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I have really fat arms, and I started lifting weights... my question is... will it get rid of the fat or just add muscle?
If it's only adding muscle, how can i get rid of the excess fat?
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no itll just add muscle and make your arms bigger but more toned like because some peoples arms wobble with the muscles they wont do that..if u wanna loose arm fat then use natural weight like dont use any weight..do soem boxing or use a punching bag for resistance it will tone up your arms and make them smaller when you run or walk make sure you are strongly swinging your arms this too will help you
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Help me make sense of this!!!! Two years ago I told my friend I had feelings for her that went deeper than friendship. (We are both females) She said she was SHOCKED when I told her. Although I don't think she was shocked at all. Keep in mind we live 1300 miles apart and she is in an unhappy marriage and has been for about 8 years, she has been married for 37 years and got married to get out of the house and away from her step-dad. (nothing sexual there, he was just mean). She is 55 years old and I am 48. Anyway at that time 2 years ago she denied feeling the same way towards me. We email often and just last week she flew up here to spend the week with me on vacation, left her husband home. During our time together that week she told me she had fallen out of love with her husband some time ago and she wished she would win the lottery so she could buy a summer home in the town I live so we could be closer. She also has told me if she was younger she would leave his hind-end in a heartbeat. We drank some wine and I told her I don't let myself get to tipsy anymore because I am a big flirt, but she kept saying to me through the week, hey let's get shit-faced, let's get a matching tattoo to commerate our vacation together. Now why would she want me to get shit-faced when I told her I get flirty?? And why would she want us to get matching tattoo's? She also touched me alot, putting her hand on my knee during a time when we had someone take our picture together, grabbing my arm etc. and I caught her looking at my legs and eyeing me up. She told me she didn't want to go back home and that we should have taken 2 weeks of vacation instead of one but if we did take 2 weeks vacation she wouldn't go back home. She called me a few days after she got home and back to work, she said she told her coworkers she had to pee and then called me while she was in the bathroom. She mentioned again we should have taken two weeks of vacation and she missed me alot and couldn't wait to see me again and get together again. What I don't understand is first, why would she spend a week with me, tell me how unhappy she is in her marriage, touch me alot and sometimes even in a baby tone of voice tell me how much she was going to miss me if she KNOWS how I feel about her??? She knows my feelings are stronger than friendship so WHY this behavior. Am I over reacting to her actions or is she into me but can't or won't admit it??? Sometimes I think she likes the fact that I am in love with her and she wants me to be. Where do I go from here? I do believe she is in love with me. Having said that, the whole marriage thing she is involved in makes it impossible for her to admit her feelings to herself much less me. I wonder and please tell me what you think!!! If I make myself less available to her and let her know I am going out and having fun with other friends of mine if it will push her into revealing her true feelings for me. One way or another I need to know and I know she won't tell me even if I ask her straight out. I wonder if maybe she starts to feel like she is losing me if she will step it up so to speak and tell me how she really feels.
Please help!!!!!!!! Thank you so much!!
Kelsi
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heyyy you sound really stressed!ok firstly i think she likes you but is scared..has she ever been with a girl before because she could be alittle confused and doesnt know how she feels she may think she likes you but she may also think that she likes you because you two are really good friends. its ovious she wnats to be with you and probibly she wants you to to get drunk so that you two can hook up because without the alcohol shell be too scared too. i rekon talk to her before hand and ask her how shes feeling i mean she flew all the way to see you atleast get something out of it, find out what she really wants, who she really wants sit her down while drinking alittle wine and ask her how she feels about you. youll never know if you dont ask
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Ok Well I had sex about a week ago and i think im pregnant! i got off my period the day before i had sex... and i have cramps now..could i be pregnant? (link)
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Its too soon to tell, if you think you could be pregnant and dont want to be then take the emergency pill..usually if you are pregnant first signs will be that your nipples get darker the cramps could mean anything just take precautions, see your doctor ASAP for an emergency pill or talk to them about these cramps your getting..goodluck dont be scred youll be fine
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Well I have two questions to this topic. First I will explain the situation.
My boyfriend and I broke up (Ex now) about a month and a half ago. I left him after 2 years because he always abused me, never made time for me, and wouldn't let me do anything. He used me sexually and financially. I finally left, and couple weeks later I found someone else. I got over it so quickly because I never really loved my ex for a couple months prior to the breakup. I finally did because I couldn't handle it anymore. Well my new boyfriend and I are in love, happy, and such.
