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ok so my friend i have no clue why but she was telling me that latly she has been noticing that she doesn't poop and she is worried about it. She said if she does poop its very tiny. shes scared that something may be wrong cause aren't you sopose to poop like atleast 2 times a day?

is she fine, or should i tell her to ask her parents about it?


haha such a nasty question but shes really scared any help?

She could be constipated tell her to eat foods with tons of fiber oranges,rasins,banana,raspberries,bran flakes,oatmeal,popcorn,brown rice just to name a few also tell her to read the back of labels to see how many grams of fiber each food contains if
that doesn't help she could always eat a yogurt called Activia that will help regulate her digestive system your suppose to go to the bathroom everyday or every other day tell her to
ask her parents about it seeing as she's scared say to tell her mother to make a appointment with
the doctor and then the situation will get straightened out :)

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Ugh seriously my life sucks so bad and i just can't deal with it any more.!:(
I have been home schooled for a year now I left public school second semester of 7th grade and now i am in 8th. I lost ALL of my friends from being home school i have not EVEN one friend! I hate being home schooled i want to go back to school so bad i hate being home on a computer all day and i have no freakin life! It's not fair i want to go back so bad i just want to be a regular teen! Whitch leads to my second problem.... I hate the way i look I hate my body and i am to emmberest to go back to school cause I am fat! so thats why i can't go back i hate myslef and i am not strong and comfterable anuff to go back. I just want to be a normal teen, when i was in school i was the popualar girl not the annoyying mean stupid ones but everyone new me. Well now i am nothing. SO to fix my problem i work out everyday!!! 7 out of 7 days running bikeing stretching light weights EVERYTHING!!! i am on like the 4th month so far and i haven't lost a POUND!!!! i don't get whats wrong with me:(? I seriously cry everyday wondering why i can't be happy with myslef and not be huge i just want to be skinny and ughh it's not fair.
Next problem!.... I am the youngest one in my family My siblings cousins everyone! there all at that age were they can go out drink blahh blahh blahh and then theres me i am kinda of an outcast in my family for certin things, but it sucks that i can't be at that age they get to experince things i don't and i am left out it sucks! so bad being the youngest in your family. I hate how i have to prove to them i am not a freakin 5year old anymore the expect me to watch like Pooh bear (not really but do you get what i mean) and it pisses me off how they don't think i no what going on in the world like they think i don't no what sex or anything ugh idk they treate me like im 2 like really? your fucking anoying ugh whatever!! i hate my life and it's such a waist! i don't understand why any of this is going on it's not fair!!!!!!!
SOrry i just needed to let this out cause i have no one to talk to! i tell my mom this all the time but she never helps ugh this suckkss :( sorry if you have any advice feel free to let me no:(

Whatever you don't like your able to change your in control of your life make changes until your satisfied everyone has things they don't like about themselves or they'd like to change it's normal to feel that way think positvely not negatively ignore the people who say mean things
to you..you don't need them in your life just when you think you've got it bad there's always another person who has it worst then you try and ask your parents if you could attend public school
seeing as you being homeschooled isn't working out you can't do anything about your age until your birthday comes around talk to your family and say you'd like to be included more in activites also say you'd like to be treated more maturely talking goes a long way it's better then keeping everything your feeling inside and not saying anything at all :)

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so my "ex best friend" said something that just made me be like ...wow i don't want to be around you anymore. its a long story of what she said and when she said it blahblah but it hurt..alot, and i don't want someone in my life that says those kind of things to me. the thing that sucks though is i see her everyday at school. shes in 4 of my classes. i'm forced to sit with her because all my good friends are friends with her too. i have other friends but do you think it'd be weird to just switch tables? idk what to do i just don't want to see her as much as i have to but i don't want to make it obvious that i'm changing everything because of her.

