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Lieing,club & college
18/f(me) 20/m (bf)
So I have a boyfriend who I have been with for about 2 years & 4 months. We don't go out much, but we see each other often. I know this is bad but I tend to lie about where I'm going to my bf and hear me out. My boyfriend doesn't have many friends and he doesn't go out much. He doesn't like me hanging out with guys and always complains if he goes along with me when I hang out with my friends. So I don't say theres guys there and I saw I'm at a girlfriends house. I feel bad but if I told the truth he'd flip. Also, he won't let me go to the club and I understand where hes coming from, but I offer him coming with me because if I were to go to the club it's not to get guys to hit on me and what not. I can't dance but I like to. Plus, theres other stuff to do there like pool,darts,tables to sit out and a lounge. Also, I wouldn;t dance with a guy, I would go with girlfriends or my bf. I see nothing wrong with this, but maybe thats just me. I don't know what to do anymore. And to top it off, I might be going to a college like an hour away from home and he'll be staying here. I don't know whether or not I should call it quits or take a break or just see what happens if I do go there and if it doesn't work out then break up. Any advice would be greatly appreciated :]
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Your boyfriend is being controlling. Period. That is not acceptable. You are a human being, and you should be able to make your own choices so long as those choices don't adversely affect someone else. He can't forbid you from doing it. You deserve better than that!
Your boyfriend needs to man up and TRUST you. This is something you have to tell him. Stop hiding what you're doing or where you're going. If he complains or threatens, so be it. You can't go through life with this guy looking over your shoulder and controlling your every movement!
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i can understand you you are young and want to have fun, go clubbing, chill with friends & guys and all that kinds of stuff. Being in a long relationship can kinda make you feel as if your tied down & married. Seems like to me that you are at that stage where you are growing up & wanna live your life. Almost every couple who has been together for such a long time, since they were a bit young tends to go through this stage in the relationship..At this point you really should take a break from your man. This would allow you to see if you really enjoy being by yourself or can live without your man. I hope he pretty much understands what a "break" not like a complete break up but just some time apart for you to clear your head. Remember that your man has probably already pass that stage and is just really to settle down without playing games and wants you all to himself, while you may wanna party and do you. So really take a little time apart to think about what you want in your life. He seems like a guy who really love you and wanna be with you forever. You dont really wanna keep lieing to him because in reality you are hurting him without him knowing, but you never know he can always find out the hard way and cause serious problem. so really think this over..(((trust me this happened to me before, i ended up staying with my man cause i realize that he was more important to me than anything and everyone else,,,4yrs && many more =)))) listen to your heart and not what by people tell you.. G00d luck
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heyyy...he must reeeaallly love you if he acts like that, hes just scared that because your a gorgeous woman that any guy would get hung up on he feels like theres a chance that he could loose you to someone else and even if theres the slightest chance he doesnt want to risk it because its too risky to loose you. i rekon if you love him youll make the sacrafice to a limit tho.you need to make him understand that your need your own time with your friends you need to tell him that hes the only one in your eyes but u need the friends too because the friends are always going to be there if anything goes wrong. i dont think he should b tying you down tho..once you go to gollege youll have more time to do things and maybe you can come home on the weekends to b with him..i rekon take it as it comes,stick with him when your at college and just see how it goes.dont through away those two years just yet..your very lucky to have someone to care for you this strongly.id cherish the moment while its still there... hope this helped:)
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I'd say you need to talk it out with him. Tell him you feel trapped because you don't have any freedom to see your friends, and explain that he should trust you with other guys. It's really all about communication. People getting jealous is natural, but also unhealthy to a point. I'm sure if you talk it out it'll all be okay. I go through the same thing. It's more about being insecure on if the other person feels the same about you. Make sure you explain how much you care.
As for the college thing, you can still come home every once and awhile. But, my advice is, take it one day at a time. Don't think too much ahead. Enjoy what you have. :D
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