Problem is, the ex is still trying to contact me. He calls and texts me from different numbers; he IMs me from screenames I never even gave him; hhe tried messaging me on myspace but I blocked him.
He wants me back obviously, but I am not taking him back. I keep telling him to leave me alone but he won't. He's really becoming so bothersome that I feel stuck.
He has threatened me in the past, says he has stalkers on me, and knows where I live. My parents suggested a restraining order and a number (cell) change. Now they think a restraining order is a waste, when I would feel safer doing it. Now they just think a number change is better. I will consider the number change.
So my questions are, what all do restraining orders do? And is it worth doing it in my situation?
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he sounds like an ass! What id do before you ask for a restraining order is have full and solid proof that he wotn leave you alone..like bunch up all your emails all myspace comments make sure that you have proof that you have told him to leave you alone and proof that after you warned him he is still trying to contact you. when you have all this go to the policce and explain the situation
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My highschool has done a lot wrong for me. I left school because my insomnia is terrible causing me to leave school. I had documents stating I needed to be home schooled. For months my school ignored me and my mom about a tutor. We finally got one but then the school failed to give me ANY WORK! My tutor had to make up lesson plans for me. Then the school ignored that work! But yet they have the time to send me a letter to attend summer school. I got my tutor and had to pay her out of my own pocket! I took the MCAS with her and did pretty good since it was in biology and I hadn't had any kind of biology in 8 months due to my school. They keep ignoring me and I'm sick and tired of it. They're just going to keep me back a year but that's not fair! They deff aren't giving me my rights. Who can I call to get my school in some sort of trouble like some education department for the state or something? I live in massachusetts.
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theyr diffinitly not giving you your student rights..you need to find your student charters.i live in New Zealand and thats what they call it it has all the students rights in it,let me see if i can find soemthing for you. Get intouch with The Massachusetts Board of Education theyr incharge of all the schools and they give out fundings and set the rules and they pretty much the boss of your school. try find out what your school goal is and your schools charter just google your school name and add the word charter at the end.
Check this wesite out this will tell you your rights as a student
http://www.aclum.org/students/StudentRights.pdf
or this one but the first site is the best
http://www.aclum.org/issues/studentsrights.php
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Okay, So I was awarded 3 scholarships. They totaled to about 800 dollars. The thing is, I may not be able to go to college in the fall, but I'd still like to attend college in the spring semester. So, would I still be able to keep the scholarship money in order to use for the spring semester?
Thanks!
Oh, I would ask my mom but she knows NOTHING about college, etc. (if you're wondering) (link)
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heyy well done for getting the scholarships!!! umm youd have to ask them because usually they send the money to your provider not to you just tell them your situation and ask if they can keep your scholarship on hold till next fall..give it a go but usually i dont think they do it..just explain your situation to them
Just to add on..yeah if you can cash it into your bank account and youll be usuing it for the purpose theyv given it to you then it shouldnt be any trouble, just make sure if youv signed a contract of anything with them read the terms and conditions of getting a scholarship
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hi, i was wondering if anyone could help me. I really like amy lee's style (hair, clothes, makeup, etc.) and I wanna know if anyone could give me any tips on how to look like her. (link)
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Her style is quite hard to pull off..have u got blue eyes??she wear alot of clack eyeliner around her eyes and has pitch black hair she really likes to wear that blood red type of colour on her lips and clothes. shes got the goth look going on so go for the dark blood red and black colour and boots with alot of laces..shes really into laces and short layered skirts..her hair is really long with side bangs i think all of this is just stating the obvious but i hope it helps
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In a long distance relationship, basically we talk everyday & last night it was silent & I had to leave, when I left he sounded kinda mad. All day today I had the feeling he didn't want to talk to me, but I knew if I didn't call him, he'd be more mad.
So I called, wanting to fix the situation/ask whats up, and his brother answered. I talked to his brother for 2 1/2 hours, then it was time for my track practice again. My bf was there next to him the entire time, on xbox, and talked to me for basically 30 seconds said hey how are you, then left. Haha, so I left. I was furious, I've cooled down now.
