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ok so my family dont like me because they think that i will turn out like my mother... who is really bad.... but anyways she aint in our lives... so i ended the emotional abuse b getting up and leaving and now that i just mind my own business the go and accuse me for things they lost and like i stole it... and i just would like to know how to tell them to just back off respectfully and not like them saying im not considered a part of their family no more! it hurts but i dont want them to get hurt with the things i could say!... what do i do and say???
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What you have in front of you is a cavalcade of LOSERS. Don't hang around with losers! 86 yourself out of their picture so that they don't drag you down with them. I know, emotionally it is tough on women, but for your sake you need to do it.
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My friend and I have a lot of history. Long story summarized...
I lied to her about a pregnancy from when i was 15 years old that I told her was aborted but really never became a viable pregnancy. The boy who impregnated me was my boyfriend of 2 years and we broke up when I was 15 around the time the pregnancy happened.
When I was 17 i met my friend, lets call her Sally. Sally and I were friends for 6 months before she started dating the boy who got me pregnant, he was a mutual friend of ours and rather than ask me for my blessing she just kind've told me it was happening. Realistically I would've liked to have just been asked and I would've said yes regardless, they've been dating for 2 years now.
I'm now in a new relationship with a guy that she thinks is horrible for me and recently him and my new guy got in a fight. I stood by her in that fight and he almost left me for it.
Now she's calling me a selfish bitch because I admitted to having lied and told her how I felt about her never having asked about my new boyfriend.
She says she cares and wants the best for me but she's also telling me that she doesn't want to be my friend because she doesn't want to be around my relationship with my boyfriend.
Now she's being rude to me and I don't want to show that it hurts because I feel like that will mean she's winning. I just don't understand how we went from being friends and thinking that we were standing by each other to being so hostile.
I am now 20 and she is 19. (link)
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"I stood by her in that fight and he almost left me for it. "
If your boyfriend wasn't such a pussy he would have left you. You flat humiliated him when you did that and I can't believe that he will come back for more.
Not only that, he is allowing your girlfriend to interfere with your relationship. That is another casus belli for a dumping. I actually broke up with one girl many years ago partially for that reason. Guys do not like having their girlfriend's friends around. You may not like that but it's true. It is a big pain in the ass when you want to be alone with your girl and her idiot pals are in the picture, too. Ugh!
Now what is going on between you and your friend is competition between women. Because the first boyfriend knocked you up you still have some residual feelings for him. However, by the same token, he is not your property and your friend did NOT need your permission to go out with him. Minding one's own business is a good thing. Learn it, live it, love it.
And your friend needs to mind her own business, too. Really you two, GTFU.
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How do i write letter to my boyfriend's mother? (link)
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I want to know what your motivation is for writing the letter. Without that I can't really give an answer.
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My Girl friend and I used to indulge in fore·play and now she force me to cum on her face and she's forcing me to have an oral sex.
So is there a chance pregnancy. since we never had intercourse (link)
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This question is a troll.
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My boyfriend's been acting weird to me lately. He does have multiple personality disorder but it never really effected us negatively. His case of this disorder does not even seem that bad, he just changes his mind about certain things a lot. But one thing I am surely certain about is that he loves me. Not only does he tell me, but every little thing he does shows me he loves me. But lately he's been acting weird. We'll text for about an hour or even shorter and then he'll just stop answering me. And to be honest he really doesn't do much. He barely gets out of the house, and if he does it's only for a short errand for his parents or to come see me. Usually he's playing video games all day or just laying around. Last night he stopped texting and didn't answer my calls but this morning he told me he went to bed early. He usually always tells me goodnight and I thought that was weird but brushed it off. Today I've been feeling depressed and I need someone to talk to and he's always there and he's the only one that I go to for my problems. I stopped texting him for a while but told him to call me when he's not busy. I get insecure at times but I have a full trust in him, even though I'm a little paranoid something is going wrong (link)
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This is what can happen with someone who has a profound mental illness. They can shift behavior on a dime. You will just have to be patient with it and talk about it when you guys meet.
The cruel thing that he is dealing with is that the brain doesn't stop developing until about age 25. So he not only has a mental illness, his brain is still in only a partially grown state, which has complications of its own.
But what I wonder is why did you seek a guy with a mental illness as a mate? Does your father have a history of mental illness or drug or alcohol addiction, for example?
Anyway, I hope this all works out for the best. But you are going to have to have an easygoing "roll with the changes" attitude in a situation such as this. Good luck to both of you.
