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Okay so I've never really given a hand job before and I want to know how so that I can give my boyfriend one. I've looked up how to do it, but the information doesn't really make sense to me. Most say I have to do a hand job AND a blow job, but I'm not comfortable doing a blow job. How do I make the hand job something that we both would enjoy and how do I make it a good one? (link)
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I'm gonna have to agree with Dragonflymagic. I don't even think it's right to try to explain it to you on here.
So, since you are comfortable enough to do this with your boyfriend, you should be able to talk openly with him. If you are too embarrassed, you should probably not jump into this yet. So assuming you guys are close enough for all this, just talk to him, ask him to show you how and how he likes it, ect. He'll be more than happy to help you out!
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Im a virgin.. my boyfriend inserted is penis but only a little bit.. and only for a few seconds.. is it possible to be pregnant? (link)
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Yes, it's possible to get pregnant. Pre ejaculation alone can get you pregnant.
You're not a virgin. The definition of a virgin is someone who has no had sex. Since he did insert inside of you, even a little bit, you had sex.
So wait until your period shows up. If it doesn't, then take a pregnancy test. If it comes up positive, go to the doctor.
If you ever plan to have sex again, use condoms and get on birth control.
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ok sooo a few months ago me and a guy started dating and his best friend keeps asking me out.... he knows i have a boyfriend and still says he likes me... what do i do? PLEASE HELP (link)
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I think you should just go with common sense. Tell him that you are dating his friend and you have no interest in dating him and ask him to stop.
If he keeps bugging you about it, tell your boyfriend and have him talk to his friend about it.
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Both of my best friends (Let's call them Jessica and Carrie) are moving away in a week. They're the ones I hung out with at school everyday, texted them all day, etc. Now that they're both moving back to they're old schools I don't really have anyone to hang out with anymore.
Jessica seems to be happy that she's moving and doesn't really care that she won't see me :/ Carrie's parents made her move and so did Jessica's.
How can I deal with this? It seems like every friend I make ends up moving away because of something. This has happened countless times. What do I do? (link)
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You'll always make new friends and lose friends. I've had plenty of friends who moved away and it wasn't always a bad thing. So it is always best to look at the bright side.
My advice to you is to try to make new friends. Join clubs that spark your interest and you'll immediately have something in common with them. Be friendly, kind and happy. You'll gain more friends.
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Well, let us start out with some details/background information. I am a few weeks away from being 16 and my boyfriend is 18. We've been together for a while and I love the kid to death. It's safe to say that even if we did break up; we'd be the best of friends after the fact.
I'm going to be moving somewhere an hour and a half away, he was going to move with my guardian and myself. But he has a lot in this town and we've collectively last night decided it'd be in his best interest to stay here. It was a bit upsetting. I know it doesn't seem like much only moving an hour or so away; but he's starting college, working, and he's in a well known band doing shows all over. I'll be in school for a longer period of time and going to college while in high school along with a job. We'll never really have the time to see each other at all. In all honesty I don't know what posting this will do. But I'm at a loss as to what I should do? I don't even know if it's that. Any advice? (link)
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Long distance is tough but at least it isn't like in a different state. An hour and half isn't too bad, but no matter how far, it is difficult.
It's up to the two of you to decide whether you guys want to stay together when you move or to break up.
People can be extremely busy and still have time for friends and significant others so if you guys make a schedule and try to find weekends to see each other then you guys can probably handle this relationship better than not seeing each other at all. Even if it's every other weekend or so.
Just try to figure out what's best for you guys.
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Hey,
15/f
I have known this boy since I was a little girl. I guess you could say were friends.Now in high school I have got feelings for him. He is kind of popular now and I think he likes one of the perfect girls in my year.
I really like him and want to ask him out but I'm afraid of rejection. (link)
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It's normal to feel nervous or scared to ask someone out. Pretty much everyone is afraid of rejection.
Maybe just move at your own pace. Start out by talking more often, saying hi, smiling and if he reacts well, then you know you have a better chance. After you guys become more comfortable with each other, then exchange numbers. And you guys can continue talking there. Or even hang out with your friends like go see a movie and invite him along. If he goes, then you know he might be interested in you.
So you can kinda guess when someone might have an interest in you so just go with the flow and see where it takes off.