But I dunno, should I just have no contact w/ him for the next couple days? He's told me before his biggest fear is me just 'disappearing' since we are long distance, so I dunno if that'd make him mad. I don't think I want to break up with him..and I do already miss him, but I feel like I need time to think. It's like my intuition was right, he didn't want to talk to me today for some reason. Ugh, please any advice would help. (link)
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i rekon hes in the wrong here..u havent done anything wrong so he should b the one calling you and trying to fix things. my advise would be is that you have some time to think and clear your head see if hell call you if he does itll show how hes missed you but if he doesnt then id b very angry and call him to see what his problem is
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My friend is turning 20 in about 2 weeks...what are things that we can do for her birthday weekend?? She has a bf, he will be coming as well, so nothing that involve wat a single woman would do..thanks! (link)
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oh funnnn!!!!i rekon you should go for a road trip and stay in a bach near the beach so you can go for a swim at night or have a barbeque on the beach..itll be cheaper to stay in a bach rather than a hotel enjoy!
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There's this guy I really like,and we've been bffs for a few years.But in time I fell head over heels for him.He's very popular and has lots of friends(mostly girls).The thing is he just treats me differently.He's caring,gentle and always makes me feel right,he's always there for me,he knows what I need,what to say,do,and when...What's also a problem is his sexual orientation.One second he seems gay,then he's normal again.Btw,he told me he's a bit gay...but the things he does when with me just show the opposite.Should I go for it?I don't know what to do,I've loved him for so long and I have a feeling he loves me too,but I'm really afraid of getting rejected...I was extremely hurt in my previous relationships.I don't want to lose my best friend,then yet,I can't keep this a secret from him much longer...
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ok this is a very touchy situation..i rekon you should indirectly hint it to him like ask him if he likes anyone or what hed do if you told him u liked him.from what i see your ganna tell him in the end just put in your mind whatever he says dont be hurt by it because you dont want to loose the friendship you already have. if your sure he likes you then go for it but just put in mind that he may not want to be with you because it could ruin the friendship. once you start dating you cnt go back to being just friends if anything happens
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Hi. I am a sixteen year old girl and a junior in highschool, and I have kidney disease. All of the guys that I like that ask me out, dump me as soon as they find out that I can't do some of the stuff that they can. Also, I have two brothers in Iraq and an ill mother. Whenever a guy finds out any of this he'll avoid me. It makes me mad, but am I being stupid? Is it too much for a guy to handle? The only thing that would directly effect our relationship is that I can't do anything really vigorous. I'm not a sad depressed person either. I'm normal and very happy. Am I being unreasonable to ask for a guy to like me? I would really appreciate your input. (link)
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look at it this way..guys that that have brains the size of peanuts thats y they need girl to do all the thinking for them..how dare they do that.its sooo mean!im reallly truly sorry you have kidney disease i mean it hard enough having the disease and on top having your bf leaving you because of it. it just sounds like the pressures to much to handle and so they dont know how to react or what to do so they just run away because its easier that way for them, taking the easy way out. my advise is dont let them in to quickly, wait untill you know they really do love you and really do want to be with you before you tell them anything to personal because eventhough they may look strong deep down theyr no where near as strong as you
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15/f so i was sick for about five days and went to the doctor and got some blood work done - everything came back negative. then i got an ultra sound and they found out that i have gallstones and sludge in my gallbladder, so i have to get my gallbladder removed next week. its really rare for kids to have problems with their gallbladders so everyone is baffled by this including me. i am actually underweight, so my eating habits obviously did not affect this. they have no idea how this could have happened. along with that i've noticed that there has been some brownish redish stuff coming out of where my period comes out of, but my period doesnt come for a couple more weeks. but its not like blood at it its way more brown so its not my period and its really weak and i just find it in my underwear sometimes. could this have to do with my gallbladder? its never happened before i dont know what it is please help. (link)
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im really sorry to hear about you getting sick. dont be stressed about the opp just incase youll be fine..about the blood it could mean you have a gallbladder infection i think you should see your doctor. if it hurts to pee then its difinitly a bladder infection, dont stress about it just yet because it could just be your period, due to all the stress your going through that could cause it
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so i started my period on the 29th with a little spotting than became normal by the 31st it should have been gone by the 2nd but i still have it on the 4&&5 it was spotting again than yesterday just light and today its light again and its on my 10th day! this isnt normal for me im usually only on it for like 4-5 days! should i go to the doctor! (link)
