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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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hi! im skiing [for the first time] this weekend thru my high schools' ski club :S well thats not much time to do any long-term preparations or anything, but i just thought i would post in case anyone wanted to give me advice about workin' it on the bunny hill or whatever :D
does anyone have any tips about starting skiing for the first time? i dont really know what to expect and its probably going to suck, because, well, im going to suck. lol. oh well. suggestions/tips appreciated as well as personal experiences :D thanks so much!
OK. NUMBER ONE: IF THERES A FENCE, AT THE END OF THE BUNNY HILL.. WATCH OUT! hahahah. omgg, i broke my finger, because it was fake snow & i was like waving &stuff to people, & then i ran into a fence & when i tried to fall & stop.. my finger went backk. haha. oh & then if that happens to you, & someone tells you to pull it.. dont do it (:
hahahaha.
dress warm, its pretty cold there. wear those dorky looking gogles. or whateverrr. they help, a ton.
if you can.. take lessons. & just because its boring, i'd pay attention, aha. because i didnt & well.. look what happened to me. (: also, don't skip lessons.. because you won't get a sticker..& you wont beable to go on the bigger hills.
& people act like the bunny hills small, BUT ITS NOT. ITS DEATH. its like so big. haha. well.. to me it was (: but thats because i was probably the worst skiier alive.
when you go on the hill, watch out for those stupid snowboarders, who sit on the freakin hill. i ran into the side of the orange fence thingy, on the side as your going down. -__-
but besides that, its really fun. &
you probably won't have to worry
about that stuff, because theres
not a snowballs chance in hell your
gonna suck as much as i do. :D
My best friend and I had the biggest fight we've ever had. She has a new boyfriend. I don't like him. So she's mad at me for "spoiling her happiness". Should I apologize to her, or wait for her to apologize???
I love her a lot. way more than is normal. I tend to get really attached. Help?
Apologize. You may be a tad jealous.. yano? I've been there. Boyfriends have a tendancy to take away friends. Because, well if you've ever had one..then you know how it is. There constantly on your mind, & your so happy someone likes you back. & blah blah blah.. so then when someone goes & tells you that you dont think hes chill. then you know the person is gonna immeditaley flip. just tell her [over the phone or in person is better] that you just feel so bad, that you guys dont hang out alot [if you dont or whatevv] or whatever the promblem is. just tell her your sorry, & you just miss talking to her as much.
If shes a really good friend, she'll forgive you & you guys will hang out & all (:
might be long, please help.
16/f
In ocotber i started going out with a boy. I had liked him all summer and we got really close but it took him a while to ask me out. Wel went out a little over a month(i know not long) and broke up with me because he liked another girl and didnt think it was right. I was really sad cause we were relaly good together eveyone said so. Well we still stayed friend though it was werid at first i sucked it up because i didnt want to loose him all together. He was talking to me online the other day and somehow got into talking about when we were going out and all the times and that we were good together and was like well do ou ever think that we could be back together and i was like im not sure because as much as i want to because i do miss him and liked being with him he hurt me because of another girl and im afraid of it happening again. My friends tell me that he always talks about how he misses me and wishes he didnt do what he did. So i Dont know what to do i just want HONEST opinons. If he asked me back out shoud i do it or would it just be a bad idea.
I'm actually in the SAME exact situation. Like, when you went out with him, in those months & stuff, like its just all exact. lol, & now I think he likes me again.. because he says stuff like that too..& i always wonder to myself.. well what would i say, if he did? & i tell myself, that i'd have to deal with the fact, he'd do it all over again. & if im willing to take the risk of getting hurt again..then i tell myself to go for it. yano? like if you like someone, then give it another shot. the most he can do is hurt you, but hey.. now you can be prepared for it this time. or, you could say.. like "Well, what about what happened last time? i don't want it to happen again.." i think thats what i'd say. haha
anywayys, good luck
14/f
Around last Thursday i was acting really stupid on msn and now this guy thinks i like him, now everyone does when i dont. It's kind of like "big" and i don't know im almost depressed because i don't.
Don't worry about that. People are retarded, they make big deals out of nothing. I say ohh look, that boys cute. & all of my friends immediatly think I like him. its just because there immature. don't worry about it. as long as you know whats true, then who cares. don't act worried about it, just make a joke.
What exactly is the definition of an eating disorder and depression? I go through periods of time, usually they only last 1 or 2 days, (often on weekends or vacations) where I feel totally depressed and fat. I just got an exercise bike and it is REALLY hard for me to stay off it. I feel like every second of time I have, I should be using it. I weigh 85 pounds, and I'm 14, so deep down, I know that I have a decent body. I fear the future, and I fear becoming overweight. For a while, I've been giving part of my dinner to my dad. Particularly things I don't like to eat, such as green beans, sweet potatoes, and chicken. ( But only certain parts of my dinner.) He is starting to suspect me of anorexia.
