back to the work. As far as sleeping goes try not to do so much on the computer when its near bed time. I find the computer keeps me up later than I should and if I don't get the right amount of sleep in the morning I don't function as well as I should. You're a junior this year? It's time to change this habit around and if you want it bad enough you'll get it done. Have confidence in yourself!
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I just moved out of state to live with my boyfriend of two years. We just got in an argument and he was yelling at me, while putting his hand in my face. Out of reaction, I lightly slapped him.
He slapped me back on the head, then threw me off the bed.
I know hitting should never be tolerated in a relationship, but it's not exactly easy for me to pack all my stuff up and go home.
What do I do? :/ (link)
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Well has he ever done this to you before? Has he apologized for hitting you?
I know you know that even lightly slapping him the face wasn't right either. For him to hit you and throw you off the bed well thats completely wrong. You need to sit down and talk to him. Maybe he has anger issues and maybe you are seeing them first hand because you live with him now. I would suggest talking to him and if you don't feel comfortable try to call a friend/ or family member and maybe go to another place for a bit to figure things out. Fighting is one thing, its another thing if there is violence going along with it. This is a serious issue and I wouldn't take it lightly if I were you.
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so, yesterday was mine and my boyfriends 6th moth anniversary. And we kind of had a argument, yesterday morning he thought I was mad at him because he got a text from me saying 'I hate seeing you beat yourself up over things.' I didn't send that, and if I did it was a long time ago. Then I over reacted when he and I were hanging out... I just knew something was wrong from the way he was acting. Then his mom came home and I told her my friend offered for me to go to New York with her and our best friend. I didn't tell him right away because I knew that would upset him more. we got better for about an hour, then I tried tickling him, just for fun... He kind of got pissed off and told me that he hates it when I do it all the time. So I said I would stop, and I don't know how, but he got all emotional saying 'he ruined our anniversary','why are you even here? You deserve better', 'that I'll leave him eventually' I know I wont, what can I do to show him that I'll always love him? (link)
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Not all anniversaries are going to be perfect nothing is perfect. He may just blame himself for the argument because of the way he acted. As his girlfriend just be there for him be his friend and his girlfriend. You don't have to buy him anything. Being there shows you care and that you love him.
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Hi. I am a 16 year old female that has been very depressed. I went to a counselour to get help about 4 weeks ago. But im back to my normal self now. I want to know. What would be the quickest way to kill myself? I dont have gas though. (link)
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You need to continue going to see your counselor. Just going once is not the answer to the problem and killing yourself isn't either. Think about all the people you would leave behind and how that might affect them. I know things seem tough but you need to go get help and speak to someone asap!
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My period had been on for the past 4 months it will get light and then heavy but it won't go off i stay tired but i made a doctors appointment but i want to know should i just go to the hospital (link)
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Yes! If it were me I would have gone if it was for a 1 or 2. You should go to a hospital and have a doctor check it out.
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What does it mean when a person says that "your too close up on me" for the relationship? (link)
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That you may need to back off a little bit and give the person some room.
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I feel like my life is falling apart. I don't know how I can't seem to stop it, I'm just going through this mini depression i guess and I don't know how to get myself out of it. What's worse is I really don't have a reason to be depressed.
I just turned 20, I go to a good school, and have a great boyfriend that loves me. Good parents, and I recently made a whole new group of friends.
But for some reason, I'm just not happy. There are a few reasons why I think this may be the problem but I really don't know how to stop it.
Basically I think it stems from the fact that my old friends, the ones at school, the ones that I've been close since I started college, don't really like me anymore. After I met my current boyfriend I started hanging out with him and his group of friend a lot, and they are the kind that do a lot of things together. They know how to find things to do and party together and are very fun. So I've got to experience a lot becoming friends with them. When I come back from the weekend I tell my friends all that I've done and after a while they started acting very weird. I guess they thought I was trying to brag about my experiences but thats not what I was doing at all. I was just excited to tell them about my life. In any case, they stopped truly being my friends, and I live with these people. It makes me sad that they don't treat me the same. Well I've told my guy this and he thinks they are just jealous. Now he doesn't like them, but they are still my friends and I live with them so I want things to be ok....ive tried talking to them but it hasnt worked. The fact that I have to live with them makes me feel alone and depressed at school
Also, I've started doing bad in school because of this mini depression. I dont have the motivation to study or do my work, and not to mention I have no idea what I want to do with my life and I'm feeling the pressure of having to choose soon from my parents and everyone around me.
Besides that, I feel like my depressed mood is evident in my relationship because my guy, sweet as he is, doesn't seem as enthused to be with me as he used to be. This could be just in my own head or the fact that we've been together for a while and it wouldnt be a big deal but added on to everything else going on, I'm just heading downhill and I don't know how to stop it....
it might be just a shifting of emotion and thought....but try as I might, I can't do that. Help? (link)
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They say some people go through a middle life crisis I have however experienced the 20s crisis and I'm still going through it. It's hard when you're an adult and its hard because you feel like there is no direction and you feel a bit lost. You feel like friends are changing or aren't around so much as they use to be. People change sometimes and sometimes so does the friendship. I've had several people that I called my best friend stop talking to me for no reason or barely even talk to me. There's no explanation for their behavior. If you have done everything in your power like talking to them about it than there is nothing else but to let it go. I know you don't want to hear that but its something that you have to do for yourself. Running after them and trying to find an answer to whats wrong is only going to make you tired and leaving you feeling hopeless. I would hang out with your boyfriend and his friends but also try to find a new group of people that you can call your friends.
