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i had sex about a week ago, i fear i may be pregnant.. is there any way of preventing this pregnancy thats over a week old? Besides abortion. Anything simpler or easier?
Thanks. (link)
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No there is no way to prevent a pregnancy unless you go with Adoption, or Abortion.
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i had unprotected sex on the 23rd of January and he came inside of me , i was supposed to get my period on the 14th & i still havent gotten it . when i took a pregnancy test at my pediatricians office ten days after i had sex, it came out negative. now my boobs are sore, and i get cramps sometimes... now i dont even know if those are symptoms of being pregnant or if i'm just getting my period super late because i've been stressing out lately. what do you think this could possibly be ? (link)
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It's this simple...If you don't want a baby then DON'T have unprotected sex.
First, Yes you could be pregnant and whether or whether not you DO use a condom that still doesn't get you out of the gutter all the time. The symptoms of pregnancy are...
Cravings
Weight Gain
Tiredness/Morning Sickness
Sore and Tender Breast
Back Aches
Headaches
Change of nipple colors
And you can google to see the rest of it.
You could also just be having an irregular period
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I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and i still have a hard time wanting to go spend time with his family. They are very nice people and very welcoming. but i just feel that a couple members of his family are really judgemental. I've noticed them sometimes look me up and down to see what im wearing. and they have money, so what they wear is really nice, classy, pretty, whatever. I'm not rich, i wear jeans and a tee shirt most of the time. I want to spend more time with his family but every time i do i just feel like they are judging me. Usually i dont ever worry about that but with his family i am extremely worried. How can i stop worrying about what they think? I want to be more comfortable with going over to his house without worrying about what im going to wear cuz his family will look at me and judge what i look like. (link)
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Relax,
Not everyone has the money to look like Angelina Jolie. First, Just be yourself. No matter where we go there are always going to be somebody that is judgmental and for all you know your assumptions could be wrong. It doesn't matter if you are a rich girl, poor girl, fat, ugly, purple with blue hair the point is you are their son's girlfriend and as long as you make him happy then that is all that should matter to you. It isn't about what their parents think, It's about you and your boyfriend. Also as I can say from personal experience and from what I have heard other people say not every one likes their spouses parents but sometimes you just need to learn to except the way they are and respect that. If you want to over come this then all you can do is try to be nice and get to know them.
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15.Female
Well Uh . . Me And My Boyfriend Are Really Really ClOse . . Liike He Tells Me Everythinq Honestly . . Liike this gurl in my schOol tried 2 Tlk 2 hiim while ii was Out For a Week cuss ii wass sick . . She tried 2 get with him sO bad buht he just turned her down . . Nd then He Tol Me AbOut It . . Liike We are really ClOse . . Buht Recently a qurl had hit me up on aim and she started sayiinq mad stuff about how they had sex on our anniversary and stuff and So Much stuff . . And like michael had hitt me up on aim later that day and he wass like I was home and didn't qo no where he even qave me his moms number 2 call and ask (buht ii didn't ) Buht The Thiinq Is Like valentiines day was like theeeeeeee bestttttt . . Nd Then Tha Next day on our anniversary this all occured . . Buht like she seemed so sure of Herself . . Cuss ii wasn't with him on our anniversary . . Nd Like how did she kno I wasn't and how did she kno it was our anniversary . . Also a lot of gurls wanna get with michael and a lot of gurls hate me cus I'm with michael . . . Who do I beleieve ? (link)
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Ask yourself these questions...
Do you trust your boyfriend? And really think about it..because if you do not trust your boyfriend then ask yourself why?
Some girls are aggressive when it comes to getting the man they want especially if that man has a girlfriend. Some will try to flirt, befriends with him and some girls will go as far as spreading rumors to jeopardize the relationship between him and his spouse. Honestly, If your boyfriend did cheat on you the chances of him admitting it are very slim because he doesn't want to take the fall for what happened. You getting a straight answer is probably not going to happen only you can really decide what you want by asking yourself questions. If you have doubts on whether he is telling you the truth then there must be a reason for it. If you two can't trust each other then I can almost promise you that this relationship is going to have issues.
