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I'm M/16. I'm a Junior in HS. I used to be good at school. My gpa was 83 in freshman year. In sophmore year my gpa went down to a 69, by the end I got it up to 79. This year has been okay but, I just don't want to do homework. I pay attention & do class work but I don't feel the same. I'll get home, play video games & research random things on the net. At around 11pm I'll look at my homework and just put it back in my bag. Then I'll end up going to bed at around 1am, fall asleep by 3am, and wake up at 5:30am. I've tried to sleep earlier and I just can't. Its like I've lost motivation & will power. I have nothing tol look forward to. Then I'll try in school but they think I'm dumb. I'm not the same, I used to help people with work & stuff. I had my first chemistry test & got a 50, even though almost all answers were right. Thats a disgrace, I loveD science, I used to get streaks of 100's in earth science. I just feel lazy more than ever. I'm always tired too. How am I going to get into college if I go on? (link)
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This sounds a lot like depression (no motivation, sleep problems). Most schools (in the US) have psychologists. Check with your school and request an appointment. Or ask your parents what insurance you have regarding mental health. A lot of health insurance has a therapy option since depression can cause or exacerbate many physical conditions.
Until then, make sure you're getting plenty of exercise. Organize study groups so you and your friends can do homework together. Even if you're all working on different things, you'll be forced to stay on task and get it done since you don't want to be the only one who hasn't completed an assignment by the end. Then, once you've finished your work, you can play video games with them, maybe. Or better yet, sports where you are active, like basketball. If you still can't get your grades up, you can go to a community college after high school and if you work hard there, you may still get into a good school (and save some money). Your life isn't over yet. There's still plenty of time to turn around. Don't give up hope!
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I took my last birth control pill on Thursday morning, and then today is the third morning I took a placebo pill.
I have yet to get my period, which is strange, because I usually begin to spot already at the end of the first placebo pill day.
My boyfriend and I are sexually active, we only use the pill- we've both been tested and have been together for two years already, and sexually active for about a year and a half.
I have forgotten maybe to take 3 pills over the past year and a half- I always remember, so it's not like I'm missing them.
We had sex yesterday morning, my second day of placebo pills.
Just to make sure- I should still be protected by the pill, even if on the placebo pill week, as far as I have understood. Correct me if I am wrong.
But today I'm beginning to get worried as to why I have yet to get my period. Are there any other reasons why I am not having my period besides pregnancy? Has this happened to any of you before?
Thank you in advance! (link)
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Well, I was never all that regular even when I was on the the pill. this happened to me a few times. There can be other reasons it's late. Especially stress. Try to relax. Especially if there is anything else that has changed or is stressful in your life. Or if you lost a lot of weight recently, or even a little, but were already underweight.
If the pills are working properly, you are still protected while on the placebo. If you're really worried, take a home pregnancy test. I know it's scary, but try not to stress too much.
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The last three times me and my boyfriend have hung out it really hasn't been any fun.. we were bored and got really irritated with each other easily. Since this bothered me so much i texted him while i was at school the next morning saying "i dont want to fight anymore. it makes me sad i cant stop thinking about it" and he told me "every couple needs to work on things.. please dont be sad." and then i tried to talk more about it in a deeper aspect and he just said "i dont want to get upset today if i dont have to. were just living. its all good love" but its not all good.. it upsets me he doesnt want to talk about it.. and i got frustrated and told him i didnt want to see him at all this week, but i said it in a nice way not an ignorant way. I dont even know if thats going to help or not? what should i do or say.. im really upset because i love my boyfriend and hes like my dream guy forreal.. but things arent as perfect as i thought they would be. (link)
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Sometimes space can help. Don't see him for the week and see if that changes anything. All couples go through spells where they fight a lot. No couple is perfect. However, if he's not willing to work on it, it might not be worth it to hold onto the relationship. Is one of you depressed maybe? Is there anything else going on in his or your life that might be affecting your time together? If not, then you might want to tell him that you're thinking of ending it and talk to him about why. If he still doesn't want to talk, then you need to decide if this is worth ending the relationship over. A lot of people stay together simply because breaking up is painful and that just makes things worse down the road.
