HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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k so im a 15/f crushin on this guy who doesn't like me... as a g/f.. cuz well he already has one... and he told my friend that he liked me as a friend but i told her he never talks to me... and she was like well then he's not interested in you... and yeah i still like him and everytime i go in my spanish 2 class i feel really sad because he doesn't even lke me as a friend... i know i should just get over him and move on but how? there is no other guy in my school and i don't know what else to do!! (link)
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He doesnt like you and you CANT change that.Get over it.Hes not the last guy on earth.Youre still young and will meet pleanty of guys later on in your life.And you need to know that not every guy you will crush on will like youback.Honestly did YOU like every guy that liked YOU?If he ever one day happened to change his mind,you should know that hes using you probably because he probably had a fight with his girlfreind and is trying to get her jealous and youre being used.
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Well....I come from Puerto rico and in Puerto rico there is a tradition when you turn 15....Well...I want to make a BIG and Huge Sweet 15 Celebration and I need lots of money to save.......So this is my question!!!!!
Umm How can I save money because I cant get a Job...So How Can I get Money and Save it!!!!!!
I dont get Allowance!!!
HELP,HELP,HELP,HELP,HELP,HELP!!!!!!! (link)
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The tradition is quincenera i think right?ANYWAY,if you happen to download music onto CD's you can ask a bunch of people if they want some music and you download it off your computer and sell it as CD's.And if you have a DVD burner on your computer,you can sell them movies.This is how to do it,download warez or limewire(these are programs to download songs from)and then download musicmatch jukebox to put the songs there and transfere it on a CD.
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Heres a picture of my eyes-
http://img246.imageshack.us/img246/3199/beckaeyesly7.jpg
can somebody tell me what kind of make-up would look cute on me? oh and somebody tell me if my eyebrows are weird (crooked) and some ideas how to do them, i dont want to wax them but i'm horrible at plucking them out. please help me!! (link)
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What you need is black eyeliner on the bottom of your bottom lashes and on thetop of your top lashes.Pencil eyeliner is a lot better.You can also use any gold shades of eyeshadow to make your eyes godesse like.You need to tweeze your eyebrows from the middle,remove the extra thin hairs you have from the middle.Never remove your eyebrows from the top or youll ruin them.
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For starters,I have completely no freinds, and no one to talk to or hang out with .
I left my old school with a low reputation and i was known as a bitch. Guys always play with me and mock me because they think that i am the easy type of girl.
I am totally alone in this life, and my mom never cares or asks because she;s always at work, and my dad is definitely not the type of person to listen and sympathize.
I also play this sport at the club, and i am trying hard to improve and go to championships, but my coach just cares about the people who are real champions, and he just trains me for half and hour or something. I feel like a complete loser.
I even work here on the site, but i have had it from helping people and advising them, its like the only thing that i do. And then when i stopped for a moment, i found out that my own life is messed up and i need advice myself.
I considered committing suicide before, but thats just bullshit. I thought becoming really religious and maybe god would be on my side.
But it didn't actually have a result and nothing happened. I tried just being myself , but i hate who i am . I tried changing, but its not working at all.