If she's making you feel uncomfortable then switch tables maybe you can nonchantly walk over to another table and start talking that way you wouldn't make it obvious don't make eye contact with her when your in class or walking through the hallway just go your seperate way you aren't forced to sit with her you can always go sit with other people and meet new friends so you aren't near her it's up to you your choice nobody can decide but you :)

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Hi:) im 14

well haha my bf's a gemini wow he's crazy. He pretty much is a good bf he's friendly a little bit more friendly, but haha thats his personality. How do i keep him happy? I'm a cancer. He's really attracted to me, why is that? Anything to do with my zodiac sign? haha i just want to keep him, we've been dating 2 or 3 months we kissed twice on the lips haha and we slow danced

Try new things and experiment with him but keep the things that you try clean seeing as your young
go to different places be the best girlfriend you can to him and i'm sure that will keep him happy it could possiblity have to do with your zodiac sign also that he loves you and loves spending time with you too and i don't think he'll break up with you so you've got nothing to worry about :)

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Now that im back to talking to my friend i like him again even before when i stopped talking to him i still liked him no matter what i do i still think about him everyone keeps telling me to just forget about him but i cant and theres no use in telling him how i feel because hes a funny boy and he acts like an ass he can be a jerk but hes sometimes sweet n funny hes like a brother i hate to love and love to hate no matter what advice i get to solve this theres always a huge downfall....Why do i feel this way about him? Why cant i get over him? And what can i do

I think you feel that way because you and him are close friends and maybe you think that your friendship will go further then what it is i'd just stay friends with him since he probably won't
take you seriously just forget about it and move on there's plenty of other boys out there you'll find love you've just got to be patient and wait for the right boy to come along :)

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OK so Friday is black Friday and i have no clue what i want for Christmas!
Female/Teenager.
something things i want, to give you an idea of what i like-
I pod station, clothes from freaky Tiki, Victoria's secret Velvet amber blackberry Shimmer Fragrance powder with lotion, Bow neck-less, jeans from Hollister.
But I just can't find anything i really want.
I have a laptop, camera t.v. idk so what do you guys what for christmas? give me some ideas:)

Oh one more thing i have to get my brother a gift around 30.00$ so i need help he say he likes "guy harvey shirts" Whitch i have never herd of it or seen it, so how much are there shirts? and whats there website? thanks

I want CSI NY season 1,The Hills season 1,iCarly season 1,Miles to go by Miley Cyrus,Hannah Montana the movie,Headphones,CSI NY the videogame,
another movie,Nintendo DS case :)

That's what i want!

Here's the Guy Harvey shirts website
http://www.guyharveyshirts.com

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i have a really big crush on a boy in the year above me in scool and he knows that i have liked him for ages, but yesterday i founout he had a girlfriend who is like 17/18 or somehing an he is only 14, its preety obvious he dont like me the way i like him. and now i really wont to stop loving him because it gets me down all the time an to be honest ive had enough, but i cant stop loving him, my heart just wont let but i really wont to stop an give up on lads for a while becasue they really annoy me sometimes. what should i do? please help. :(

I wouldn't give up i'd be patient and wait something could cause him and his girl to break up
there are plenty of other boys out there if things don't work out with that one in particular that you like i wouldn't give up completely on boys his feeling's may change you never know i wouldn't jump to conclusions so quickly if you can't stop loving him then the best thing you can
do is wait :)

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i like the new girl from my school im single she is single and i thnk we like each other im to shy to ask her out and she is shy aswell wat do i do girls are so imporsible (no afence girls out there)

Well it's normal to be nervous but you can't let your nerves get the best of you confidence is key be confident believe in yourself everyone gets nervous once in a while practice what you want to say before you speak then once you do you won't be shy and you'll be able to have a conversation with the girl memorize what you want to say and you'll be fine your not alone since the girl is shy too :)

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Hello im 18/f and im usually a very happy person and see the positives in everything. The past couple weeks i've noticed im getting very frustrated with everything and anything. (my mom and my stepdad recently just got divorced) maybe that plays a role in this? If things dont go my way or anything is out of place i freak out and get really mad. My boyfriend and I were on the phone last night and there was like 20 seconds of neither of us talking and i freaked out on him. Why is this happening to me all of a sudden? I try to calm myself down but i just cant. Thanks!