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where can i find a dvd holder that looks like a boat?
i need it sooooon.
moms birthday, ha.
links would be nice. (link)
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Um, there's this:
http://www.cdrackem.com/boatbookcase2cf.html
The 2' might be the right size. But it's really expensive.
You could contact a local carpenter. Or you might buy a wooden dvd holder and decorate it to look like a boat. There are some that look like waves available like this:
http://www.stacksandstacks.com/html/65370_wave-dvd-rack-with-dark-hardwood-finish.htm
that are easier to find.
Sorry, that's all I've got.
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okay so last night i gave this guy a blow job and he didn't skeet? did i do it wrong? and also he fingered me a lot and it hurt so bad and didn't feel good at all .. is this normal? (link)
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I've only given one guy a bj and he didn't shoot either (because I asked him not to). He may not have wanted to. If you can, ask this guy if he liked it, or if there is something he wants you to do differently. Communication is important. It's totally normal to dislike being fingered. TELL HIM. Make sure he know to concentrate on your clitoris and be gentle. It's not like when he jacks off. My suggestion is to masturbate (seriously- it's actually good for you) and find out what you like, then tell him what that is.
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So I have not been getting my period regularly (15 f) and I got it in January regularly, 4 days in march, and 7 days in July i think thats the pattern...I havent gotten it since and there is just discharge. I am extremely shy about this and my mom told me she is making me an appointment immediently at the gyno...does she have to be in the room with me while i get examined?! I am crying hysterically over this, what's going to happen?????? PLEASE I NEED AN ANSWER BY TODAY FOR TOMORROW!!!! (link)
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No. When I was a minor, I asked my mom to leave the doctor's office for breast exams and other things. Tell her you don't want her there. In fact, the doctor asked me if I wanted her to leave, if I said yes, she left.
As long as your mother consents to the examination (obviously she does), she does not need to be in the room when it happens. If she insists on being there, tell the doctor you aren't comfortable with her there- s/he will probably ask her to leave.
Also, stay calm. It's just a doctor who does this for a living. S/he has dealt with much more difficult cases.
Some girls never get a regular period (I don't have one). Especially when I was your age. It will come around the same time for a few months, and then stop. There is nothing medically wrong with that. Also, even if your period will regulate itself later, it's common for it to be irregular at your age (or be regular, and then "mess up" the rythm some times).
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okay i dont know which singer/band cam out first but somebody copied somebody.
these to songs sound just alike:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=u7vAcLY0v8s
and
http://youtube.com/watch?v=R7DRtl6CTqc
is it just me that thinks that or what? (link)
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Evan & Jaron came first. Taylor didn't necessarily copy them, pop/country songs are rarely actually creative. There are only so many themes to a love song. This happens all the time.
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Is there a website you can go to to discuss books? One kind of like IMDB which has disucssion boards for like every tv and movie ever made... I know there are B&N and Amazon where you can leave your review.. but I'm looking for a website where I can discuss them. Thanks a bunches ! ! (link)
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http://www.literaturejunction.com/forumdisplay.php?s=84ad25ba2936b33ad577e936e7f3e704&f=106
and
http://www.online-literature.com/forums/
Are forums for discussing literature. Also, many message boards and forums have sub frorums where you can discuss books, eve if it's just in an "off-topic" section.
