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Kayy. So this is deffinently veryy embarressing but I can't really talk to anyone about it so here it goes.
I'm 4'11 and a half, 82ish pounds, and a 32bra. I shave my legs. Basically, I'm going through puberty. A lot of my friends who have smaller boobs than me have already had their period? Am I late or are they early? [[it's more than one.]] Also, I've been getting discharge for a while now. But I get so much! I change my underware twice a day! Will I be getting my period soon? I'm sooo confused! Sorry for the nastyness. (link)
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You are fine. Every woman is different, some start their period as early as age 9, others as late as age 16. Being skinny has very little to do with the situation (unless you have an illness). If you are concerned about the discharge, talk to a doctor and see what advice to give about it. It doesn't sound all that unusual though, try thin pantyliners to protect your underwear.
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i heard that honey can do basically anything,including heal acne.is this true? (link)
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Nope.
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For a while I've been having a really really bad backache in the left reigon of my back, right beside the spinal cord. Also at the base of my neck.
Sometimes I feel like cold water is being dripped down my spine, but it hurts at the same time.
I don't have insurance at the moment to go to the doctor nor can I really afford the bills.
Can anyone help? It hurts really bad somedays, it has just been getting worse. I'm not really sure what is wrong, I haven't done anything to pull any muscles.
Please help.
- Achey breaky in Ohio - (link)
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If the pain has been going on a while then it might not be a mere pulled muscle, it might be something much more serious. You really need to see a doctor. I know how frustrating and expensive health care is without insurence, but your health is worth it. At the very least, call the doctors office, describe the pain and ask for advice.
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ok this is sort of personal but i don't care who answers it because i really need help. i'm fourteen years old and have a boyfriend that's been off and on for over a year. but we're so close now and are in love..no matter who says were "too young" we've gone pretty far in our relationship already, but not a home run. we've talked about going all the way before...but i'm not sure if i'm ready. sometimes i want to, but then i realize i'm only fourteen and shouldn't even think about wanting to. i'm risking a lot if i did this, but if we love each other is it worth it? so can someone whos experienced in this kind of stuff please help? cause i really need it.. thanks. (link)
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No, you aren't ready. When you are, please check out your birth control options first. There are entirely too many teen mothers around as it is.
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i need to loose 15 pounds in a month. what should i do for a diet. i need to loose this weight fast. (link)
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You have got to be kidding me (the answers before mine). You cannot loose 15 ponds in one month unless you have an illness. Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and excersise for up to an hour each day, and you might loose up to 10 lbs in one month but that is the upper limit of saftey. Anything else is unhealthy and borderline eating disorder-eque. Talk to a doctor if you have any questions.
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Ok i started dating a 23 year old when i was 13( Grose Huh) i like him...we dated for like 6 er 7 mounths, when he said he was movin for a new job er sumin like that!well we had sex before he left on friday night.i got pregnant. i called him right away. he told me to get an abbortion i said ok but i didn't really. well he seen me when i started to show. and confronted me. i told him the truth! ever since then he calls me randomly on everyone elses cell phones so i don't kow who it is...and like when i cruise mainstreet he follows me!! What do i do?
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What you need to do is go to the police or a trusted adult and tell them what is going on. That man is a sexual preditor and child molestor, plain and simple.
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what causes herpes exactly. like if you're making out with somone who has herpes does it automatically get transfered to you. what if they have a sore in their mouth. if you touch it does it mean you will get it or does the sore have to be like cut open and sorry but one more thing. this is going to sound really immature, wel this whore question does but here goes. can you get herpes in your eye? (link)
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If you come in any contact with the sore (even if you can't see it yet) then you have an excellent chance on contracting the virus, and yes, you can get the sores anywhere on your body. You can even transmit them from one part of your body to another so you should avoid touching them at all costs. Some people will come in contact witht he virus but never develop and sores (lucky) but most people do ge thte sores. If you see one on somebody you love, do not come in contact until it is completely gone, or use their lip glosses, share drinks, ect. If you get a sore in your eye, go see a doctor. Eye sores have been know to cause blindness.
