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God gave us two ears and one mouth so we could listen twice and speak once.
Hello Sunshine!
My name's Jamie..call me what you prefer.
I'm not here to judge, just to help people with their problems.
I love helping people out, it's one of the most satisfying feelings.
When you rate me, I'd prefer if you put a reasoning behind the rating, just so I know how I'm doing/how I can improve.
Feel free to leave me questions!
XOXO.
>> PS. If you plan on asking me a question, please, type grammatically correct and put punctuation marks where necessary...instead of like this: "muh boyfran lefff meh nD eye dunno waddado. halp?" (haha okay maybe that's a little exaggerated.. but you get my point!)
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Ok well i cannot fall asleep! I even work out and i just can't fall asleep even if am really tired, my eyes just wont shut. Anyways i was wondering if you guys have any good tips to help me fall asleep, i already listen to this relaxing cd with waves crashing, so if you had anymore tips for falling asleep it will be greatly appreciated!!
Hey.
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that;
*What I heard that works well is drinking milk/ herbal tea before you fall asleep.
*Watch TV/ read a book before falling asleep
*Shut off all lights and cover any thing that has a light
*Keep a regular schedule. Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time everyday, even on the weekends. Keeping a regular schedule will help your body expect sleep at the same time each day. Don’t oversleep to make up for a poor night’s sleep – doing that for even a couple of days can reset your body clock and make it hard for you to get to sleep at night.
* Bedtime snacks can help. An amino acid called tryptophan, found in milk, turkey, and peanuts, helps the brain produce serotonin, a chemical that helps you relax. Try drinking warm milk or eat a slice of toast with peanut butter or a bowl of cereal before bedtime. Plus, the warmth may temporarily increase your body temperature and the subsequent drop may hasten sleep
* Jot down all of your concerns and worries. Anxiety excites the nervous system, so your brain sends messages to the adrenal glands, making you more alert. Write down your worries and possible solutions before you go to bed, so you don't need to ruminate in the middle of the night. A journal or "to do" list may be very helpful in letting you put away these concerns until the next day when you are fresh.
* Go to sleep when you are sleepy. When you feel tired, go to bed.
Make sure you limit your intake of caffeine during the day. This will prevent hyperactivity before you go to bed!
Hope I helped! :)
-Jam
FOR MORE INFORMATION, GO TO http://www.helpguide.org/life/sleep_tips.htm
i just got my hair layered and side swept bangs the other day. I cant even put my hair up without my face looking really bad becasue of my bangs!! I have to put it up for work since i work in the hospitality industry, it really casual though. How can i do my hair so it doesnt look so bad?
Hey,
Well, put your hair up.
Pin your sidebangs to the side of the face that they're swept to with bobby pins or something of the sort.
Hope I helped :)
-Jam
what is hair breakage?
how do i detangle my hair besides using a wide tooth comb
Hey,
Hair can break when points in the hair thicken or weaken. Sometimes this happens near the scalp so a person's hair never grows very long. When hairs break at the ends, they're called "split ends," and the splits can travel up the hair shaft.
A major cause of hair breakage is improper use of chemical hair treatments, like the treatments described above. But brushing or combing hair too frequently or in the wrong way (such as using a fine-toothed comb on very thick, curly hair or teasing hair) can lead to breakage. Hair extensions and braids can also cause breakage. Leaving them in too long or pulling them out without professional help can cause hair and scalp damage or even hair loss.
Sometimes hair breakage and dry, brittle hair are signs of a medical problem, such as hypothyroidism or an eating disorder. If your hair is breaking even though you don't treat it with chemicals or other styling products, see a doctor.
To detangle your hair, use a capful of liquid fabric softener in a quart or so of water. Rinse throughly....ta da!
[This leaves your hair fresh smelling and detangled!]
Hope I helped, and that all goes well!
-Jam
what are some good places for tote bags? like i wanna use one for school to hold some of my books for school. i'm looking for one that has pockets inside and is sturdy. big enough to fit like 2-3 binders. and is cute! also everyone has them from like hollister, american eagle... but i want one that like no one else has! thanks so much =]
Hey :)
Recently, I got a black Roxy one with a bunch of the Roxy logos on it in rainbows.- It's really cute and it was only $10 at Bob's :)
I also have another one, it's from Victoria's Secret-one of the PINK things.. http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=XH-207792&page=2&cgname=OSSLPPINPAC
Hope I helped!