I need help because right now i am nothing but a depressed desperate bitch with a screwed up life . I would really love some help. (link)
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God helps everyone,mabey the religion you chose wasnt the real deal.Learn about the three main religions and then decise.I have a website about my religion called www.freewebs.com/islamteens/ if you want to check it out.Youre going to a new school right?Nows the time to change.Dont be easy to get or everyones gonna talk bad about you.Write on a paper a list of things youre about to change about yourself starting from the new day.Killing yourself will make you lose your life on earth AND afterlife.WOW!Stick more to your education and dont drop down from school for anything.Your education is whatll make youre future different.If you become more religious and nothing changes,bear in mind that this is a test from God,because if you can go through his test,you will be rewarded.Good luck in your decisions
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For the past 2 years I have gotten really close with this guy who is A LOT older than me. He's 36 and Im 14/f But latley we've gotten really close. Like were dating? I don't know. its not like he's a pervert or anything. But I've i guess fallen in love with me. We're both musicians and we share an amazing passion together. I can stop it whenever I want to , but i can't. I guess you can't help who you fall in love with. The thing is that no one knows about it and hes married! So im really confused. but if i tell my mom or anyone there goes my lessons with him and band and everything ive worked for. and i love him. what should i do and is this okay that were together? (link)
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This guys a total psycho.Seriously keep away from him.He pretends to be all nice and makes you feel comfortable with him so that one day,hell have sex with you against your own will.Trust me ive seen ALOT of cases like this.Hes waaaaaaay to old for you!!And hes using you and what makes that obvious is that hes MARRIED.He doesnt love you!!Not at ALL actually.He probably has problems with his wife or she doest give him what he needs so it got him into a psycological problem.Find a guy younger than that before he rapes you and you end up depressed.You never know WHAT hell do,he can kidnap and rape you.Dont go to that music lesson thing if you have to,just keeep awayy from him.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 months now and we are both virgins, and today we were making out and things were getting a little "hot and heavy" so to speak and he told me that the wants to lose his virginity to me. I was a little shocked and didn't know what to say in return, so I said something stupid like "Oh? Really?" and he said "Yes, because I love you and I want to experience everything with you" He is the only boy I've done anything with other then french kissing, and I know that I'm not ready to have sex right now. But I'm afraid I might have hurt his feelings when I didn't say anything back to him when he told me. I guess I was afraid that if I told him I wanted to lose my virginity to him [which I do....someday] he would want to have sex right then and there. What should I do? Any advice at all would be wonderful.
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Be open and honest.Tell him that you would like to lose it to him but when youre ready.Tell him to please respect your opinion and that you dont want to rush so you dont end up regreting anything.Even if his feelings will get hurt,its better for his feelings to be hurt for a while than you regreting something for a lifetime.
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All day my sister has been stratching me pinching me hitting me and kicking me. Everytime we have the littlest arguement which is litally every 2 seconds, she has to hurt me in some way. She even bites me! I have marks all over my skin from everytime shes ever hurt me. My arms and legs are covered in stratches blood marks and brusies from her. I know all sisters fight with eachother but sometimes I feel like it gets outta hand. Today, she got mad at me and stratched me and she wouldn't stop I kept yelling get away from me and stuff and she wouldn't stop so I pinched her so she would get the fuck away from me. One little pinch sends her into tears and she runs to my mom and of course no matter how much my sister hurts me, if my sister is in one little pain of discomfort and blames it on me my mom will always take my sisters side. I showed my mom all of the marks, and she goes good I'm glad she does that to you, if you got hit by a bus right in front of me it would be hard for me to PRETEND like I actually care. I never care what people say to me but when it's my actual mom I break down crying because I hate knowing people don't care about me. My sister pinned me down on the floor and handcuffed my hands with my dads old handcuffs (he used to be a police 20 years ago) and she started kicking me so hard and pinching me I couldn't move I felt like I was going to burst and just die. My mom was 2 feet away watching all of this happen and kept saying hit her harder, hit her harder. My mom doesn't care what happens to me. So I was still pinned down in hand cuffs so I tried to kick her with my leg to get her away from me but I was closing my eyes and by mistake I LIGHTLY kicked her "bad arm" to make her stop torturing me and she starts balling her eyes out. Of course my mom yells on the top of her lungs "GODS GOING TO GET YOU DONT YOU DARE TOUCH MY BABY YOU USELESS PEICE OF SHIT GO SLIT YOUR WRISTS." I said "mom did you see what she was doing to me she had me pinned down in hand cuffs what did you expect me to do just sit there." And she goes "I don't care what she does to you I hope you die." and she walked away. I ran up to my room crying. And then about 20 minutes ago my sister got mad because we were playing a ps2 game and she lost so she pulled my long hair so hard a huge chunk of it came out and I didn't cry but I tried to hit her but she ran away so fast so I popped her balloon that she got 3 days ago from a restaurant. My sister told my mom (but of course left out the part about her pulling me hair) and my mom started yelling at me and threw me on couch and just started beating me she hit my head so hard about 9 times it still hurts and she tried to choke me with the balloon and tried to stuff it down my throat. I managed to get away and I ran up to my room. I'm 13 and my sister is 10 so of course she never gets in trouble. My sister gets so much clothes and toys and cds and anything she wants she automatically gets no matter how stupid it is. My parents don't buy me any clothes I have to wear the same clothes from 2 years ago that don't even fit me any more. They don't buy me any nice things and when we go out to eat they don't even let me buy a drink and make me order off the kids menu when I'm 13 and I'm skinny but I eat A LOT and I finish the kids meal in 5 minutes and I'm starving while my sister 3 years YOUNGER then me is munching on a huge steak with 3 sides. I hate it!!!! My sister never gets hit and I always do. My mom throws me against walls and she even does it infront of my friends!!!! I can't stand this my sister always hurts me and I always get in trouble. I tried the police, but my mom lies so much so of course they believe my mom. My friends help me out so much and make me feel so much better but if they arn't at my house they can't see whats happening to me and its up to me not to get myself killed because no one else cares.