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okay.
so me & my boyfriend had sex, for the second time. He went in like 10 times and pulled outt cause he didn't wanna [ cum ] in me. so he pulled out and stuff. when he pulled outt my " stuff " was all over his thingg. Maybe a day or two after that i've had serious migranes, heat sweats out of no where, and veryy tired and weak. Now its supposed to be my time of the month. All my friend have got theirs and i usually get mine kinda close to when they do. I havent got it yet but i'm having like all the syptoms of getting my period. do you think i'm pregnantt? i am so scareddd. i'm only 14. i don't know what to do. sometimes when i'm stressed and stuff my period doesn't come but thats rare. & sometimes it comes at diffrent times. i keep feeling like i'm gonna get my periodd but its just discharge. GOD i've been crying for about 5 days straight. i can NOT talk to my mom about itt, or my 16 year old sister. so theres no way i can get a pregnancy testt. whats the deal? please please please help meee ASAP !!
thank you so much, & be honest please. (link)
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First off, relax. Your period may be late because you are stressed, that's really common. You may be pregnant, but I think it's a low chance since you had sex two days before your period was supposed to start, so you probably weren't ovulating. Chill out. Seriously, though, you should get condoms (your boyfriend can probably get them in bathrooms if he is too embarassed to go to a store) or just stop having sex. If you are not old enough for a baby, you are not old enough for sex.
If you're not pregnant, tell your boyfriend you don't want to stress out like this again, and you won't have sex with him anymore without a condom.
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I'm male, nearly 30.
For half my life I've been chasing girls and from asking God for a girlfriend to crying in the shower, I've tried it all.
I've been on dates, but none of the women I have been interested in, likes me back (more than a friend, your such a NICE guy... I know that one off by heart). Its really frustrating to be 30 and to know only rejection from women, obviously at this stage I'm so insecure that the last time I liked this chick I totally started to stutter really badly when I thought about trying to kiss her.
I don't try to screw anything that moves, if I'm not interested in a women, I don't make moves on them and have no problem talking to them.
I'm really low and I need advice, not comfort. (link)
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It probably has to do with a few things. First of all, confidence. Fake it 'til you've got it. Don't think about kissing a girl if it'll make you stutter. Walk with your head up, you know you're a catch and any girl would be lucky to have you- it's their loss if they don't see it. Secondly, I hate saying this as a girl, but don't be so nice. Be a little bit of a jerk. Women will be more willing to flirt if there's a little friction. Lastly, is where are you meeting women? You may be trying to meet women in the wrong places. Take a salsa class or join a book club. Dance classes are always in need of men. And you can use what you learn later at a club even if you don't end up meeting someone special at the class. Keep your hopes up.
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my best friend was abused by drugs and got on them and so much more by the time she was 6. her dad died. her mom went to jail. her aunt took her and her sister so they wouldnt get put up. but their not legally adopted. she refuses to use her aunts last name. her real mom keeps calling and leaving messages or coming over. i thought she had a restaining order or sumthing. but everytime, my friends aunt is screamin at her and her sister and makes them leave they cannot see or hear or even a picture of their mom. but her mom left in a message that she also gave them all aids and that they have 3 brothers they never met. so she cant see her brothers she doesnt even know who or were they are. she fights nonstop with her mom. she is bipolar and im afraid shes gona hurt herself. shes either extremely happy or extremely mad. her life is hell and always is crying but then at times she acts like nothing is wrong. she was abused by drugs from birth to 6 and got hooked. shes now 14 and her sisters 16. they both have many things wrong with them and diseses and AIDS. im tore up about this but i am still her best friend and always have been since she came to my school and next year were going to different highschools. think, her carrying drugs and smoking she started carrying them at 4 till 6 and faught with her aunt for very long time. when she took them away. i just need to know how to help her. shes still to young for any of this. (link)
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I agree with LolaMarie. I wanted to add that maybe you should suggest that she see a psychologist or therapist on a regular basis if she doesn't already. There is probably a psychologist at your school who can help. Actually, you might want to ask to see the psychologist because s/he can probably give you good advice on how to help your friend. Also, I wanted to once again emphasize that your friend and her sister need to be tested for HIV/AIDS A.S.A.P. if they have not already been tested.
Just try to be there for her. Listen to her. Try to cheer her up when she's down.
That's a lot for you to go through to have a friend in her situation. Don't forget about yourself. You need to make sure you're okay, too. You can't help her that much if you're falling apart.