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ok if you have sex and after 3 or 4 days you use birth control is birth control will still work? like your not gonna get pregnant anymore? hope you guys get what i mean :) ty in advance (link)
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Well, it depends on what type of birth control you are on. If you are talking about the Pill, it takes nearly a month to reach it's full effectiveness but it DOES begin to be effective as soon as you take it. You probably should have waited longer, but I wouldn't worry. If you are on a different method, google the brand name and read the info, it'll tell you exactly. Or you could cally our doctor and just ask.
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hey, well im 13/f and i recently just got a gift from my aunt. she bought me clothes from LIMITED TOO! EWW! well im not just going to ask her for the receipt so that i can get money back. so will the store let me return the items and get money back? also i just bought shorts from pacsun and decided that i dont like them anymore. i lost teh recipet. will i get money back? cait♥ (link)
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What's wrong witht he limmited too?
Anyway, if you don't have a receipt they won't give you cash, you have to exchange it for something in the store of the same price. If you hate that style in general, I'm sure they have some plainer clothes that go with any style, or socks (everybody can use them), lip glosses and hair stuff. You are bound to find something you can use. If not, get stuff you can give as gifts to friends who will actually like it.
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hey, this is a dumb question but im gonna ask it. why do people tend to eat when they are bored? caitt♥ (link)
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Because there is nothing, NOTHING more effortlessly enjoyable in this world then for us to stuff our faces. As I'm writing this as work I am eating a snadwich, I'm not even hungry, but it's sooog good!
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hey
on monday i started packing my things for tuesday (for school)so i looked for a sports outfit for gym class. but mine was all swetty from last time and i forgot to wash it. so i looked in my moms closet...i opened a box and hoped she has something good to wear in there but instead i saw a fake penis..and a magazine with naked women and men in there. i was really shocked i mean i know that my parents are having sex sometimes but i never thought they take that so serious. and i feel really stupid in this house and i'm not talking to my mom anymore but it's really dump cause usually i could talk with her about everything but now i just dont trust her , cause she lies to me a lot lately! so what should i do?
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You shouldn't have gone through her stuff without permission, and there isn't anything remotely unusual about your parents having sex toys, most people (adults) do! Frankly, such things are none of your business. If you feel that your mom has lied to you, talk to her about it. It's very important to have a good relationship with your mother. Don't be embarassed to talk to her now because of what you saw, I wouldn't mention it because it would embarass HER but please know that it is completely normal.
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hey, can you swim with tampons in? cait♥ (link)
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Yep
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((14/f)) and the boy ((17/m))
k, so i met this kid at the beginning of the school year. and basically we've been in love ever since.
but we aint going out because of my mom
she hates him, and shes never even met him.. and she thinks that he just wants sex, cuz she assumes thats what every guy older then me wants. but ivee already told him that im not having sex, because i think im too young, and he understands completely. and i know he doesnt want sex, because its been 9 months and hes still here.
and we both really want to go out,
btu the problem:
my mom
and our school.
our school talks way too much crap
any suggestions on what i should do?
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I totally agree with your mother.
What should you do? Have him meet her and hang out over your house, watching movie and stuff while she's around. If your relationship can't handle that, then obviously is isn't too strong. You are far too young to be going out on dates, especially with someone significantly older then you. If you are so deeply in love then you can keep is casual and friendly for a year or two. Sound like way to long to wait? Then it must not be too deep.
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ok, well let me start off by saying that i chased away so many boys who wanna start something w/ me it's not even funny. 14/f
I don't wanna get a big head, but yeah, i'm pretty good looking, and in school... I always have different guys coming up to me and trying to start a conversation. They are really nice and everything.. and really cute, but the thing is I freeze up. Like for me, I love partying and everything and ya streaking, drinking, all the fun stuff. But I don't belive in relationships at such a young age. So when a guy trys to startsomehting with me, and wants to get a friendship going i freeze up and like NO.. NO RELATIONSHIPS. liek even if the guy isn't tryign to get in a relationship and liek just trying to be friends... i don't want him to fall for me and tehn i have to hurt him (happened in the past thousands of times). I dont' know what to do, and even begin.. please I need your advice! Thank - you :( (link)
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14 is far to young to attempt anything serious, it's perfectly ok to do what you are doing. Relax though, not every boy is going to "fall for you" and you'll "have to hurt him". Get over yourself a little, it's ok to be friends and just hang out. If you don't want to though, it's fine. Please tell me that you are smarter then to be drinking and "streaking" (what?) at your age. Are you serious? Calm down a little.
