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Please help me I got dumped two days ago and i dont know why. Everything was going great but then we got into a small arguement. I told him I was going to the mall with my friend he said ok but to call back and tell him which mall. I was angry at the time so I didn't call. I was going to, but then we passed by his house and he looked busy with the backyard, so I didn't call. He called me screaming saying "thanks for calling!" He was so mad and argued with me for a long itme. He kept calling back and screaming stuff, I even said sorry but he wouldnt stop he said that we were never going to stop arguing and that the relationship would never work. But everything was going great, sure we argue sometimes but we always resolve it by compromising or apologizing. Anyway he said if I didnt care about his feelings that I should break up with him. I told him he was overreacting, to calm down and stop screaming. He said that by now he has the right to scream at me and that he is sick of me so I told him fine if your so sick of me than you break up with me. Then he screamed ITS OVER!

I dont understand how this happened, it was all so quickly. Me and him were soooo close. Are two year anniversary was coming up. I dont know what went wrong. I apoligzed and it was like he went all psyco. Please help me I cant sleep at night I have to take Nyquil to knock me out. I loved him so much, I thought he loved me too. My mom has told me not to call him, she says if he broke up with me and he is sorry and really loves me he has to be the one to call back otherwise he is not worth it. I know thats true but I just miss him so much I dont think I could take one more day without him. We spent all our extra time together, We stoped hanging out with our friends. We were eachothers best friend, atleast I thought so but during the arguement he said that I dont even act like girl friend anymore. I feel so bad I dont know what I did that was so wrong. PLEASE HELP ME any advice would do, I just cant take this anymore, its driving me crazy.

Wow you two were together for almost 2 years? If he really is going to blow a relationship of almost 2 yrs over a small arguement..then something is not right. If this is the case then maybe he's been wanting out of the relationship for awhile? I certainly hope this isnt the case, but from what i gather, its a possibility.
Lets hope for the best. Give him space for awhile and hopefully he will call you and you guys will work it out. You mentioned you two stopped hanging out with friends. Thats no good..so when you do talk..talk about how you think you should both hang out with friends too sometimes.
For now,give it time and try to keep busy. Hang out with friends and try to enjoy summer. I bet you he will call within the next week! IM me anytime on eatapasty. i hope it goes well because wow almost 2 yrs is awesome!

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well, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6months now. In the beginning everythign was all good. BUt now were always with each other and were always fighting and he always makes me the bad guy. i feel so bad when we fight, and i feel like our relationship is going down hill. i just need advice on how to keep our relationship together thanx

Hey. Its normal to have little rough patches in a relationship. I have been going out with m wonderful bf for 5 months and it has been great! However, we also went through a little rough spot for like a few weeks. We would figgt often..we talked and communicated (very big part of a relationship)and we worked it out. We ddecided to plan fun stuff like being outside more,making each other food, walks, little romantic stuff like that. It really helped us and we dont fight a lot at all now. If you go a few days without seeingg each other..when you two do hang out it will be awesome! try it out. hopefully he wants to make it better just as much as you do. if he isnt trying to make it better like you are, consider a breakup because nobody desserves to be treated like the bad guy all the time like that. Let me know how it goes. IM me anytime on eatapasty

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Ok..soo i met this guy at a baseball game and he got my number from one of my guys friends. So he called me that night..and now we talk on the phone every night. And i mean we're starting to like eachother but the problem is..he lives like an hr n 30 min away. We really want to hang out..cuz we've only met once. But the problem is..it wont be awhile till come up there again..like the end of the summer. WHat should i do?

hey . keep talking and learning more about each other. an idea is maybe you two can meet up half way? a friend that drives, a cousin, your parents, take a bus, etc to a mall that is half way and spend the day there? or an amusement park? i dont know your situation and if you will be driving soon..but if you will be then that would make things a lot easier! just see what happens for now. maybe a system can be worked out like seeing each other every weekend or every other weekend if you two really want to make it work. i hope it works out!

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my boyfriend has gone away for about 2 weeks and I wont be able to talk to him until he comes back. I want to suprise him and have some really special things for us to do when he gets back. Could you guys help me brainstorm some ideas?

I love him so much I want to show him

Make him something sweet! Write as many reasons why you love him down (like 20 at least), write down your top 10 favorite memories, print out your fav pics of him, along with a cute poem written by you..and make it kind of like a packet. i did it for my 5 month anniversary and he seemed to really like it. if you want to really do a lot..do that and bake him something! or do the packet idea along with making him his favorite dinner. it would be pretty cool if you tell him to come over and when he walks in he sees the beautiful dinner waiting for him along with dessert and the packet idea i told you about. there are tons of sweet things you can do..i hope i helped you think of a couple! he will love it whatever you decide!

