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boyfriend issue: things aren't as perfect as I thought they would be
19-f
The last three times me and my boyfriend have hung out it really hasn't been any fun.. we were bored and got really irritated with each other easily. Since this bothered me so much i texted him while i was at school the next morning saying "i dont want to fight anymore. it makes me sad i cant stop thinking about it" and he told me "every couple needs to work on things.. please dont be sad." and then i tried to talk more about it in a deeper aspect and he just said "i dont want to get upset today if i dont have to. were just living. its all good love" but its not all good.. it upsets me he doesnt want to talk about it.. and i got frustrated and told him i didnt want to see him at all this week, but i said it in a nice way not an ignorant way. I dont even know if thats going to help or not? what should i do or say.. im really upset because i love my boyfriend and hes like my dream guy forreal.. but things arent as perfect as i thought they would be.
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Nothing is perfect. There is no such thing as perfect.
At the beginning of a relationship there is a 'honeymoon phase' where you are so "goo goo gaga" over each other. That phase lasts about 3 months to a year and then after that its not so much.
You mentioned you were getting bored and you were irritated with one another. Maybe you need time apart or maybe plan some activites with friends? Do you hang out together all the time? Or do you hang out every other day?
Maybe the reason he doesn't want to talk about it is because something is bothering him or maybe he is scared of what you are going to say. Relationships go through tough times its what you do in those times that make the relationship stronger. Don't give up! Put your foot down and talk to your boyfriend and let him know this is bothering you. You should be able to talk to him about anything. Good luck and hang in there!
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Sometimes space can help. Don't see him for the week and see if that changes anything. All couples go through spells where they fight a lot. No couple is perfect. However, if he's not willing to work on it, it might not be worth it to hold onto the relationship. Is one of you depressed maybe? Is there anything else going on in his or your life that might be affecting your time together? If not, then you might want to tell him that you're thinking of ending it and talk to him about why. If he still doesn't want to talk, then you need to decide if this is worth ending the relationship over. A lot of people stay together simply because breaking up is painful and that just makes things worse down the road.
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