Talk to your boyfriend and decide
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I am 26 years old and having problems with my stepmom for at least 15 years. She continues to make negative remarks about my mother. I have tolerated her as long as I feel I can. I would like to have a relationship with my father, but he always sticks up for her. My sister told me of my stepmoms most recent remarks. I need some opinions of how I can calmly approach my dad without putting my sister in the middle and at the same time getting him to understand where I am coming from. Any ideas would really help. (link)
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You have pretty much nailed the same exact situation I went through 5 months ago.
You need to have a one on one sit down with your father, Tell him calmly how the situation makes you feel when your step mom talks about your mother. The truth is we can only tell someone something so many times before our words are just going in one ear and out the other. If your father refuses to listen to you, or even take your words for consideration or better yet talk to his wife about the matter.. then as hard as it is to except it looks like he has made up his mind as what he wants. I also have sister as well and everything you said above is exactly what my sister and I had to put up with. We have approached my father and my stepmother on several occasions even tried changing the subject but it never seemed to make the matter any better. If your father can't tell his wife to knock it off then clearly his wife must have him wrapped around his finger. My father on the other hand choose his wife over his daughters...and sometimes that is just the way it is and there is not much we can do or say.
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I was thinking the other day and if you have sex and you don't have an orgasm then it doesn't matter if your guy cums in you, right? Because the orgasm is what makes your egg come down to get fertilized, right? Something like that, I think. So, if the girl doesn't have an orgasm can she still get pregnant? ;) I was thinking that maybe my boyfriend and I could have sex and stop before I climaxed and then we wouldn't have to worry about me getting pregnant...
THANKS! (link)
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WRONG
There is always a possibility of getting pregnant if you are having sexual intercourse. It does not matter if you use a condom, on the pill and use a condom, He doesn't cum, you don't cum, If he uses the pull out method there is ALWAYS a chance of pregnancy.
Please be careful and play safe
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15/f
I Have Been With my Boyfriend for 4 months since febuary fifteenth and well we have talked about sex when we first started out and he said he doesn't want to because it really hurts for your first time, but things have changed since then. we hav fell in love and I have brought up the situation about him giving me head and he said yea I would definitly give you head (this was recently) So Now I think I'm ready to have sex. Like I don't think it would ruin anything becuss we are really close and connected couple honestly . . Buht like how do I tell him I'm ready? (link)
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Okay as this seems to be the BIG topic these days
You are 15, You are too young. You are NOT ready to have a baby, Raise a baby or even support a baby. Even if you THINK you are ready get it out of your head because you still live at home with your parents etc. YOU ARE TOO YOUNG
Sorry but it's the truth
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Alright. Here's what happened. Awhile ago I was at my boyfriends house. We had been dating for like four months at that time. So about a week before that day he had fingered me for the first time. He'd done it before but I hadn't. He's sixteen and I'm fourteen by the way, but he's only the grade above, a year and a half older. But anyway. So it was new but I liked it and yeah. Well on that day I started giving him a handjob but I didn't think I was doing any of it right and I felt like an idiot so I kind of stopped right in the middle... I guess you're not supposed to do that /: ... yeah. oops. So we decided to slow things down a little cuz I didn't think I was ready for all that stuff yet but it's been a few weeks and I want to try again. I just don't wanna screw up again... haha. The first time I told him I had no clue what I was doing so he showed me what to do with my hand but I don't know it was awkward... so will someone please tell me how to do this?? And when he told me you weren't supposed to stop in the middle of a handjob he mentioned something like blueballs?? What does that mean? (link)
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I don't know if you did or not but next time you might want to buy lubricant, It can be found at Walmart in the condom department which is usually near the department where you buy pads when you have your period. Either that or behind a cash register. Lubricant will help your hand slide up and down and make it more pleasurable for him.
Blue Balls: A term used for pain in the testes or discomfort that occurs when a man becomes sexually aroused without ejaculating.
When you give a hand job you want to wrap your hand around the penis "not too hard" and stroke it up and down.
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I need some advice:
I'm a 19 year old female, and I am dating a 16 year old boy. He will be 17 in July, as I will be 20 in October. We have been dating a few months now. I don't know if we should be doing this. I've received mixed opinions from those around me. Some have said to continue dating him, as we have feelings for each other, and that age is just a number. Where as others have said they don't believe it's right, or moral.
He doesn't think like a 16 year old boy. He doesn't even live with his parents, or even family for that matter. He works, lives on his own with roommates. Has his own car. Everything.
