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Why have I changed?
I'm M/16. I'm a Junior in HS. I used to be good at school. My gpa was 83 in freshman year. In sophmore year my gpa went down to a 69, by the end I got it up to 79. This year has been okay but, I just don't want to do homework. I pay attention & do class work but I don't feel the same. I'll get home, play video games & research random things on the net. At around 11pm I'll look at my homework and just put it back in my bag. Then I'll end up going to bed at around 1am, fall asleep by 3am, and wake up at 5:30am. I've tried to sleep earlier and I just can't. Its like I've lost motivation & will power. I have nothing tol look forward to. Then I'll try in school but they think I'm dumb. I'm not the same, I used to help people with work & stuff. I had my first chemistry test & got a 50, even though almost all answers were right. Thats a disgrace, I loveD science, I used to get streaks of 100's in earth science. I just feel lazy more than ever. I'm always tired too. How am I going to get into college if I go on?
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It sounds like you're depressed.
You certainly have plenty to look forward to at 16, but perhaps schoolwork over the last few years has taken some of your drive away.
Is there a teacher you could talk to? Explain that you want to improve but you need help to catch up and get that spark of interest again.
You could go to your doctor and ask for blood tests for underlying problems, see if your hormones are causing any problems, as they sometimes do at your age. Explain to him/her that your sleep pattern is off, perhaps you could try alternative therapy like hypnosis or relaxation therapy for that.
You aren't unusual in feeling like this, many kids do during their school years but you've got enough sense to recognise it and do something about it. Hope this helps, let me know how you get on?
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None of us on this sight are doctors neither can we make a diagnoses. That being said, I am a parent and someone who is familiar with two things that may be troubling you.
The first possibility would be teenage depression do impart to puberty and the hormones raging around in you. Way back in the dark ages we looked at this as a phase kids went through and something they would grow out of. Most did, some did not. What was found was regardless of whether a child would grow out of this "Phase" doctors and clinicians could help then through this so as they not suffer as bad as you seem to be suffering.
The other thing that might be bothering you is you have become ADHD. While this is something most children develop earlier in life it is not uncommon for a teenager to develop this disorder.
Why might these things be happening to you. First from what I have read part of the problem is hormonal in nature from puberty. The other and biggest part is it is tough being a teenage today. We put a lot of stress on today's teenage more than your parents had and more than I had. I'm probably old enough to be your grandfather.
My advice: Make an appointment to see you family doctor. Your old enough that you do not need parental permission or parental supervision while visiting the doctor. Tell the doctor what you have told us and ask to be screened for teenage depression and ADHD.
You should or could discuss this with mom and dad, you do have medical confidentiality by law at your age. I'm sure mom and dad have seen the change in you and may be unsure just how to help you. It is up to you to tell them what you feel you need medically speaking. My suggestion is that you do so they can give you the support you will need.
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Things happen and as you get older things change. When I was in middle school I was in my room for hours after school doing my homework. My parents would have to pull me out of my room to take a break. I worked my butt off to get my stuff done in middle. When I got to high school things changed and so did my priorities. I didn't do as much homework and it wasn't because I didn't care I just didn't have the motivation and I found things that were more important to me. It doesn't make you a bad person even though I know you feel bad about it.
I have ADD so when I need to do work I try to concentrate on what I need to get done and then take 15 minute breaks inbetween. When you get home sit in a place where there are no distracts and focus on the task at hand. When you feel yourself getting tired or bored take a 15 minute break and then after that go back to the work. As far as sleeping goes try not to do so much on the computer when its near bed time. I find the computer keeps me up later than I should and if I don't get the right amount of sleep in the morning I don't function as well as I should. You're a junior this year? It's time to change this habit around and if you want it bad enough you'll get it done. Have confidence in yourself!
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This sounds a lot like depression (no motivation, sleep problems). Most schools (in the US) have psychologists. Check with your school and request an appointment. Or ask your parents what insurance you have regarding mental health. A lot of health insurance has a therapy option since depression can cause or exacerbate many physical conditions.
Until then, make sure you're getting plenty of exercise. Organize study groups so you and your friends can do homework together. Even if you're all working on different things, you'll be forced to stay on task and get it done since you don't want to be the only one who hasn't completed an assignment by the end. Then, once you've finished your work, you can play video games with them, maybe. Or better yet, sports where you are active, like basketball. If you still can't get your grades up, you can go to a community college after high school and if you work hard there, you may still get into a good school (and save some money). Your life isn't over yet. There's still plenty of time to turn around. Don't give up hope!
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