I don't think I'm anorexic, I just cannot digest a ton of food (mainly veggies and meat) at one time. I feel like my life is "All Or Nothing." I HAVE to eat healthy for the day. If I don't eat healthy and perfectly, then I end up giving up and pigging out on candy. I believe these problems are connected to depression-related problems.
What sense do you make out of all of this?
Am I going crazy?
Please don't sugguest I get professional help.
There is NO way I can do that.
So if you say, "see a doctor."
I will rate you a 1.
Thanks.
You just don't see yourself realisticly. & its not from depression, its from low confidence in yourself. You think you have to do these things, because your afraid of what will happen, if you don't. & maybe even what people will think of you.
My friend actually suffered from something like this. But, she took a tonnn of walks to the point where she passed out. She weighed like 90 though but this happened when she was 13. [were 14 now.]
I think you should try to get your condidence up higher. Not stuck up. because, those people are usually insecure people too. Just confident. Go infront of your mirror & say all your good caulties. & do that everyday. & then you'll probably be better in no time.
Now, if you don't think you lack confidence & stuff.. & you still believe its related to depression.. then google it & just type in like signs of depression, if you have any of it.. thhenn.. if you don't want to go to a doctor [btw why not?] then atleast tell someone. to help you get better, like a friend.
ok..i know that making out with just a friend is wrong..but i still want to. Not because i want to use him, i just want to learn how to make out. I've had a boyfriend but it was only for a couple of weeks and when we kissed, it was like kissing my mother. I just want to be less nervous for the next time i have a boyfriend, and i want to actually be able to know what im doing. My friend is single now and he knows how to make out. I was just wondering if yall thought it was still wrong. If you think it's fine, how can i convince my friend to help me out?
haha, been there done that. don't do it, take it from someone who went through that. Yeah, I thought it'd be you know a SUPER idea. You know, I wouldn't end up falling inlove with him & all. Well, guess what. I did. & now were not even friends. Because, I ended up liking him, & then he didn't like me & hes all.."I knew it was a bad idea & blah blah blah" & then he didn't like me back & then well.. its a long story. So, if I were you.. I just wouldn't do it. You'll know how to make out when it happens. No ones first time is perfect anyways.
is there any websites or anything that can show you what your kids might look like? like even if its not 100% legit just for fun?
Not that I Know of. You could try googling it. But, I doubt it. What your kids will look like, doctors or computers or anything, can't really tell you. But, usually your dominant features is what your kid will have. So like, if you marry someone with blue eyes & you have brown eyes.. theres more of a likely chance they'll have brown eyes. But, thats never a sure thing either, its usually pretty random.
I'm not really sure what I'm asking but I just feel like I need help or something so if you have an opion or w.e answer lol i will rate for any attemps though!
Well I think I like this guy I met about a week ago, last friday. Hes friends with my BFF, thats how I met him. And I had fun with him at the mall/movies when we first met. Then Saturday me and my BFF hung out again and we called him and just talked to him. Later that day he called us back on my cell and him and I talked for awhile about making my BFF go to Jack in the Box so me, my bff, him and his friends could hang out. She didn't go. So I had my dad drive me to a school that was by his house and him, his friends and i hung out for awhile. Then this Friday I called to see if he wanted to hang out (1/2 day) and he said he couldn't cause he was going bowling but wasn't sure when. So then about a min. later he said he had to go. And I wrote on his FB but he never wrote me back and has been on his account. And he doens't get online at all anymore. And I'm just soo confused if i really like him, if i have a chance, if he likes me, how to flirt or call him without him really noticing anything weird. errr i don't i'm just so confused.
Usually, when guys do that..it means they lost interest. & just like the girl below me said, its not your fault. If he doesn't see how great you are, then pshh screw him. & maybe he does still have interest in you, but is too shy & doesn't have his feelings straight. I've actually felt that way before, & avoided boys. Give him some time, & if he doesn't really ever call you or talk to you again.. then it wasn't meant to be.
About you saying if you really like him, you may have just liked the experience of maybe getting a boyfriend [or another one, whateverr.] You know what I mean?
I think you still may have a small chance. Like.. 20% chance.. ok, that doesn't sound like it looks good, but hey.. its still a chance. & its not like you did anything, so it really would have nothing to do with you.. so if he didn't end up feeling the same way, then so what. haha, as long as i know it had nothing to do with me doing something wrong, then its not really a big deal. So, if I were you I wouldn't think it is either.
Don't call him or anything, let him call you & stuff. Play hard to get. You don't want to make yourself like easy type thing.
