I'm in college and feel a little sad right now. I'm sitting in my room all by myself when everyone else is out having a blast with other people. Don't get me wrong I have a ton of friends, close ones at that, but at the end of the day (sometimes, not always) I'll have nowhere to go out and nothing to do. All my other friends have a go-to group of friends that they can be around whenever they want, or boyfriends, or guys they can invite over and hook up with if they're lonely. I have absolutely no guys which is depressing in itself but also no girlfriends I can just hang out with any time I please. Everyone else seems to have a special social agenda that I'm penciled into. I just kind of feel like a stray sometimes. My housemate's away and I have no one to stay with me. Everyone is doing other stuff tonight that I'm not a part of. I'm a very independent person and enjoy spending time by myself but not on a weekend night like this. Maybe I just need to come out of my shell a little more even, with my close friends.
Hey,
You havn't actually asked a question here so perhaps if you did that I'd be able to help :)
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Hi Im Jazz a nd Im14/f.
Ive been told I have an eating disorder but i dont think I do.
I recently about two months ago stopped eating.I dont feel hungry or anything.I just dont eat because Im not hungry.
But then my mom will make a big deal about me not eating which annoys me so Ill start eating alot for two or three days to shut her up.
Then maybe for the next week I stop eating again because im not hungry.In the last two months Ive went to the doctor.When they weighed me I was 114.
But a month later I was only 100.Now Im 108.
I honestly dont think I have an eating disorder.I know Im perfectly healthy.How do I et my mom to see things the way I do.
Hi,
Let me tell you about me and then give you some advice. I'm recovering from severe anxiety, and from that I had depression and bulimia.
I'm no doctor, but you need to establish why you don't have an appitite. And most doctors put this down to anxiety or depression, as they did with me.
The thing is, you dont have a phobia as such with food (anorexia) and you dont seem to not eat/throw up as a coping strategy (bulimia) so I think that theres a deeper issue here,which you need to see a GP about.
And do it soon, because mental health issues spiral out of control and hurt everyone else not just the sufferer. The thing is, you may not think now you're mentally ill, but deep deep down you could be, so be refered to a psychiatrist, because this behaviour to be frank isn't normal.
Trust me there are people out there to help you, you jsut gotta put the effort in yourself aswell.
Good luck :)
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How to get rid of a stuffy nose? Please! Somebody must know a way for fast relief? I feel like I am going to suffocate. :(
1) Steam
2) Sit upright on a chair hold your breath by pinching your nose, nod your head and when you need to take a breath stop pinching your nose-thats for quick relief
3) stay in ventilated areas not hot areas
4) Eat spicy food like a curry
5) Invest in a temporary inhalor such as olbas oil on the pillow every night-it works wonders.
6)Learn to cope with it. Breathe through your nose and get used to it and it wont seem so tourcherous. :)
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I am goin to a school and they hav uniforms there and I don't mind the uniforms that much but I think that we should hav at least on day to wear what ever we want. So I decided to write a letter to the school but I just don't kno what I should say in the letter. And I don't kno Wat to say I don't want to be mean bcuz that probably won't help but I do want to b demanding. So can someone help me on Wat I shoul put in my letter or should I even write a letter.
If you mean wearing no uniform for one day being a regular thing, then I dont really think the people at the top will consider a proposal from someone who cares more about wether to wear a uniform or not than the point why they're in school.
But if you mean a non uniform day out of the blue one day then yeh its a good idea :) I'd suggest you do it for charity because then it'd have a point behind it so staff are more likely to approve.
In terms of the letter,flattery is a good technique to use. You need to act as if you have the best interests of the school rather than yourself at heart, such as 'if we do a non uniform day for charity, then the schools reputation will improve'. Or it will lift the spirits of the students in the school.
I know it sounds abit deep but if you can convince the staff at your school its something you and other kids care about then it stands much more of a chance of happening.
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Hi, Im 19 and so is my boyfriend. I was pregnant and was having a tubal pregnancy so they removed it this Sunday. Before my pregnancy we weren't together but once i got pregnant with him he came back. I told him the only reason he got back with me was because of the baby. he keeps telling me thats a lie. well anyways yesterday i told him to go to my house. He couldn't because he was at a party, so he told me he would come the day after. so I called him today and he was sleeping almost the whole day. I go on Facebook and i see hes at the movie theater with his friends and a girl that's likes him a lot. im so dissapointed. After I told him to meet me at my place he does something else. I keep texting him but no reply because hew in the movie theaters. I have a bad feeling specially with this girl at the movies. i don't know what to do anymore. I feel like im the only one fighting to keep the relationship going. What should I tell him or do? please help me out . Sorry this is long :(
It does, as horrible as it may be, sound like he doesn't want to be with you. So, instead of fighting over a guy who doesn't support you, why not jsut let him go?