:) Jam
does sunsilk anti poof 24/7 creme make your hair really straight? like is it a straightening creme? what sa good straightening shampoo & conditioner & creme.? thanks
oh and hi im just wondering .. do you know any websites i can go to to get free samples of hair products like creames, conditioners and shampoos, all that? besides gethairapy.com please help and thanks. =]]]]]]]]]
On some people it does work, but on others it doesn't--it basically depends on your hair type.
I've tried straightening shampoos and conditioners, and on me, they haven't lived up to their name. This could be because I have fairly thick hair.
If your hair's thin, on the other hand, I'm pretty sure it'll work.
& Yes-here's some free sample websites.
http://www.freemania.net/samples/cosmetic.htm#Hair
http://walmart.triaddigital.com/enhancedrendercontent_ektid9446.aspx
Hope I helped, good luck, hope everything goes well!!
-Jam
i know nick canon and christinia milian broke up because he cheated on her. but i was watching Wild and out and she guest stars on it, and at the end shes like "Nick im Yours" so are they back together or like shes just playing?
This was an old episode.
Yep, they're broken up.
=)
Hope I helped!
-Jam
My boyfriend and I broke up after
he told me he liked another girl and
they had been flirting and stuff.
Well, I had to end it with him because
I did not want to go on with him if he
liked someone else.
How do I let go?
When I see him I want to melt into his
arms again, but I know I shouldnt.
And now, when I see a guy, it takes everything
I have not to just grab him and try to
hold on forever.
.. please help.
Hey,
I'm sorry to hear that! :(
A lot of teenage girls are going through the same problem. Heartbreaks are hard. Try occupying your mind with something else.
Just think of it this way, NOTHING lasts forever. I know you loved him, - but his heart was somewhere else. He obviously doesn't deserve you.
At least he didn't cheat behind your back & he was honest about the whole thing!
THERE ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA HUN!
Cheer up!
Treat yourself to your favorite foods. Or some shopping, every girl loves shopping :)
Hope I helped, cheer up! Hope everything goes well.
-Jam
what can i do to have healthy hair [& add bounciness]
and yea yea i know i have to stop with the styling products. but what elesee?
As far as HEALTHY hair goes, what I do is [in the shower], I put shampoo in, rinse that out. Then, I put conditioner in & leave it in while I'm washing elsewhere. I rinse it out. (Occasionally, I'll leave it in to make it softer). Then, I use "Citre Shine"...it's basically olive oil, before I blow dry/straighten my hair. When I straighten my hair, I use a 100% Ceramic Straightener.
(IF YOU STRAIGHTEN YOUR HAIR USE A CERAMIC STRAIGHTENER! lol)
[Make sure whenever you are about to blow dry/ straighten your hair, use mousse or something of the sort to protect your hair.]
As far as bounciness...I heard Sunsilk Hairapy Anti-Flat works pretty well.
[I've never used it before though.]
Hope I helped/hope everything goes well!
-Jam
I like this guy, he has a girlfriend, and I think she would hurt me if she knew. I am not friends with his girlfriend and we don't get along but I still feel guilty. He cheats on her all the time. I don't want to be the girl he cheats with, but he is so cute. My friends don't like him, but they support me. They tell me all the time, "he likes you", I want to believe them, but they tell me stuff like that a lot. He has this charm that just makes you feel so special. He can be really perverted, but I think he is just insecure on the inside. I really like him, and I know he is all wrong, but it feels right. Should I tell him?
From, Chelsea (Female, 14)
Hey,
Personally, I'd tell him. If he likes you like your friends say he does, he'll probably dump his girlfriend and do whatever with you. But, I wouldn't go out with him--save yourself a heartbreak! If he's cheating on this girl, he might just cheat on you, you know?
Hope everything goes well & Hope I helped!
-Jam
well i've noticed a few people around my school with these gorgeous deep blue/green/teal color eyes. once i ask them about it, they say it's certain contacts they use that have a tint in them. i think they're eyes are like absoluely beautiful and i was wondering would it be safe for me if i started using contacts to get the same affect. i have 20/20 eye sight and i don't want to mess it up! Right now, i have green eyes, but i really want them to stand out! I was wondering if it would be safe to wear contacts the whole day, everyday, but only for visual affects (nothing that helps eye sight). also, whats your opinion on this? do you think this looks cheap and fake? thank you for your advice!
