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seeing your children naked
i am a single dad of 4 children 3 girls age 9 , 13, 16, and a boy age 8 my sister has been questing my children about me seeing them naked.
i bath my 8, and 9 year old and wash my 13 year old hair the only reason i help my 16 year old is bescause she has 2 broken arms and a broken leg who eles can hekp me
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How would it have been if your mother helped you wash after you hit puberty?
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Though it would be nice if your sister helped, you should be thankful that she cares enough about your kids to question them.
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you need your sister or another female to help out with the 16 year old. the 13 year old is old enough to wash her own hair if it is not done right ask her to go back and rinse it out again. the 8 and 9 year old both can bath them self. I would agree with your sister no offence but your children are old enough to bath them self.and the 13 year old could help out with the 9 year old girl.
I HAVE 3 THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
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dude, just an observation, but I was bathing myself at age five..I understand where you're coming from with taking care of the kids, but theres a point where you're hampering their development and creating a creepy situation. as for your older daughter, ask your sister to help out if she's that concerned...mention to her that its really awkward for you to do it, and that since she's the "reigning feminine authority" she should help out. sounds like your daughter's either active in sports, or suffered some queer twist of fate, but I'm sure she wouldn't be opposed to her aunt helping.
I feel for you dude, I hope I never have to give any awkward spongebaths to my kids...
good luck
-Gunner
I'm actually kinda curious as to what my rating was before the mod changed it... and where exactly did I accuse you of harming your kids? ehh.... whatever, there's breakfast to be had, and insurgents to crush. good day to you.
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Okay...I am going to try to answer this question delicately, because I think this is a "delicate" situation. First of all, I am not saying that you mean anything but the best for your children. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you taking care of four children all alone. You seem to be doing the best you can. But I think it might be time to step back and think about the "delicate" stuff. Yes, you want to take care of them and help them get washed properly, but there is also that "delicate" stuff that needs to come into play, especially at the ages that your girls are now. I might be wrong, but I would think that the 9 year old should be able to begin washing herself, with supervision. She should be holding the wash cloth and doing the washing and you should just be helping out with her hair, maybe. But at the same time, you should be teaching her how to wash her own hair and get the shampoo out when rinsing, etc. For the girl who is 13, there is absolutely no reason why she shouldn't be washing her own hair and rinsing it properly, as well. Could you start instructing her to do it herself with the idea that you can start backing off, just as you are with the 9 year old taking her own bath?
As far as the 16 year old, you seem to be doing the best you can, considering all of her problems. It certainly looks like you could use some help with her. Is there someone you could hire to come in and give her a bath a couple of times a week? Like a home health worker? They do not get paid all that much, but that might be something to look into, considering all of her broken bones. And she may feel less embarrassed about her father having to bathe her, as well.
Please don't take these suggestions as anything but trying to help out with the "delicate" situation of a Dad trying to do his best, but having girls to help. Good luck.
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The 16 year old can get the 13 year old to help her or something. Why are you washing your 13 year olds hair? Something about that is just seriously not right. They are women, not children. Even when I was 8 and 9, I was bathing myself. It's not that complicated of a task.
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You should tell your sister that your a single parent obviously and you have nobody elese to clean your children how elese does she expect them to get clean seeing as they are young they
aren't going to clean themselves it's not like your harming them or putting them in any danger your just simply cleaning them i could see if they
were stangers then that'd be a different story then she'd have something to question you about i wouldn't let your sister affect just continue being a parent to your children you can hire a babysitter or someone that can look after them if you feel comfortable doing that :)
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If your sister is so concerned with you seeing your female children naked, especially your 16 year old daughter, then maybe she should offer to help out with the bathing and grooming chores. The bigger question I would be concerned with is if your sister is asking your children; if they see you naked, sleep naked with you in your bed with you or other inappropriate actions. Then the question becomes what reason does your sister has for asking these questions of your children? Would she ask the same question of her sister if her sister had 3 male children and was a single parent? Of course you don’t have the answer to that question.
I would suggest you ask her straight out why she is asking these questions of your children. You may want to ask her if the question I asked about a single mother and male children.
As to your original question: Unless you can afford to hire a Nanny, or your sister is willing to help out there is not much else you can do. The only other possibility is to ask your communities Social Service Department for whatever assistance they can offer.
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