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break up or not break up? i want ur opinion!
hey...well my problem is that i dont know whether i should break up with my boyfriend. we've been dating for a year now and i do love him..but the thing is that we're only in high school and i think i'll regret it if i dont go to dances and stuff with just my friends and not have to worry about a guy. but hes so sweet and we're perfect for each other. idk wut to do!!!
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If you're sitting there, wanting to check out other guys then you probably don't love him. It's just that you're so used to being his girlfriend and everything. I think you should break up with him. He's only your first, and you're young. You should go out there, date a little more, go after more guys and just have fun and live life. Just explain to him that you just want to hang out with your friends for awhile and just go places and stuff and be single for a little while. Let him know you still really care for him, and you really want to be friends and talk to him cause you don't want to lose him completely. And hopefully, you guys can stay friends, and who knows? If you ever do wind up liking him and wanting to date him again, you can just see if he likes you back and see if you two get together again. So basically, go out, have fun, be single. I hope I helped. <3
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what you can do is talk to your boyfriend you both have friends and you both should hang out with them just ask him if some school dances if you both can go with your own friends and if you dont think he will understand or you dont think you can talk to him or you dont think he will listen or something then write him a letter explaining it that away you can explain it well and read over it if i have been any help to you please tell anyone who needs advice to ask me cause i can help i'm sorry if i wasnt any help
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ok.. heres the deal even if you say you love your boyfriend, you prob really dont its just the fact that you have been datin him for a while now and you cant see urself witout him.. Personnaly i beleve you should let him go, because you are young and need to hang wit your friends and have a good time and flirt with other guys but you cant do that with a b/f around.. how are you gunna kno if you like somebody else if u stick wit tis one guy..you need to get ova him and try new men, it might be heartbroken at first but then you start to get happy again and relieze life is alot betta without a boyfriend.(believe me)
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first off i'm not good at spelling so bear with me! ok kiddo! you like him and he likes you. you like yer friends and they like you. you have people to fall on all the time. that's really good but now you have to think about who would help you wen you need it most, give you the best high school expirience of yer life, and make you feel great about yerself.
boyfriends on a lot of levels can decieve you but if a lot of boyfriends can also be yers truly.
friends can turn their backs on you but they can also give you their shoulders to cry on.
i know that was random but i read that somewher and it really helped me in situations like this.
it's yer desicion wether you stay with him or not
but if it was me i would be his yers truly. do wat you want but think about it before you tell him it's over. it could really hurt you in the long run. anyways i really hope i helped. tell me how it turns out babe!
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well, my opinion is that you shouldn't. if you really like him or love him don't break up unless you have a really good reason. and trust me--you won't regret not going to any dance without your friends. if your with your boyfriend it will be a really good night. and you'll probably see your friends. so don't worry.
but my other opinion is that if you want to see what other guys are like, you probably want to break up with him because then you're sayin that you don't like him as much as you used to.
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DON'T DO IT if you love him don't break up with him.......... a lot of married couples met in high school, so it's not like you are doing to it too soon ESPECIALLY if you are a junior or senior, even if you are younger if you really luv him don't break up with him unless you have another boy on your mind
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if you want to check out other guys then obviously you don't love him.
but if you're happy with him or whatever.. if you want to go to dances.. then talk to him and say it's a girl's night out, you know?
i think he will understand that you want to spend time with your friends
but if you're thinking of breaking up or being with someone else, then stop making him think.. you like him.
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It doesn't really matter whether or not you break up with him NOW, because sooner or later, you'll break up anyways. Because you're not perfect for eachother. You're what, 14, 15? Yeah... no. Plus, having a boyfriend will really stop you from having fun and doing things with your friends, you're probably not mature enough to be in a serious relationship anyways.
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If you want MY opinon id say youd dump him.Im 15 and half and never had a boyfreind,WHY?Not because i cant,but because i want to live my age and lif with my freinds and family and have no guy on my mind 24/7 and have to worry about him checking out someone eles.Youre both going to grow older,and see newer people and have newer crushes and this isnt going to last.Ive NEVER seen a relationship at teen ages thats ever continued,because both sides are too young to decide on what they really want.Teen people only date because they are either jealous of theire freinds having someone to love or that they just want to look mature among others.Are you actually going to end up marrying him when youre 15?I say that the best thing for you to do is care only about youre family,freinds and education,because its youre college diploma thats going to make you have a successful future.And if you ever happen to break up with a guy because he cheated on you or wasnt ready,youll get depressed and wont be able to focus in school and will take it all out on your freinds and you will be left with nothing.Anywayz,thats my point of veiw,do what you think is right.
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You've been dating for a YEAR. That's a long time, especially since most middle school/high school relationships usually don't last that long. I think you'd regret it if you broke up with him, especially if you don't find any new guys. Yeah, it'd be nice to experiment with other guys, but what happens if you wanna go back to your boyfriend. I wouldn't break up with him unless you find another guy that you think you'd like better than your boyfriend. But for now, just keep him :]
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Do NOT break up with him unless you meet a specific guy you're interested in. Going to dances single just sucks- if you get asked to dance, it's rarely anyone even halfway attractive and if you don't get asked it's miserable. You don't have to bring him to every dance, but believe me, you're not missing out on anything.
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o.k my opinion is that you shouldn't break up with him just to go to dances with friends... you don't have to bring your boyfriend to all the dances i'm sure he'll understand.. just make plans with the girls and if he asks you to go then just say i've already made plans with my friends.. but we could hang out later..and i'm a highschool guy has something to do for a couple of hours.. lol...
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If he is such a wonderful guy, then I'm not really sure why you'd want to break up with him. The trouble about high school relationships is that girls hang on to the guy too tightly. Go have fun with your friends, leave your man at home. I'm not telling you to cheat on him or anything, but don't let him stop you from having fun with the girls.
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