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my mom is plannin on takin me to the doctor this week. she wants to take me to make sure i am not sexual active.. my questions are

1) i dont want my mom to be in the room wit me while the doctor is there. how can i tell the doctor with out lettin my mom hear. she wants to be in there but i dont want her to be and i know if i tell her that i dont she will get mad.

2) can a doctor really know if u are sexual active? otherwors noe that you had sex once..

i heard that isnt true because you can pop your cherry wearing a tampon

sticky situation because i know what you mean..if youu ask your mom to leave she will think you aree hiding something. my advice to you is maybe call the office a couple days before you go and tell the receptionist your extreme request to have the doctor ask her to leave on his/her own..so it doesnt put you in a bad spot.

or just say no you are not sexually active. its pretty simple. are you going to the gyno? because if you are, thenn they can tell if you are a virgin. If it turns out your mom wont leave the room and she asks the gyno (im pretty sure the gyno will keep it confidential) but if for some crazy reason the gyno tells her (trust me i dont think she will..there are confidentiality laws out there) then simply blame it on tampons.

if you arent goin to the gyno you have no worries because the doctor is not going to check you down there.

it will be fine..and remember the confidentiality laws are out there to protect you

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I feel like I am ready to have sex with my boyfriend. My problem is that I was raped and thats how I really lost my virginity. This would be my real first time and I dont want to be nervous or bad at it sense my boyfriend is experianced.

first question: How can I stop my nerves

second question: How can I make it romantic and nice for him. making love not just sex.

and any other advice you have.

thank you

Hey..of course you will be nervous. Dont freak out though! He is your byoyfriend and he wont be expecting a pornstar for the first time you two make love. Your bf knows this is your real first time right?If not tell him! Communication..vvery big part of a relationship..especiially a sexual relationship. Go with what feels natural. You wont be bad sweetie...you wil be fine!
As for the romance idea..candles! making love by candle light is very sexy! maybe soft music playing in the backround. maybe arrange it so you two have somewhere lone so you can spend the night with the other person. think about how romantic it would be to fall asleep in the arms of your bf after making sweet passionate love....instead of haing to have to put your pants and everything back on before your parents get home for example. so maybe try and get a hotel room, cmap out somewhere under the stars..if not its ok! it will still be special..and hopefully you can still do my candle idea
definately tell me how it goes! inbox me sometime about it with details or IM me on eatapasty

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ok for the past week my body has been gettin knome(sp?)( i cant feel it) and even when i am walking it happens. it does this with my hands and my feet.

is it possible that i am a diabetic? or that i can possible have high blood pressure?

my friend is a diabetic and he said signs of diabetes is a hugee rush of hunger and thirst. he described to me he would eat tonsss of stuff at night time. going to the bathroom a lot and drinking a lot is another sign. im not an expert but this is the knowledge i can give to you. i saw the others didnt mention it so i thought they would. the others are absolutely right. we arent doctors here on advicenators..so def talk to your doctor about this. he can test to see if you have diabetes,high blood pressure, or poor circulation.
let me know how it goes!

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OKay im 14/f and i have a guy friend whos 15 he is like my best friend and he has always been there for me... but latley weve been talking about like doing stuff with eachother and like fooling around... but like we wouldnt have sex or anyhting close to it.. but like do you think it will ruin our friendship or change it for the worse?????

my advice is to go with it. follow your feelings. because if you dont you wil wonder.."man i wonder what COULD HAVE happened between me and him?" regrets are bad. go for it..bbut definately talk it over. express to him the importance of your friendship and how you dont an to lose it. I am living proof that good friends can go out..things might not work out and you realize you are better off as friends..but you can still go back to being the same friends you always were.
go for it!

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me and my ex still have feelings for each other. i know he does because he tells me he does and we promised to date again once skool starts. but here's the problem we also said that we had summer off so we could date other people and he got a girlfriend. i didn't cuz well i don't really care for anybody but him. so anyways i think that girl and him might stay together for a long time and i'm worried cuz i love him and he's all i want. wat should i say to him. should i try to brake them up. i 'm really confused please help.

Trying to break someone up causes a lot of drama and will give you a bad name. If i had a guy i really wanted to be with and he really wanted to be with me too..i would be with that person. in other words..if he truly wants you..then he will come to you. hopefully it will work out but it sounds like he might be getting aattached to this girl. all you can do is chill and wait it out. hopefully it will work out in your favor
good luck!!