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I am in a fight with two of my best friends.They judge me a lot.I feel like their dog at times.They don't like the fact that I had 11 boyfriends and they were very harsh on me due to that reason.We are friends for six years and now we don't talk.It's almost a month that we don't talk properly.they are also leaving the country after 2 months and we are broken.I tried apologizing and instead I got harsh behavior from them so I don't apologize anymore.I mean , they are the ones who should apologize to me , right?All these times I was so busy keeping them happy that I forgot my happiness.They are my friends and therefor they are supposed to me supportive , instead they judge me.Now what? (link)
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They aren't your friends anymore. You guys don't talk anymore and they judge you so they clearly have no interest in staying your friend.
So just let them go and move on with your life.
It's tough losing friends, but it's a part of life. You just need to find better friends who won't judge you and will be there for you no matter what.
The people you were friends with before weren't true friends.
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Someone in my school snitched on me. They told my guidance Counsler that I smoke weed. That they have picks of me possessing weed. Post where I said who's out to smoke? Thy called a meeting up for my mom. I know I feel stupid. I know it's someone who hates me because my friends would never do that to me tey smoke as well. I'm 100 percent positive it's someone that I have stuff on too I just need to know who it is. But will they keep that person anonymous ? I don't sell or posses right now . So how much trouble can I get in ? (link)
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It's hard to tell how much trouble you could possibly get in. I think it's different for each state and school.
I'm pretty sure if you had weed on campus, you'll end up in more trouble.
I know some schools just give a warning, then there are some schools that bring in the cops.
They'll keep the person who told your guidance counselor anonymous.
For future advice, I'd suggest just not to smoke so that you don't get into trouble. But if you do continue, don't be stupid enough to post it lol.
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My boyfriend keeps insisting on meeting my family. afraid that if I introduce my boyfriend to them they might do something or say something racist. Not all of them are racist, but most are. They say racist stuff all the time. They don't know I have a boyfriend. My boyfriend is an amazing guy around my age and we love each other. He's patient, honest, treats me with the utmost care and respect. He has an accent and his culture is very different from mine.
My family has said racist things about people of his race and some of them think that you shouldn't date out of your race. Even if I tell them not to embarrass me they probably will do it anyway. My grandmother is very outspoken. I know they will all gossip and have something to say. If he finds out they're like that I don't know what he'll do. I don't want to lose him because of my family... What should I do? (link)
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I'd probably have a talk to him about it first. Let him know about your family and what you think will happen if you all meet.
Take it one step at a time. Once you tell him about your family, then move to your family. You can tell them you're seeing a guy and when they start asking questions, answer them honestly. If they'd like to meet them, then let them and try to have a sit down conversation about what it means to you and all that. Hopefully they'll be more understanding.
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Okay so now that we're together should i be worried in anyways because he doesnt say i love you to me yet and he doesnt call me any sweet nicknames. But when we saw each other and when we were being intimate with each other he called me babe. Also idk i honestly want him to ask me out on a date because its usually me asking him. But i also have some restrictions because of strict parents so we can go to places in his area. Uh should i be cofident in his feelings for me and not question it for any reassurance? (link)
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The best thing would to probably not question his feelings for you. I mean if he decided to be with you, he has feelings for you.
You guys just barely got back together, so don't expect him to start telling you he loves you yet. Don't push it either, it should just come naturally. Same with the nicknames. You just don't force it.
As for wanting him to ask you on a date. Let him know. Don't nag him about it or anything, just let him know that you'd like for him to ask you out every once in awhile. Leave it at that and if he truly cares for you and how you feel, he'll do it. You won't have to bother him about it.
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I met him online and the first time he saw my picture he said I was pretty and afterwards, would call me pretty when necessary. So we started talking and asking each other sexual questions. Once, I asked him what he would choose and he said "of coursr you! I think you're beautiful!" That wad the only time he called me beautifull and afterwards, he started using the term sexy.
He usually initiates contact.
The question here is: does he mean what he says or is he just saying it for his own benefit?
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I have no idea who he is so I can't tell you what he means.
I'm pretty sure he genuinely think you're attractive. I'm not sure what else you're asking.
So like I said, he probably think you're attractive. I mean what guy is going to talk to a girl a lot that they don't think is pretty. But saying it for his own benefit? I'm not sure what you mean. Calling you sexy to get what he wants would be saying it for his own benefit.
So I think from there you can figure out what's going on.
Most guys you meet online will just be looking for a girl who's pretty to talk to just to boost their ego or to get some action.
