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Lonely in college
I'm in college and feel a little sad right now. I'm sitting in my room all by myself when everyone else is out having a blast with other people. Don't get me wrong I have a ton of friends, close ones at that, but at the end of the day (sometimes, not always) I'll have nowhere to go out and nothing to do. All my other friends have a go-to group of friends that they can be around whenever they want, or boyfriends, or guys they can invite over and hook up with if they're lonely. I have absolutely no guys which is depressing in itself but also no girlfriends I can just hang out with any time I please. Everyone else seems to have a special social agenda that I'm penciled into. I just kind of feel like a stray sometimes. My housemate's away and I have no one to stay with me. Everyone is doing other stuff tonight that I'm not a part of. I'm a very independent person and enjoy spending time by myself but not on a weekend night like this. Maybe I just need to come out of my shell a little more even, with my close friends.
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Oh gosh, this sounds like almost exactly what I went through in college. It may be surprising to know that you're not in the minority when it comes to your situation. It may seem like everyone's out having a grand old time and you're the loser stuck in your room, but that's just not the case. There are a whole lot more people feeling what you are feeling than you think. The next time you go to the dining hall (if that's where you get your food) take a quick look around. You'll see a few people sitting by themselves. The good news is that college isn't forever. It's an awkward time, but it's not going to last for much longer. It may seem like an eternity when you're in it, but a few years after it, it's likely that even the people with fantastic social lives won't be friends with each other anymore. I started to have a better go of it when I joined a club. I knew that the people in the club weren't really that great of friends either, but it gave me something to do and people to socialize with. I felt way, way less lonely. The best club to join would be some sort of Christian club or organization. They're always out doing fun stuff and they're very accepting of people right away. If you're not into that, intramural sports is always a good idea. You'll get close with your teammates and have a great time (this is what I did). If you're not into sports, there are so many clubs that there will definitely be one that you'd like. It takes a bit of courage to get started. Actually signing up and meeting people sucked at first for me, but that was only a day or two of awkwardness. It was well worth it to have something to do besides wallow in self pity for another semester. It's hard to find your place in and amongst all of these people who seem to have it all figured out. Just give yourself a chance, take a risk, and sign up for something. If you don't like it, you can always just try something else. Good luck! :)
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