|
humorist-workshop
showing his friends?
Hey, im 18/f, hes 20/m. so my boyfriend of 2 years went on a cruise with his friends. He isnt here for valentines day =[ but they went for his friends birthday, so i waved it off. but, for valentines day, i put new lingerie in his bag to find when he unpacked, and sent him a picture of me wearing it to his email because i thought whatever, hes seen me in other things before, why not? He sent me an email back, saying we'd have to get a new thing because his friend ended up licking and biting the lingerie, and saying that they ALL loved the picture, and asked me to send more. There are pictures on freaking FACEBOOK of his friends licking and biting the said lingerie.
now, i know i need to take responisbility, because i DID send the picture and DID give him the lingerie, but i really did not expect him to show his friends. I mean, they had seperate rooms so its not like if he had a roomate who stumbled upon it. I was completely shocked, and embarassed, and self conscious. I felt humiliated and used. I am furious. I emailed him back like hahaha maybe next time, so i woudlnt make a big deal of it and sound like a bitch in front of his friends, but really? so unneccesary. but i dont know what to do. My anger is KILLING me, and i cant seem to get rid of it. Is my reaction logical? How should i tell him about how i feel? should i just try to forget about it? How can i forget about it? ahhh, I dont want to get into a fight about it but i am SO angry. I cannot believe he just did that to me. I felt as if we were 13 and he sent a naked picture around school and showed our "sexting" or something like that. Please, help me.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
You have every right to be mad, Personally I would react the same way if not worse.
You need to DUMP him. He violated you, betrayed you and most of all completely disrespected you. It's just like Rahzie said
You deserve better
]
Sure, you need to take responsibility, by dumping his ass.
Your reaction is completely logical. The man took something sexual and private and shared it with his buddies. I'd give him a pass on showing them the underwear... that's just silly, but showing them the picture? That's betrayal, plain and simple. If he doesn't have the sense to know that something like that stays between the two of you AFTER TWO YEARs together, he doesn't have enough sense to fill a shot glass.
In your position, my e-mail would have read a bit differently, I would have said
“Ha. Never going to happen. You showed the picture to your friends? Maybe one of them would like a girlfriend who sends as awesome gifts as me, since you don't know how to treat a lady who gives you a private present with any respect. If you want to date a porn star, go find one. In the mean time, you can forget about ever getting another photo, because it was meants as a gift for my boyfriend, not for a group of prepubescent little boys.”
You absolutely can't forget about being disrespected so deeply and completely. If he is willing to pass around a picture of his girlfriend, what other things does he feel comfortable 'sharing' with his friends?
You were made to feel like you were thirteen, because he acted like he was twelve.
End communication with him until he returns, and when he comes back, let him have it. You need permission to be angry? You've got mine. Go all out at him. He has it coming.
You can, and will, blame yourself for sending him the photo. Clearly, that was a mistake in judgment on your part, but let him know damn clearly, that your mistake in judgment in sending him that photo, has made you wonder if you made a mistake in judgment in dating him. (Although you don't mention breaking up with him in your question, in my opinion, you should seriously consider it. This man practically whored you out to his friends. If he doesn't immediately and completely grovel and admit his mistake, he doesn't deserve you, or really, anyone.)
]
More Questions: |