Hey,
If you follow these simple rules, your lenses will be no threat to the health of your eyes.
1. Obtain an eye doctor’s prescription before ordering your color contacts. Even if you don’t need vision correction, you need an eye doctor to select the lenses that would be best for you
2. It is cheaper to order your color contacts online than buying them from your doctor, but make sure that you order from a reputable contact lens retailer
3. Don’t wear your color contacts continuously for too long. Most color contacts block the flow of oxygen to your eyes. This is usually not a problem, though, if you wear your lenses only for 8-9 hours at a stretch, but any longer than that could cause problems.
4. Never sleep wearing your lenses - this is the most dangerous thing you can do, in terms of eye health. If your eyes don’t receive enough oxygen for days on end, then you are sure to suffer inflammation of the corneas. Some color contacts, like Acuvue 2 Colors, are FDA approved to wear for up to 7 days straight. However, many eye doctors agree that it is better not to risk your eyes even with the best quality color contacts
5. Don’t swim or shower wearing your color lenses. Firstly, it is very easy to lose a lens in the water. Secondly, whenever water gets into your eyes it creates favorable conditions for bacteria, putting you at risk of infection
6. Make sure you clean your lenses properly, and always keep your contacts in soft contact lens solution. You shouldn’t rub your color contacts while cleaning them, because it may damage the color. So it is best to use a no-rub multipurpose solution.
7. Never share your color contacts with other people. It might be very tempting to exchange color lenses with a friend but, unfortunately, it is a sure way to pick up an eye infection.
Color contact lenses are fun. As the saying goes, “The eyes are the mirror of the soul”, and it is amazing how much different eye colors can transform your appearance. Caring for your color lenses isn’t hard work - people who wear color contacts every day report that it takes them less than a minute to clean the lenses and put them in - so you should always follow the safety rules. If you do, then color contact lenses will bring you only joy, with no troubles.
HOPE I HELPED!
[By the way-this is from http://ezinearticles.com/?Color-Contact-Lenses---Are-They-Safe?&id=53848, so if you want to know any more info, check this out!]
--Jam
even good fats (peanuts, beans, avacado, etc.) can make you fat if you're inactive right?
Don't quote me on this, but I'm pretty sure anything could make you fat if you're inactive...or if you eat a lot of it.
But obviously, those "good fats" are less fattening than "bad fat" food.
=] Hope I helped!
-JAm
well i just started to talk to a couple of girls who i used to be really close to, and well there was a big blowout so we stopped talking for a while, and im glad that we are all talking again and everything but i know that its going to take a while for us to trust each other... if anybody has any ways that anybody knows of for me to be able to gain their trust of for them to be able to gain mine, please let me know...
Hey,
Well, recently, I was in this same predicament. Me and my friend got into this huuuge fight after being as close as, well, sisters!
Anyways, it did take her a while to give me her trust back, as it was a while for me to trust her.
So, your options are...:
1.) Just hang out like you used to. Start to tell them secrets. In most cases, you'll gain their trust back pretty fast.
BUT...IF THAT DOESN'T WORK OUT...
2.) Again, hang out-but just wait until they tell YOU secrets.
Hope I helped! & also hope that everything goes well.
-Jam
Bear with me; this is a several part question.
-Is it morally wrong to give advice about a situation you've never been in? For example, give sex advice if you've never had sex?
-Is it morally wrong to give advice you don't follow, even if the advice is sound? For example, an eating disordered person giving nutrition advice, or a couch potato giving exercise tips? What if this information is provided to correct erroneous information offered by another source?
This is assuming that the advice you give is valid, despite it being contradictory to your actions. I'm interested in seeing what people think.
Hey,
-Is it morally wrong to give advice about a situation you've never been in? For example, give sex advice if you've never had sex?
My answer to this is, if you know enough about the subject, then by all means, go ahead. However, in some aspects, it may be hard. For example, if someone asked you if a myth was true, you wouldn't know, because you've never had sex before.
-Is it morally wrong to give advice you don't follow, even if the advice is sound? For example, an eating disordered person giving nutrition advice, or a couch potato giving exercise tips? What if this information is provided to correct erroneous information offered by another source?
I don't think that it's morally wrong. I've given advice about exercising and eating right, and I hardly do either of the two, lol :).
