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I am trying to locate a bread machine recipe for whole wheat bread. No matter which recipe I use, the bread comes out very dense and dry. I even take it out 20 mins or so before timer goes off.
So...is there such a thing? I always make bread for my husband, now he wants wheat bread for his lunch, any thoughts on this?
Thanks.. (link)
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Yum!
I used to make bread too, The one thing I found helpful was to use a little less flour then the recipe said and cook slightly under the temperature it says to put it at.
http://www.tammysrecipes.com/homemade_wheat_bread
Hope it comes out good!
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so i just recently lost my virginity, and i dont feel anything. I didnt like it or dislike it. It just felt like a casual thing. I'm not in a relationship with this guy. I've barely seen him, but we have talked for a long time. I dont feel any regret or sadness or anger.. i dont feel anything.
Is this good or bad? And why do i feel like this? (link)
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Hm
I think a lot of people go through the confusing on how they feel after they loose their virginity. When I lost mind (7) yrs ago. I didn't really feel anything either, I think it's confusion. I don't know you or the relationship between the guy but maybe it is because you two have parted to some degree?
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ok excuse me bitch but you dont know my life and for one i love my daughter very much shes my life and everything in it. so dont you be trying to talk shit about me you dumb bitch. you know nothing about me. and for one i got my advice from my doctor about inducing my labor. they give you a list of shit to do to induce your self. fucking grow up. dont fucking make accusations about people unless you know them. and if i want another child i will have one. and i was happy to have a girl. very happy!!! my dream is to have a boy and girl. i wanted my girl first. now i can have my boy in 2 years or when ever i feel like it. and you know what i love god with all my heart and he was there for me threw my whole pregnancy and he watched over my baby and me. i know damn well he appreciates how good of a mother i am. Im a big beleiver of the lord i worship him everyday. unless you know someone dont talk shit. The lord gave me this precious child because he wanted to. so obviously you dont know him to well to be talking about him. If you cared anything about him you for one wouldnt be giving advice to me as being a mother. everyone in my life wishes they were me because im the best mother they have seen. so until you know me DONT TALK SHITTT ABOUT ME AND DONT EVEN TALK TO ME!!!!! (link)
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Okay listen
For one, You were the one asking!
2. If you "loved" your daughter SO much, Then why the hell did you even post a question mentioning how you wanted a boy? but instead you got a girl...Yeah sounds REAL convincing that you love your daughter! Mhm..so if anyone is a bitch I would really look back on YOUR situation. You sound like one of them baby mama that have nothing to do but bitch, piss and moan about how she is unhappy with the sex of her child. Go whore yourself out until you finally get a baby boy, Sounds like something you would do by the way you were talking doesn't it? Think about that
Also, I mind as well mention before you go and send me a message make sure you can cover your own ass ;)
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I was married back last June to my wonderful husband. We dated for a couple of years and everything was just like the perfect fairytales you hear about. I know fairytales aren't true though...
My problem is that I have no sexual desire or drive. I don't really care if we have sex or not. I'm fulfilled in all ways without sexual interaction. I don't "get horny" and I've never had ANY desire to even masturbate. We've had sex before but it's not pleasurable for me at all (it isn't painful or anyting either).
My husband is concerned as to why we never have sex. We've been married all of this time and we've had sex just a handful of times (maybe 4 times total). I know that he desires sex and I want him to be fulfilled but it's strange for me.
How do I tell my husband that I don't have sexual feelings? I need to explain to him that the reason I'm never turned-on is because I simply don't GET turned-on by anything at all, ever. He deserves to know why I never desire sex with him, I understand, but I don't know how to tell him this without sounding like a freak. It really isn't him at all, it's me.
We've had a few slight arguments about sex recently because of my disinterest. Since I never think of it, I cannot predict when he might be interested in it. It isn't that I'm not attracted to him either...I think he's a wonderful man inside and out. I just...don't care about sex? I don't want it, really? Should I see a doctor about this because surely it isn't normal, right? Help? (link)
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You could be depressed or stressed out...I'm not saying this IS the case but I'm saying it is a possibility.
However, The truth is...If you don't have sex at all and completely cut out all sexual interactions I can't promise you that it won't eventually start taking it's toll on your marriage. You could try different things, Spice it up in a way that would be more pleasurable for you and your husband. If you absolutely don't want to put in the effort to try to make things work out well then I really don't know what else to tell you other than to maybe ask yourself if you really love your husband as much as you say you do? After awhile I can only imagine it is whats going to cross his mind. Sure, Sex isn't everything but after all sex is what two people who love each other share and what brings two people together. Maybe talk to a doctor? See what he recommends. Other than that you really should sit down with your husband and give him an explanation...Everything you told us is what you he should know.