Try and think postively thinking negatively will only make things worst it's normal to become frustrated when things don't go your way talking goes a long way it's better then keeping everything your feeling bottled up inside and not saying anything at all try and do other things to keep your mind off what's happening to you try and talk to someone you trust see if that helps :)

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15/f. I'm sorry if this is all over the place and choppy, I'm just going to type things as they come into my head, which is really unorganized. Firstly, I know it's just a normal teenage thing, but I've been feeling the weirdest things lately. Like this morning, I was in a bad mood when I woke up, really happy when I got to school, and then went back into a terrible mood once second block rolled along. I haven't really been happy lately.

I've never exactly been skinny... about a year and a half ago, I started not eating much. I never went more than a day without eating, and it only lasted about a week, but in that week I lost sixteen pounds, and ten more in the next month or so. It made me feel accomplished that I had that kind of power over my body. I told my friend Corey first, who I now have a huge crush on... we aren't even really that close, and I don't know why I told him, I just did. I could tell he felt uncomfortable when I told him, which I think partially ruined my chances with him now. And I still think about starving myself.... Sometimes I'll go for a few days without eating a lot. I get upset and mad at myself if I look at the scale and it says I'm over 130.

Awkward jump in subject, my mom has a boyfriend. My parents split up when I was 7, so I only have a few memories of my dad living here. I feel really selfish, but I just don't like having another man here when I can barely even remember my own father in this house. Plus, I've heard him and my mom before... If you all get what I mean. Personally, I think that is extremely inconsiderate... not to mention gross. He sleeps over every weekend.

Another jump... I have mutilated myself before... as in cut myself. Not badly, and I've only bled once, but I have done it. I don't know how I feel about that. I have light scars on my arm, and I don't mind that they're there... I wasn't even really depressed when I did it. I mostly only did it when my mom and sisters would fight.... They'd be downstairs screaming and swearing at each other and it would just make me so mad. It still does. I just hate listening to them. I don't cut myself any more, but I do think about it. Sometimes when I get really upset and don't know what to do with the crazy feelings in my head, I'll bite myself... I know, that's really weird. I've never told anybody before... It just feels good to get my energy out like that. I'll usually bite my arms, and it doesn't leave a permanent mark. I only bite hard enough that I feel some pain and that's it. I've never bled because of it, and it's always gone the next day.

I'm sorry again to anyone who has read this because I understand if it's a waste of time. I just had to get some of that out, and I figured this would be a good way to do it. Sort of like an online diary. And I'm hoping that someone can relate to me.. I really feel like I don't fit in sometimes. I just hate it. I feel so stupid and insignificant sometimes, and like I'll be alone for my whole life. Haha, that's pathetic. Sorry again for anyone reading this. But thank you to anyone who's still with me and has read the whole thing. Does anyone know how I feel? Or have any ideas of how I can be a little happier, or just less insecure? I know I'm sort of unclear about my problems.

Thank you so much to anyone who can help me understand all of the things I'm going through and feeling :)

Think postively and don't think negatively if you do you'll make yourself feel worst and the situation do things that make you happy hurting yourself and not eating isn't going to solve anything everyone has things they don't like about themselves or that they'd like to change it's normal your in control of your life nobody elese if you don't like something change it until your satisfied be confident believe in yourself confidence goes a long way live your life be thankful your alive there's always another person out there who has it worst off then you just when you think you've got it bad :)

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I'm 14f and i really like this guy, we were talking last week about it and he told me he liked me, so i told him i liked him too. Since then, he's never even mentioned it. And lately, when i talk you him on msn, he's become kind of... unresponsive? I really have no clue about what's going on.