Anyways, I hope it works out.. byeee. (:
So there is this guy I like... a lot. He maks me happy, laugh, feel good about myself and i can be 100% myself when i am with him. But the thing is.. he is a couple years older than me and he thinks i am inmature and too young for him... (were only 2 years apart) and i like him a lot.. and he used to like me... untill he realized i was young.... but age is nothing but a number... what can i do to show him i am mature and i am not too young and that i like him a lot and want to be with him??
any advise will help..
i cant keep my eyes off him him and i cant get him out of my head.
It depends how old you are. & it also depends on how you act. Like, I'm 14, & theres a huge difference from when I was 12. If your all clingy, & stuff.. you look retarded. & guys don't usually like that. Plus, if hes older then you, & say your only like 13.. or something, then also the way you look. You could still look like a little girl to him too. & hes not gonna wanna date someone that reminds him of his little sister, type thing. You know what I mean? Even though age isn't a number..but if your younger, it kinda is. However old you are, think about a person 2 years younger then you.. would you seriously want to date them? Its just something you need to think about, like put yourself in his shoes. Even though you like him alot, if he doesn't like you for you & stuff.. then hes also, not worth your time. Theres plenty of boys your age.. like them. (:
what can i do about my split ends?? like what kind of shampoos or anything ot make it straighter and healthier???
When you get split ends.. it means you need to get a haircut. (: So, get one. It doesn't mean you have get some major 2 inch hair cut, just get it trimmed.
i don`t know how many people watch the girls next door.
but briget has a little black dog.
& i wanted to know if anybody knows what kind it is??
its a Pekingese, i love that show, but i forget what channel its on, so i haven't watched it lately.
16/f
my freshman year i got accepted to one of the top performing art schools in the nation for vocal performance!! i was so excited!! ever since i heard about it ive wanted to go....My dream ever since i could remember was to be a singer...when i attended school for the first few weeks i noticed that there was a music male teacher that i would always catch looking at me....about 2 months into school, he told me to stay after class because he wanted to enter a song id written in a major record label contest. I walked into his room and he told me to sit on the piano bench and he'd be right back. So i did as he said and got my music out and waited. When he came back he shut the door and locked it he said that he locked it "because he didn't want to be bothered with the janitors" so i didn't think anything of it, kinda thought it was wierd (music rooms are soundproof) but anyway, he sat down next to me and placed his hand on my upper thigh and said im so proud of the progress your making in my class, you're deffinately going to acheive your dream and go somewhere with your talent" he put his arm around my shoulder and acted like he was grabbing my music, and he pushed it off the side on "accident" so i bent down to grab it, and as i bent down he grabbed my butt. and i told him to stop. but then he sternly said, "if you want to pass the class and win the comptetion you'll let me do what i want. Trust me, you want me on your side. I can give you everything you want." I sat back down, giving him another chance, hoping he would stop, but it just got worse as time went on. Long story short, he ended up raping me.
When i threatned him that i would tell, he just said "do you really want to leave this school?? you're parents would take you out of here and you wouldn't get ot pursue your dream anymore." and after i thought about it i realized that i wanted to be a singer more than anything else, and this school would help me out so much. So i continued to put up with it...
This situation has been continuing on and off for about 2 1/2 years now. I haven't told anyone, becuase i don't want to run the risk of anyone finding out becuase then i wouldnt be able to go to this school anymore. I just really feel like i need to talk to someone, but i don't know who to talk to. I don't feel comfortable telling my boyfriend, bestfriend, or anyone whats going on.
What should i do? I want to continue achieving my goals, and the school helps out with this alot, but at the same time i want the abuse to stop. I'm sorry this is so long, thanks so much for taking your time to help.
When you think about it.. your not really acheiving your goals fairly, because this guy is probably giving you all the short cut type things. If you don't tell someone, then it'll get worse, one day he could think your going to tell someone, & hurt you. Tell someone. Seriously, if you don't you may be very very sorry. And wouldn't you rather live, then become a singer? You'll have plenty of chances to become famous & sing. There is such a thing as American Idol. (: So, seriously. tell someone, you've already taken a big risk, about not telling anyone. If you really are very talented in singing, then you'll make it.
So, go & tell someone, best of luck.
i feel so guilty. i always told myself that i would NEVER do something if i didnt have a boyfriend [kiss, mess around, etc.] but today i was with this kid and he just kinda kissed me and then we started making out. and he was sexy about it, he said he couldnt get enough nd kept kissing me and i wanted to stop him but i didnt. i feel so dirty!!!! is this normal? how can i over come this feeling.
You just got caught in the moment, don't worry about it. Just don't make it a habbit. (: I
'm glad someone on here has morals..
My boyfriend and I broke up after
he told me he liked another girl and
they had been flirting and stuff.
Well, I had to end it with him because
I did not want to go on with him if he
liked someone else.
How do I let go?
When I see him I want to melt into his
arms again, but I know I shouldnt.