What do I do? I'm sick of living like this. My mom and dad won't even let me have a talk to them about it. (link)
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WOOOW!!!this is the CRAZIEST CASE ive seen on advicenators!!I would never say this to anyone but FORGET ABOUT YOUR FAMILY WOMAN!!!You need to get the hell away from that house before you get killed one day!!!!You know its actually GOOD that you have marks on your skin of your sister hitting you because that will be PROOF when you go to the police that your family hits you.Go to a teacher and tell her EVERYTHING and show her your marks on your skin and most importantly CRY.CRY LIKE YOU NEVER DID BEFORE WOMAN.Tell your teachers how you can no longer live with your family and that all your mom ever does is deny it.Tell the police too,TELL EVERYONE.And if that doesnt work,RUN AWAY!!!To a really close freinds house,get a job(at 13 you can find a job)And the most important thing imma tell you now is,BE THE BEST AT SCHOOL AND DONT LET YOUR EDUCATIION SLIP AWAY FROM YOU.Its the most important thing for you now.Itll help you have a future and get a real job later on.I wish you the veeerrrrrrry best of luck.If you neeed more help give me your yahoo or msn.
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alright , if your going to give me crap & stuff about all of what im going to say , dont bother telling me anything back , because i get enough of that . im a 6th grader , and ive been emo for as long as i can remember . my mom has passed , my dad is WAY too protective & he doesnt listen , i only have one friend because im bisexual and my old friends werent comfortable with it , and my brothers treat me like shit . i really have the urge to cut :[ . how can i stop thinking this way ? telling my dad or not being emo is not an option ♥ its who i am . [ idk what this has to do with anything , but im going into a new school this year because my other school didnt "work out" for me .. so like , i can start totally freash ] (link)
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Ok,well this is a GREAT new start for you!It is now time to let go of the past and begin a fresh new future.Youre going to a new school which means,new freinds and stuff like that.But you are so young and dont understand that cutting youself isnt going to slove any of your problems,itll just make them WORSE.Youll get skin disease AND scar yourself.Youll not only scar your skin but scar your LIFE too.How is that?Because later on when youre older and you look at your skin and find the scars,youll be like"Oh i remember this,i cut myself at that time because..."and youll get depressed AGAIN.About your father,its something VERYYY normal for him to be overprotective because since your mom passed away,he wants to take EXTRA care of you,which is really nice of him.You have a looooooooong life ahead of you and its in YOUR hands to make sure your future turns out great.And cutting yourself and crying over the present days or past will make the future JUST AS BAD.You need to plan out your future,and i will help you anytime you ever need help.This is how,ok close your eyes and jump like 15 years ahead.What do you imagine yourself being?What do you want to be when youre older?Youre DREAM job?You must have one.Imagine how BEAUTIFUL and successful you will be by then,aw how you WISH you can be that.Youre problems are all solved and everything is great.Well,you cant reach that THAT easily!To get there you must knock out ANYTHING that stops you from getting a good education.You need to focus in school and be a very smart student so you can go to college and have a college diploma and have your dream job.Dont let anyone piss you off and get you into depression and stop you from being successful because they wont help you when you grow up to be useless.A new year is now starting,new school,new freinds and new start,DONT LET IT SLIP AWAY FROM YOU.If you have yahoo,msn,myspace or anything like that,tell me what it is and ill add you and help you more.