If you need more details, let me know, but I think this should be enough for you to help me. (link)
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The straight answer would be whether he lives on is own or not it's illegal.
However, This one is up to you after all he does live on his own etc. It's about what you like and want despite him being on his own etc. Remember that he is only 16 and probably has a lot of growing up to do yet alone is still in the dating around stage. Most 16 year old's are not ready to settle down and commit themselves into a relationship. This is were I say if you want a man you might want to look elsewhere. Also, for the age part if you DO decide to stay with him remember there are always those people that are going to turn there heads and stare there really is no way to completely avoid that.
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17/f
My ex had given me a promise ring two years ago and I had just recently found it. It's gorgeous (he did have a lot of money) and I like to wear it alot. However, I have a new boyfriend and we've been going out for almost a year now. The ring has no sentimental value to me once so ever. I just think it's pretty. Is it wrong to wear it now that I have a new boyfriend?
Please give me your opinion. Thanks :D (link)
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Personally when a guy gives you a ring and you are not together anymore the right thing is to actually return the ring to the person who originally bought it which would be your ex. Despite whether he has money or not it's the right thing to do.
I would NOT wear the ring, Why? because was clearly given to you as a promise ring from your ex boyfriend. It's almost as bad as dating someone who has gone through a divorced but yet they still want to wear their ring from the marriage because "it's pretty" It's not acceptable and it's not appropriate. Yes, also I would at least tell your boyfriend where it came from and what it was originally given to you as if he is okay with it then I guess you could wear it.
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I have really oily skin and I need a product that won't completely dry out my skin and make my acne worse, do you have any suggestions of what I should buy? (link)
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Proactive is the best and it's not too expensive maybe 20 dollars.
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I can't seem to find the perfect bra, or even a really good fitting one. I'm a 34D and I have spent so much money trying to find a bra that fits well. Obviously, I need a good supportive bra and something that has good coverage so I'm not spilling out all over the place. The bras that usually come in my size, are sort of.. old fashioned and like what my mother wears. I just can't find something that's youthful but with support and coverage. Are there any brands that anyone has tried and loved? (link)
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lol...
I wear a D40 so I can certainly relate to what you are saying.
The only thing I can suggest for you is to try Fashion bug or Dots clothing store. :) They have some really cute tube top bra's and ones that have cute sparkly hearts and such on them. They are still out there but you just have to look...and to give you an idea of how hard it is for me Victoria Secret doesn't even have my size!! :O
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this is kinda confusing, but help out as much as you can. My exboyfriend whom i dated for a year and a half suddenly says he misses me after a year or so apart. the problem is...i have a new boyfriend, who i really do like and have been dating for 5 months. my ex boyfriend and me ended really badly and he broke up with me because he was confused and then after we were broken up for like 3 months i ended up sleeping at his house because i thought he wanted to make it work but then he turned out to not want that at all and i was completly crushed. he was the only guy i had ever been with. thats the point where i decided to just forget him and thats when i met my new boyfriend. who has been great but had quite a drug problem. he really has changed because there are certain side effects that come out in the bedroom if hes been doing bad...but anyways, he just has the problem of not always being there for me..but what i need help with is what i should do...i really miss my ex as a friend but find him not so physically attractive anymore..and i like my boyfriend a lot but hate that i feel confusion about the ex..i dont think its fair to him at all. i know my advice is gonna be to be single. but i dont know. im happy right now other than the confusion. any kind of advice or deep thoughts would help me a lot in this situation...please just tell me where i should stand. (link)
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Sounds like a classic to be honest with you.
You break up with your ex boyfriend, You go into another relationship and then later on down the line the ex boyfriend suddenly misses you?! You have been dating someone new for 5 months and it's been a year you two haven't been together. Time goes on and a year is a really long time. It sounds like he isn't doing very well and just wants to ruin your relationship you are in.
I have ALWAYS said this.. but if it doesn't work out the first time, doesn't work out the second time then what the hell makes him think it will work out again?
Stay in the relationship you are in now, Don't let him "suddenly" miss you and ruin what you already have. That is just his pick up line and your best bet is to ignore it
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19/female.
