HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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I enjoy self harm. Friends say, they wouldnt mind if there wasnt a risk o blood poisoning. What are the causes/symptoms of this? (link)
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If you mean by cutting,you GOT to stop because you can get serious skin disease.If the object you used to cut yourself was used by another person and it by chance has blood cells of that person on it,you can get HIV which leads to AIDS.Its going to scar your skin too.If you cant stop i suggest you talk to an adult about this before its too late.
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k, so me and the ex. we dated for over 2 years. he broke up with me because he thought we were too serious. it's been about a month now, he's over it. i'm not. what are things i can do to completely get over it, besides hang out with friends (they all work a lot), find another guy (im not interested yet), or write. please help me. (link)
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He obviously never liked you,if he did he wouldnt have broken up with you and got over you that fast.What you need is a looong vacation away from where youre living now.Go somewhere different and stay there for a month or two.Itll help you relax and think things right.Florida has really good beaches.At least you know that he wasnt true to you,its good that he told you now,of he woulda told you later,it woulda been worse because you woulda loved him MORE.
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I am so frusturated today. I'm usually giving advice, but right now I don't have any for myself. I have been best friends with this one girl for 2 years and I'm really close with both her and her daughter, but she is constantly using me and lying to me. Finally I got fed up of her and called her to tell her she only cares about her self and then hung up. Does this diserve an apolgie? I don't plan on giving one, but I wanted to know what everyone else thought. (link)
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Hanging up isnt the way to confront her about something wrong she did,its just ending it all.But NO,dont apologize.What are you going to apologize for,her using you?Let HER call you.If you told her before you hung up that what was bothering you,then just leave her and shell call.If she DOESNT call then forget it.Dont call her,shes the one who began it all not you.
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ok so here's the deal me and muh ex have been dating for 5 years on and off and we really love each other but the problem is we are broken up right now and well 2 of muh best friends like him but i know he likes me and wants to be with me but right now he's into football and i don't want to be in the middle of that cuz football season really sucks with him. anyways i want to be with him so bad but i don't know how to tell him. i mean it's never been hard to tell him how i feel but with these other girls it seems really weird. well...ya i love him and i need him back bad but i'm not sure wat to say. and how do i handle muh friends? thanx!!! (link)
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You should tell youre freinds to stop being annoying and back off.Tell them,How would they like it if you came in and ruined their relationship with THEIR boyfreinds that was for 5 years?If they flirt with him then they are NOT true freinds and are just using you to get to your guy.You broke up?If you did i think you should get back to him and say that he cant just let a 5 year realationship crash like that.Try to work out whatever reason made you break up
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Im sorry this will be long, but please bear with me. I started talking to this guy a few months back, and we really hit it off. Problem was, he was hiding the fact that he has a girlfriend. Me and his girlfriend talked, and we were friendly with each other, but one day she said "I dont want you two to talk, I think youre getting too close" and she was right..we said we loved each other every time we talked, and we hung out a lot. We never kissed, but we held hands, and just did all the cutesy stuff. Things happened, and me and this guy stopped talking for a few days because we were fighting. Neither of us could stand it, we missed each other, so we started hanging out again. We eventually hooked up, and through a bit of trickery by his girlfriend, she found out. We fought but then things were okay but things keep getting mixed up and we keep fighting. I know I shouldnt talk to him anymore even thought I love him and I know he loves me. I need a way to get over him because I cant hurt his girlfriend like this anymore even though she has made me feel lower than dirt. I somewhat deserve it but I couldnt help kissing him back when he made a move. How can I forget about him when I still love him? (link)
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Well i would usually say if this girl hurt you before,nows the time to STRIKE BACK and get the guy BUT.....If he has a girlfreind and hes kissing you and stuff,theres only one word to call him....PLAYER.If he leaves HER for YOU,then theres no doubt he will leave YOU for another girl.Hes not ready for a relationship,he just leaves one pretty girl to go to a prettier and it never ends.Forget about him before you get your heart broken.His girlfreinds going to get heartbroken one day because hell see another girl.
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what do you do if you like two guys at once and they both like you?? (link)
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You have to decide on WHO you will be happier with.Which guy makes you feel better?As for the other guy,try to change your admiration to him into liking him as a freind only.You have to be honest to the one you like and donr keep him guessing alot and make sure you tell the other guy.Be honest or youll end up losing BOTH.
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alright so i was wondering if any of you girls knew of where to buy some kind of pill or something that can make me grow upstairs if you know what i mean. im not completly flat i would just like to feel more confident and better about the way i look. i know theres such thing as a pill for it but im not sure if it works or how much it cost or where to get it. please help (link)
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These pills are all crap.Theyre VERY dangerous and have really bad side affects.Theres a chance you can get breast cancer.Anywayz if you INSIST then you can get them from a pharmecy.