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i dnt want to sound all jealous or like a gf that doesnt let her bf have friends or anything but today i was at the mall right? Just hanging with my pops. and outof no where my bf is walking with some chick, i wouldnt really care but the werid thing is that he has been ignoring my texts for the past two days. so i dunno what to believe . they were not holding hands or anything .. what a relif.. but i was thinking , maybe he is cheating on me bcuz he was at the mall with another chick,hasnt texted me in 2 days and maybe he waz busy so mabye he couldnt of texted me but being at the mall is not busy. o ya he texted me saying y i didnt say hi and all and said that they r jus friends . can anyone help me ? do u think his cheating ? thanks for reading (link)
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Yeah, the breakup is coming babe, so be ready for it. He is just too chicken right now to go to you and make the announcement.
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Ok so there's this guy that iv been in love with for over a year, he's 18 and loved me to but had a girlfriend so the things we did didn't technically count as going out. But now I really love this other guy named Ben that is 24 and we'll let's just say he can play in the "special olympics" if u get what I'm saying. But despite that, he's sweet, funny, caring, everything I want. I'm 14 and I'm not sure how to deal with either boy! What the hell do I do?????? (link)
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You are going to put both those guys into state prison. For their sakes please stop associating with them in any way but platonic and at arm's length.
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I'm a 21 year old male, and people don't seem to like me. I have some friends who if I really bother will do things with me, but I am still really insecure about whether or not they really want to be around me.
This is mostly about dating however, I'm having trouble meeting people. I tried online dating, but I find most people on there to be incredibly broken in some way, no offense but I'm not interested in a drug addict or someone who is my age with 3 children.
I have really worked to get in good shape, and have lost over 50 pounds and think I'm in good shape now. I'm in the last year of schooling for a great job in the medical profession. I'm responsible, have my own place which I pay for, and have a good relationship with my family. On paper I sound pretty good if you ask me, but I don't think people ever give me a real chance to get to know me, those who do know me well like me but its hard to get past that first 'hello' for me with someone I'm actually interested in.
Anyway my main question is how do I meet people who are single, and are in a situation where they are dateable? (link)
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There are two things going on here, neither of them particularly attractive to women.
1. You have no confidence when the thing women find sexiest is confidence.
2. You sound desperate and women hate needy guys.
The reason for that is women want guys to be daddy. Now you have the earning power with your job, but they don't sense any kind of leadership from you. So you have to relax and look at things as if, "they have to win my approval and not the other way around." Women want to work to win a guy's praise. That is why you don't compliment them right off the bat because attractive women have already heard the usual crap a million times. Find an interesting or roundabout way to say things. And when you ask them out, don't beg for it, just flat out say, "hey, you seem like the kind of person I would like to get to know, so let's go do....on...."
Even if she says no to the invitation, you will still have sounded like a man and not some needy weenie.
You never ask a woman where she wants to go or what to eat, you tell her where you're going or what you're going to eat (in a general category of cuisine kind of way). You keep her on a short leash (if she makes a scene in public she gets the boot, for example). You see what I'm saying?
I'm not saying be a jerk to women, but on the other hand, I'm saying have a jerky underlying attitude toward women. Don't be controlling because control freaks reek of insecurity. Just expect her to act like a reasonable adult. That hardheadedness, belief in self (without being a blowhard about it) and not going to put up with anybody's bullshit is much more attractive than what you are now.
You're an achiever, dude. Act like it.
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me/18 bf/20
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and we've had alot of "trust issues' eventually i found out that he was cheating on me with another girl so of course i confronted him about it, but he denied the whole thing and said he just firted with her he then confessed everything he ever did during the course of our relationship, he says that he just flirted with girls but i don't believe that this is true, he said that the only reason he did this was because he found out i was flirting with other guys behind his back, but he also cheated before he found out about this, i know it was wrong of me to flirt with other guys but i thought we looked past that but it seems we didn't because he told me that he "got close" with one of his friends too, i guess the reason i'm still with him is because he confessed everything and we could start again, but i'm still uncertain, what if he does it again? i love him so much but i don't trust him at all please help me (link)
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You guys are too bloody young to be tied down. You need to go through the exploratory part of your adulthood. If you don't you will regret it. So break up with the guy, date around, graduate from college, live overseas and then if it is meant to be you can pick it up with him again in a few years.