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okay well i got fingered for my first time and it was great and im still a virgin but after it happened maybe a day or so later ive been dripping white chunky discharge and its sick please dont think im a scum but please help me!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Ha,ha.Dont worry.That happens to girls all the time.Its just a change in horomones causing you to discharge.Dont worry,youre still a virgin and nothings wrong.
No,only yahoo,msn and trying to make a myspace.
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now that i'm going into 9th grade (my last year of middle school), i have started getting depressed lately. i keep thinking about how i've never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, and i keep thinking that nobody likes me. what can i do to make myself feel better about myself. i'm 14/f if that helps any.
THANKS!! (link)
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So?Im 15 and a half female going to 10TH grade never had any of that either and im not depressed.Im actually glad because i wont have anything to worry me or any guy on my mind 24/7 and all ill have to think about is building my future and getting a good education at school.If i had a guy on MY mind,i would probably fail everything!Im sure Gods saving you a GREAT guy,mabey youll just meet him later on.Dont rush it.
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My friend, Kelsey, is always talking about her so called best friend behind her back and how much she hates her because she always copies her. About two months ago Kelsey said that she wanted to play the guitar but she ended up never taking lessons or anything. I was at my piano teacher's house and her daughter plays the guitar and taught me how to play a song and it was really fun. So, now I really want to take lessons, but I'm afraid Kelsey will start talking about me behind my back and say that I copied her. She'll find out I'm taking lessons no matter what because we are always around each other. Any ideas on what I should say to Kelsey when I tell her I'm taking lessons? (link)
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Just tell her that you were at your piano teachers house and her daughter was playing the guitar and it caught your attention,so your taking guitar lessons now.She can say what she wants about you copying her because you KNOW youre not.I dont think shes a good freind though.Because if she talks like this about her BEST FREIND,theres no reason WHY she wouldnt talk about you.Trust me,the same thing happened to me before.
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i kinda want sex now but i want to wait till marige. and i want to not be a freakin virgin
should i have sex or wait till marrage? (link)
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I think you should definetly,DEFINETLY wait till youre married.If you have sex now,all youre gonna get outta it is a bad reputation,STD'S,and you might get pregnant.Why not save all the fun for later?If you try it all now,its gonna be old by the time youre married.Save the best for last!And when youre married youre husband will respect you more knowing your a virgin.Having sex now isnt gonaa make you prettier,more popular,or healthier.Its just gonna get you into trouble.Dont go off having sex because everyone eles is.They ALWASY end up regreting it.