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My cousin had a friend over. They asked if I wanted to see a movie with them at home. I said okay. I went. My cousin's mom told me that I couldn't go because my cousin never asked her. So I had to go home. My cousin never apologized. I got a phonecall. It was my cousin's friend, who asked, "Hey, do you have any money?" I said no. My cousin's friend asked, "Well, I have a proposition for you. I heard that you like me, so if you go to the movies with us and pay for me to go, then I'll call it a date." I said that I don't even know my cousin's friend and won't be used like that.

Should I be offended? My cousin is one of my best friends.

Definately! How dare they call up and try and use you for money? I would be extremely mad. Its only natural to feel angered when people try and use you. If your cousin is one of your best friends definately have a talk. Express your feelings to your cousin and tell him/her that you feel used and hurt. Hopefully your cousin will see and understand how you feel.
i hope it works out

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God, I have a real problem. When I first came to Jr. High last year I was myself 100%. I didn't give a care what people thought about me, or who my friends were. Then in the middle I started changing my looks and the way I talked, and I found myself ditching my old friends (who were kind of geeky) to be friends with newer and more popular ones. And it worked! Some of the popular people hang out with me now. But I feel really bad now. Now that im friends w/ the popular kids, I feel like I dont even need my old friends. I even LIKE my new friends more than my old ones. So tell me... am I a total selfesh jerk for ditching my friends? And am I weird for changing myself?

Its not weird but ask yourself this..do you like the idea that the popular kids are friends with you because you channnged who you are? your old friends..the geeky friends..were friends with you because they liked YOU. If this changed person is who you really are..then its fine because people change.
hope this helped
-melissa

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anything i need to know bad+good about periods i just started mine july 3.

well to me they are just BAD lol. Right before it you might get headache,nasuea, etc. oh and baddd stomach cramps but if you are lucky you wont have them. if you have them just put a warm water bottle on your abdomen. what is good about it? um i guess you are a woman now! lol. also, when you become sexually active and you get your period for the month it means your not pregnent! so another reason why seeing your period could be good. another bad thing is possible embarassing moments. if you dont catch your period when it comes..you could leak and stain your clothes and everyone will see. never has hapened to me. whenecer that time of the month comes around i am sure to check for it often. so do that and you will be safe like me. i think i covvered it all
:) melissa

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I wanna do something more than just hug my b/f. I just don't know how to ask him how he feels. He may wanna do it but be embarrased to ask me too! It's really confusing. Should I ask him?
Thanx
~Kayla~

hey im not a guy but i can still offer some advice. i would not want my bf to ask to kiss me for the first time. i would want him to slowly move in and kiss me himself.so my advice to you is at the right moment (maybe before or after you go to hug him) softly kiss his lips. he will probably kiss back and it will lead into a makeout session! take it slow. if you want to do more than making out, give him signs like rubbing his inner thigh or guiding his hand onto your chest as your making out. if you have oral sex/sex on your mind..then maybe ask how he feels about it..but try my advice first and let me know how it goes!

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Hey, Im a 16/f and recently i stayed over and one of my guy friends house, and we were fooling around and ended up having sex, and he told me he wanted our relationship to stay as friends but still be able to do things like that. Do you think thats wrong?

the question isnt if I think its wrong..its do YOU think its wrong? if you want my personal opinon..i wouldnt want to be the "girl on the side." Sex is more to me than that. it should be with a partner in my opinion..but listen..people do it..people are fine with it..everyone is different. if its something you want to try..go for it..but understand the emotional things that go along with it..the emotions of being the girl on the side while doing those things with him. if your fine with it..go for it!

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Hey guys. Right now, I'm a bit sad. For as long as I can remember, my number one priority in life has been softball. It's all I ever wanted to do. When, I lived with my mom, it was all I ever DID. I moved in with my dad when I was about 9, going on 10. I still played softball, and I still loved the game with all my heart. I made all-stars every year I played. Then, one year after we lost a game, my all-star coach made us practice right afterwards. We were all too hot and worn out, and my dad was furious with this, and told my coach I quit. This happened when I was about 12. Ever since then, I haven't made the all-stars team, and I see myself becoming worse and worse. I would do anything to play softball in college, but I don't think I'm going to make it. I'm now going to be a sophomore in high school, and I'm on the high school team. I want to get better, and help myself. But I don't know how. I also need confidence, something I lack tremendously. I'm going to the World Cup of Softball in July, and I just want to be able know that there's a chance I could be there one day. Maybe not on the Olympic team, but a college team, one that is highly respected, like the Texas Longhorns. It is my dream to play for them. I guess I'm sad because I know I'm not going to make it to where I want to be with softball. I don't really know what my question is, but could someone just help me?

