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confidence builder!!!
19- FEMALE.
i'm basically in a very confusing situation, which shouldn't even be that hard in the first place! i've never had an actual boyfriend, i've had flings with guys but i've always been the one to break it off. guys are the ones who always text me, i usually don't have to text them which is a good thing for me. that all changed when i met this guy about 4yrs ago. you'd probably think i'd be really comfortable with him by now right? naaahh. he's the only guy that i can't build myself up to even ask him to hang out because i'm scared of rejection. not so much rejection, just the fact that he'd be busy and i'd sound dumb. i could ask any other guy to hang out and wouldn't care if they couldn't it'd be no big deal but not with this guy. he's actually a senior in high schoool; yeah he's even younger than me and i'm STILL intimidated. he plays football hockey and baseball for school so he's always busy with that and then his crazy ex girlfriend of 3yrs is still basically in love with him and begs him to hang out and so he does, because he's a good guys, whatever. i'm always scared he's either going to be with her or the hockey guys. he's going to play for a d1 college next yr for hockey so i want to try and spend as much time with him as i can now, but it's not going too good. he never texts me either, to hang out. i kind of feel like he's afraid to ask me too because when we talked about it like a yr ago i was like you never ask me to hang out and he was like NO you never ask ME, i'm always the one texting you. it's true, when we DO hang out he pretty much asks me. i can't overcome asking him to hang out or even text him first. i always have to have a reason to text him. he's a great guy, i love the kid to death and the weird thing is when we hang out i can tell him anything. it's just the asking him to hang out which is the problem. how can i overcome this? the worst he could say is "sorry i already have plans" but i'd still feel dumb and be like "oohhh...okay" and then if i ran into him somewhere i'd be embarassed? it's sad how every weekend i just wish he'd ask me to do something, but nope. and i can't build up the confidence to ask him. it's just how i am. uhhhh why am i so dumb :( can i overcome this? WHY can't i?
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Girl its ok to just ask him if he wants to hangout! just play it off smooth and TEXT HIM FIRST! just say hey or somethin casual, ask him if he has plans goin on this weekend and if he says nope then say me either wanna hangout and it will go fine i beleive in u girl just go for it and after the first time u will get over it i promise :)
good luck!
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