And now, when I see a guy, it takes everything
I have not to just grab him and try to
hold on forever.
.. please help.
That happened to me too. It sucked, for like the first week. Then, I was over it & moved on. Find someone else to like, just to get your mind off him. It helps. Then, before you know you forget all about old whatshisface. (: So, don't worry about it. It seriously does get alottt better. If you ever had an old boyfriend, your over them now too, yano. So, yeah. Take a bath or something to relax you. & you'll feel better.
I been going out with this girl for a month now and one of my best friends told me that in his 6th pd class some people said that who would go out with me and then my other best friend said that my girlfriend said that people are telling her to break up with me but she isnt HELP ME!!!!!!!!!
If she wants to break up with you, she will.
If she doesn't, then she won't.
Depending on how long you found out about that.. then if its been a day, or something..then shes deff. probably not.
You could ask her about it.. & tell her you really like her, & hope she doesn't too.
I hope that helped. kbyee
when a guy is kinda always asking you who you like and then you ask him back and he says " i like three people" and only names two of them, and won't tell me the third. does that mean he likes you or does he just want to know who you like.
He likes you, guys do that to me too. & then I end up dating him.
Get him to tell you,but about those three other people, see who he likes the most, if its you or one of the other girls. Because, if you date him, you wanna be number 1 with him, not 2 or 3. So, then you won't have to worry about him cheating on you or something. (:
I've been in love with this guy now (ever since 8th grade), I'm still in highschool. He's a teacher and I'm pretty sure he's into me. We touch and have our "moments". I promised his one of his family members that I wouldn't get him in trouble but lately we've been all over each other. He's so perfect in every way. What should I do?
How old are you anyways? Thats not a very good idea to date a teacher, that means hes like some sick perv. .. so hes obviously not perfect in every way. Even though, that I think age & all that has no limit, but a teacher shouldn't be dating any students whatsoever. Hes a pedophile. Hes risking alot doing that, & theres no way he doesn't know it. So, if you care about him & stuff..then break up with him. If anyone ever found out [which eventually someone would] he could go to jail & lose his job & stuff.
Its not worth it, & since your in highschool, theres A TON of other guys, that are your age.
If I were you, I'd tell my parents. If you break up with him, & he really is some pyscho [& he just isn't a major perv.] he could harm you. & don't be fulled just if hes really nice or something. Seriously, tell your parents. or another teacher, your principal, anyone. People like him, need to get introuble, before they go messing up your life, or some other kid.
Even though [I'm sure] its hard for you to do that, its better safe then sorry... right?
I hope that helped.
I want to start talking to my ex boyfriend again. We were a really great couple, and loved each other very much. We never broke up because something was wrong with us, it was for other personal reasons. So I don't think it's too much of a problem, but here is the problem (or what may be a problem), I found out he's engaged. And please, do not think I'm trying to break them up or even get back together. I just want to talk as friends, what do you think about this? Please, any and all answers would be appreciated! Also, I want your honest opinions, there is no need to sugarcoat anything. Thanks in advance!
Personally, I can't nesscarily see it being the best idea. I mean, I can't really think of too many problems that could happen, but still. It's probably not the best idea. I mean I guess, you could like talk to him randomly somehow.. & see what he says. Like, if he sounds like he wants to talk to you & be friends with you,then go with it.. if hes kinda cold, then I wouldn't bother..
can i lose 5lbs by monday? if so how?
K. well, my body, makes it possible. But, if you don't have like a good metabilism & stuff, then nah you can't. Drink 12 glasses of water, JUMP ROPE. jump roping for 10 minutes, is equal to walking for 20 minutes. (: My gym teacher just told us that today. (: Eat breakfast. & cut out alll junk food. You'll deff. see a difference.
i guess i can say im jelouse, of when my boyfreind is with this girl in his classes and inbetween classes alot, and occsaionaly sits with her at lunch, i mean i trust him by all means, but i hate bein jelouse cuz it hurts me and effects my mood. but i hate seein them laffing together and im pretty sure what i see is a form of flirting... what should i do i mean do i have a reason to be jelouse if there kinda flirting...? he reassures me its nothing like that but when he first met her he was al like shes mad cool, we have so much in common , and shes in a lotta classes with me, and we walk together to our classes. it hurts, sometimes i just feel like shes on his mind when i want to b the one on his mind, and knowign that hes with her in gym and what not = / idkk i need advice
Some things you have to remember though, is you're not married to him. Why don't you start hanging out with other guys? Seee how he feels. or why don't you go & sit with them at lunch? or walkup to them in the hallways? & just be like HEY! I'd be jealous too, & I also actually know how it feels. & it sucks. But, if you just have a positive atitude, it'll go better. & if you end up finding out that he likes her, well then it just wasn't meant to be. & theirs other fish in the sea. (: