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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!textarea.Skem9box {width:200px; height:100px;color:White;font-size:11pt;font-family:Times New Roman;background-color:Black;}
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ok well im 14 and like 2 years ago i some how started talking to one of my older brothers friend online like alot!(he's really hot) and like we would go off and on with talking and stuff and like ive started to REALY like him and now he's leaving for collage tomarrow and im so upset about him leavng but i knwow how i feel dosnet make a differense to him and its not like i dont want him to go i just idk im so confused i can really us soem help!
Well do you really think this guy is intrested in you? Or does he look at you like a little girl? If hes not intrested in you then you just have to move on hunny. But if it makes you feel better or special make sure you are there to say good bye/ good luck to him and see him off. :)
ok well there has been a lot of things going on and i've gotten really depressed. im on medicine for it but it doesnt seem to be working anymore. its like the 5th kind of pill that i've tryed. im always crying and thinking about the bad things but i can't help it. i used to be able to write about it in my poems but now i just kinda can't. i really need help and i dont know what to do. i dont want to cry myself to sleep everynight.
~depressed
It does suck to be depressed,and you are right sometimes those medications don't seem to work. Honestly I think they are not working because you have no chemical imbalance Those medications are for people who are depressed due to some kind of chemical imbalance. Maybe that is not you. Maybe you are just still feeling down about something going on inside of you, and you can't seem to stop thinking about it or let it go. Writing is a ggod way to get these feelings off of your chest. Since, you said that poems aren't working for you anymore. Why don't you try to do something positive with your writing. Like instead of writing sad poems, why don't you keep a gratitude journal. That's what I do. Everynight, before bed, I write down atleast 3 things that I am thankful for that day. This helps to go to bed with good things on your mind. It also helps to look at the brighter side of things as well, because during your day you can focus more on realizing what it is your life that does make you smile. Which will help you get through the day better. I think a gratitude journal is a excellent way to get your spirits up. Its works for me. Or you can try to listen to music when you are sad or upset, but not sad love somgs or depressing songs. Listen to loud like dance music that will make you wanna get up and jump around. This can help to keep your mind off upsetting thigs too. I hope I helped. Goiod Luck! :)
okay, im a sophmore this year and ive been going to the same private school since the 5th grade so obviously i know everyone in my grade well and blah blah, the problem is, the ppl that i have been friends with in the past years, are jus really annoying, childish, and down right lame, im jus so sick of them i dont want to be their friends anymore, dont tell me that im mean, becuz you dont know the whole situation, the point is ive dropped them, anyhow, now how can i make new friends becuz i dont like anyone in my class and im not sure if we are getting any new cool girls this year, what can i do! and most the ppl that i would wanna hang out with, its liek theyve already got their own friends, and i have no one! help plz!
Well I'm sure that you have other friends that you do not go to school with. Why don't you try hanging out with one fo your friends that don't go to your school and having you meet thier friends. I know you said it seems like everyone has thier own friends, but I don't see what is the harm in making you part of those friends, the more the merrier. I'm sure if you do that you will ahve soem new people to chill with.
I need makeup tips for school but i need very very light make up tips cuz my mom doesnt want me wearing alot i am black brown eyes and black hair please help ill rate good if i like it....
just try some black eyeliner just on the bottom. a little bit of mascara and some lip gloss. natural colors and less make up always looks better.
Ok..i'm a freshman in high school and i never kissed a girl before, but i have the feeling that this is gonna be the year that i get my first kiss. I'm scared that i'll do it wrong or something and i don't know where to put my hands. Any advice?
well 1st of all. dont think about it just do it. thats the problem that so many people have, they think about it too much and get so parranoyed that they either fuck up or chicken out. so when the time comes just do it! and just put your arms around the girl.
the guy i am interested in told me that the only way he would consider going out with me is if i have sex with him 1st. i like this guy but i am a virgin i just dont know if it is worth it. what shoul i do? :(
umm... NO! forget him! that is so disrespectful. he probably just wants to get in your pants and then not eevn go out with you. he wants to use him. dont disrespect yourself like that. you are not that desperate. lose it to someone who you care about not a fuckin ass.
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well sometimes people are just afke like that. its sucks. but it makes you leran who your real friends on, and teaches you to choose friends more wisely.
me and my friend fight ALL the time.. i really wish she would shut up! she brags and annoys me a lot! then she thinks we are like best friends! i dont know what to do!! i dont want to tell her i hate her cause i dont know how she will react! but what if she feels the same way as I do! please dont tell me to just "talk it out" i need real advice that will work!!!! thanks
if you dont like the bitch then you dont like the bitch. if you keep tryna be nice and juts be your friend, you are just gonna drive yourself more crazy, cuz you will know you are being fake. just ditch the girl.
