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wanting another baby
ok so I just had a baby 4 months ago and shes just my life. but ever since now i've been wanting another one. I wanted a boy in the first place but I didn't get what I wanted. even though I'm happy with my little girl I want a boy now. but when I had my daughter I had a c section with her even though I wanted a vaginal birth. It just didnt work out the way I wanted it to. So I want another baby I just dont want to have a c section again. I was wondering if anyone thinks this is weird that I want another one. and if anyone has gone through this same situation. Is it possible for me to have a vaginal birth if i did have another one? I'm thinking the reason I had a c section is because I drank olive oil to induce my labor early. I got sick and thats why I had a c section. If i wouldn't have drank it does that mean maybe I could have had a vaginal birth. I don't know. My whole family had vaginal births and they thought it was weird that I had ac section. so what are the chances this time. I mean i have read up on it. and there is a chance I can have a vback. But I was wondering if its wrong to have another baby right now. I know my daughter would be a little over a year old when I would have the other. but has anyone gone through this. I need advice!!!!
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You don't sound mature to enough to have enough child. Why? You forcibly tried to have birth before the baby was even due. You are wanting another child because you got a girl and not a boy?!? The way you type all this makes it sound not only are you not mother material but for gods sake you don't even love your own baby girl
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I am sorry I upset you, but I hope you can see that you didn't say anything about waiting three years, or even a month! Your question makes it sound as though you were planning on going ahead and trying to conceive right away.
You asked "I was wondering if its wrong to have another baby right now" Not, "is it wrong to have another baby in a year?" You also said that you knew that “my daughter would be a little over a year old when I would have the other”, and that also implies that you meant to get pregnant a bit sooner then I've been told most doctors would recommend.
Many people would tell you "No, 4 months after a caesarean might too quick to have another baby. Talk to your doctor."
Asking medical questions online is always tricky, but it's much easier for everyone if you are clear about what you plan to do.
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You need the advice of a doctor, not us. Don't do too much online research. Lots of things online aren't reliable. Talk to a doctor about the risks and possibilities.
The only one who can tell you what your caesarean means for your next pregnancy in a doctor. Most women are able to give birth naturally after a caesarean, but not all. It depends on the reasons, and on the unique experience of each pregnancy.
You also should talk to your doctor about how long you should wait until you try and get pregnant again. It could be very dangerous to attempt to get pregnant right away. Generally it's recommended you wait 6 to 9 months after you give birth to try and conceive again. If a vaginal birth is really important to you, you might be advised to wait even longer. Caesareans take years to heal completely.
Please have a serious conversation with your doctor. It's risky to induce labour without a doctors guidance, and risky to try and get pregnant too soon after giving birth. Take a deep breath, and give your body the time it needs to do things naturally. It's not wrong to want another child, but it might be wrong to act on that want right away. Take some time and enjoy your little girl.
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