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my mom my brother and my sister all do drugs and i no thats gonna be me one day hiding from the cops like my brother...im constly fighting the urdge to cut agian...not that many people like me because im emo/gothic/scean...my mom has a deadly dease....my other sister jen well shes a drunk and we never no where she is or if shes even alive..i get made fun of also.......i always have to face a smile or a laugh bc i dont want anyone to knoe how i realy feel ... i have people i dont even no makeing fun of me...every bf i have had has beet me up....school is hell for me....i always have to make my friends feel better and totly forget about how i feel bc i cant stand when people feel the way i do.i would be cryin now but no i have to fight it bc then ppl ask ?s that i dont wanna awser so yes i cry alot also....and my friends tells her boyfriend dan everything i dont want him to know and i dont trust him not to tell other people..my friends say im beautiful but i think im not.I HATE MYSELF.im a huge mess who is not going to get help from a pro counsler beacuse i have befor and they make things worce....i have no one to talk to...im hopeing maybe someone can help me,make me feel better
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You dont have yahoo or messenger?It would be easier for me to talk to you there.Anywayz im making a myspace so give it to me and i will help you more there.What i have to say is,dont let them influence you in ANY way.This is a warning.Your present life maybe sucky but it is in YOUR hands to make the future better.How?By taking care of your health and education.Imagine yourself one day with a college diploma and you get to have ANY DREAM JOB you EVER wanted...wow and youll be rich,successful and everything you want!You just need to have an aim in life,a GOAL.And to reach that you have to plan how youre going to reach it.And dont NOT cry,keeping it in too much will get you scary sideaffects.You can even FAINT from not letting it out.God created you to make the world a better place and NOT to cut yourself.Cutting yourself will only get you skin disease and scars.Scars NOT only on your skin,but will scar your life,when you grow up and see these scars,you will be like oh,i remember why i did this and youll get all depressed.I think you should also turn to religion more because if you seek God for guidance,he will help you.Being close to God makes you see life in a more beautiful way.If youve tried telling your family to stop what theyre doing and they DONT then its their choice.If they intend on RUINING their life then thats also their choice.At least you have a BIG example infront of you of what happens to people that take drugs.About your boyfreinds beating you up,its because you let them take advantage of you.If a guy TRIED to even THINK about hitting me...oooh,i woulda...haha(poor guy)This is considered abuse and you shoulda reported it to the police RIGHT AWAY.If ANY guy EVER hits you,dont sit around wondering what to do,DUMP THEM AND CAUSE THEM A SCANDAL!!GO tell everyone what he did and tell the police and hell NEVER think of talking to girls again!You should really stick to religion,learn more about your religion and about christianity,jeudism,and islam.I have a website for islam if youd like to check that out.You need to think about how to make your life great and at the same time end up in heaven.Id be more than glad to talk more and help you,just give me your myspace or whatever you have and i will see you there.
my myspace is http://www.myspace.com/Caramella91,i just made it though so its kinda crappy lol
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awhile ago i went out with this girls ex-boyfriend. now everytime she see's me she calls me a fat whore // slut. i'm no where near fat and i never even say anything back to her. how can i make it stop or just ignore her.
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Pass by her with a pretty smile and show no signs of anger and if she says anything then say"Hating me wont make you pretty,its not MY problem im gorgeous,god created me pretty"LOL itll piss her the hell off.What you need is confidence,a LOT of confidence.That happened to me before with this girl that hated me and i always pissed her off by saying"what are you talking about??how can you call this ugly or fat??im GORGEOUS!!They asked me to goin a teen beauty competition in egypt here(and she knows its true so she went CRAZY) piss her off by being confident and just let her be jealous.Her jealousy will get her nowhere good.Well ofcourse shes jealous,youve got her guy!
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so i broke up with my bf lastnight because when we first started dating he had these magazines and i told him i didnt like him having them so he "threw them away" he said he did that to prove he would do anything for me and that he doesnt like looking at anyone but me. well lastnight we went to his room and the pile of magazines were back again. so 1. he lied to me 2.im not the only one he likes to look at and 3. i cant trust him. was this a good reason for dumping him or was i just being stupid? (link)
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Well,its a good reason because if he lied to you once,he can do it again.Lies begin small then end up REALLY big.But as for the magazines,all guys have them.ALL GUYS.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for two months now. We are really good together and we really love eachother. Last night i was talking with one of my ex boyfriends. He's a huge pervert and is always telling me to take my clothes off. I told my boyfriend and he seemed really mad, so i asked him. I go, Dan are you mad? He says, no i just love when guys say perverted stuff to my girlfriend. So me and dan got into a huge arguement I said sorry several times and at the end he said apology excepted. I left him a message on myspace saying how sorry i was and that i love him. He wanted to see what my ex was saying to me, but i refused to show him. He got mad at that also. I don't want him to say or do anything to my ex. I blocked my ex and i told Dan im not going to talk to him anymore. Which Im not going to. Dan is out today with his family and he wont be getting the message for a while now. I'm scared he's going to think to hard and this is going to end badly. He says that he loves me and no fight is going to change that. I'm scared, what should I do? (link)
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First of all,WHY are you talking to your ex when you and your boyfreind have a beautiful relationship???HES YOUR EX,which means things between you and him are OVER and they will be over with you and your boyfreind if you keep talking to your ex.You would probably get jealous if your boyfreind was talking to HIS perverted ex,wouldnt you?You know this guys perverted,then why do you talk to him?Dont answer his calls anymore.And you telling your boyfreind not to do anything to your ex will make him feel all like"oh,so you care more about him now huh"And another impotant thing i have to say is NEVER promise a guy you love something and break that promise,youll break his heart.Im sure itll break yours if he did to you whhat youre doing to him.You guys are in a relationship which means honesty and dedication.Dont make promises you cant keep or youll find yourselves broken up faster than ever.