Well i'd wait and give him some time be patient he could be busy give him the benefit of the doubt i wouldn't loose hope and if he continues to be unresponsive then i'd try and talk to him about and ask why hasn't he responded to you try
and get some information out of him when you do happen to talk to him on Msn :)

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i'm 16, he's 18. we've been dating for nearly two months and been "official" for one. he didn't kiss me until the third date, though we held hands on the first. since then things have kind of come naturally. we've moved at a good pace. we had our first "intense" makeout session this week. like, really passionate. though we've made out a lot before.

my boyfriend's really creative, which i love, haha. we fool around with each others necks and ears - and we're totally comfortable - and two weeks ago he started kissing my stomach. this week i raised my shirt up rightt to my underwire, and he licked under where i had my shirt pushed up to.

although i like to take things slow, and im saving myself for marriage, im absolutely fine with what he did. it actually felt great haha.

but my boyfriend asked me if i'd be okay if he got some whipped cream. i said that was fine. he asked where i wanted it, and i said to "get creative ;)" and he said he needed a little help. i suggested we play a game where i put the whipped cream somewhere and he had to find it, but could only use his lips. he loves the idea lmao.

anyway. the shirt i was wearing before was a low scoopneck, so when i raised it up its not like there was a whole lot of upper body coverage. im considering taking my shirt off for the "whipped cream game" but i think it may be too soon. this guy respects me and would never do anything i didnt want him to. he knows i'm saving myself for marriage. as long as i make clear to him he's not removing my bra, do you think it would be too soon to have him kiss my upper chest?

this goes against everything ive ever been taught but this guy doesnt want me for my body, hes made clear of that. we're both just passionate people- like, he likes to sneak in quick kisses whenever he can; its cute, not touchyfeely. i just want to have some fun. i dont think this is something im gonna look back on and regret, i mean its not like he's gonna feel me up or anything. opinions? & sorry for the length haha:) thaaanks!

No i don't think it's too soon for him to kiss your upper chest if you feel comfortable with him
doing that then you should allow him too also if you don't feel like it's something you'll end up regretting then i'd say go for it it's worth a shot be creative experiment with him fool around seeing as he wouldn't do anything that you didn't want him too trust him and like i said go for it :)

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Last night I was eating a bagel, and it feels like there's part of it stuck in my throat! I can eat and drink still but its like its stuck there, please help it freakin me out!

You'll be fine if it's making you feel uncomfortable tell your parents to take you to the doctor try swallowing a couple of times drink
something and it will go down try not to think about it that's happened to me a few times too :)

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i am a single dad of 4 children 3 girls age 9 , 13, 16, and a boy age 8 my sister has been questing my children about me seeing them naked.
i bath my 8, and 9 year old and wash my 13 year old hair the only reason i help my 16 year old is bescause she has 2 broken arms and a broken leg who eles can hekp me

You should tell your sister that your a single parent obviously and you have nobody elese to clean your children how elese does she expect them to get clean seeing as they are young they
aren't going to clean themselves it's not like your harming them or putting them in any danger your just simply cleaning them i could see if they
were stangers then that'd be a different story then she'd have something to question you about i wouldn't let your sister affect just continue being a parent to your children you can hire a babysitter or someone that can look after them if you feel comfortable doing that :)

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For some reason -- I'm ALWAYS irritated, especially at home. Whenever my Mom, brother or my Dad ask me a question, I tend to snap or have to clench my fist because I get so angry. Like, just now, my Dad called asking me when I'll come to his place, and it's just making me so so ANNOYED. And then when my Mom asks why my Dad called!

I feel like I've developed this anti-social personality. I spend a lot of time on the computer, and I remember reading once that people who are on the computer for long hours generally have a hard time dealing with others. Also, for some reason I can't stop feeling depressed and hate all the time. I can't stop hating, and being annoyed for the fact that religion is making everything complicated and what not.

As much as I want to be a good person, and I want to be the person I envision. It seems almost impossible because there's just too much wrong with me -- that's how I feel anyway.

What am I supposed to do?