I like this guy, he recently turned 18. I've known him for years now and I've always had a crush on him but nothing ever came of it. We're still friends though, and we'll always have that attraction. But I always feel like I'm the one putting everything into our friendship. He barely ever texts me, he barely ever asks to hang out, he will flirt with a girl I don't like right in front of me and I act like I dont care. I mean I guess I don't really text him, only when I have a question because I don't really text people first, especially a guy I have feelings for. I am scared of rejection.
I have brought up this problem that I feel like hes never there for me, and doesn't care but he doesn't seem to see it at all. I will make a statement like "you don't know anything about me.. and how long have we've known each other?" and he will be like because you never tell me anything!! and i'll say ... well you never ask and he says well I don't know what to ask?? Just dumb things like that, or I'll be like thanks for being there for me (sarcastic) and he will be like always (being serious) and I'll say something like you better think about that again .. and he'll be like why??
He doesn't understand!! I've tried telling him so many times. I seriously don't think he thinks he is doing anything wrong. I've even come straight you and been like you never text me to hang out, you never call me .. it's like you don't care and he will go and turn it on me and be like well you never text me either, or ask to hang out and you know it!! But I feel like i'm always the one texting him??..
Ugh I don't know what to do.. GUYS!!!..
Do you honestly think he doesn't think he is doing anything wrong? I trust the kid w/everything I have and he trusts me. He actually tells me everything when we hang out (which hasn't been often) but why does it seem like he doesn't care?? (link)
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You can't always expect a guy to pick up on things, Sometimes it requires being direct and straight to the point. If you want him to know you have feelings or him then you need to tell him that. If you two have known each other for so long then there should be no problem approaching the situation. Some guys just don't see the problem or they see the problem but don't really think about it. Tell him
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ok so I just had a baby 4 months ago and shes just my life. but ever since now i've been wanting another one. I wanted a boy in the first place but I didn't get what I wanted. even though I'm happy with my little girl I want a boy now. but when I had my daughter I had a c section with her even though I wanted a vaginal birth. It just didnt work out the way I wanted it to. So I want another baby I just dont want to have a c section again. I was wondering if anyone thinks this is weird that I want another one. and if anyone has gone through this same situation. Is it possible for me to have a vaginal birth if i did have another one? I'm thinking the reason I had a c section is because I drank olive oil to induce my labor early. I got sick and thats why I had a c section. If i wouldn't have drank it does that mean maybe I could have had a vaginal birth. I don't know. My whole family had vaginal births and they thought it was weird that I had ac section. so what are the chances this time. I mean i have read up on it. and there is a chance I can have a vback. But I was wondering if its wrong to have another baby right now. I know my daughter would be a little over a year old when I would have the other. but has anyone gone through this. I need advice!!!! (link)
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You don't sound mature to enough to have enough child. Why? You forcibly tried to have birth before the baby was even due. You are wanting another child because you got a girl and not a boy?!? The way you type all this makes it sound not only are you not mother material but for gods sake you don't even love your own baby girl
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Hey, im 18/f, hes 20/m. so my boyfriend of 2 years went on a cruise with his friends. He isnt here for valentines day =[ but they went for his friends birthday, so i waved it off. but, for valentines day, i put new lingerie in his bag to find when he unpacked, and sent him a picture of me wearing it to his email because i thought whatever, hes seen me in other things before, why not? He sent me an email back, saying we'd have to get a new thing because his friend ended up licking and biting the lingerie, and saying that they ALL loved the picture, and asked me to send more. There are pictures on freaking FACEBOOK of his friends licking and biting the said lingerie.
now, i know i need to take responisbility, because i DID send the picture and DID give him the lingerie, but i really did not expect him to show his friends. I mean, they had seperate rooms so its not like if he had a roomate who stumbled upon it. I was completely shocked, and embarassed, and self conscious. I felt humiliated and used. I am furious. I emailed him back like hahaha maybe next time, so i woudlnt make a big deal of it and sound like a bitch in front of his friends, but really? so unneccesary. but i dont know what to do. My anger is KILLING me, and i cant seem to get rid of it. Is my reaction logical? How should i tell him about how i feel? should i just try to forget about it? How can i forget about it? ahhh, I dont want to get into a fight about it but i am SO angry. I cannot believe he just did that to me. I felt as if we were 13 and he sent a naked picture around school and showed our "sexting" or something like that. Please, help me. (link)
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You have every right to be mad, Personally I would react the same way if not worse.