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i just found mary is cutting again after she promised her bf and i that she wouldnt do that anymore i think she is cutting because of me my family is screwed up right now and i just moved away and she really misses me we talk like once a day but we barely ever get to see eachother cuz i live and hour or so away should i tell her bf?i dont think she is doing to deep tho also if you tell me to tell her pearents it is a wate of time because it is not serious enough at this point (link)
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It might not be serious at the moment but it will be if you dont act fast and tell her parents.Anyway if you still insist on not doing that(even though its the only way to help her out completly)I think you should confront and advice her about this.Tell her you found out that she still does this.Tell her that cutting herself wont solve her problems and will only get her skin disease and will not only scar her skin but will scar her future life.When she is older and looks at the scar,shell remember the rough times shes gone through and itll make it all worse.
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hey...well my problem is that i dont know whether i should break up with my boyfriend. we've been dating for a year now and i do love him..but the thing is that we're only in high school and i think i'll regret it if i dont go to dances and stuff with just my friends and not have to worry about a guy. but hes so sweet and we're perfect for each other. idk wut to do!!! (link)
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If you want MY opinon id say youd dump him.Im 15 and half and never had a boyfreind,WHY?Not because i cant,but because i want to live my age and lif with my freinds and family and have no guy on my mind 24/7 and have to worry about him checking out someone eles.Youre both going to grow older,and see newer people and have newer crushes and this isnt going to last.Ive NEVER seen a relationship at teen ages thats ever continued,because both sides are too young to decide on what they really want.Teen people only date because they are either jealous of theire freinds having someone to love or that they just want to look mature among others.Are you actually going to end up marrying him when youre 15?I say that the best thing for you to do is care only about youre family,freinds and education,because its youre college diploma thats going to make you have a successful future.And if you ever happen to break up with a guy because he cheated on you or wasnt ready,youll get depressed and wont be able to focus in school and will take it all out on your freinds and you will be left with nothing.Anywayz,thats my point of veiw,do what you think is right.
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My bf is such a hypocrite. Well for starters he is about 30 pounds overweight. I am about average; and he keeps telling me I need to lose 20 pounds although he never thinks he has a weight problem. He also gets upset if he thinks I'm too friendly with the opposite sex; but he flirts outragiously right in front of me. He also has said the he thinks he's smarter then me even though I know a lot more things like about movie and television trivia and mental health and other topics than he knows. He thinks he's king sh_t. It is really beginning to tick me off. He also copies ideas of mine and passes them off as his own and he never gives me any credit for them. Should I confront him? He really needs a reality check before his head swells up any more. (link)
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Ofcourse you should confront him.If you dont,itl get bigger and bigger till one day you just BLOW UP in his face.Tell him to be fair and treat you nicely if he expects to be treated good.If he denys all that then i see no reason why you should be with this guy.
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so i went to this camp with my best friend alexa. we started hanging out with a bunch of guys.in our bunk at night we were talking about who we liked and we realized we both liek the same guy steven. a few nights later we found out steven might like alexa. but she told me she wasnt gunna go out with him or anything cause i liked him. throughout camp he made some moves on her but she did nothing. then i told her i didnt like him so she would have her first hookup. towards end of camp she still did nothing with him. then he told my other friend christina that he would have rather gone out with me. i do still like him but idk if i should go out with him cause that would be really mean to alexa.
please help =] (link)
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Forget about him,no guy is ever more important then a freind.The freinds last forever but the guy doesnt.This guy seems like a player too,liking one girl and wanted to go out with another.
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ok this sounds REALLY dumb but me and my friend were talking one day and then we were like "what's the difference between french kissing and making out?" so can someone explain the differences lol (link)
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French kissing includes kissing and tongues connect,but making out is more intimate,it includes touching too.
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i cant seem to find the right color for my eyes, since they dont really have a definite color. they change from gray to blue to green. i have a picture of my eyes here: http://img171.imageshack.us/img171/636/dsc00728lm5.jpg
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You might want to try black eyeliner on the top and bottom and have silver eyeshadow.Silver will make your eyes look fabulous.You can also try light blue or soft,glittery white.
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would i look completely ridiculous if i wore a long-sleeved shirt the first day of school? it's supposed to be between 75 & 80 degrees. what do you think? [: (link)
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No.Whats wrong with wearing a long sleeve shirt?Its actually better if you dont want to get a sunburn or tanned from the sun.
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ok i'm a girl and i really want to start shaving my legs but i cant ask my mom because im embarassed and kinda shy. i went to this website to get a free schick quattro women's razor and it came in the mail yesterday and my mom opened it (while i was on the computer downstairs) and she put it in her room. and today i saw the razor still in the package in her closet. the whole point of me getting that free razor is that i thought my mom would actully give it to me and be like "you can use this" or something so i wouldnt have to ask her myself. so what im trying to say is that how can i ask my mom if i can start shaving my legs? like not giving her a whole lecture just saying something quick like can i start shaving or something (without writing a note or anything) thanks so much and sorry if it was to much to read! (link)
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Tell her that you want to start shaving your legs.Nothings wrong with that,its self hygene.Tell her your disgusted of how youre legs look and that you want to wear a minni skirt but cant.She wont mind you taking care of your appearance.Oh and by the way,razors reallly suck.They make your leg hairs grow thicker the nect time.Waxing beats all.