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i dont think theres anything to worry about...sometimes periods can go upto 2 weeks, you could of been emotional or very stressed which could have triggered this or u could be slow flowing and taking twice as long..if you keep bleeding after another 4 days difinitly see a doctor..if your still uncertain go see a doctor anyway just to be on the safe side but dont stress over it untill u need to
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18/f(me) 20/m (bf)
So I have a boyfriend who I have been with for about 2 years & 4 months. We don't go out much, but we see each other often. I know this is bad but I tend to lie about where I'm going to my bf and hear me out. My boyfriend doesn't have many friends and he doesn't go out much. He doesn't like me hanging out with guys and always complains if he goes along with me when I hang out with my friends. So I don't say theres guys there and I saw I'm at a girlfriends house. I feel bad but if I told the truth he'd flip. Also, he won't let me go to the club and I understand where hes coming from, but I offer him coming with me because if I were to go to the club it's not to get guys to hit on me and what not. I can't dance but I like to. Plus, theres other stuff to do there like pool,darts,tables to sit out and a lounge. Also, I wouldn;t dance with a guy, I would go with girlfriends or my bf. I see nothing wrong with this, but maybe thats just me. I don't know what to do anymore. And to top it off, I might be going to a college like an hour away from home and he'll be staying here. I don't know whether or not I should call it quits or take a break or just see what happens if I do go there and if it doesn't work out then break up. Any advice would be greatly appreciated :] (link)
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heyyy...he must reeeaallly love you if he acts like that, hes just scared that because your a gorgeous woman that any guy would get hung up on he feels like theres a chance that he could loose you to someone else and even if theres the slightest chance he doesnt want to risk it because its too risky to loose you. i rekon if you love him youll make the sacrafice to a limit tho.you need to make him understand that your need your own time with your friends you need to tell him that hes the only one in your eyes but u need the friends too because the friends are always going to be there if anything goes wrong. i dont think he should b tying you down tho..once you go to gollege youll have more time to do things and maybe you can come home on the weekends to b with him..i rekon take it as it comes,stick with him when your at college and just see how it goes.dont through away those two years just yet..your very lucky to have someone to care for you this strongly.id cherish the moment while its still there... hope this helped:)
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Im 18/f and my boyfriend is 21/m we have been dating for about 6 months are up until recently it never hurt when we had sex. I've been noticing if we have sex more than like twice a day its like a burning sensation and i tense up and we have to stop because it hurts so bad. This has never happened before. Is it possible that each time we have sex he's tearing something? The burning sensation is like at the bottom of the "hole" is there something wrong with me? Why all of a sudden is it happening now? Hes not very big either, so i have no idea what it could be :( (We were both tested and clean)
Thanks a bunch
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are you by any chance bleeding?i think that the position you two have been having sex may have ripped something like maybe if your doing it in the car or something the position of his penis going into you might of caused alittle cut in your vagina. id say no sex for a week or two just to let it heal.
i advise you see a doctor too just incase im wrong
did this help?
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My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive? (link)
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heyyy!
this is really touching and i truly feel bad for you. i wish i was there physically to help you out. ofcourse its not fair when your the one getting the wrong end of the deal. the one thats being picked on. the one thats never been put first.i was once alone i couldnt talk to my friends about my problems because it was just way over their heads. i surrfered alot through my life and never actually got over what happened to me in the past but dont you think that your alive right now for a reason?there mayb another girl out there feeling just as alone as your are today waiting to find someone like you to help her the way that you wished to be helped. you say that you feel like everyone hates you but your wrong. i mean right now i dont hate you. you dont need to be popular to feel loved. if people make fun of you then theyr not nice people, theyr not someone you would call a friend if they hurt you. theres always going to be someone thats not going to like someone else i mean i have my enemies too we all do. ways to make you feel better is doing things that make you happy like singing, reading, going for a drive just anything that makes you smile. and the problem with your parents i really think you should talk to them tell them you really hate it and if they dont stop then you can only change yourself. just laugh it off and pretend you dont care. make yourself believe you dont care and you wont.if you ever need me just add me sia.d.sus@hotmail.com
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i'm waiting for my ex. and he always thinks i'm flirting with other guys, but i really don't try to..i guess thats just my way of being friendly. i don't want him to think this so how can i still be friendly with guys without coming off as flirty?
