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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Ok, well... my best friend is a guy, and his name is Chris. He's really awesome, and we're really close. I've always thought of him as a brother to me. But lately everyone has been asking me, "Are you two going out?" and "Do you like him?" and everytime my answer is "no." but lately I've been thinking, and I feel weird whenever I talk to him now. Whenever he comforts me about stuff, I just feel... really really happy. Rediculously happy. Almost..fuzzy inside? I don't know, but I keep thinking that I'm starting to have feelings for him. But we're just friends.. friend's arent supposed to crush on eachother. But I can't help myself.

SO MY QUESTION IS: Am I in love with him? and if I do why do I feel so uncomfortable?

Signed..
JUST FRiENDS

I went through the same exact thing with my friend...but were not friends any more, but besides that :p. Ok, so you are starting to develop feelings for him now that you know that people think you do. It seems like...you've realized that you have so much in common with this guy and that he makes you feel so great, is something any girl would want from a guy. Truthfully, my opinion is that you do love him, but as a friend. Find out if he has feelings for you. If he does, then it would be a good start to a potential in a relationship. You probably feel so uncomfortable, because all of a sudden people are making accusations when you two are only best friends. Now, I know exactly how you feel, because my ex guy friend and i were majorly tight then people started asking and saying to us both are u going out, or do you like each other, like, we used to shove each other and one time someone screamed OOOOO YOU KISSED HIM! so...yea :p. Whelp, I hope I helped hun Good Luck!
~Brina

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how do i let him know i want to makeout with him? how do i talk to him and how do i know if he wants to be kissed. if he didnt want to be kissed would he be mad? if i see him in the hall at school what should i do. I RATE 5'S ALL THE WAY

Ok, to answer the first question. Just, like....kiss him and then if he likes that then just continure to makeout with him.And, for the how do you talk to him, come on hun, hes your boyfriend, dont you think you would know how to talk to him? lol. And the one after that....usually guys seem to like getting kissed.He'll probably make the first move anyways. He should be walking with you down the hallway, not away from you! How old are you anyways?Hope I helped.
~Brina

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You know how some people have like paragraphs in their columns in the "about me" section? Well how do you get it like that, because mine is all one paragraph. I tried < br > because I knew that was a line break on most websites, but that didn't work.

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My best friend ditched me for her boyfriend once again what should i do?

Talk to her and let her know how you feel. It does suck when your best friend has a boyfriend, but you have to think about it this way, that they still consider you there best friend, and probably do want to hang out with you and stuff but they also have a boyfriend. Tell her how you
feel, that would be the best thing to do. If she doenst care, then shes not a good friend.
~Brina
Good Luck!

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AHHHH..okay im really confused right now and i just need a little help..so i have known this guy for a while, and we both like eachother, we told this to eachother on the phone one night..but anyway, we started hanging out together all the time, and he would say that he liked me a lot, and he would hold my hand, and then school started, and we still hung out on the weekends, and at school he would hug me and crap.. but now, i feel like we are becoming distant, we arnt hanging out as much anymore, and he dosnt make an aqauiantence that much any more...AHHH..im so confused..lol..is he just being a typical guy or what?

Whelp, you have to understand that during summer....theres so much time! But, when school starts things tend to get busy. You probably feel distant because you didnt get to hang out as much over the summer. Dont worry hun, he probably still likes you a lot! Tell him you'd like to hang out more often with him. Good Luck!!! Hope i helped!!!
~Brina

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Hear is my problem I was friends with this girl for two and a half years then all of a sudden we are no longer friends. I mean she didn't tell me anything. I waited to see if I was going to hear from her but nothing no phone calls and she never came over my house again. I wrote her a letter and she never responded. I don't get it the last time I saw her was when she had a boyfriend. I use to work in a retail store and everytime I would see her she would be buying some things for a baby. So did she have a baby or is she just picking some things up for a friend. But if she did have a baby why would she want to stop being friends. I have another friend and she was also friends with her too but they keep in touch. I wish I knew what happen and how come she doesn't want to talk to me. At frist I thought it was because she had a boyfriend and so did my other friend and I was single. But that's no reason she should stop talking to me is it? Please help me we were such good friends and I would like to be again but I dont' know what to do.

You shouldnt have to think about all of these things. The next time you see her ask why she hasnt called you or written back. Ask her if everything is ok, and if she's having problems with anything. Tell her your here for you if she needs you.
~Brina

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My Tenth year highschool reunion is coming up next year and I'm really nervous about it.

This is because me and a guy that I had a mad crush on left on really bad terms.