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I don't prefer to put my name so long story shirt I don't know if I am a lesbian but that's not my topic , I have a close friend I guess I like and I feel something in my heart when I am with her but the thing is I think she is straight but the thing is she treats me differrently she hugs me and let me out my hands around her but I don't know if she takes it friendly or she is a lesbian but she likes a guy who she faught with and stopes talking the thing is aim never jealous of her loving a guy and sometime I feel gross of the concept being a lesbian so am I or no and does my fringe likes me and scared to tellnme or what ? (link)
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Nothing wrong with being a lesbian. Sexual orientation is something you are born with. If you can find a loving connection with a woman then go for it. Life is too short to worry about what other people are thinking. And only you can live your life.
Tell the other girl, "I feel so close to you I practically want to kiss you" and then give her a playful kiss and see how she responds. Nothing ventured nothing gained.
As for what the other girl is thinking with regard to boys, she may be bisexual. Nothing wrong with that. Also, at your age, to be a lesbian requires a certain amount of social courage in our sexually repressed American society and she may be wondering if she has that courage, so she acts as if she likes boys but may not. Some gays carry this act so far that they end up getting married and having children before they finally admit to who they really are.
You also have to keep in mind that experimentation with sexual orientation is common at your age. Not a big deal. Your brain will continue to develop until age 25, so your sensibilities are going to evolve between now and then. Just like yourself for being a good person, stay relaxed and don't overthink things.
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i want my ex back, but he said he lost feelings for me after i broke up with him. the reason why i left was because i cheated on him with my 1st bf. i didnt realize how much i cared for him until after i cheated. but i want him back, i can't live everyday like i used to when i was with him, he made me happy like no one else can.
so how do i tell him i still have feelings for him? how do i make sure i dont get hurt even more?
it's been over 2 months since i left him.and if it helps.. i'm 14. (link)
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Well, you obviously didn't feel your ex was hot enough to not cheat on him. Usually, when someone in a relationship strays there is some need that isn't being fulfilled that ends up getting fulfilled with the one you're cheating with. So what was it for you?
Was the relationship with the ex getting too routine? Was he not giving you the amount of attention you wanted? What was it?
There is one other factor possibly at play: at your age, with your brain still developing (and it will until about age 25), you don't know what you really want. Teenagers have very poor impulse control. So when your ex rightly punished you by walking out he stood up like a man and not some kind of needy pussy that may have forgiven you. Good for your ex. You're still too immature for a relationship and he has enough self esteem that he deserves better.
Now that isn't necessarily bagging on you. A lot of kids go through, and do, what you did. It is part of the process of growing up. Learn from it. Honest people are always more valued than cheaters and liars. So take that to heart and get on with your life.
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Im really getting tired of girls acting like they know guys, "oh, he doesnt care because hes a man,and men care less about stupid little stuff, men move on faster" yada yada yada, they are human beings that have feelings, and just because they dont have the same exact body organ that we have doesnt mean anything,atleast thats what i think,lol.. anyways, me and my ex broke up like 1 month and a half ago, all his fault,all the way.. and hes kind of in that confused "phase" where he doesnt know what he wants , and i should give him some time,but i refused, we were together for a long time.. he bought a necklace, half for him and half for me, it says something very special between the both of us,and we both always used to wear it, we said it kept us Connected,i see him around, and he still wears it, all the time, and he doesnt even bother to tuck it in his shirt, he keeps it out all the time.. what do you think this means? if he didnt wanna be with me, why does he still wear it.. (link)
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Your ex is a pussy. He is so needy and thinks so little of himself that he doesn't believe he can get anyone else. So he is going through an extended mourning period and he hopes that you will find the necklace gesture so romantic that you will get back together with him.
Do not enable him. If anything you can tell him you have him on the dreaded "friend list," which means no chance of him ever seeing you naked again. Or you could just ignore him. The latter would be kinda humiliating, though.
By the way, guys do not feel the same about things as girls. You have made the same mistake as your friends, projecting your own thoughts on them. Women are more about the journey and men about the destination. Women are about the process and men about the end result. Women bond through a lot of self disclosure and men through doing stuff together. Men do not discuss their deepest feelings with each other. Men are not raised to be verbal or emotionally sensitive and are economic objects to women while women are raised to be verbal and emotionally sensitive and are sex objects to men. Need I go on?