If the information is something you think of worthy of an "abuse report", obviously, file one.
Hope I helped
[ And by the way, this was a good question ;) ]
-Jam
I was out with my 2 best friends along with 2 guys, Matt and Noah, tonight. We were all together for about four hours tonight. After I actually started talking to the 2 guys we all were laughing for the rest of the night. (I can't remember the last time I have laughed that hard)The weird part is...like every five minutes matt and noah would walk off, start whispering and everytime I looked at them...they were staring at us. Neither one of them have a girlfriend just so you know. I was sort of friends with Matt last year and I barely talk to Noah, so I k-n-o-w that I don't like them but I guess they could still have liked one of us? One of my best friends have a boyfriend and they don't like her any more than a friend. They still could've liked my other friend who was there. Right before we left matt and noah were talking about me...I know for a fact that they were. They had gone off talking (More like whispering) and when they came back (While they were gone I glanced over at them and they were looking at me) Noah magically knew more stuff about me. When they got back they were talking to me more than they were before and Noah knew more stuff about me that Matt would've known. Sooooooooo I got confused. What's up with them? Does one of them like me or were they just being weird?
Hey,
They could be weird.
But, what I truly think is they have some interest in you. They wouldn't go talking about you all night like that if they hated you or something, you know?
Good luck, Hope I helped and that everything goes well! :)
-Jam
stupid question..
how do you know you like someone..i know i'm stupid but i'm just curious how someone may tell if they like someone as like bf material.
Hey,
No, you're not stupid!
Well, in my case [i don't know about yours],
- I get butterflies when I'm around them.
- I get tongue-tied, unfortunately
- I get kind of sweaty, and nervous
- I think about them ALL THE TIME, or a LOT of the time.
- I see couples, and I'm like I wish that was me and __(name here)___
Well, hope I helped!
-Jam
Ok heres the thing I like this guy and well I have only had like one conversation with him but I have liked him now for around 18 months and I cant take the heartache any longer so I need a way of getting him outta my mind and please dont say ask him out as I am too shy to ask I need other suggestions.
Hey,
My advice is to occupy your mind with other things-sports, friends, etc. And since 18 months is a long time and you don't want to dwell on this, test the waters-meet other guys!! You may like this one guy for now, but one day, you'll meet your prince charming! :)
And if this doesn't work, try getting his screenname, if you're not too, too shy. This is an easy way to talk to them without having to be face to face, which, in my case [i don't know about you], relieves some nervousness.
Hope I helped & that all goes well!
-Jam
14/f
I go to boarding school. At school, I'm known as the quiet girl that nobody talks to. I have friends, but not as many as I've had in the past. I really don't like this school, and don't plan on coming back next year. Since I only have a few months left, I wanted to change my reputation and "go out with a bang". What are some ways to do that, and how can I change my rep in a short amount of time so I can enjoy my last months here as much as I can? Thanks in advance.
Hey!
Just be more social! Join clubs, sports...talk to anyone, just try to join "friend groups" that you normally wouldn't.
Hope everything works out fine! :)
[ And hope this helps. ]
-Jam
what are the best foods for losing weight and avoiding crash diets?? I am a comptiv athlte and i swim for 5 hours a day( 2 and a hlaf hour pracics) and do weights too....i eat pretty healthy but i always seem to crash on my energy!! and then i end up bingeing and i'll do this for a week ...then i'll throw up for a week and then i eat helathy again....im having alot of trouble!!
FRUIT AND VEGETABLES! For energy, eat a lot of carbs. You'll burn them off anyway, swimming 5 hours a day! :)
Hope I helped,
-Jam
Where can you buy the Fall Out Boy dolls?
And how much are they?
Ah, I love FOB, so if you know that'd be execellenttt.
I've seen them at Hot Topic-
and if that doesn't work,
go to the most reliable source;
EBay!!
-Jam
What are some cute little things i can do for my boyfriend. We've only been dating about 3 months, so its nothing THAT serious..but i want us to last..
Any cute things i can do? like notes in his locker and stuff like that?
Thanks a bunch!
Get a bag and put a bunch of hearts in it. Put Hershey's Kisses in it and put a note that says "Here's some kisses for when I'm not around!"
Bake him Cookies/brownies/his favorite dessert?
P.S- Notes in the locker are always cuteee. On them, put "I love you!"
=]
Hope I helpeddd