you can anything you put your mind to! go after your dream sweetie! what you need to do is forget the past, and focus on the future to accomplish your dream! set personal goals for yourself,practice hard, go to some softball clinics or camps, and if you work hard..you WILL make it! it will take hard work..but in the end you will be so happy..it will all be worth it. go after your passion..dont let it slip away! look up camps,clinics, etc. Look up colleges where you want to play,maybe talk to recruiters to see what they are looking for, email the coach of the college you want to play for when you get there..but most of all play hard and never give up!!! :)
much

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i was recently out with a few of my friends when the topic of another friend (who wasnt there) and her boyfriend came up. Then someone said the have been going out for 4 months and they have only made out. we are going to be sophmores in high school (we are 15) and to me that seems far enough. How far shouldd they be going?? am i just been wierd?

no, your not weird. everyone has different limits and boundaries. i know a few people who would stop at just making out and we are going to be juniors and seniors. i also know people who would go all the way..and i know people who are in the middle. dont think of yourself as weird..set your limits and move at a pace comfortable to you. dont give in to pressure. your friends should be moving at a pace that is truly at their comofort level. if they wish to be sexually active..it is their choice...but dont you get rid of YOUR limits just because they are going to go further than you. stay true to yourself

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lately ive been wanting to have sex with my boyfriend of 4 months but i know im not ready for it..at times i think i am but sometimes i think im not, im afraid that one of these times im going to think im ready and actually have sex with him. how do i stop doing this? or should i jsut do have sex with him?

right now i think it is just the hormones acting up. do notttt just go ahead and do it..because you arent truly ready. it is normal to have occasional feelings like you might be ready..but until you are 110% sure..dont do it..because its not something you can take back. for now, go at your own pace..and see where that takes you

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Is it possible to fall in love with someone who you have only met once? :)

This is my opinion..but i would have to say yes. My current bf and i met in january. We hung out once, and wow..i was hooked lol. You should have seen us! the first time ever seeing each other..we hung out at the mall and we were laughing sooo much, chasing each other around the store, sweet kisses, cute thingslike that. i was like woah..i know im falling in love.

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well.. ok.. i just broke up with a guy i had been dating for a year and a half.. and i started goin out with this other guy.. my ex still loves me and i love him.. but my boyfriend that i have right is falling in love with me... and i think i am with him to.. so should i just forget about my ex or what?.. i dont know.. but i have another problem.. there is this boy that likes me alot .. that i go to school with.. and he calls me.all the time.. and he tells me he loves me..geezz i dont know what to do!! please help me!!

woah i can immagine this has to be a crazy situation. my personal opinion is i dont think it is fair to be going out with the current boy. its not fair for him to be going out with you if you are so unsure. there is nothing wrong with being unsure. you just got out of a lonnng relationship! so if i were you i would explain to your current bf whats going on and that you need to think and its not fair to be with him at this point. you have to sort things out. you might decide you want to go back to your ex bf. who knows. maybe you will decide to stay single. only you can decide. i cant tell you who to go after. it has to be in your heart. inbox me if you need anything else..but the best i can tell you is you should break up with the guy until you are absolutely sure about who you want to be with

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okay lately my boyfriend has been saying he doesnt think I like him anymore, but the thing is..i LOVE him and i shouldnt have to convince him that. but last night he called my house at midnight and then hung up, and when i called back he said"nevermind". after minutes of begging him to tell me he told me that he called because he doesnt think i like him anymore. hes done this many times before and we've been together for a long time. i just dont understand..i always tell him i love him..what could be making him think this way??
if anyone can help me with this i'd be really thankful!

Your bf just wants a little reassurance. everyone needs it sometimes. even though my bf is wonderful and sweet..sometimes im like always wanting hugs or to cuddle with him more than usual. you can make everything better very easily..some suggestions are:
-burning a cd of pretty love songs,making him a candle lit dinner (my bf did the dinner thing for me and it almost made me cry) and cuddle up and watch a movie
-make him a card listing everything you love about him
-giving him a photo album of you two
-maybe in your card list your favorite memories together..or write him a love letter

some of these sound cheesy but trust me..it will make your bf feel awesome! and it will get rid of any doubt in his mind. the columnist who told you actions speak louder than words..is absolutely right! so showwww him with these ideas i told you..that you love him verrry much!
good luck tell me how it goes!
:)
-melissa-

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