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im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
My boyfriend took my virginity roughly 2 weeks ago, and since then we have been sharing whilst cuddling one night things we would like to try/different places we could go/ what turns us on. he mentioned that it would be a huge turn on for him for us to have sex with the lights on. Because it would be really romantic to be able to stare into each others eyes, and he would be able to see everything.
however im very very insecure with my body, and thats why i like having sex in the dark, because i dont have to worry about what i look like. Although he told me he's already seen my 'problem areas' he says i have nothing to worry about and that he loves my body. but im very well aware that im overweight. especially compared to his previous girlfriends. id love to be intimate with him with the lights on purely for the romance of it all... but im to caught up and worried about my body.
is there any tips or anything to help me 'hide' the flaws of my body in the light?
id really love to do this for him, even though im insecure (link)
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As someone who prefers some meat on his lady's bones, I offer you this:
He already thinks you're hot. To him, you are a super model. If you weren't, he wouldn't be with you because guys are really visually oriented. So keep the lights on, strip slowly for him and let him take it in. Besides, he will also be able to see what he is doing (eating pussy in the dark can be kind of a bear sometimes *lol).
Look, on an evolutionary basis, women are meant to retain some fat and have big hips. Skinny girls are like walking skeletons and hugging them is no fun. Ever hug a bag of bones before? Ever cracked a woman's back with a hug? I did. Holding a nice, soft woman in my arms feels amazing. And kissing one, oh my God, phenomenal!
Thus, it is okay to be a big girl as long as you are healthy. If you exercise a couple of hours a day, are responsible about your eating habits (low fat diet) and be nice you will attract guys. Not everybody wants a barely concealed skeleton (which is a good description of most fashion models).
So start enjoying how he feels about you. Be a nice, relaxed person, don't overthink things (guys REALLY hate that!) and get naked for him frequently. When he is hugging you, think about the sensations you are experiencing from the hug rather than the meaning of it or how your hair looks at that moment. When you are having sex, just keep your mind clear, enjoy the emotions and pleasure and have fun! You can only be you. Don't compare yourself to others because you can't be them, okay?
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how can fuck at first time (link)
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Oh mods, do your jobs! This is a little kid writing this question!
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I'm 15 and I'm going into 10th grade I've been in high school for a year now and I go to a VERY small school...and everyone except for 3 people hate me because of one mistake I made 2 years ago. And I can't really apologize to someone because its everyone who hates me because of it. I don't want to go another 3 years with everyone hating me..I know there's always gonna be someone that hates me but I don't know what to do. I've always had very low self esteem and I've always thought I was really ugly and I don't know how to change it. I've gone to councilors and they haven't helped at all. I go in my room almost everyday I think about that mistake and I often cry about it.I don't know how to fix it and I don't know if I even can fix it!?! (link)
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First, who is "everyone"? How many people is that? It can't be any more than a dozen, can it? It's hard for me to believe that an entire middle school would know who you are let alone hate you.
Look, you have three years of high school left and then everybody will scatter to the four winds. None of the crap that happens when you are a teenager will ultimately really count for anything in terms of impacting you later on down the line unless you engaged in some egregious criminal acts.
Yeah, you are dealing with self esteem issues (as is everybody around you, btw) and maybe a big sense of embarrassment at what you did. But just keep pushing forward. Determine what would make you happy in life and then make that possible. Don't be sabotaged by losers or people who aren't you because they can't live your life, only you can. Just look forward to moving away to college, living overseas after you graduate university and getting on with it.
Sometimes kids are put in environments that aren't a good fit. I experienced that at your age. It really sucks. Unfortunately, given the state of the economy it isn't easy for your parents just to pull up stakes and move away to somewhere else. So you are just going to have to have a thick skin and hardcore study habits.
College will get you out of this bullshit you're in now. So focus on that rather than the third rate drama occurring around you.
There are famous people who weren't big social hits in secondary school. Winston Churchill, Rush Limbaugh, Howard Stern, Ann Wilson and just about any other famous musician you can name come to mind. Living well is the best revenge. Use this as motivation.
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okay so me and this guy have a love hate relationship, i hate that i love him; like the song i hate that i love you by rihanna... what are some other songs like that?