You need to DUMP him. He violated you, betrayed you and most of all completely disrespected you. It's just like Rahzie said
You deserve better
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My boyfreind's 21st birthday is in a little less than a month, and im trying to find some really good ideas to do for it. We have been together for about three months so i don't want it to be totally over the top, but i do want it to be something really good. He'll be 21, but i'm only 19 so I won't be able to go out with him for his birthday, so i'm looking for other things to do (link)
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You could rent a hotel room for you and your boyfriend and have a nights stay. Making a reservations requires you to be 18 or older so you qualify.
Stay at home order take out and watch a romantic movie together.
You could dine out and do a movie
Good gift ideas
You could get a gift card you can never really go wrong there. If he has is own car and license a gas card is always handy. Candy, Gift card to Game stop (if he is into that)
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For like to past 5 months white sticky gooey discharge has been in my underwear, what does this mean??? (link)
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It means you need to call your gynecologist and make an appointment because 5 months is a long time to continuously have discharges.
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hi im a 19/f and i recently hooked up with a guy and we did anal & oral sex. now im scared i might have gotten something from him. he had a baby 6 months ago and im not sure if he's done anything with anyone during that period of time. i got tested today for HIV gonorrhea, and syphilis. I can't believe after all that i've been through i still do this stuff. this same thing happened to me almost 2 years ago and i've been seeing a therapist since, but for some reason i feel like i haven't changed. Now im really miserable and terrified, and i feel like crying all the time because my parents don't know & their always telling me im such a good daughter & i know that im not because i keep making these stupid mistakes. i feel horrible. and even my therapist tells me not to tell my parents because the last time i told them i had sex with a guy they got really angry. i told my dad and he beat me up. but i got lucky and didn't get pregnant or any disease. so yeah and im 19 now. im so stupid and i just feel like killing myself. help me please :( (link)
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Okay I'm going to jump right into this...
If you are doubting yourself then maybe apart of yourself is telling you that it's time to change things. The truth is I don't know how many times you've had sex, oral or anal but every woman gets paranoid from time to time about HIV and other diseases and this is why you need to be careful when you have sex and who you have sex with. You are now an adult you also might want to try and make an appointment with your doctor to see what kind of birth control you can possibly get on and you don't need to tell your parents about the birth control because you are old enough to make your own choices. However, For your sake and your partners sake if you ever have sex use protection. You can tell your parents that is up too you, If it makes you more comfortable maybe tell your mother and not your father.
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f/14.
hey so i like this guy a little,
and we talked a couple times so im
gonna tell youu all what went down:
so, i met him in my school cause i lost my
jacket. and i went to his lunch in 8th period to
see if it was in there and it wasn't and i was like, asking the lunch aid if it was in there anywhere and he over heard me and he was like, ohh its in my locker and i smiled and thought he was cuute so i was like oh really, and he was like yeah. so i was like, hmm. describe it then to me, and he was like okay its white and it has a hood and i was like oh? and i just before had ex. to the lunch aid that it was white and had a hood and so i was like hm, ex. it more and he was like i guess you could say flirting with me a little. and ever since then when i saw him he was like wheres my jacket. and i laugh, and soo. then hes friends with the kid who i used to like but, it didn't work out between me and him. so it ended and whenever i see him most of the time he's with him.
and well, let me get to the point i saw him another day, and i was talking to him he told me to go to his lunch with him so i did, and he was un clipping my bag and pulled my chair closer to him, and took my iPod and unplugged it and was changing the song and i was supposed to hangout with him that say but he had to drive his friends home after school so he couldn't and it seems every time i try to make plans with him they never ever happen.... how do i get him to get more interest me more, is he even interested in me & how can i tell? oh & before i forget i told my friend i sort of liked him and she was like of thats not going to end up well he's a big time player, & she was interested in him at one point so i dont know if shes just saying that or if its true & he's 17 and im going to be 15 in april btw if that helps? kwell, HEEEEEEEEEEEEElllllllllPPPPPPPP thankyouuu byeee. (link)
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The only way to really know for sure is to ask him, He could like you I mean why else would he put your coat in his locker? However before you jump to conclusions maybe he was just trying to be nice by hanging onto your jacket for you? If he never is able to make plans it COULD be that he might already have a girlfriend. As far as your friend don't believe everyone tells you and keep in mind that she once had a crush on him so the chances of her lying are probably pretty high right? Ask him
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