You need motivation without it you'll go no where you have to want to change your in control of your life if you don't like something then change it if you want something bad enough you'll do whatever it takes to achieve it and you won't allow anyone to stand in your way if you feel yourself starting to get angry then leave the room give yourself a moment take deep breaths relax and calm down then once you feel ready return into the room again find something your good at or enjoy doing to keep yourself busy if your in school you can do some after school activities try talking it's better then keeping everything your feeling to yourself and not saying anything at all that's unhealthy think postively thinking negatively will make the sitaution worst and you'll feel worst be confident confidence is key belieive in yourself that you can change and you will :)

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Hello Alright so this may be quiet long so I'm sorry if it is. Alright so I live in Colorado and the guy I have been chattting with for like the last month lives back home in Germany. I am going to Germany in December and me and him have been talking about finally meeting. Please dont lecture me about internet dating please. Past that..anyways everything has been going good. We talked every night and we have been having fun. Recently we have been getitng intimate and I told him my rule about like sex..I have to be in a relationship..anwyays it seemed fine with him and we kept talking becuase he had told me already he liked me. We are only able to talk when he is at work becuase that is the only place he is able to get internet connection. So on Sunday I figured he was busy becuase he wasn't talking much, but we did talk and it was just pretty intimate and fun as usual. Usually I do see him but I guess like I said that night he was busy...but when he left he didn't even say goodbye. It has been a week now since I've talked to him, he said he was off for a few days but now Im just worried. I'm scared that he's lost interest in me or something ebcause I thought I heard he would only be gone for a couple of days...but I'm just scared theres no way I can contac him..what do I do?? I'm just scared he lost interest in me...please help Thank you

I wouldn't jump to conclusions i'd wait and be patient give him the benefit of the doubt he could be busy working i don't think he'd abandon you after you two agreeded to meet one another and
since you've been talking think positively thinking negatively will only make the situation worst also you'll make yourself feel worst i'm sure once he has some free time he'll find some way to contact you you've just got to continue living life and find some things to keep yourself busy so you aren't thinking about it :)

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13 almost 14f

wow i have too many guys on my mind!! i still like my 2nd most recent ex, im in love with another ex, i REALLY REALLY like my boyfriend, and i have feelings for this other dude at my school!!! ughh i just don't know what i can do to get them off my mind. it seems like more guys just keep getting added to my confusion... any ideas??

thanks,

utterly confused chick

If you keep yourself busy you won't have time to think about boys so do whatever needs to be done
and just go about living your life there's more important things to think about then love and relationships your young enjoy it while you can
i'd move on seeing as your confused and your making yourself stressed out :)

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Sorry if this is in wrong thing.

Ok lately this year i've been txting or aim some girls and they all say im annoying and i need to leave them alone. This one girl said she would give me a 2nd chance and i sorta liked her so i tried i guess to be less annoying or whatever it seems that i do. So she doesn't txt or anything and so i haven't been txting her lately or aiming her. Then tonight i said hey whats up and she flipped out. This other girl i know that is friends with her has done the same thing so what do i do wrong?

I don't think you did anything wrong your simply
trying to talk to them don't let it bother you move on and forget about it you don't need people like that in your life there's plenty of other people that you can become friends with and who will you treat you better you don't deserve to be treated like that your just trying to create conversation and talk they aren't worth your time
forget what others think as long as you don't think your annoying you should be fine :)

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I made a MySpace in 2005 that I lost both the password and emaily address to shortly after. It isn't set to private, and I have lots of embarrassing pictures and information that everyone tells me about when they search my name. How can I get it deleted? Is that even possible to do, since I have no proof that it's mine? Who would I contact?

Yes you can delete your myspace! :)

http://www.ehow.com/how_2031000_delete-myspace-accounts.html

Just look at that and it will explain step by step
how to delete it follow what it says to do!

Hope that helps!

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Is it true that my favorite show is going away forever? :'( One of my friends told me but she also always makes fun of me for watching Oprah ALL the time. Is she serious or just teasing me?

Please tell me it isn't true! :(

Sadly i think she is ending her show iv'e never watched it myself but if you want more information
you should read this :)

http://tv.yahoo.com/news/article/tv.tvguide.com/tv.tvguide.com-oprah-winfrey-ending-talk-show-feels-right-my-bones

Just copy and paste it hope it helps!

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