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ok this is sort of personal but i don't care who answers it because i really need help. i'm fourteen years old and have a boyfriend that's been off and on for over a year. but we're so close now and are in love..no matter who says were "too young" we've gone pretty far in our relationship already, but not a home run. we've talked about going all the way before...but i'm not sure if i'm ready. sometimes i want to, but then i realize i'm only fourteen and shouldn't even think about wanting to. i'm risking a lot if i did this, but if we love each other is it worth it? so can someone whos experienced in this kind of stuff please help? cause i really need it.. thanks.
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If you really feel you have to then go to family planning first and get birth control and condoms are a must. No matter how much in love you are...in reality, this will NOT be the man of your lifetime dreams, so you should think carefully before you have sex with him and how it's going to affect your heart/mind afterwards and after the relationship is over.
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No, you aren't ready. When you are, please check out your birth control options first. There are entirely too many teen mothers around as it is.
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You are not ready for sex. Why may you ask? Well, when you're ready for sex, you won't be uncertain and you will know that this is the right thing to do. When you are second guessing yourself and thinking about your age, then you're just letting yourself know that you're not yet ready! You have you're whole life to have sex, so enjoy being a virgin while you can. Rushing into a sexual relationship is the worst thing you could do. You're only 14. Even if you use birth control and a condom, there's still a slight chance that you could get pregnant. Would you get an abortion or would you keep the baby? That's what you have to decide. And what if your boyfriend and you break up? I know you say you're "in love" but that could easily change. You guys could get in a big fight or find out he was cheating on you or using you, anything could happen and you could break up. That's the risk of having sex so young. Just remember, DON'T have sex until you know inside that you're ready. If you're scared about it or un sure, then you're not mature enough yet. And you're boyfriend will understand if you're not ready. Best of luck and I really hope I helped you.
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Dearie, you're only fourteen. In my opinion, engaging in sex at that age is quite not right.
Think of this: what if you broke up after you had given him your "everything"?
You'd just feel wasted and for sure you'd regret that you did "it" with him.
Hope I was of help.
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Whether the both of you are in love or not, being fourteen shouldn't be a time where you are thinking about sex.
Everyone will be in this intense relationship where they truly believe that they are in love, and they may be, but you don't know whether you will actually be with this person for the rest of your life. And everyone will always always think that their situation is different, but it's not. It would be so hard to have sex with someone and then end up breaking up with them later on. It would hurt ten times worse than just a really healthy relationship without sex.
You truly are too young and it's great that ou realize that. But now you just need to realize that just because you and your boyfriend aren't having sex, it doesn't mean that you aren't as close or as in love as couples who are having sex. Sex doesn't really mean you are more in love than other couples who aren't having sex.
A year is a pretty long time for a teen relationship, but trust me, the both of you have tons more to learn about love and sex for all of the years to come and you should definetly wait to learn all of thatb instead of living in the moment.
-TheTeenGirl
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ok well i know you guys are in love and all but i mean you are only fourteen..what if you get pregnant..there is a chance he might leave you..not saying he will but there is a chance and then your life is pretty much ruined if you have a baby..in my opion its just not worth it..i would probably wait a couple more years. but i dunno its your opion just think of all of the risks you are taking.
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