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Well i am having my period right now, but it is near the end- but recently there has been something wrong. When I use the bathroom, it kind of takes me a while before I can pee which is strange because that never happened before. It kind of started like yesterday. I don't know if it is because of my period or if it is something more serious. Do you think I could have a UTI? Because like yesterday, I kind of had a mild fever. 99.5 degrees but it is gone now. I'm really worried- because I am not sure if there is anything wrong with me. (link)
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The fever thing isn't very serious. Your body temperature actaully fluctuates all the time. Sometimes it's higher than 98.6º, sometimes it's lower- that's only the average and 99.5º isn't much higher. I say wait it our a few days. If it doesn't go away by the end of you period (or a day later), if it starts to hurt, or if you do get a higher fever, talk a doctor (or maybe just a school nurse, first, if you're not in pain).
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hey ; i have a few questions but they're all related -- should i have made them each seperate questions? sorry; please just answer what you can
1 )are there any foods that would make your breasts larger? i have small breasts but they're still growing. i want them to be larger but NATURALLY -- no pills, surgeries. i just want to know is there any food that will give me a "boost" ?
2 ) i'm currently an A32 cup -- pretty small. do breasts have "growth spurts" like your height does? if so about what age does this occur between averagely?
3 )is there anything else that will NATURALLY give me larger breasts? i know that you are born with what you get; but like is there a kind of excercise? i could always use a push-up bra or something as well i know; so please don't suggest that(=
4 ) what is the average breast size (cup) once the breasts have fully developed?
thank you(= (link)
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Just wanted to make a correction:
b. Exercise the muscle below the breasts.
Actually, that'll make them smaller. It will burn the fat in the pectoral area which would be the breasts. This information is from my anatomy professor (who also has small breasts and tried to make them bigger by exercising as a teen). That'll give you big pectorals, which are not as attarctive on women.
There is no magical food to make breasts larger, sorry. And don't just look at your mother, look at women on both sides of your family. My mom has almost A cups, whereas my sister and I have DDs- we get them from out dad's side of the family.
My breasts were A cup until I was fifteen. By the time I was sixteen, they were D cups. I went through a definite growth spurt.
If you're worried about attracting guys (you shouldn't be, they'll like you anyway), there are plenty of guys don't care about breast size, or like smaller breasts.
But the biggest thing is to just be happy with what you have. Large breasts aren't that great. Shirts never fit right aroud the bust. There are a lot of shirts and dresses I can't wear at all because they don't cover enough or can't be worn with a bra. Running is very painful even with 3 sports bras. Appreciate what you have now, you may want it back later.
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18/f - For years, i've had restless nights. to the point where i would be tossing and turning in bed for hours. some nights, i fall asleep like a baby, but then get up in the middle of the night and can't fall asleep for hours. i dont drink caffine, my room is normal condition, no lights, no noises, no messes. ive never been able to talk to a doctor about it, but it happens alot when im stressing out or dealing with alot of stuff, like after my dad died, i slept and slept. but even when i get 7-9 hours, IM STILL TIRED. its getting annoying because nothing is helping me. i have, yes only once, had a friend give me a sleeping pills because i went days without sleep, and it made me fall asleep and i wasn't tired after 7-9 hours of sleep. (thats was over a year ago btw) do you think i should go to a doctor and talk to them? any ideas how to fall asleep cause im having that problem now.. thanks. (link)
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You should definitely talk to a doctor. Actually, I think you should talk to a psychiatrist as your insomnia seems to stem from anxiety. After losing any close family member, it's wise to see at least a grief counselor, at the very ;east (even years later). I have a lot of experience with what you are talking about. My sleep cycle has been very messed up since my sister died (and was messed up before then).
Here are some random tips (some of which you might have tried already):
-Get up at the same time every day, even on the weekends.
-Make sure you do not have a clock visible from your bed (clock-watching can really keep you up because it makes you anxious about how much time you have before getting up).
-Use your bed only for sleeping- do not do homework or other activities on it (makes it easier to associate your bed with sleep).
-Only get in bed when you are tired.
-Get lots of sunlight during the day.
-Like you said, no caffeine. Especially after 4 pm.
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