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Restraining Orders
Well I have two questions to this topic. First I will explain the situation.
My boyfriend and I broke up (Ex now) about a month and a half ago. I left him after 2 years because he always abused me, never made time for me, and wouldn't let me do anything. He used me sexually and financially. I finally left, and couple weeks later I found someone else. I got over it so quickly because I never really loved my ex for a couple months prior to the breakup. I finally did because I couldn't handle it anymore. Well my new boyfriend and I are in love, happy, and such.
Problem is, the ex is still trying to contact me. He calls and texts me from different numbers; he IMs me from screenames I never even gave him; hhe tried messaging me on myspace but I blocked him.
He wants me back obviously, but I am not taking him back. I keep telling him to leave me alone but he won't. He's really becoming so bothersome that I feel stuck.
He has threatened me in the past, says he has stalkers on me, and knows where I live. My parents suggested a restraining order and a number (cell) change. Now they think a restraining order is a waste, when I would feel safer doing it. Now they just think a number change is better. I will consider the number change.
So my questions are, what all do restraining orders do? And is it worth doing it in my situation?
Thanks in advance.
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he sounds like an ass! What id do before you ask for a restraining order is have full and solid proof that he wotn leave you alone..like bunch up all your emails all myspace comments make sure that you have proof that you have told him to leave you alone and proof that after you warned him he is still trying to contact you. when you have all this go to the policce and explain the situation
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He sounds kinda creepy, especially the whole, "I have stalkers on you" thing. Seriously, I'd be freaked out. Hahah.
"A restraining order tells the person who may be hurting you to stop hitting, threatening, or harming you in any way. It can also order the person (see note below) to stay away from you, to move out of your home, or to stop coming to your home. It can also give you temporary custody of your children, though it cannot be used only for this purpose. The person can be arrested if he/she threatens or physically hurts you, or contacts you or comes near you when the restraining order says he/she is not allowed to do so."
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First try the number change. If he somehow gets it or if he starts threatening you, then I'd go for the restraining order.
Hope I helped! :D
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hello, i have a little experience in restraining orders and i dont think in your case that you need one. i think that a cell change would be perfect. and also if your ex harrases you in any way for example by text or when he instant messages you, you can go to the police and they can scare some sence into him. but a restraining order will only keep him away by law. it means he cant come near you or he will be put in custody. and from what i read he hasnt come near you so i dont think thats necesary. but if you want to, to make you feel safe, then you should get one.
i hope my advice helps you. *!^ ~katrina.
hello, its me again. by what i know and have read the restraining order means he cannot come close to you. im pretty sure the judge or police say how many feet it is that he has to keep away. for example: lets say ur restraining order is for 100 ft. he cant come within 100 feet of you and if he does you tell the police and he will be put in jail.
i hope i helped you.. let me know.
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