I appriciate that the idea of being a single parent can be quite scary, but you shouldn't stay with someone for the sake of the baby, because the relationship will only get even more strain put on it.
If I were you I'd explain how you feel. Do it lightly for now, as he is entitled to freedom. Say something like 'I just feel like we're growing apart' or 'do you think you could support me a bit more'
By saying this he'll act in one of two ways: agree or disagree.
If he agrees its for the best, because its better to split up with someone before they have the chance to cheat.
Jut remember that he may have found someone else, but in the future you'll find someone else who accepts you for you and does actually support you, and he'll live to regret it.
I know it may be hard to actually sit someone down and tell them how you feel, but you have to think about whether you'll be happy in 1 or even 10 years time if things continue as they are.
Good luck with everything :)
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Ok me and my boyfriend have sex, I am 9 days before my period.. He nut In me 2 times.. Can I be pregnant? How long before ur period can u get pregnant?? Somebody help me
Well as the user below said you can get pregnant at any time.
But the time when a girl is most fertile is about a week and a half before, so there is MORE of a chance then.
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i have has braces for about 8 months now and i have been havind discomfert! can somebody help please ( :
Hey
So it depends what kind of discomfort, but I'm assuming you mean they're too tight?
Many people visit their orthodontist about this and get them to loosen them abit. However, if you do this the brace will be on for even longer.
I had braces for three years and no matte how much it hurt I stuck with it because then they come off quicker.
You could try:
1) A warm but not hot water bottle placed by you mouth
2)Hold a comfort cushion on your mouth
3) Take paracetemol and sleep the pain off
4)Wax usually helps
5)Sometimes distracting yourself. So either keep yourself busy or pinch your ear arm or something so the most pain is there instead.
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Why does armpit hair and facial hair have a different feel to it then the hair on the scalp?
Quite simply hair on the scalp has always been there since birth and the other hair is pubic hair which develops during puberty and feel different due to various hormones.
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Hey, 17, female. I am moving into college 3 days after my 18th birthday. I'm the baby of my group of friends as I am the last one to start college. So, this will be my freshman year. I like my style now, crop tops and high low hemlines. As I do want my style to somewhat be more sophisticated in some aspects for class, I want a more sexy style as well for weekends in town with friends or (no judgments, many college students will at least once) party. I know you guys do not know my wardrobe and everything that I own but I would appreciate any type of clothing such as stated above or how to alter the clothing I already have to be more sophisticated and sexy. Such as, blazers, I have a few of those to throw on top of a blouse for a more mature look for class sometimes, when I'm feeling really classy, haha. Thanks for your time and answers.
Hey!
I'm actually a young 17 and have recently found a new look for myself as I look about 15!
Firstly...I never reveal too much body in summer. If I'm wearing a crop top-I'll not show much of my legs and wear a flattering long skirt. Similarily if I'm wearing shorts I'll wear a long floaty blouse. Doing this I find makes me look more sophisticated, as I guess you're not being like a typical teen by putting yourself out their to impress guys.
I'll work through various items of clothing here then:
Top half:
Blazers (as you know) make you look mature.
Fitted cardigans (normally cardigans are for older people but if their fitted to your body shape they look feminine and flattering.
Fitted long sleeve tops in plain colours such a white or cream with a scarf look sensible
In terms of for weekends, I'dwear a simply cut sparkly sequinned crop top, as its sensibly cut but you still look ready to party
Bottom half:
Invest in some really well cut jeans to suit whatever body type you have, and I tend to not follow fashions of coloured jeans as this can make me look younger.
Knee length skirts are flattering but not too much-the key is to not reveal too much flesh
Also, fitted, sandy coloured trousers that are the same size down the leg as peddle pushers look more mature.
Overall-I'd just say 1)Dont reveal too much flesh b)Dont follow all the fashions of the high street shops as thats what younger teens do c)Choose stuff to suit your body shape d) Dont worry too much about what you look like in class-most people dont remember one evening what their class mate wore to class 10 days ago!