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heyyyy...id say try to not be touchy or playful,like dont hug them as a greeting or pay heaps of attention to them.make sure your ex bf is the one that you pay the most attention.try not to hang out with them so much and maybe try to not talk about guys to your ex cuz that could make him jealous
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Ok, so I have been having some stressful days ever since 7th grade. I am in 10 next school year. I have built up this negative energy in my room and now whenever i go in there, i get this stressful feeling. One time when i went to bed when everyone else was at the bowling alley, I saw a boy around 17 black hair blue eyes staring at me. He had this look of anger, depression, and stress on his face. After i rubbed my eyes he was gone.
Is it a ghost or a poltergeist?
PS: i heard from TAPS on an episode that a ghost is different from a poltergeist. A poltergeist is human generated for some sort of pshychological need and a ghost is a spirit who either doesnt want to cross over or doesnt know they are dead.
Did i see a poltergeist that I created, or was it a ghost?
I am scared...so answer quickly please!! (link)
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i think if it looked like a real person and was visible to you then it must be a ghost dont worry its ok he shouldnt b able to hurt u unless he feels threatned by you.try to speak to him just ask him what he wants and not to b afraid.sounds like he could of died tradgically that maybe why he was angry or stressed that he just left the earth without any warning he must have seen how his loved ones are and maybe feeling depressed or this could of been his state before he died. i mean a boy thats 17 wouldnt b a poltergeist because well that just doesnt make sense.
this boy could need your help and if u can see him again make him aware you can see him.
dont worry if he wanted to hurt you he would of done it straight away without showing himself to you i rekon just relax
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16/f
i wear thongs just about everyday, i even wear then to lacrosse practice. (but i don't wear them to bed.)
is that bad? could it cause any problems 'down there'? (link)
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na they shouldnt give you any problems but yeah do not at alll wear them to be but uv mentioned you dont soo your doing fine..yeah thongs can b better than underwear i find them more comfortable:)
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Well to start off, its hard to admit-but i guess its time i say it anways. I'm most deffinatly a socially awkward person. I mean, i'll have a close net of friends- but everything about me screams awkward. Hahah, all the conversations are so ridiculously awkward i just laugh afterwards, because i completely blew another chance of making a friend. How can i fix this?
Another thing is my lack of emotion. I looked up some things on it,and i feel almost as if i'm empty.(depression?) Theres some pressure on my chest that just makes me feel weird when i breathe,and i daze out all the time. It's gotten so bad i barely have the want to finish this sentance. I just lifeless most of the time,and dont feel like doing anything. I actually mentioned to my mom i thought i was depressed, but she blamed it on the seasons changing. Even though i've felt like this for awhile. The main thing is,i don't know what emotions are really. My mood all the time is just,blank. Boring. Bleak. Most people at this stage would probably feel like they want to just crawl in a hole and die. But not me, no. I want to do dangerous things. Extreme things, like skydiving. The way i see it, if i die, oh well, if i don't-move on to the next extreme thing. I just want to go crazy and do everything. But- i don't have energy. I wish i did, i just can't bring myself to even talk to people that much anymore. Ahh i'm very confused at life at the moment. If you have any advice on this subject i'd much appreciate it, i just want to feel something. How? Rah, hah this is the corniest thing i've written-ever. Thanks for reading,though ! (link)
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:) this isnt corny at all..can you think of something that happened in your past tht affected you really badly?like i dunno someone in your family that you were close to dying?being raped or molestered?(i know its an extreme thing to ask) but things like this can trigger this type of reaction.your kind of beyond the depression stage and upto the watever i dont care anymore stage.it could b a form of depression or it could be something that your subconciously bottling up that needs to come out..if you can think of anything then talk to someone about it even if its a counselor it can help or write it on a peice of paper then burrying it, burning it or even ripping it up and letting it go.seems to me like youv got something thats affected you so badly its taken away your strive to want to be something.Heapsa people out there including me would love to have a friend that sees the world so much differently than others its what makes you unique.im guessing you just think differently than the rest of the zombies we have on this planet.id love to be your friend dont worry you will find people out there that really enjoy hanging out with people like tht
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