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okay i liked this guy now for about 2 months and he has liked me, we would talk on the phone every night and he would always tell me he loved me, but he would never ask me out and i dont get why. anyways just the other day he started bein a dick to me, not answering my phone calls, saying he'll call me back and never does. i just dont know what to do, im soo heartbroken it aint even funny i even thought about killing myself. i rate high (link)
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It seems that he doesn't like you, or changed his mind. It's crushing to hear/find this out when you are young, but it happens quite often in fact. Especially in high school. Stop persuing him and move one, you'll find someone who treats you better, just as long as you believe you deserve it.
Please, if you genuinely are depressed seek medical help. If not, there are more appropriate ways to seek attention then threatening suicide. That isn't cool.
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At school I have liked many girls and everyone shoots me down. Mostof them tell me that I could be cool enough to go out with them if I didn't hang around with the nerds. I am not a nerd but I hang out with them because they're nicer than the popular people I could hang out with. Every time I tell A girl that they still shoot me down. What should I do? (link)
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What do you do? You wait until you meet decent people to spend time with and date, not superficial snobs with the intelligence of snails like the ladies (and I use that term loosey)you are currently persuing. You sound like a really stand-up human being, don't demean yourself with these silly girls.
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This question is a little bit long, but I used good grammer so it's readable!
I'm really in a bad situation. I just got broken up with by a guy who I was with for over a year and it's been 3 weeks ever since and all I've felt like doing is drinking alcohol or anything that I can find. I've never drank before, so these are weird feelings for me. I've heard that when you drink, for a while you are numb, and for the longest time I've always thought that if I could have at least one moment with all of my problems forgotten, I'd do whatever it takes and it's so true for me. I can't stop wanting to do something extreme like cutting, or drinking or not eating. What I'm really looking for is something to numb the pain in the moment. Like a drug or something that I can run to when I get depressed. Lately, I've been 'sleeping in' to forget about everything and I'm in love with sleep and I feel addicted to it. I know these feelings aren't good and I'm really scared for the next time I get depressed that I will take extreme actions.
I'm a 15 year old female by the way
Thank you, anything can help me at this point and I'll be sure to get back to you with rating! (link)
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Thanks for the grammer, you have no idea how much that helps!
If you are thinking of harming yourself, then you need to talk to someone. Everyone feels depressed sometimes, especially after breakups, but you aren't handling it well. It could really help you to find a therapist to give you some perspective and help you find healthy ways to cope. Don't turn to destructive habits, it does far more harm then good. You need help to face the issue, and that's the only way to heal.
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I want to go on a crash diet, yea its bad for me but w/e iDc. SO my meals everyday would consist of:
Breakfast: Some sort of fruit
Lunch: A small snack maybe a sandwhich or something of that sort
Dinner: Maybe a bowl of rice and some meat. or just anykind of plain meat.
That way i get some of the pyramid into my daily meals.. So tell me if that is good enough or not
and no i will not be throwing up any of this food. im not belimic or anorexic. (link)
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How long did it take you to gain the weight? That's how long it'll take you to really loose it. When you crash diet you loose water weight, so that means the second you put MORE water into you're body, you gain it back. You need to cut/burn 3500 to equal one pound lost, this is why crash diets do not work.
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ok so their is this boy we can call him j and i REALLY like him. i am thinking about going out with him but my parents would freak out because hes mixed (white and black) and im white. their not racest or anything. they just disagree with me going out with a black/mixed/any race other then white person because they think that putting mixed children situation is wrong. i of coarce STRONGLY disagree! i think that it shouldnt matter what race you are. so as i was saying i want to go out with j but should i really go agenst what my parents say AND not tell them im going out with j?
what should i do??
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You say they aren't racist but if they would care at all regarding his race then clearly they are racist to some degree. If you make a decision to not date him based on his skin color (no matter why, even if it's just to appease your family) then guess what that makes you? Yep. You would be inheriting their racist attitude. Is that the person you want to be?
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Can they I.D you if you buy diet pills and your under 18? Is there a law stating they have to I.D you? Thanks! (link)
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If you are under 18 they shouldn't sell them to you because the pills are dangerous. Please don't throw your health (and money) away. Talk to a doctor and find out the best way to loose weight for your body.
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