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I like this guy and we've known each other for a LONG time. This year he asked me if I liked him and I said no because i was nervous, and I'm NEVER nervous around him. This year he's been confusing. I joined a sport this year, and I noticed he's been hanging on with the jocks and trying to be like them. I don't like it.I liked the guy who had time to talk to me, and was always there for me in times of need. I don't understand him anymore. But just before everything got confusing I asked if he wanted to go to six flags with me.. He said he did. And it was supposed to be my "birthday gift". He kept asking me when my birthday was but I know he just wanted to talk to me cause he has the MOST WONDERFUL memory. Should I tell him I like him before, during, after the amusement park? Or never? ( if it helps I'm in middle school ) (link)
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I agree with Dragonflymagic. It was totally fine to feel nervous, but you should just let him know that when he asked you, you felt under pressure but you really don't know how you feel because it's new territory for you and you'd like to hang out more to see how you feel.
So I'd tell him that before you guys go to six flags, and then during or after you can let him know how you feel.
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I'm a 16 year old girl who has been single for roughly 3 years and I don't know why. I've been told I'm really pretty, and generally a likable person, even if I don't think so. I'm a bit shy and kind of awkward, plus I have like 0 self confidence. I know that confidence is a good thing to have, but it can't be the only reason why I'm single right? I also don't really put myself out there, I'll talk to someone only if they talk to me first or if i'm with my friends. I've been told that I could get a boyfriend if I tried, but here I am. Single. It seems like all the guys that like me are not really my type and I could honestly never date them. Am I just setting my standards too high? Maybe I'm really ugly and no one wants to tell me? Maybe it's my personality? Maybe I'm just boring? *sigh* I just don't know what's wrong with me. (link)
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You're 16, you've been single for the first 3 years of your teenage life. That's not very long for your age. It's not like you're in your 20's or 30's and have been single for 3 years. You're only 16.
Anyways, most people just start dating at your age or older. At least in a more serious way. When you date any younger, it's not much real.
So the reason why you're probably not currently dating is just some of the reasons you stated. It's probably because you are shy, have no self confidence and only talk to people if they talk to you first. Those girls normally have to wait awhile.
So if you want to start dating, then you should probably just put yourself out there. First, you need to work on your self confidence because even girls who are considered unattractive get guys because they have self confidence. Remember, you can't love someone unless you love yourself first. It doesn't sound like you have very much self love. Because honestly, guys don't want to date girls who don't think they are pretty or likable.
Second, once you've worked on your self confidence then that's when you should start talking to people before they talk to you. That's how you meet new people.
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Hi... 16F
*̩ lost my verginity this weekend. He weared a condom. And *̩ think *̩ have efection now*! *̩ have a high body tempreature and if *̩ pee it burns. *̩ can't tell my mom because se will kill me! Please help...
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Like everyone else said, it's probably a urinary tract infection. So you should probably go see a doctor. Since you're over the age of 14, your parents don't need to know.
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I just got back with my wx today so thank you for all your advice! I also lost my pendant when he and i were at this room in this retirement home cause thats where we couls talk and be alone. And im very worried because its important to me and im going to go tomorrow to try to find it. Idk what to do if i cant findit. Also i toldhim just now "happy one year and 5 month anniversary" andthen he said " Does it really start over like that" what does that mean? What should i do to get my pendent back?! And i noticed that ive been losing things lately when im with him like first time we got together i lost my dog because the dpg was sick for a while and then died that night and then now we get back togethher and i lose my important pendant. Its not bad luck or anything right? (link)
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No, it's not bad luck. It's just coincidence.
As for what do you do to get your pendent back, there's really nothing you can do besides go back there and look around and ask if anyone has found it. Other than that, there's really nothing else you can do.
And as for him asking does it really start over like that, he was wondering if you guys still continue counting where you guys left off. That's just completely up to you two.
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Im confused what should i do to show my ex that im not being selfish. Or how do i stop being selfish. Like lately ive just wanted to see him and hetells me that im not thinking about his feelings that i dont respect his decision and etc and idk what to do when everything i do including wanting to be back together is apparently for my own self. (link)
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Well the truth is, love is selfish. At least most of the time it is.
You'll see the true love where one person will let the other go even though they love them just so that they will be happy. That's not being selfish, obviously. Being selfish would be not caring about how they feel about the situation or relationship.
So the way to stop being selfish is to stop pushing what you want. Think of his wants. That's the hardest part about the situation. You want to see him but he doesn't want to see you. So by ignoring what he tells you and still going after him, it's a selfish thing.