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My boyfriend promest me that he will engage to me a romantic engagement on the weekend of his 16th birthday and our plan is to get married on my 19th birthday. . . We both 15 now and he's birthday is in november which I think is a good time to think about it through. I love him, we never fight and we've been together for 3 years now and I don't mind at all spending the rest of my life with him! Do you think I'm doing the right thing? Even that I'm pregnant with his child and we planning on keeping it and every night. He tells me to tell little one that daddy loves him so so so much. . . I just thought I'd give that little detail aswell :) so do you think I'm doing the right thing?
To be honest I think you're happy about the sitution your in so much so that you put it on here.
Also, people who answer this almost certaintly dont know you so they cant really tell your if it is right as we dont know little details such as how mature you actually are etc.
And also, I seriously doubt that after reading a comment on here you'd actually change your mind based on that one comment by someone you dont know.
Just go and live your life honey :)
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Hi! I am a 13 year old girl who loves One Direction, loves to crochet, help people, sing, play guitar (even though I do not have one),and be this person that everyone loves to be around. I have had this dream to be a pop sensation for years. Nick Jonas, Katy Perry, Justin Bieber, and Demi Lovato all inspired me to chase my dreams of being a singer, but it is so HARD! Knowing that I cannot chase my dreams makes me lose hope. Whay should I do?
Hey,
Firstly I would say, as with any other career-you need to work at it, and you need to expect to work very hard to get to the top of your game.
I'm from Cheshire, in England and Harry Styles went to school here,so theres many stories about what he was like at school. The one thing that comes on top is that he worked hard at it, eg: performing in a band first and things.
I would suggest its always best to write your own stuff and most tend to write about personal experiences. This is good as people can relate to your music more.
Also, try to make a more realistic goal. Sure, one day you could well be a chart topper, but you have to ask yourself is this dream just for the celebrity status or would you still want it if it meant you could still have the same life. Make sure it really is your passion because people can tell if you're serious or dillusional.
Finally, why not specialize in your own type of music. For example you could focus on jazz or rock. Just wanting to be a pop star will not be enough. These days people want people who are TRULY different. If your voice has an edge to it thats good but if not try to create really unheard of stuff to get noticed. Theres already a Katy perry in this world and we dont need another, so why not try tons of different sounds,beats and new phrases to give you the edge.
Hope this helps :) p.s: the more experience you can prove to record companies you have the better so get singing writing and recording it asap!!
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we are both in our 40's. we are both married to other people but have this strong attraction to each other. Am I playing with fire? All we did so far was hug each other but express feelings towards one another. Please advise.
The advice below 'stop hugging' isn't proper advice because they've obviously not realised that this is hard if you both like each other.
My advice would be to talk to each other-communication is key in relationships. Talk to each other whether it's just friendly or whether you do hold feelings for one another.
If you do hold feelings for each other its best to be honest and from then on, you can get help about how to deal with the respective partners.
You need to adress your true feelings before just dismissing them because usually your gut will tell you things for a reason.
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hello everyone. i'm 17 years old and i just dont seem to be happy anymore, i can't feel anything around me, i dont feel like talking to anyone and i cant even remember my old life. i feel sick and worthless, i always ask myself, whats the point of life? whats love? whats me?!! my thoughts scare me sometimes. i broke up with my bestfriend and he's a guy though. but i just cant feel it. sometimes i say maybe he's the reason of my depression.. but i dont really know.. im very tired of this, i forget how it feels to be trurly happy, sometimes i ask myself maybe the problem is with me? i cant even trust my parents, i always feel like they are hiding something and they lie to me. i cant feel anything and its killing me. whats wrong with me? how can i deal with this? is this normal?
Hey
I'm 17 and study pyschology too and can relate to some of what you say.
Fistly, you need to be more positive. That includeds everything from being friendly with everyone, loving yourself and turning these negative thoughts into positive ones. For example, you feel your parent are hiding somehting from you, but then a positive of this is that they may not be and if they are they love you too much to tell you some things.
I'd suggest finding something you're good at. This can be writing, knitting or whatever, and then work towards being really good at it. This hobby should take your mind of the really depressed feelings you have.
You also sound very kinda philosophial eg: 'whats the point in life?'
The fact is, life is what you make it. If you just mope around all down in the dumps and don't create opportunities for yourself, there may never be a point. So you have to make the point if you get me?
One of the best ways to stop feeling this philosophical is to help others. By doing charity work for people who say are about to die from illness but would love to live, it'll make you realise how precious life is and also you'll feel a huge sense of reward.
So put a smile on your face and find a talent because you suceed in life by picking yourself up and moving on :)
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im 9 and wants sex.