When I was in school I had the exact same thing. I would go to class and do homework but never have the motivation to get things done or to put my best foot forward. Heck I'm still looking to find out what makes me happy. I feel like right when I got out of high school my parents expected me to know what I wanted to do. For me my iPod is an escape it gets me away for a bit. You should find something that is going to make you happy for a bit. Maybe try to find a hobby or find a movie you like or even listen to music.
I can relate to how you feel in your relationship as well. It'll be 2 years in January. I love my boyfriend honestly I do but sometimes he doesn't get it sometimes. A lot of guys miss things and sometimes we women get pissed at them for the fact that they don't know what we want. Sometimes I don't feel appreciated and sometimes I feel like I am. The honeymoon phase is over in your relationship but doesn't mean the romance is. Maybe suggest a date night during the week or weekend?
You're not alone. It will get better just try to think positively and you will go far. Think about you and what you want for yourself and just go for it!
I apologize for the long response I just totally understand what you're feeling right now.
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So i have just started dating this amazing guy, he makes me feel great and is sooo sweat but i just dont feel it. I like him but i have noticed after our dates or when he kisses me i just dont feel that connection i need to feel. how do i end it without hurting him? (link)
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Well I hate to say it but it's going to hurt him whether you like it or not. The best thing to do is do sooner rather than later. Talk to him and tell him and be honest. The guy will respect you for that.
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I'm a 20 year old girl whose currently in my longest relationship with a guy, let's call him J, he's 22, we've been together for a little over five months, and I can really see a real future with. However I'm also still “friends” with my ex boyfriend, let's call him S, he's now 27 was 26 when we dated – I was 19, you would have to know him to understand why he was involved with me (my mentality is a little bit older than most, his is quite a bit younger).
S was kind of a serious relationship, it was my first one, he had only dated two girls before me and I lost my virginity to him. He wasn't a virgin before he met me but had only had sex three times and had never enjoyed it, the girl he had sex with would always tell him to pull out because he was hurting her. Arguably we were the first to know each other sexually, and there's some history there. We were together for five months and the reason why he broke up with me, which he admitted later, was because he was running away from commitment he saw how serious we were getting and instead of telling me how he felt ran away.
Before S and I dated, which was a bad idea because we stopped talking for a little while after the break up, we had known each other for over 10 years. He was more of my older sister's friend, she's 26, than mine, she had met him through her first ex boyfriend. However he was a family friend as well, he would go to my parties and I always knew that I could rely on him like an older brother. Even though we weren't exactly close friends we were like brother and sister. He helped me through a lot of things and was always a good listener.
After my break up with S, after getting over a broken heart which lasted for months (I didn't see it coming). I started dating another guy, let's call him C, he was 24 years old when I was 19, that lasted for less than two months. He was like a rebound guy for my ex boyfriend, and because my ex (whose also my best friend now) would always tell me to stop doing something, as soon as the other guy told me to stop doing something I would stop... I almost went out of my way to please him to keep him around. He saw that and he broke up with me, after the break up I was kind of upset in a way that he was a big blow to my self confidence my best friend would comfort me.
The day that I broke up with C, my current boyfriend J and I started talking. He (J) admitted that he liked me, because he was being so nice even though I wasn't ready for a relationship I sent him a sexy picture of myself... as a nice way of saying thank you. Around that same time S and I started talking again, it was my mom and my grandma's idea... they didn't think that I should get rid of him as a friend and he had text me when I was dating C and I explained that I hadn't been interested in talking to him.
After we started talking, while I was talking to J, me and S both realized that we were still in love. However I decided not to pursue things any further with S, because I think that when you and your ex break up chances are you're never going to work things out. He was really jealous of J, he was talking to his girlfriend R too.
Lately I feel like S and I are losing our friendship again, and it hurts me. We haven't hung out in awhile, some people are telling me that it's not worth keeping him as a friend... because of the fact that I'm so sensitive because of the way that he used to treat me, whenever J's in a bad mood or stressed out.
I don't want to lose J and he's been fine with my friendship with S, he's always told me that he's very understanding. He doesn't want to meet S, even though S has wanted to meet him before.... he doesn't feel comfortable talking to ex boyfriends of his current girlfriends. I don't want to lose S either, but is his friendship worth losing to make sure that my relationship with J stays afloat? (link)
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Point blank...exes are exes for a reason. Exes are also apart of your past and therefore if you're with "J" than you need to concentrate on "J" and only him. Don't concern yourself with exes because that will only complicate your relationship. Believe me I know from experience and it does not end well. Especially turning to your ex when you're not getting along that is the worst idea. I think you can be friendly with your exes just saying hi if you see them but other than that that's it.
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why do men fall in and out out of love so easily, while women fall in and out of love so hard? guys, i appreciate honest answers. do you ever find yourself completely in love with a girl and after a while it goes away....why (link)
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I don't feel men fall out of love easier than girls I think it's just as hard for them as it is for us. Men don't show emotion they don't want to because its a sign of weakness. At a young age boys are told its not okay to show emotion or cry and therefore after a break-up you're least likely to see a guy show any kind of emotion. Women on the other hand well we just show a lot of emotion. Some women if may be hard on and there's some that move on pretty quick. I was in a relationship for a year and a half and my feelings for my ex started fading away. I was no longer happy and I was afraid to say it.
I believe its untrue though that men move on faster...it can really be either or.
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