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My Boyfriends Family.
I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and i still have a hard time wanting to go spend time with his family. They are very nice people and very welcoming. but i just feel that a couple members of his family are really judgemental. I've noticed them sometimes look me up and down to see what im wearing. and they have money, so what they wear is really nice, classy, pretty, whatever. I'm not rich, i wear jeans and a tee shirt most of the time. I want to spend more time with his family but every time i do i just feel like they are judging me. Usually i dont ever worry about that but with his family i am extremely worried. How can i stop worrying about what they think? I want to be more comfortable with going over to his house without worrying about what im going to wear cuz his family will look at me and judge what i look like.
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They might be judging you but you might also be nervous about making a good impression and are paranoid a bit. Humans do that. We think people are paying more attention than they actually are. Whether that is the case or not, just smile through it and be yourself. Don't worry whether they will be judging you or not. In the end, if your boyfriend loves you they will learn to love you too. Good luck!
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you know... this stuff they think doesn't really matter.. what they think about you is their opinion. you can't change that. let them think what they want to think. who cares if you dont have much money? does that make you a mean person??? no... does wearing the "wrong kind" of clothes make you a lesser person than them?? no... you guys are both human beings. its not like they are a higher class than you.
number 1- dont let it get to you. just show them that what they think of you means absolutely nothing. brush it off your shoulder and prove to them you're better than what they think you are.
number 2- try to get along with them. even if they are a little annoying/stubborn, just be nice. its especially important that you dont get frustrated back and act rude.. because then they have a perfectly good excuse as to why you're not "fit" for them. so remember to always act nice and respect them, even if they don't to you.
number 3- be determined to prove them wrong. they obviously think you're not good enough for your boyfriend. but prove them wrong! make them think "why did we have something against her?" if they think you don't dress as nice.. one day dress up a little. (not like over the top.. but try a little harder. like maybe wear some new jewlery, or mix and match some clothes, maybe even create your own dress or something if youre good with needles) do whatever it takes to prove them wrong (but remember not to do it in a rude way or a bitchy attitude or something)
just keep your head high. this is a relationship between you and your boyfriend. they shouldn't matter that much. you got this, ok?
message me for more help if you need it. i'm here. good luck
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Relax,
Not everyone has the money to look like Angelina Jolie. First, Just be yourself. No matter where we go there are always going to be somebody that is judgmental and for all you know your assumptions could be wrong. It doesn't matter if you are a rich girl, poor girl, fat, ugly, purple with blue hair the point is you are their son's girlfriend and as long as you make him happy then that is all that should matter to you. It isn't about what their parents think, It's about you and your boyfriend. Also as I can say from personal experience and from what I have heard other people say not every one likes their spouses parents but sometimes you just need to learn to except the way they are and respect that. If you want to over come this then all you can do is try to be nice and get to know them.
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