That's why I'm suggesting the no contact thing for awhile. Pretty much the best thing for this relationship is space right now. If you back off for a bit, you'll be respecting his wishes and not being selfish.
Eventually, I'd talk to him in person and then see how it goes from there.
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Thanks again for the help Lightoftruth. It would be sort of tough not to be around her because the cheerleaders are usually right behind the players bench. So she could be literally right behind me during the game. I'm certain once She sees me she will confront me and threaten me again or tell me I'm gonna be dead meat again or something like that. Then tell everyone around her what she did to me.
Think I will take your advice and maybe tell one of my coaches to keep a eye on her especially after the game is over. Only thing with that is everybody will know I'm scared of her and they will never let me live it down. At least it would save me from getting beat up again. Thanks again for your advice it feels really good to talk about this with somebody besides my cousin to say the least! I should of did this weeks ago. (link)
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It's all good. Talking to your coach will probably be the best idea. You can just explain your situation and he doesn't have to say anything to your team members, all he has to do is keep an eye on her and if she starts anything, then to step in.
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Again sorry for the spam but i forgot to mention its like because the last two times we hung out with each other in lerson he just became couple like with me and we kissed and everything so im like more hopeful towards seeing him in person. Its like i had a few times where over texting hed be annoyed at me for asking to hang out but in person he seemed like he wasnt able to resist me.. I know for sure that hes more of a visual and like in person type of guy. Like everytime oir relationship got shaky we'd see each other in person and we had a spark again for a while. (link)
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I'd be totally fine with you going to hang out with him for your whole one last chance thing, but the whole thing that you guys kiss when you're together just isn't good so that's why I wouldn't recommend it.
You're right when all he's been seeing is your bad side. I'm positive you have a great and wonderful side and he's seen it before too. The thing is, you need space. Not just for a possible future with him, but for you to get your head together.
You're going crazy over him. You need to stop, take a step back and focus on you. Once you get your head together, be mature about the break up. Don't start begging him to hang out. Just ask if you guys can meet up and talk. No making out or anything like that. Then if he says yes, then you can show him the awesome you. If he says no, then that's probably the end of it and it would be wrong of you to keep pushing him to be more than what he wants with you.
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But its like o wan to see him one last to to convince him you know? Like its witer break for goodness sake!! Once school starts were not going to have much time to hang out with each other its already hard ejough. Like i just wanted one time you know i mean he did have feelings for me before maybe i can spend one day convincing him dont you think? And if he tells me in person that he doesnt want me then ill leave him alone. (link)
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I understand that want to see him over the break because you'll have more time to spend with each other. I can tell that it's really hard for you.
The thing is, you can't convince someone to have feelings for you just because he has had feelings for you before. Don't you want someone who just feels them naturally and just wants to be with you on their own will and you won't even have to even bother about thinking to try to convince them that you're worth it?
He's gone through ignoring your messages, telling you to leave him alone, ect. If he hasn't told you he doesn't want you, he's leading you on. I mean he's already talking to another girl.
So just don't try to see him during this break. I get that you won't have as much time when school starts again but it's better than scaring him off and pushing him away.
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Thanks for your advice lightoftruth. I sure did learn a lession the hard way. I will never underestimate anyone no matter how unlikely they seem For now on. The only reason I threw the ball at her the 2nd time was because she threatened to beat us up after we hit her by accident the first time. I made the mistake of thinking she wouldn't. Be capable of doing so. What I'm worried about the most is a few weeks after the fight she was asking my cousin about me and telling him she "wants to beat me up again"and that if she sees me again at the park she will for making her ruin her jeans.
So even if I tell her no I don't want to fight, she might just ignore it and start pounding me again or she will brag about
how scared I am of her. In front of everyone. All my friends. On the team remember how messed up my face was a couple of months ago and they will know why now and so will my dad. My lower left side still hurts a little when I sit down from the last fight with her, I don't. Want to get it even worse the second time the first time was scary enough. Still stressing. I think I will find a way to skip this game coming up and pray she isn't. There the next game because if she is I know I will be dead meat.. (link)
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If you see her, just try your best to not be around her. If she ends up confronting you, then be the bigger person and tell her that you really are sorry (whether she accepts it or not doesn't matter) and that you don't want to fight and you don't fight girls.
At this point, if she does try to do something, you should probably tell an adult. An adult that you trust and explain your situation and see if they can stand around and watch and if she starts something, they can pull her away.
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