This obviously isn't a genuine question so why post in the first place?
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I've. Been texting with a guy that I saw once. I got his number I've sent hime pictures and say I look good,but at times he's like no I don't want nothing,but then when I text him back or send a picture he will start texting with me again. What does he really mean?
This sounds like lust not love to me.
If you don't know anything about this guy then you've fallen in love with his nice words and his image, not with his personality.
There are many guys out there that just want to mess around, but if this guy was genuine he'd ask about YOU.
If I were you, I'd get rid now because this sounds like a cyber relationshop where you guys have fallen in love with images not each other. If you don't want to look insecure with yourself (as if you need someone to tell you your fab) then I'd delete his number.
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i live in aurora colorado
Well yes because you're obviously in doubt about it which means you're not ready.
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I always feel alone. My friends come and go. When I have a real good friend all of a sudden its like , I did something wrong to make them hate me or not trust me or something. Sometimes I just think I'm better off not here. Since my dad died everything's been upside down , but that was 9 years ago .. I had a family but I dont anymore .. My ex bboyfriend used to be my bestfriend but he's changed too. I just feel so alone. What should I do? Stay this way? Believe people when they say they care? But in the end nobody cares. I just dont know anymore, someone help me please??
Hey,
So the first thing to remember is that you're not better off not here. Find a passion or pursue a talent and then you'll have something to work towards and prove thoses crappy friends who left you wrong.
Also, alot of teens feel like this. So why not turn your lonliness and anger at being left into energy and motivation to achieve something really great like an award or face a fear?
Also, people do care. I have the same issue as you, expect I guess the only differnce is that I'm a twin so we'e kinda only got each other and lots of casual come and go friends.
If I were you I'd start a fresh. To pull your self back up you need to reach your lowest point. Once you've got there things can only get better right?
My tips:
1) Find your talent or interest and advance in it, and achieve a goal, for example if your good at writing then aim to get published.
2) Get help from real counsellors to see if theres any underlying issues such as social anxiety
3)If it helps, forget the here and now and focus on the future. Plan how next term/semester you'll do things differently.
Good luck and feel free to inbox me if you feel like this again because I'll always have an open ear :)
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Hello!
So recently I wrote a story and I've posted it on a writing website, but now I'm regretting it because this is actually the first story I've written that I can say I am super confident and proud of. I'm wondering if I should take it down and finish it on my own time, then attempt to publish it? Would this work or should I leave it posted?
Hey!
A tip from someone who also love writing-take it down!
This is for a few reasons. Firstly, you need to publish your work where people will give honest and most importantly expert feedback, when publishing work for the first few times.
So the people who give you feedback on this website may 'like' or 'not like' your work, but if they're not in a position to be able to say how you could improve then whats the point in asking these people?
My advice would be to enter genuine writing competitions, many times you get some sort of acknowledgment or feedback from them.
I'd just be careful that in these first few years publishing your work your constantly in touch with people who know the subject well. Afterall, you don't want to get upset about a comment of any writing website when in actual fact you're a better writer than they are!
Good luck :)
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What degree should I go for? I love video games and computers, but I've never been good at it.
I suppose you mean degree as in study a subject to degree level?
You need to pick something you like, not nessesarily that you're good at though this obviously helps.
Also consider what career you want to take. Its all very well people saying I want to be this or that, but if there's never any vacancies in that sector of work then you need to be realistic and consider what has a future for you. Good luck :)
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Seriously! And, I'm not even allowed to move out because my parents will get all offended, and it's not in their culture to have kids living alone. Plus, I clearly can't afford living on my own.
UGH. I've always wanted a kitten since I was a little girl. I found one last summer but my dad made me give him away.
What can I do to convince him?
Firstly I don't know why the person below bothers to sign up to this site, not helpul really!
Anyways, you need to establish the reasons why your dad wont let you have a kitten. Is it the cost? Is it the mess they may cause? Once you've established this, you can perhaps show him leaflets/posters of rescue cats and kittens that need loving homes.
Personally I always go for rescue cats and kittens as its so rewarding, but only one at a time so you can be sure it has a goo life. You could explain to your dad you could make a real difference.
If he still wont budge, then I suggest you contact your local animal rescue centre and see if they need a hand on a voluntary basis. You never know, they may realise how good you are they may want you to take a lovely kitten home!
I've not heard of this particular 'culture' before,but I suppose at some stage you will leave home, and obviously then you can care for as many kittens as you like.
Lastly, never give up because we need more people like you to care for animals. Good luck :)
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