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Too soon? (romance...)
i'm 16, he's 18. we've been dating for nearly two months and been "official" for one. he didn't kiss me until the third date, though we held hands on the first. since then things have kind of come naturally. we've moved at a good pace. we had our first "intense" makeout session this week. like, really passionate. though we've made out a lot before.
my boyfriend's really creative, which i love, haha. we fool around with each others necks and ears - and we're totally comfortable - and two weeks ago he started kissing my stomach. this week i raised my shirt up rightt to my underwire, and he licked under where i had my shirt pushed up to.
although i like to take things slow, and im saving myself for marriage, im absolutely fine with what he did. it actually felt great haha.
but my boyfriend asked me if i'd be okay if he got some whipped cream. i said that was fine. he asked where i wanted it, and i said to "get creative ;)" and he said he needed a little help. i suggested we play a game where i put the whipped cream somewhere and he had to find it, but could only use his lips. he loves the idea lmao.
anyway. the shirt i was wearing before was a low scoopneck, so when i raised it up its not like there was a whole lot of upper body coverage. im considering taking my shirt off for the "whipped cream game" but i think it may be too soon. this guy respects me and would never do anything i didnt want him to. he knows i'm saving myself for marriage. as long as i make clear to him he's not removing my bra, do you think it would be too soon to have him kiss my upper chest?
this goes against everything ive ever been taught but this guy doesnt want me for my body, hes made clear of that. we're both just passionate people- like, he likes to sneak in quick kisses whenever he can; its cute, not touchyfeely. i just want to have some fun. i dont think this is something im gonna look back on and regret, i mean its not like he's gonna feel me up or anything. opinions? & sorry for the length haha:) thaaanks!
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I don't think you should take your shirt off, lift it up sure but taking it off is like leading to a hole different thing. Since you said it was going against your believes i would just be very wise and carefal about what you do with him and how far you go with him.
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No i don't think it's too soon for him to kiss your upper chest if you feel comfortable with him
doing that then you should allow him too also if you don't feel like it's something you'll end up regretting then i'd say go for it it's worth a shot be creative experiment with him fool around seeing as he wouldn't do anything that you didn't want him too trust him and like i said go for it :)
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If you're saving yourself for marriage, then make sure you avoid getting naked. Nudity and touching will lead to sex.
As for what's right or wrong, it's your body and your comfort zone. You need to evaluate what you feel okay with doing and what your boundaries are.
For adult couples abstaining from sex, you have to walk a fine line between sharing physical intimacy and not taking things too far.
For teenage relationships, the same sort of thing applies. You don't want to have sex, your boyfriend knows this, so ensure you keep a good dialogue going about what's working and what is making you uncomfortable and also what is making him too aroused so you'll both know when to stop.
Also know that as you mature into a fully grown woman, your needs and beliefs and plans may change and that's totally okay too. I think you're on the right track by thinking ahead about what you may or may not regret. Keep looking inward for answers about what you want in your relationship.
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