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what does this guy mean
I met him online and the first time he saw my picture he said I was pretty and afterwards, would call me pretty when necessary. So we started talking and asking each other sexual questions. Once, I asked him what he would choose and he said "of coursr you! I think you're beautiful!" That wad the only time he called me beautifull and afterwards, he started using the term sexy.
He usually initiates contact.
The question here is: does he mean what he says or is he just saying it for his own benefit?
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I have no idea who he is so I can't tell you what he means.
I'm pretty sure he genuinely think you're attractive. I'm not sure what else you're asking.
So like I said, he probably think you're attractive. I mean what guy is going to talk to a girl a lot that they don't think is pretty. But saying it for his own benefit? I'm not sure what you mean. Calling you sexy to get what he wants would be saying it for his own benefit.
So I think from there you can figure out what's going on.
Most guys you meet online will just be looking for a girl who's pretty to talk to just to boost their ego or to get some action.
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Hon, there is no way I could even begin to understand the mind of any one individual I do not know. And therefore to guess what he means when he says it or if there are any hidden agenda's I would have no clue.
But you did say you met online. Whether dating site or other, is this still only online, or have you met in person?
I have no idea how often you talked on line before going to sexual questions and I ask because if you are not on a dating site where you make a statement that one of the things you are looking for is your sexual equal, then talk of sexual topics right off the bat, if started by the guy, usually points to the fact that all they want when they see you is a sex partner. He is thinking of his needs first, mainly satisfying his sexual needs and will say and do anything to convince you to be his sex partner. Women usually want to feel some kind of emotional connection to the man they have sex with.
Remember, the internet is quite one sided, flat, it is not multidimensional, so a friendship on screen is just fantasy, it is not a good Some woman will have sex reflection of what it may end up in real life. I did internet dating. I used it as a tool to discover guys, screen out the obvious losers, and go out for coffee with the ones I wanted to meet face to face. Even then, many did not end up being anything like I thought they were after a week or two of on line convo's.
All you can be guaranteed of is liking how the person thinks and expresses themselves and if they are sharing enough, what they say their morals and beliefs and ethics are. Even photos can be misleading. I saw guys online I thought looked fairly good looking. When I went looking for them at a restaurant or coffee shop 1st meet, sometimes I couldn't even recognize them, even when the guy was standing in front of me and I wondering why he was staring at me and starting conversation with me.
Lots of women don't think they look pretty. So guys who are being honest, no matter how much a guy is being truthful and complimenting her, the gal won't believe him....I do not know if this is what is going on with you and he's is just trying his best to convince you that you truly are attractive to him.
Guys with ulterior motives will say that because it is true they were attracted to your looks but they are looking for a certain look in a girl not for a relationship but only for sex, what they find sexually attractive and so will turn the conversation to what you are wearing, and questions about your sexual preferances before you know what his favorite foods, hobbies and birthday is. Believe me, I've had many write who either don't know how to have a conversation with women, or were just horny and wanting to chat online with a real woman whose pic they find sexy and masturbate or at least fantasize about her sexually while attempting to hold a conversation...how do I know? Some were bold enough to say so and others took a very long time sometimes to respond to what I typed when their response recently were quicker. One can't masturbate and type at the same time.
If you are truly interested in getting to know him better, then you would be initiating some contact with him and suggesting bringing it some the fantasy world of online into the real world.
But be safe and agree to meet the first time or two at a Starbucks or a restaurants. Just the price of a coffee, in case a guy turns out to be a dud, is not a big investment.
You can ask him questions online and he can say anything and not have to prove it by his actions because you dont see each other in real life. So if you really want to know what he's like, ask some friends to help and plan to have two or three friends girls and guy agree to go bowling or somewhere with you where you invite him to show up and not only are you safe cus the friends are there but you get the benefit of their first impressions of him also. If he isn't interested in getting to know the real you inside, then he wont agree to come, or he will show up and try to convince you to leave and go somewhere private with him. Don't drink alcohol while with someone you are trying to learn about, you need to stay sober to make your best possible observations of him and not be tempted to go against your better judgement and have sex with him when you don't really want to yet.
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