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I'm 19 years old, and my Dad won't let me have a kitten!
Seriously! And, I'm not even allowed to move out because my parents will get all offended, and it's not in their culture to have kids living alone. Plus, I clearly can't afford living on my own.
UGH. I've always wanted a kitten since I was a little girl. I found one last summer but my dad made me give him away.
What can I do to convince him?
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Move out.
I'm actually very serious. Attacking your father's 'reasons' for not wanting kitten is very, very unlikely to work. Sure, give is a shot, but it's not gonna get you very far.
It's his house. He's the boss. He sounds like he is pretty comfortable being the boss. Why would he change his mind? He doesn't want a cat in the house. It doesn't really matter too much why. This isn't a topic where people can be easily 'convinced'.
If you don't want to live by his rules, then you need to make a home for yourself, where you can be the boss. This is probably not something you can do tomorrow, it might not be something you can do for several years, but it's a goal you need to have in mind in there are things you want you cannot get in your parents home.
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Firstly I don't know why the person below bothers to sign up to this site, not helpul really!
Anyways, you need to establish the reasons why your dad wont let you have a kitten. Is it the cost? Is it the mess they may cause? Once you've established this, you can perhaps show him leaflets/posters of rescue cats and kittens that need loving homes.
Personally I always go for rescue cats and kittens as its so rewarding, but only one at a time so you can be sure it has a goo life. You could explain to your dad you could make a real difference.
If he still wont budge, then I suggest you contact your local animal rescue centre and see if they need a hand on a voluntary basis. You never know, they may realise how good you are they may want you to take a lovely kitten home!
I've not heard of this particular 'culture' before,but I suppose at some stage you will leave home, and obviously then you can care for as many kittens as you like.
Lastly, never give up because we need more people like you to care for animals. Good luck :)
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Have you tried just talking to him about it? He might see your point if you tell him how much it would mean to you. Otherwise, try a different approach & rather than simply asking him for something, try reasoning with him, maybe compromising. Ask why he doesn't want you to have a kitten, say for example he just doesn't like having animals indoors. In that case, you could ask if he might be ok with having an outdoor cat. Get me?
If he still won't let you, then I'm gonna have to agree with Matt; too bad. You are living under your parents' roof, so I think it's perfectly fair to live by their rules. Personally I think it's a lot more about that than it is about having a pet, but that's just my two cents. Anyway, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't come up with a solution you'll both be content with.
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Too bad.
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