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Don't want to drink
My two best friends just recently started drinking over the summer. I have been away and just found out about this recently. I however, dont want to start drinking they are, I think it is pretty pointless and I dont need alcohol to have a good time. I KNOW that I am able to say no if I am put into a pressuring situation by them, but I am afraid our friendship isnt the same anymore. It seems like they want to move on to bigger and better things, but they truly are my best friends in the world. What do I do? 15/f
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you're totally right it's pointless!... man, my best friend started drinking in 7th grade(we in 10th now), thank god she don't want me to do it, if she did i'd slap her...lol... though you probably don't want to do that... anyway, and you're right the friendship probably isn't the same anymore. and if by bigger and better things you mean possibly getting into drugs and going to jail, yeah. but if you sayin what i think you sayin then hellz no they ain't... how many drunks have you seen become something really important in their lives... not many(besides presidents, but that's not a good example...lol). you should talk to them about it, most of the time it don't help, i'm not trying to be negative, but addictions are VERY hard to stop or even realize for the person doing it. and if they start pressuring you to do it, tell them no, duh(but you would already know 2 do that)... and tell them how it makes you feel and how you feel about them doing it and how you feel yalls friendships arn't the same... and if they really care, if they're really the best friends in the world, dispite their addiction, then hopefully they'll stop, or at least stop trying to get you to do it(if they do, or are) and respect you for being so much cooler than their sorry asses(no offence)... hope i helped
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Good Job! You are right you don't need alcohol to have a good time. What you need to do is follow your heart and that will lead you to the right decision. Good Luck!!
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congrats that you don't want to drink with them. if you are willing to give up your friends to not drink, then you are a great person. make some new friends if they think that you have to drink to be friends with them.
♥jen
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Hmmm, they are definately too young thats for sure. Anyway, I agree with some of the people below. I would add a slight twist on this. Look at it as a test to see if your friendship really is what you thought it was.
I remember before I started drinking, I had some friends who drank. Also after I started (at a later age than 15), I have had friends who dont drink. Those friendships were not damaged in any way. Some of my friends chose not to drink because they were Muslim, or because they didnt like the taste, or because they didnt like the effect. Either way, the reason made no difference. So I would advise you to just be honest.
Do remember, as others have said, they have not moved on to better things. Drinking can be fun, but it is totally irresponsible to do it at that age. So, just look at them as what they are, a couple of misguided teens. If you can, try to convince them to wait a few years, they would benefit from it. If not, then thats their decision.
Good luck.
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You're right about two things.
1. You don't need to drink to have a good time.
2. Your friendships with these friends probably won't be the same if they continue down this path.
It's hard to see friends do things that you know isn't right. What really matters is that you don't let them pull you down with them and it seems that you won't have a problem in that area. I've noticed that you asked this question twice. You must be really hurt by all of this. It's happened to me and my best friend and we aren't friends anymore. I'm 16 and we stopped being friends at 13 because she made new friends who drank and did drugs and I couldn't do it. My point is that I've dealt with it and I have new best friends. It's been very hard getting there with new friends, but I made it and you can too.
Honestly, theres nothing that you can say or do when it comes to situations like this. It's about decisions. Decisions that define you as a person. Unfortunatly, your friends are making the bad choices. It happens and you can't tell them no. I'm not saying that you should blow them off and stop being with them, but if they drink, don't let that tempt you to drink. I think you'll learn to adjust to it because everyone has friends who does these things and it's up to you whether or not you do it too.
-TheTeenGirl
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I don't have anything else to add than what people already said but I wanted to say that you seem like a really smart girl and you should be proud of your choices. That shows a lot of maturity in you.
That's all!
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I don't think that they're moving on to bigger and better things... they might mess around with it, yeah, but they won't leave you behind if you don't want to, trust me. as long as you don't do it, you'll be fine & as long as you don't say "eww drinking grooss" and tell your mom, they'll still be your friends. I have A LOT of experience with this and i won't just give you the usual "oh now they're gonna die" so feel free to send one to my inbox. <3
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If you really ARE their best freinds,you would warn them about the dangers alcohol will cause them.It will cause them to think they see someone infront of them when NOONES there.It will also get them scary flashbacks later on.It will get them brain damage and will ruin their lives.Theyre going to drop out of school and its like their killing themselves slowly in everyway.Make sure they dont pressure you into it.
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Look, if your worried about your friendship then thats understandable. I agree and alcohol isnt needed for a good time. If your friends want to move on to bigger and better things just ride it out, saying no to w/e they want and when they get too far away from you go find new friends.
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The most important thing to remember is that true friends would not care if you didn't want to drink. If they are only going to hang out with people that distroy themselves by getting trashed, then those are not the people you want to surround yourself with.
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Remember Elizabeth Swann on Pirates of the Carribean? Pull an Elizabeth on those Jacks. You can just pretend to drink out of the bottle if you like. Or, as a better alternitive, tell them that your family has a history of alchoholism and you're afraid that you'll get hooked on it, and possibly drink yourself to the grave.
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