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I have just realized my boyfriend has been abusing me, Menta
I met my boyfriend about a year and 5 months ago.
I needed a place to stay as my family is 5000 km's away from me and i have no friends or family here.
So i moved in as a roomate.Then we started to have sex and after a while we were a couple.
Lasy year in Novembe i was raped, and at this time i was such a mess from the rape and still am.
My boyfriend, was careing and helped me do everything as i was to afraid to even let my dogs out for the longest time.
Now that i am getting better as this rape happend 11 1/2 months ago, I have cleared my head AND I CAN NOT BELIVE THAT I WAS So STUOID TO HAVE NOT HAVE SEEN WHAT HE WAS AND IS DOING TO ME.
Before he used to tell me nice things hug me.
Now all he does is call the cops on my form no reason and themn calls them back and says he was trying to call 411 and they come here.
YESTERDAY we moved and cops came to our door the first night we moved here. And if i try to leave my house when he is like this, he blocks me and pushes me or slams my to the ground pulls the phone out of the wall, so i cant use it, And then calls 911 on me.
He yells at me in walmart because he think i do not need conditioner and i shouldnt by it with my own money.
When he figtsh with me he hurts me and then when move at all he cowards down and pretends to shake like i am going to hit him.
He does not ever touch me or talk to me, but i have to do everthing for him dirve him to work pick him up. And if i say no he will get so angry and repetativly for up to 7 houser he will yell at me threaten, push me and i am forced to drive him or i will go crazy and i am scared i am going to kill myself.
Nothing psitive comes out of his mouth towards me.
HE HAS made me so empty inside that i didnt think this kind of coldnes could live in any soul.
The other day i broke down as he forced me to drive him into town. I told him he has been making me scared and crazy since i met him.
He said he was sorry and he didnt see it, But he called the cops lasnihgt and threw me around.
He now says that i deserved to have been raped.
And because i live so far from my family and i have no friends here and am off work from this rape problem. I HAVE NO WHERE TO TURN OR GO.
As dumb as this sounds I LOVE MY DOG TO DEATH and if i went to a shealter i can only stay there from a month and then i would be homless.
I am 26 and he is 21.
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Hey,my name is em231 and I think I can help you
you need to talk to somebody about him if it goes
any further you will have to leave him I don't want
to scare you but he might hurt you to bad if you no what I mean!You have to leave at sometime your older
and smarter you can face him!Do you have a cell phone? when he is mean to you and it gets real bad
call 911 when you have a chance and when he don't
realize it or do it when you go to the shower run water so he thinks you are taking one and call 911!
I hopeI helped
em231
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you need to get out, now. the longer you stay the worse it gets.. and i understand the dog thing. and wait until he is at work then call the cops. they could come and get you to a safe place and you could tell them-everything! dont hold out on stuff. and if they ask if you could go anywhere then call your parents tell them whats happening. and maybe you guys could figure out how to get a plane ticket and you can put your dog on the plane with you and fly to them. i hope you do something because you cant let this happen to you again. the creep needs to be caught so he cant hurt you again! best of luck and i hope i helped!!
xoxo
teardrops7
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You do not deserve to be treated this way, so don't give up, or tell yourself that you can't get out of it. Don't let yourself live in that mindframe. If anything, there are animal shelters that you can put your dog in, shelters for dogs that belong to women like you (I'm not really sure where you live but I know that such things exist).
There are certainly more options than a women's shelter (do they really only let you stay for a month?). Even if you could only stay for a month, you are 26; there must be a way for you to get a job, no matter how basic, in order to provide the rent money you need to move out.
If he pushes you around, call nine one one on HIM instead of the other way around. This probably isn't that easy in the heat of the moment, but the abuse he is giving you really is a serious crime. You don't need to wait until he is pushing you around. He has been for a while, right? Call a hotline, the police, some kind of resource (there may even be more on google), whatever you do don't do nothing.
Also, check if moving back with friends and family is really impossible. They would probably do everything in their power to help, assuming they are close to you at all, if they knew your situation.
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Do you have a job? First of all, if you have a job, leave (if you don't get one, even one at McDonald's or anything). If he won't let you, lock yourself in the bathroom and call 911. Get an apartment for you and your dog, and I would suggest getting a restraining order. Get counseling, and if you can't afford it, I would suggest to join your local congregation and the priests and ministers are usually always able to give helpful advice. Do not come into contact with what will be your ex, and never go back to him, no matter how hard it is. It's not too late to get your life on track. It shouldn't be up to your boyfriend what you do, when you do it or whatever. Best of luck.
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