i had sex like a few months ago...well ive gotten my period since..and its been on a regular schedual but this month it hasnt come...i havent got it!! im freaking out!! it usually comes at the verrrry end of every month n goes into the begining of the new month but this month is hasnt!! =( could i be pregnant since ive already had my period about 2-3 times since ive had sex?? =\
okay well since you said your periods the past months have been normal, then most likely you are not pregnant. some women do get their period the 1st couple months they are pregnant, but it is a weird period. most likely, your period has not come because of stress. you've probably been stresin out about being pregnant for a while and its messed up your cycle. juts chill out. it will come. but if you are that worried, take a home pregnancy test just to feel sure.
when a girl orgasms....does that mean she cums also?
thats ummm basically it. the only thing its not all white and sticky like guys are. you're juts like really wet and theres this great feeling.
k this is stupid but me n this kid are gunna hook up but hes a foot and 1 inch taller than me and i no thats not weird but i dutn no what to do i jus need sum advice
well hes not that taller than you so what are you so worried about? just relax. things will be fine.
i feel like i'm going into depression! my life seems like its getting worse everydaY!! i will NEVER cut tho! just the thought makes me feel ick! but i dont no wut to do! i lost my b/f recently and i dont no.. i feel like nothing good is happening! what should i do?
okay well its good that you dont feel like cutting. and just because your bf left you doesnt mean the world is over. you are young and thier are planty of other guys out there. if he is gone, then its cuz he wasnt the one. if you are feeling down, do somet hings to make you feel up. hang out with soemgirl friends, like have a girls day or night out, go shopping, watch some funny movies, stuff like that.
ok - i've on-and-off-again liked this kid chris since like grammer school (now i'm a freshman) and i just started talking to him again. we both said we miss each other alot and wanna plan something to get together - it's just that i don't wanna ruin our friendship by saying that i love him - how do i tell him?! i want him to know! *i rate* =)
well if you want him to know then TELL HIM!!! he will never know til you tell him, anf for all you know he might just say it back.
well tomorrow is my school check in and pictures and im undecided on how to wear my hair for my pictures i know its a dumb fuckin question but oh well...anyways my hairs about a lil above my ...boobs or below my shoulders and its nat. wavy/curly sooo how do yall think i should wear my hair...down curly or down straight or up or what should i do with it (its pretty thick too)...oh and if yah need to know i think im wearin this pink v neck top w/ my hoops and i need some opinions!...thanks lol.
whatever you decide to do just make sure its all inplace and not frizzing or staticing all ove rthe place. that happened to me once and i didnt know and i was pissed.
OK this might be long but i really need some advice there this girl i really like i talk to her and i told her i like her i but i never ask her out and im in love with this girl before i can ask her out she going out with some1 elese and i still love her and i talk about her every day and think about her every day what should i do
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL!!!! what is it with you people thinking that people are just supposed to get the message. dont beat around the bush, dont waste time. get it off your chest and get it all out. tell her what you want. girls dont understand guys, and guys dont understand girls. thats why you have to COMMUNICATE. Communication is the key. She will never know what you want unless you speak up.
omg! im so lost and confused right nowi met this guy ryan a couple days ago and i was asked is i liked him and he was asked if he liked me and he said yea and im cool..so i gave him my number he told me that he was gonna call me he never did so i called him and well i told him what my friend rachel had said and hes like yea ur cool..i wanna get to know u a lil better and see if ur cooler than cool im o ok then afterwards i havent talked to him..so i dunno he has yet to call
please help
Tracy
well dont go sitting around waiting for dude to call. go about your life. if he calls he calls. if he doesnt then oh well. hes not the only guy in the world. his lost!
Hey. I'm friend with a lot of guys in skool. they hate ehrn im not around. all they do is talk to me and stuff. i dont like any of them but, im a girl. should i hang out wit otha girl or stay friends wit the boyz?
do what you want. its good to have girl friends but i know how hard it is to keep them, girls are shiesty. but yeah if you waan be friends with guys then go ahead. as long as you are being a whore and screwing them all then who cares.
Im havin diffcult evr since my 23 year old cuzin died what shuld i do? i rele miss her! help me asap
yeah i know it really hurts when you lose a loved one. but you have to stay positive and know that she is in a better place. you will feel better, it just takes alot of time.
i plan on calling this guy i like tomorow that i havent talked to in awhile... i kno he use to like me n stuff n i think he still does but im not sure if i ever showed him enough that i like him so basically im looking for sum hints n stuff to let on that i do like him n stuff like that
Okay this is what you say... I LIKE YOU, WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT?... dont beat around the bush, or give hints or anything, guys dont understand girls. you have to be straight up with him and let him know what you want.
kelli u kno who this is, or atleast u should kno, but i'll continue anyways so other ppl can give me advice too...... i really like this guy who's 1 year younger then me. he says that he likes me too. the problem is, we dont go to the same school and i like NEVER get to see him! its hard to plan things because we're both busy ppl. we wanna try to date again when we go to the same school. but thats a looong time to wait and i dont kno what to do. i want to give up on it and try to like other ppl, but i still have feelings for him and may forever have feelings for him. what should i do, or try to do?? should i move on??
if you really care about him you will make things work, and you guys will find time for eachother no matter what schools you go to or how busy you are. when you care about someone YOU MAKE IT WORK.