He was the most popular guy in school, class valedictorian and jock. I was one of the nerds. He new I had a crush on him and he treated me like dirt. He would make out with his girlfriend when I would walk by him in the hallways to upset me. He would play little games to humiliate me, like coming up to his friend whose locker was next to mine just to see me go red in the face.
He even went right up to my friend at the senior prom to hit on her while she was standing next to me and then he ignored me.

The last time I saw him was at the bar 8 years ago. I went up with my friend to talk to him and he completely ignored me even though I said it was my birthday.

Do you think I should go and confront him or just ignore him? This was a long time ago and I think that by now he would have matured a bit. I want to be the better person even though he made me senior year a living hell.

Buzzie

Guys can be assholes sometimes. Ignore him, bring a hott date, say hello to him and walk on by him. Dont let him ruin your class reunion, your not the same as you were 10 years ago. You've probably matured more as well. Good Luck!!!
~Brina

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hey I know this is a really stupid and weird question, but ok i'm making a new screen name, and it's gonna be mangotango59. how should it be: MaNgOtAnGo59, mAnGoTaNgO59, or mangotango59? also, should i add anyletters or anything in between the words like mangoXXtango59 or oOmangotangoOo59 or something? also, if you have anyother good screen name ideas, then that'd be good too!

Yea, its a cool screen name. Try it like this

Mango.X.Tango59

~Brina

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First i would like to state i am a m/13
Amd i am terribly sorry to everyone who has been answering my ?s. That i keep talking about my best friend who i have a major crush on and she knows it. Anyways...

Ok my best friend know i like her and when we talk about the boys she likes i sometimes ask her "but what are looking for in a guy" she tells me now somtime in the the conversation she always says seriously "Well maybe one day i will just go out w/ you"(something along those lines anyways) Now is she hinting something to me(she has clearly satated she has no crushy feelings for me. so what does this mean.

Is she lying to me when she says she doesnt like me
Does she want to go out w/ me
If she does want to go out w/ me how do i ask her

This is my most important ? yet

And i would just like to say thanks truely and deeply for all the people who have/will help/helped me out.

Much love, thanks, and prayers for you all

Carpe Diem

Hey, I member i answered a question you had about this, and you deffinitly are getting somewhere with the situation. By saying maybe she'll go out with you, that might meen that she likes you. Continue to find out what type of guy and person she is interested in. The next time she talks to guys with you, tell her your mad, and when she asks why, be like, because the guy that does like you is right in front of you, and then walk away...then maybe she'll realize how much of an idiot she was to not think that her best friend, someone she has so much in common with would like her.You only live once, take a chance. Good Luck Hun.
~Brina

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My boyfriend of eight months nearly always wants sex. I've got a strong libido too but it bugs me that he will try to initiate sex every time I enter my bedroom. Sometimes we have guests over, or it’s the middle of the afternoon and I have other things to be doing. Sometimes he'll start tugging my clothes off while the door is still open! We can't even sit through a whole movie without him trying to undress me.

I'm sick of feeling guilty when I shut him down. And He always acts so hurt by it! But I have other things to do with my life besides sex. Does anyone have any ideas how I can make him see that this just isn’t appropriate? I know he loves me and isn’t just in it for the sex, but it’s really pissing me off.

Let him know you enjoy having sex with him, just like you said in your question. But, tell him you dont like having it every second, but that you still enjoy it, and only want to have sex when times are right, and not just out of the blue. Hopefully, he will understand and be considerate about it. Good Luck!
~Brina

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i need help with one math problem on my homework:

Mr. Alvarez withdrew from his saving account $25 per week for each of 8 weeks. He then had $1,623 in his account. How much did he have in his account before he made these withdrawals?

ok, there were 8 weeks, so you have to multiply 8 times $25, which comes out to be 200. So, he took 200 dollars from his acount, and had $1,623 left right? So, add the 200 to the 1,623 and theres your answer.Here is the equation:

25(8)+1,623= X

X is the answer to the problem. I'm pretty sure this is correct, let me know if it is or not when you find the answer.
~Brina

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i like bands like 3 doors down, fall out boy, my chemical romance, weezer, red hot chilli peppers, snow patrol, john mayer, switchfoot, jet, three days grace, green day, oasis, coldplay.. a lot of different styles of rock/alternitave. what other bands to you suggest that you think i would also like?

I like all of those a lot! lol. Hmm, All american rejects, hawthorne heights, Reliant K, Sugar Cult, Simple Plan, Papa Roach, Bowling 4 Soup, Matchbox City Soundtrack, and Pillar. Hope I helped!
~Brina

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kay.so.I want my chemical romance tickets and I'm planning on buying them soon. How fast do you think they run out? And, i dont know who could take me to the concert because my dad thinks I'm too young to go with my 2 friends. I'm 14. so are my 2 friends. I'm just sort of stuck in a rut. It'd just be really cool if I could go as my birthday present becasue I;m a diehard fan lol. What can I do about getting there and who I can go with?