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Ok I have this friend who is a guy and i am a girl, I have know him for the past five years, and we are good friends but he has changes in the past few years..he got into drugs...bad. Well long story short he ask me out a few weeks ago and i said no. He got really mad/hurt and is telling how he is sleeping with other girl but pretends it is me. It really creeps me out. He been asking me out like once a week for the past 3 weeks. I feel like he is stalking me. Like everytime I turn around there he is! It scares me. I don't know what to do. Please help me. thank you! (link)
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Tell him to stop asking you out because its ruining your freindship of 5 years and to stop taking drugs or itll END your freindship.No means no.He cant force you into going out with him.
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Ok, Well I have been dating this guy Sean, since October. We've said the I love you and all of that. Well the other day he told me that he never gave me his whole heart, and most of it was still for his ex. Yeah it killed me, so we argued for awhile and then I broke up with him because he thought "it was for the best". Now, this guy Brandon, asked me out and I said yes so I could forget about my now ex. Well, I IMed my ex, because we still talk some and he told me that he was extremely pissed at me. He said that it was wrong of me to get another boyfriend, a week after we broke up. I told him I only got a new bf, so I could get my mind off of him. I would cry myself to sleep everynight and all of that. Well, he tells me that he does too and that he didn't want to forget about me so he didn't know why I wanted to forget about him. I was seriously, MADLY in love with him. So now he tells me he can't take this anymore, and he assumes that me and my Boyfriend now, had something going on when me and my ex were together. Which isn't true. I love my ex, and I want him back. But I have NO IDEA on what to do.
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Wheres your dignity?He said he didnt love you that much and you want to go back?I would rather DIE than go back to a guy that said he didnt love me much.Move on with your life and stay with your new boyfreind.Your ex is just mad that he lost the toy he used to play with and now youre with someone eles so he wont know what to brag about to his freinds anymore.He doesnt cry himself to sleep.Hes one bad lier.You have to tell him that whats between you and him is over and that you can get a new boyfreind whenever you want.Hes not your father,he cant tell you what to do.
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Alright, I really need advice on this question. I think I might have depression. You see, lately I have been feeling so bad about myself for no reason. I've been getting so upset over the most obscure things, getting so jealous of other people, and just disliking myself. I've been crying for no apparent reason, and I have the worst mood changes. It's like I'm really happy one minute and then I get really bummed out and start crying and idk why. I always feel like everyone's so much better than me and I suck at everything but deep down I know that's not true. I have extremely low self confidence and I have no clue why because I have a lot of loving friends and family. And I took a depression screening test online and it said I might have moderate depression. I really want to start feeling better, but I'n afraid to tell my mom and family. My mom will probably just say that I don't have depression and get angry at me because she might think I'm blaming her for something. My parents are the best parents ever and sometimes I feel selfish for being sad all the time because I know there are people way worse off than me. So, what I'm asking is: Do you think I have depression? And how can I tell my family I need help without them thinking I'm blaming them for being sad? I really don't think this is just what teenagers go through, because it seems like all of my other friends are happy all the time and I'm always bummed out. Please help. Thanks. (link)
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Ok,theres a reason why youre depressed and you either know what it is and hope its not the reason WHY youre mad or you just dont know what it is.Have you ever liked a guy that didnt like you back?Do your parents fight?Do your freinds leave you out?If the answer is no to these questons then nothings wrong with your surroundings but somethings definetly wrong with you.Have you been going through a struggle to get something you wanted REALLY badly but you couldnt get it or got it when you lost hope that it would ever be yours?Mabey thats it.Other than that i think you should thank God very much for what youve got,great parents,great freinds and youre probably pretty but cant see that because of what youre going through.So much others have worse problems like the kids starving in africa.If you dont thank god he can take it all away and give it to someone that really needs it.Anyway i think you should go tell your mom everything you feel and just cry it all out.Ask her to make you feel better and hopefully thats the solution to your problem.
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My two best friends just recently started drinking over the summer. I have been away and just found out about this recently. I however, dont want to start drinking they are, I think it is pretty pointless and I dont need alcohol to have a good time. I KNOW that I am able to say no if I am put into a pressuring situation by them, but I am afraid our friendship isnt the same anymore. It seems like they want to move on to bigger and better things, but they truly are my best friends in the world. What do I do? 15/f (link)
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If you really ARE their best freinds,you would warn them about the dangers alcohol will cause them.It will cause them to think they see someone infront of them when NOONES there.It will also get them scary flashbacks later on.It will get them brain damage and will ruin their lives.Theyre going to drop out of school and its like their killing themselves slowly in everyway.Make sure they dont pressure you into it.
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i have bags under my eyes and i would really like to know how to get rid of them because they make me look so tired all the time. is there anything i could do to get rid of them without having to buy anything? if not, what should I buy?
Love, Danielle (link)
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If you put wet tea bags under your eyes 15 min everyday,they will get lighter.You just keep putting them till you see a result.And drink a lot of water and make sure you get enough sleep.
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