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most of my friends all have boyfriends and i'm the only single one and so when they hang out with their boyfriends i usually end up just staying at home because i don't have a boyfriend. a lot of guys think that i'm pretty and i've had a few like me but they just are never interested in being in a relationship with me. i've been trying to get with this guy for a couple months now but the problem is that the way it started is that we had sex and when we kept talking i started to like him as more than a physical relationship but now he just wants sex and doesn't want a relationship. i've been having a really hard time lately wondering why no one seems to want me. how can i work on getting a relationship?

okay first off lose the "nobody wants me" act! pretty soon if thats what you believe its what you become! second just talk to him about--some guys think they dont deserve girls so they get shy and chicken out and wait for you to make the first move. so just dont give it up so early--wait until your in a committed relationship--it saves you in the long run...so yeah just talk to them and see whats going on in his lil noggin!! hope i helped!
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My friend told me my bgf (who she used to date) is a bad kisser and i have kissed him but it was a small kiss and i want to know what I should do about it. He likes to kiss (duh haha) and i am more comfortable with kissing then her(meaning i do it more cause i like it) and its not like planned they are more spur of the moment but i guess talking would kind of work but thats just kind of weird. We talk about a lot of things but i dont know about that. Maybe if we start doing it more. Anyway thanx so much and i will rate all those who help me!

well you could train him..lol..no joke...my friend once dated a guy that acted like she was a meatloaf,,so she trained him. she just kept kissing him and told him what to do...it actually worked......hope i helped!!
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my little sister's b-day party is on October 28th 2007 what games can we play in the gym we only have 1hour but I need these kids to have a good time or I dont get paid!!!

you could have a pinata!! thats always fun..or you could get like a craft thing going...like let each of them design their own hat... and be sure that you have doggie bags...with like party favors and candy fun stuff....hope i helped!!
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-Ugh Okay Well Im Going Crazy Thinking About It But Really Wanna Know

Okayy;
So My Best Friend Asked Me The Other Day How OD you know If You Like Some One?

And My Answer Was Ugh...
"IDK"
I reall wanna help Her So Yeah

She Says HSe Thinks About Him Alot Hes The First Person on her mind when she wakes up and hes the last person she thinks about when she goes to sleep at night; and she talks about him ALOT she said hes amaningly cute and hes funny and she likes the way he acts and stuff but she she keeps saying she doesnt like him and even if she did like him she says she wouldnt ever have a chance?!

i dont understand does she
and how do you know if you like some one
guhh help please :)

man that was confusing!! but id say that she definitley likes him, and she will never know unless she tells him...but yeah signs of a crush:
-thinking about constantly
-dreaming
-loss of breath when near subject
But there are some steps that it takes:
-denial
-anger
-consideration
-admitting
hope i helped!!
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can u get preg by giving head and swallowing?

no----you can not under any circumstances get pregnant by swallowin cum...you just cant...now if you were to have sexual intercourse then yes there is a possibility..but by swallowing semen no....hope i helped!!!
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okay well today was me and my man's 1 month anniverseryy. :D and we havent kissed and we havent said i love you yet. we went out 1 time before and he had told me that he likes to say i love you first cause he was just like that and doesnt want to say it if he doesnt mean it. and now that we have been going outt for 1 month and he still hasent said anything yett, should i talk to him. or whatt? i started saying XO! and stuff when he gets home and texts me i say okayyy. XO! and stuff but he doesnt text me back. i dont want to sound all pushy and telll him i think we shoulld kiss and i think we should sayy i love you too each other. so yeahh helpp me pleaseee! :D

okay as long as he says you cant kiss him first then i say go for that one,,,,but id say he just needs to be absolutely sure that he feels that he 100% loves you before he says it...what kinda boy would he be if he breaks his promise??? hope i helped!
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I really like this guy that rides my bus, and one of my friends told me he liked me too. So I gave him my home phone number and my cell phone number, and I waited all day and night for him to call. Is there some kind of rule for when you give someone your number that they have to call the next day?

Well umm he could want to call but not sound desperate, or like he has been dying to call you...testosterone...its crazy...but i would say just wait...he might call---you did make sure he was single right?? or maybe he is just too scared...so ask for his number to call him...be straightforward...sometimes its better to have bigger balls than the guy you like! you shows strength..but dont sit and wait by the phone...that is one of the worst possible things you could do...hope i helped!!
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well, i have a psychology mid-term and it's the best. basically it's a journal with personal goals and things like that. [i think it's great] anyways, i want to add some quotes and songs. does anyone know any good life /dream quotes or songs. or songs about me:

i'll tell you a little bit about me.
-i've changed a lot since last year.
-i am really shy, but loud when i'm with people i know.
-i love my friends and family.
-i love life.

an example fo a quote would be:
"go confidently in the direction of you dreams. live the like you have imagined."=
-Henry David Thoreau

so, any good quotes/ songs will be appreciated. Thanks in advance!

heres a quote that i like alot: you can never be old and wise if you were never young and crazy...
((abraham lincoln: And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.))
heres a website with good life quotes.

http://www.quotegarden.com/life.html

hope i helped!!!!
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there's really nothing that wrong with my life. my parents are together, we're middle class, i have friends, there's food on the table, a roof over my head, it's all fine. but i don't feel that way. it all kinda started with this boy, i'm not gonna get into great detail but we went out twice & broke up last may. it's october now, obviously, & i think i'm still in love with him. i started liking him last november. my best friend treated me like crap. like really i couldn't stand her. now we're not friends & i think i might actually HATE her. alot of the girls in my grade are beautiful. i'm decent looking i guess, but i really wish i was truly beautiful. i care more about what people think of me then i think of myself. when i get stressed out i pull out my eyelashes. right now i only have a few on the bottom & i don't want to leave my house because i feel disgusting & i hate myself. it feels like when people look at me all they see is my bald eyes & my insecuritiies, & people make fun of me for my eyes. i think i have a real problem, it's been gonig on for 5 years. it happens whenever i feel stressed & i suually don't even know i'm doing it. i feel disgusting most of the time & i hide everything behind a huge smile & a bubbly personality, but whem i'm alone everythings different. this is more like a confession than asking for advice.. but is there anything anybody can do to help me with anything in anyway? i know there are people with big problems & you all probably think i'm pathetic, but it just feels good to get it all out.. sorry that it's so long.

hey....it sounds like you need a friend and a hug--i just sent you an online hug! did you catch it?? hehe...but its okay to miss him but you got to move on, i know its hard, but a good way to get over a break up is this website..it talks about how to survive them:

http://www.enotalone.com/article/2445.html

and as for the pulling out the eyelashes thing:

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Stop-Eyelash-Pulling&id=713596

Its okay that it is long and no your not pathetic you just want some awnsers..i hope i helped!!! best of luck!!
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The last time I had sex was back in mid-August, 2 days before I got my period. I've gotten it both in August and September. I always have it around the 17th and I'm never late. But for this month, I still haven't gotten it. So is it possible that I could be pregnant?

And...

Is it true that sometimes for the first couple months of your pregnancy you can still get your period, because your body is adjusting to your pregnancy.

*~Thanx...I will rate high!~*

yes in the first couple of months you can still get your period, and yes it is possible you could be pregnant...take a pregnancy test. but still sometimes you need to take more than one. like my friend had to take 4 before she found out she was pregnant..but dont be like my other friend and if your first test reads not pregnant go out and sleep around again...you are not invincable and it can get pregnant...sorry talking my friend..hehe but seriously just take a test and if it says no your not then take one again in 2 weeks...hope i helped!
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ok, well you'll probably laugh at me for this one, but i have my first boyfriend, and i can tell [he's been giving me a lot of clues] that he wants to kiss me. i've never kissed a guy before, so i'm just really nervous.
i need tips on physically kissing him, and tips to keep me not so nervous. [my face turns really red when i'm embarassed or nervous =/ ]
thank you so much in advance. :]

just let it follow its course..your bound to get nervous...first kisses are always awkward-i dont care what people tell you they all are...and if you let it go naturally it will fall into place..but you could like practice on your hand i guess if you want some tips..its weird but i hear it works...but yeah if you let it follow its course you will catch on in the moment..hope i helped!
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okay look i like this guy im 13 hese 16 yes, i kno age diffrence,anyway well a couple of weeks ago i printed out a pic of me and him that waws on my compuuter and he saw it rite and then today he was jokin around wit me and gave me a tatoo well it was a gum and inside it a little tatoo he gave it to me rite as a friend im guessing and then after that in the end of the day i was still holding it i didnt throw it away
just holding it
then i see him pas by and from the corner of his eye he was lookin at the tatoo in my hand and i was like.. sh*t then my friend is with him on the bus and she was like talking to him like i love emily so much! shes soo cute and pretty about me and then he just looked at heer and didnt respond.. do u think its obviouse that i like him? do u think he knows?
thanks

yes i do think he knows, it is kinda obvious, though honey i mean if he got a pic of you and him, printed it off and then you gave him a gum tattoo and he held on to it and then his friend talked about him to you wouldnt you think he liked you???? but he probably knows...hope i helped
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ok
so here's what is going down
i've known this girl for about a month now, and i can't get my mind off her. tonight we were at a mutual friend's party (i met her through him) and we've been talking a lot and hanging out and such for a few weeks now. so tonight, i hung out with her for 5 hours at this party, and with about half an hour left of the party she tells me she likes me, i respond with the same thing. so we're hanging out on the couch and such and etc. and all was well. sorta.

you see, this girl is my best friend(the guy who was throwing the party)'s ex. and i dont know what i should do. i dont know if he's gonna be mad at me or if he's gonna be ok with it or what. he's a reallly nice guy and everything so i think he'll be ok with it, but i'm not sure. and i dont want things to be weird between him and i, because he's litterally like..my best friend. but it's not like they just broke up either, it was like...5 months ago, and they're still friends.
so i dont know. any ideas?
thanks
GSM

well if he introduced you was he dating her at the time? was he dating someone else? was he single? cause chances are if he introduced you two while they werent dating after they had broken up he was bound determined to know it would have happened sooner or later. i mean why would he introduce yall after they werent datin if he didnt know something?? so just tell him you like her.. how long has it been after they dated?? cause if they just broke up like a week ago then no...dont unless you are absolutley sure he is 100percent over her....but yeah just tell him cause if he is truly your friend and you think you got a shot wit her then he should let you date her..hope i helped!!
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hey!
well here's the thing I'm not trying to say mean things to her, she's a really good person and stuff and my older brother always tells me "why are you getting mad for you know peter will never do that to you" and I said yea I no, but even my own mother, and my brother thinks that ana still has feelings for him so yea......
but I've told them both that I don't like what there doing and even Peter (my boyfriend) agrees and stuff(cause he hates it when she's always bugging him) but for some reason she still does and guess what in the summer we went to the beach and she kept going on to him and then she did the most fuked up thing, she grabbed his nuts and peter was like what the hell and the I'm like wow! and now to this day she is always on top of him calling him 24/7 she always interupts me and peter while me and him are kissing and stuff, so yea I don't know, I love her yes, but its hard to trust her and the worst part is she HAS a boyfriend, so I still don't get it. I don't know =\

thanks

well umm, wow she grabbed his nuts? man i would have killed her..that is horrible..okay i completely understand now, your friend is getting to close to your boyfriend and you dont like it..okay i see..well just from the way your saying peter is reacting he wouldnt do something awful like that to you,,,,and yes it is obvious that ana still likes him,,,and as for all of the ana and peter crap-be glad that he agrees wit you (not saying you arent) and try to spend time wit him away from her--spend time wit them seperate ya know. and when she asks why you dont ever hang out as a three anymore just tell her you dont like what shes doing to peter and he dont like it either, and if she wants to hang out with all of them then she needs to show you that she can control her feelings. and when you guys do hang out make her boyfriend go to, that way she wont be all over peter and if she is then her boyfriend will get the picture...tell peter that he needs to be a man and stand up to her, he is the victim right?! he needs to tell her that he dont like what is going on as well as you. he needs to make it clear that he is feeling uncomfortable with the situation and can be her friend(if thats what he wants) but nothing more, so she needs to take a few steps back and look at the situation from someone elses perspective...i hope i helped and best of luck!!!
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Okay, this is kind of long and probably confusing...but please try to help.
(17/f)
I've been dating my boyfriend for ten months. I really love him and he means more to me than anything.

Last night my best friend was calling her ex from my cell phone and he thought it was MY boyfriends ex girlfriend, Jenny. So my friend played along and he was talking about something that happened with my boyfriend and jenny and he was asking "her" about it (while it was really my friend). He said that my boyfriend had rubbed all over her boobs and put her hand on his stuff and was just messing around with her a lot on the way back from a football game. Well, I guess she said she couldnt do it because he had a g/f (me? and it would be wrong. I dont know what to do, though, because my bf said he didnt do it and it hurt his feelings that i didnt believe him at first. but then again, why would the other guy lie to the person who was involved in it unless he knew it was us? agghhh i'm so confused. I love him and breaking up is a last resort, I just wish if it happened that he would tell me the truth. ANY help would be SO greatly appreciated. Thanks.

okay get ahold of your friends ex and ask him directly. if he acts like he is lying then its a lie, but if he acts like its true then its true..just dont say it was you guys on the other line of the phone just say you found out from someone..if he knew it was you he could never trust you again...hope i helped
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okay. so this is a long story but theres a point!

soo. my friend isnt really being a friend and shes moving at the end of the year.. well i kinda like this guy and she just thought he was alright and the next thing i knew they were talking and she was saying stuff like i didnt know him like she did and they really like eachother and all this other stuff.. now theyre not talking anymore because they got in a stupid fight and they dont evn say hey or anything and i really want to get to know him but idk what to say.. he doesnt know i like him and she doesnt know either.. were total opposites-- hes in a metal band and im a Varsity basketball cheerleader-- i dont know what to say to him.. what should i talk about.. i mean its not like he likes me.. i feel like im invisible to him.. give me some ideas please because hell be on i/m in a while and i really want to talk to him and really do get to know him and prove her wrong..

okay okay calm down.. all i can say is be his friend first, lover second,,,your friend likes him and he likes her-you gotta respect that or he wont respect you..just talk to him like a normal person, like he has been your friends for years, and so what if you dont got nothing in common talk to him and find somethin..whether it be lil or big it is still a foundation for the frame of the house. you just got to build the house peice by peice...hope i helped
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hey. i really like this guy. so i texted him and said "i have something to tell you. i like you."
and he said "i thought you liked this other kid" and i said "no. thats before i started hanging out with you and that guys a real jerk."
and he goes "yeah he is"
and i go "is that okay that i like you?"
and he said "ya"
and i said "is there any chance anything could happen?"
and he said "maybe. ill talk to you tomorrow."
and i said "alright. night"
and he said "cya"


what does this mean?
does he like me?
does he not?
does he need time to think?
and the other thing is, he never texts people he just answers texts... this happened at like 11 oclock on saterday... what time do you think it would be ok to text him on sunday if he hasnt texted me? what should i say?
OHHH PLEASEE HELLPPPPPPPP!

sorry but i cant tell from the texting--just ask him about it..dont let him keep putting it off..i mean the situation could go either way..maybe he likes you like that or as a friend..if the friend is the case then just dont get mad or worry about it..and if it is option number one then take the first move..maybe he just needs time to think it over! hope i helped
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i know a lot of you are probably sick of all of these questions. first of all let me say that i am a tomboy well verrrry tomboy, and have never had a boyfriend before. :/

well anyways, there is this guy in my math class, i don't mean to sound snotty or anything, but i am a little on the popular side, and this guy lets call him m, he is kind of on the nerdy side. but anyways, he sits right in front of me, and he is always turning around and talking to me about my hobbies, and then he annoys me to noooo end and when i ask him to stop and he won't i just ask him over and over again, then when he can tell i am reallly annoyed he's like hey calm down calm down its alright. and for the past 2 days at school, he's been grabbing my leg from under his chair. like what i mean is, i am just sitting there with my legs crossed or something, and then he like grabs my knee and doesn't let go until i say something. does this seem like he likes me or is he just being an idiot like most guys? please answer, i do rate by the way.

its okay i think that people actually like some of these type of questions..sometimes since "nerdy" guys dont know how a girl functions like a popular guy-sometimes they dont even know--but they show off..it is their testorone taking over..you have some guys like that though whatever be the level of their status quo.. but i think he likes you..the annoying and the knee grabbing..now that you have some insight as to how he feels about you, how do you really feel about him??
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15/f I've never had a boyfriend. and when I see couples or just boys and girls/men and women flirting...it makes me feel so sad.

when like a boy flirts with his girlfriend and then they kiss in the end or something, it drives me INSANE, and I want it SOOO badly..I want to feel that connection. I want a guy's arms around my waist...and I've never felt it. What can I do to overcome this awful feeling of loneliness? ;_; Am I alone??

your not alone!!! not everyone has had a boyfriend before either. i mean i did in elementary school but middle school and high school are different games..but yeah anyways no your not alone..and when they kiss it dont drive me insane, i think its sweet but thats just me.. and yes i do want it badly too.. but i try to take my mind off of it...my methods are really just (1) try to have fun and not worry about it (2) when i like a guy i tell him-whether it be through note or to his face (mostly note) (3)when im really heartaching whether it be about that or unrequitable(not returned) love, i cry-alot.. well those are my methods..they could work for you..but i hope i helped!!
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I met my boyfriend about a year and 5 months ago.
I needed a place to stay as my family is 5000 km's away from me and i have no friends or family here.
So i moved in as a roomate.Then we started to have sex and after a while we were a couple.
Lasy year in Novembe i was raped, and at this time i was such a mess from the rape and still am.
My boyfriend, was careing and helped me do everything as i was to afraid to even let my dogs out for the longest time.
Now that i am getting better as this rape happend 11 1/2 months ago, I have cleared my head AND I CAN NOT BELIVE THAT I WAS So STUOID TO HAVE NOT HAVE SEEN WHAT HE WAS AND IS DOING TO ME.
Before he used to tell me nice things hug me.
Now all he does is call the cops on my form no reason and themn calls them back and says he was trying to call 411 and they come here.
YESTERDAY we moved and cops came to our door the first night we moved here. And if i try to leave my house when he is like this, he blocks me and pushes me or slams my to the ground pulls the phone out of the wall, so i cant use it, And then calls 911 on me.
He yells at me in walmart because he think i do not need conditioner and i shouldnt by it with my own money.
When he figtsh with me he hurts me and then when move at all he cowards down and pretends to shake like i am going to hit him.
He does not ever touch me or talk to me, but i have to do everthing for him dirve him to work pick him up. And if i say no he will get so angry and repetativly for up to 7 houser he will yell at me threaten, push me and i am forced to drive him or i will go crazy and i am scared i am going to kill myself.
Nothing psitive comes out of his mouth towards me.
HE HAS made me so empty inside that i didnt think this kind of coldnes could live in any soul.
The other day i broke down as he forced me to drive him into town. I told him he has been making me scared and crazy since i met him.
He said he was sorry and he didnt see it, But he called the cops lasnihgt and threw me around.
He now says that i deserved to have been raped.
And because i live so far from my family and i have no friends here and am off work from this rape problem. I HAVE NO WHERE TO TURN OR GO.
As dumb as this sounds I LOVE MY DOG TO DEATH and if i went to a shealter i can only stay there from a month and then i would be homless.
I am 26 and he is 21.

you need to get out, now. the longer you stay the worse it gets.. and i understand the dog thing. and wait until he is at work then call the cops. they could come and get you to a safe place and you could tell them-everything! dont hold out on stuff. and if they ask if you could go anywhere then call your parents tell them whats happening. and maybe you guys could figure out how to get a plane ticket and you can put your dog on the plane with you and fly to them. i hope you do something because you cant let this happen to you again. the creep needs to be caught so he cant hurt you again! best of luck and i hope i helped!!
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