That totally sucks! Ok, deffinitly ask a family member that is interested in going. Does one of your friends have a family member that can take you? Just keep on trying to find a responsible person that can help you out.
~Brina

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Does anyone know any good books for teens that are kinda like the princess diaries or the sisterhood of the traveling pants series. i have run out of good books to read. help!!!!

Yea, I have lots, I'm a major book reader lol. Ok...

Sloppy Firsts

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i was cleaning my sons ears with some q tips and noticed some small amounts of blood on it i feel so bad and scared should i be scared blz help concerned mom

Of course its ok to be scared! He is your son, and you should be! Dont be worried hun, just take him to the doctor right away and I'm sure he/she will be able to tell you whats wrong. Good Luck!
~Brina

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I am 13 Male

When my best friend (a girl a have a crush on) asks me a question about if she should go out with a certain boy whose side should i be on...
should i be on her side and say " Oh ya definitaly go out w/ him.
Or should i be on my side and be like "uh No you should stop looking at a ever other F ing boy but me.
Im sorry if this ? Seems dumb but i need advice hense me coming to this website

I rate Fives

PLEASE i am desparate

Hey. The next time she talks to you about guys, and needs advice, just be like, why dont you go out with me. Unless, you think you two would be better as friends. But anyways, give her good advice if she asks about a guy, if he's an ass then tell her dont go out with him, but if he's nice then tell her to. This question wasnt dumb at all hun. Just, let her know that you like her,you'll regret it if you dont. Good luck.
~Brina

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Ok I was planning to go to school about an hour away from my girlfriend, but in a last minute effort I decided to stay at home and go to school with her. I was transferring to play ball and this is my second year sitting out. I feel like I'm missing something. I can go without thinking about playing, but sometimes I think about what it would be like to be on my team and what would it be like to play college basketball. My question is simple, Should I get in contact with my coach and try to go away? I really don't want to leave her, but I miss ball so much. We just got back together after we broke up for about 3 weeks. I don't want to jeopardize anything right now. I really don't know what to do...

Even though your with your girlfriend, you still have to continue to follow your dreams. Talk to her, and hopefully she will know that you love her very much, but you need to do things that you also want to do. You wont have to leave her, you can still have a relationship. Any long distance relationship can work if the two know that they love each other.And, an hour away isnt that bad, you can visit her, just have someone drop you off at her house, unless you can drive, you didnt specify your age lol. But anyways, i suggest play the sport! and let your girlfriend know how much she means to you. Good Luck!
~Brina

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will someone please help me
im quite fat and i go red all the time i mean i get worn out really easly like i will walk down the street and i will go proper red nearly purple and i dont no why i no its probs because of my weight and i really want to be thin but i cant cause i get really anoyed and imbarased wen i do sum exercise and im bright red i would love to be thin and i would be able to do it if i just didnt go so red and get so worn out its horible i dont really like going shoping or when my mates go out of school for lunch i hate it cause im really red and everyone laughs at me / is something wrong woth me and can this be stoped i will rate high

Most likely it cant be stopped if you continue to stay at this weight. Dont be embarressed for trying to loose weight, everyone does it. I'm not skinny either,but, I am very athletic. Just, take a jog around the block a couple times, if you get the feel of running and walking long distances the redness will ease up.. Do some exercises in your house if you dont want to any wheres else. Eat more fruits and veggies and try to stay away from carbs. Good Luck!!!
~Brina

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theres this boy and he liked me last year and asked me out.i told him i was taken but i would still like to talk to him.i broke up with my boyfriend over the summer and he knew about it.then he agian asked to go with me.i told him that i see him more s a friend.now is the new school year and my friend Diane thinks this boy is kinda ugly.i dint think he's ugly and neither do my friend Brittany.now i kinda like him and he's is still trying to go with me.even though looks arent important to me at all i dont want my friend Diane saying shit about him or me. should i just forget her and go for it or do you think a friends opinion is important

Your friend is shalow. She doesnt think the same way you do about looks. You care about whats on the inside, and thats what matters. You have to tell your friend that she has her own opinions about him, and so do you. Go for it, and if she talks smack about you then forget her, cuz thats not what a friend should do. Good Luck Hun!
~Brina

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hey im fat and short and cant find any jeans to fit me right, i have tons of jeans but theyre all too baggy in the back part of my leg like behind the knee and stuff. anyone have any suggestions on where i can get jeans to fit MY body type easily? i wear like size 16 in WOMEN and im 5'3. so tell me thanks.

I suggest old navy. Hope I helped!
~Brina

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