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i just found mary is cutting again after she promised her bf and i that she wouldnt do that anymore i think she is cutting because of me my family is screwed up right now and i just moved away and she really misses me we talk like once a day but we barely ever get to see eachother cuz i live and hour or so away should i tell her bf?i dont think she is doing to deep tho also if you tell me to tell her pearents it is a wate of time because it is not serious enough at this point
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well i think you should tell her boyfriend and maybe tell her everything is gonna be fine.
but i don't think you should tell her parents becuz you don't want her to get mad at you but maybe tell her other friends and try to talk to her and make sure she won't do it again
hope i helped
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You need to talk to her. Cutting is not the answer. I did it for about 2 years. It does nothing but tear your life apart. Cutting is a very serious thing. deep or not, it's serious. Convince her to talk to somebody (a therapist or counselor). Or, convince her to tell her parents. Or, tell her parents. You can tell her boyfriend, that is fine. But you need to make sure he understands and doesn't get mad at her for it. No one should be mad at her for cutting, but she needs to get help.
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IT is always serious if she is even doing it at all, even if she is cutting just a little it is still serious you have to tell someone, for her safety
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It might not be serious at the moment but it will be if you dont act fast and tell her parents.Anyway if you still insist on not doing that(even though its the only way to help her out completly)I think you should confront and advice her about this.Tell her you found out that she still does this.Tell her that cutting herself wont solve her problems and will only get her skin disease and will not only scar her skin but will scar her future life.When she is older and looks at the scar,shell remember the rough times shes gone through and itll make it all worse.
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Cutting is always serious, but I wouldn't reccomend telling her parents yet. Sometimes parents don't understand and they will become angry and make matters worse. I'm not sure how you figured it out that she is cutting again, but if she told you she obviously still wants some help.
Telling her boyfriend would probably just cause them problems in their relationship, at this point, so you should let her tell him herself, when she gets the courage.
Ask Mary what you can do to help her, make sure that she has your support and let her know that you are there for her.
When you see Mary again, ask her if she would like to see a counselor or someone that could give her professional help. If she says yes then you should tell her parents. Although she might be mad at you at first, telling her parents is the best way to get help because they will hopefully be able to provide it and take her to a professional. If she says no, and she still isn't ready to get help, you shouldn't force her. If she feels like you are attacking her, she will just stop trusting you and then she won't confide in you anymore.
So suggest that you think the best idea would be to see a professional, but don't make her feel like she has to. She will make her own decision, and all you can do is help her. You can't force someone to recover from self injury, they have to be the ones to take control and stop it themselves.
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this seems to be a tough situation. talk to mary first. tell her that she needs to be open & honest with her bf, because cutting does not help her. explain that if she doesn't tell him, you will have to because you care about her. you can't let her keep cutting. you need to tell someone about this. why?? things can get a lot worse & you don't want her endanger. talk to someone about it & see what you can do.
-hope that helped!♥
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