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My mom has this best friend and we go to his house all the time. My mom says we'll be livng there soon. Well anyway... he has to sons one is 19 and one will be 18. When I am there I feel wierd like my face gets like hot and red. Is that normal for a 13 year old girl?? (link)
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Yeah its very normal.Youre just a polite,shy lil girl.Its totally normal.
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i am usually depressed & never happy ! im always crying & NEVER in a good mood . i think about suicide WAY to much . sometimes i think its my only option . help me please (link)
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You know,if you suicide,you will not only lose your beautiful long life ahead of you,you will also go to hell because commiting suicide is a HUGE sin nomatter what religion.So you will have lost your past,present AND future AND afterlife.You need to know that there are a lot of people living a lower life than you(starving kids in africa)and THEY thank god and have no other option but to be happy becasue if they dont,they will NEVER have a life.I would turn to religion more too if i were you.God helps whoever seeks his guidence.You need to study hard nowadays so you can build your future.Because being rich and successful isnt going to come from commiting suicide,itll come from gettin high marks in high school and college.If you sit around crying about how sucky your life is,itll stay like that forever.Being happy isnt by having getting the material object you want,its by wanting what youve got.Theres a proverb thats says"whoso neglects learning in his youth has lost his past and is dead for the future"I would also open up to a parent or trusted person about this.Now please dont say noone understands you because i DOUBT you ever opened up to anyone.So,stick to religion,have a goal in life and to acheive it you must have a plan,and be happy for what youve got before its all taken away from you.
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Why are guys so embarassed to admit their virgins in like, highschool? (link)
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Because if he admits that he isnt a virgin,he will think that no girl would like to go for an inexpereinced guy like him,or hed be worried his freinds might make fun of him and hell be left out.
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so at times i get sooo depressed that all i do is cry and yell and im never fully happy and i think there is something wrong with me. one time i even took pills not to kill myself but in hopes id end up in the hospital just so people would finaly notice i exist (my friends. and family) what can i do to be happy? i want to be. but i cant talk to my friends or family about it.. (link)
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Being happy isnt about having what you want,its about wanting what youve GOT.If you keep whining about how your life sucks god can take it away because there are MANY people living a life lower than yours.I think you should turn to religion,because if you seek God,he WILL help you.But if you are far away from him...why should he??Being close to God makes you see life in a more beautiful way.These pills can kill you and you DO know that killing yourself is a huge sin in islam,christianity and jeudism.What are you going to gain out of that?Losing your LIFE ANNND afterlife.Why do that when you can see life in a beaautiful way?If you pay attention in your studies you will grow up going to a GREAT college and have a GREAT jjob and become RICH and successful and youre NOT going to accheive that success by killing yourself.Im sure alot of people care about you.You just think they dont because you probably lock the door and stay in your room crying all day and when they ask you whats wrong you say "nothing"HOW are they suppoesd to know if you never tell them?Theres this proverb that says "whoso neglects learning in his youth has lost his past and is dead for the future"if you sit around all day crying about how sucky your life is it aint gonna get any better than this.You might even lose it all because you werent greatful.You need to have an aim,a GOAL in your life,and to acheive it you need to take your first step.But a thousand mile journey starts with one step at a time.If you need more help,send me a question in my inbox or in my yahoo email,french_chick2005@yahoo.com
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