thanks
kaaitlyn (link)
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"Thin Line Between Love and Hate" The Pretenders
"I Hate Myself for Loving You" Joan Jett and the Blackhearts
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I am soooooo darn self conscious about my pubic hair. Female by the way and Im sixteen. Please yes I understand I shouldnt be having sex ( which for the most part Im not) but I lost my virginity about two years ago. Now i havent had sex since then because Im extremely self conscious. Not even just about my pubic hair but about all aspects of my vaginal area. I try shaving but Im very susceptible to ingrown hairs so I alway get a bunch of red bumps almost immeadiately. Ive even tried that lotion thats supposed to prevent it.needless to say, It didnt work. I dont want the bumps because i dont want a guy to see or feel them and just be grossed out. I also dont want them to feel hair down there because I feel for a lot of men these days are disgusted by that. And went it comes to just the area of course I keep it as clean as i possibly can but its impposible to be 100% percent clean especially with the hair. I dont want the white stuff that likes to acumulate in between the lips to be there. I dont feel like i have a normal vagina either. The gyno said it is but imnot sure. I wont let anyone go there because of my feelings and fears. No matter how bad i want them i cant bring my self to let them touch me. I dont want them to be grossed out of feel weird especially when if i do let someone touch me im so focused on their expressions trying to figure out what theyre thinking or if they are disgusted i dont even concentrate on how it feels for me. I dont know what to do about my problem i feel like imnever going to let my self be touch agagin because of my self consciousness. Help. Please & thank you. (link)
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If shaving it isn't your thing (and lots of women and the men that love them still prefer hair down there) then just keep it neatly trimmed.
You can also get it waxed, but that can be painful during the actual waxing. So you might try that if you feel you just gotta be bald there (I personally prefer women with no or little pubic hair).
And honey, there is no such thing as an ugly vagina. I have seen a lot of pussy in my life and none of it has ever been unsightly. The combination of the opening and the lips reminds me of a flower. As long as you bathe every day you will have no reason to feel self conscious about it. So relax and stop picking at yourself.
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14/f
I just had my first period yesterday. I managed to tell my mom, and she handled it pretty well and gave me some pads. I hated sitting in my own blood and feeling like I peed my pants, so I took a few of my older sister's tampons. I put them in on my own and I literally danced around with joy when I realized I could survive my period and not have to give up swimming for a week. I also took a few of my sister's pads, but I obviously need to go to the store to get some more. How can I ask my mom to take me, AND tell her that I experimented with tampons? Things have been very awkward between us lately, and I can't even look her in the eye. Whenever we're alone, I'm always scared she's going to say something about it, and she usually does. What can I do? (link)
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Tampons can be tricky because the misuse can cause a serious affliction called Toxic Shock Syndrome (especially with super absorbent tampons). Talk to your mom and your gynocologist about it and then go from there. Don't keep anything from either of them when it comes to stuff like this.
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So, like the title says, I have a terrible memory. It's really bad. I've just turned seventeen, and I'm a girl. Okay, so it's bad to the point of where someone will ask me a question, and 3 seconds later it will fade away, and I won't remember what they asked. Or, I'm in mid-sentence or story, and I'll forget what I was talking about. I also can't remember things from two or three years ago. It's all a fuzzy blur. I'll read a book and forget some of the plot. I'll get up to get something, and when I get there, I'll forget what on earth I was doing. Or, I'll put some water on the stove to boil, and a minute later I'll forget I'm cooking, and then in 10 minutes smell something weird and realize my water is all evaporated and burned. Or, "Hey Ashley, (Made up name.), can you unload the dishwasher for me? Thanks." -Twenty minutes later- "ASHLEY, you didn't unload the dishwasher!" "I didn't what...? OH crap I forgot!!". I'm known among my friend's for having a terrible memory, but it's like, really scary sometimes. If this has anything to do with it, I don't drink pop a lot, but I do get head aches A LOT, and I get dizzy often. I don't want to make a big deal out of it, so I haven't asked my doctor. I have told my mother, but she waved it off as just me being me. But it's getting to the point where I put something somewhere, and I come back and it isn't there, but no one has touched it, so I must've done something with it! And it's happening way too much and too often now... It's gotten worse over the years. So, I'm just wondering if I should be concerned, or if it's just a normal teenager thing. Help would be appreciated, thanks! (link)
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Yeah, attention deficit disorder. It isn't that big a deal. Talk to your doctor about it and see what he or she says. You're just a tad too young for Alzheimer's, so don't make this out to be more than a chronic lack of focus.
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well i am 15 years old and theres this guy who comes up here during the summer, he is basically my neighbor and he likes me. I kinda like him too but i didnt want to start a relationship with him because he is my neighbor for the summer, but ive been hanging out with him for the past couple of weeks and we ended up kissing yesterday and we made out today. So now i feel bad because i didnt want to start anything with him but i really like him:/ should i stop or what should i do?
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Just recognize things for what they are. This is a temporary fling. You can talk about it with him, saying that given the living situation you both are in making a long term go of your relationship is very unlikely but that doesn't have to keep you two from making out occasionally.
Look, I kissed and made out with a lot of girls when I was a teenager and some of it was just for fun. So relax and don't get all emotionally involved and enjoy what you guys are doing for what it is.
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