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So there's this guy.. i like him alot, we text literally non stop we hang out, we vid chat allll this and he's admitted that he likes me.. like as a person not just for pussy, and ive nevver had that before.. but he's caught up on his ex still and they're kinda starting to talk again.. idk what to do... he still constantly talks to me and wont date his ex again cuz somethings holding him back and everyone says that something.. is me.. ! ugh what to do ? (link)
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Nobody can truly move on to someone else if they are still caught up in their ex. If the guy still has feelings for her then hell I would start to back off for awhile. You don't want to get all caught up in that drama. You two can talk and be friends but I would lay off on the texting and video chat. Let him figure out what he wants and make sure he gets over his ex before he goes crawling to you.
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im doing acid for the 1st time on friday. i will take it proabaly around 7pm. i have work the next day at 3pm. do you think i will be completetly back to normal by then? (link)
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No, Acid doesn't flush out the system that quickly.
Acid (LSD) Is a very dangerous drug. It CAN cause permanent brain damage, Hallucinations, Rot your teeth and many more. I do NOT recommend doing this, Be smarter than that.
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I think my friend is bi. She has had boyfriends in the past but I feel like she is kinda interested in me. It's weird, we hang out on weekends with other girls and she's fine but in school, it's me me me. I feel her looking at me when I look somewhere else and she texts me ALL THE TIME. Not even kidding. She was in school taking a chemistry test and she texted me saying she couldn't figure out the answer. Like, seriously, your taking a test, why are you texting me? It's like she has no life that's how much she texts me. She always asks what I'm wearing the next day and I'll go to school and she'll be wearing the same thing, like jeans and plaid. It's creeping me out. What should I think about this? What do you think? thanks! (link)
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Okay before you jump to conclusions about her being bisexual...Did you ever think that maybe she looks up to you? This might sound a little weird but sometimes girls just want to be just like their friends. In a blunt term copycat. This doesn't mean she has feelings for you or is crushing on you more than likely she likes you as a friend and just enjoys your company. Talk to her, Tell her that you like talking to her but you feel that you also need to have your space sometimes. Be nice about it
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We're both in our mid-20's; female here.
I have been completely jaded for at least a year as far as love is concerned.
I was in a terrible, on-and-off relationship with this jerk, who I finally got rid of. I've started dating this new guy about a month ago, and I feel SO strongly for him, it's kinda shocking. We've been friends for a few years, and I know he really likes me, and he has for awhile. I just hadn't grown up enough to appreciate a good guy VS a jerk. This guy is an incredible man. He's on my level intellectually (which is really important to me), I can really be myself around him, he thinks I'm beautiful even with no makeup on and tears streaming down my face, I say stupid things and he thinks it's cute; when I'm around him, I smile so much that my cheeks actually hurt. We're still in the honeymoon period - I know that, but we have such incredible conversations and such a strong connection...I dunno.
When we were kissing goodnight (which usually takes awhile, because he's...um...really good at that), the words "I love you" almost slipped out of my mouth. I stopped myself, but should I have? We have a very open and honest relationship. When we got together, it was because I said, straight up, "I like you a lot, and I want to be with you."
I don't really have a concern, per se, it's more I want to know what you all think.
Have I been so complacent for so long that I don't even know liking someone VS loving someone?
Am I getting too invested in this?
What if I'm just rebounding (granted, I don't think so much it's this one - I've kinda liked him all along. He was a regular at the coffee shop I worked at, and I was looking for his car out the window even like a year ago)?
Is there, like, a specific timeline for these emotions?
Am I supposed to wait a certain amount of time?
...Should I wait for him to say it first?
I dunno. Feedback? Thanks, everyone! (link)
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There is no time limit for emotions but at the same time you have only been dating a month. A month is pretty quick to say "I love you" after all "I love you" has a very strong meaning to it. I would hold off awhile longer, It's still very early in the relationship. I'm sure you will get a chance to say it but wait until the time is right and you two have been together a little bit longer.
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Hello i was wondering what type of coin this is and if its worth any money?
http://tinypic.com/r/15gtnq8/6
http://tinypic.com/r/2yn56yp/6 (link)
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Japanese coin, I'm not sure if it has a value to it though.
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I've seen the commercials for the Shake Weight. (The device that's supposed to help tone flabby arms.) I was just wondering if it actually works! I've heard it's had good reviews but you can never be too sure. (link)
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No it doesn't at least it didn't work for me!
If you are looking to burn off fat then the best thing to do is diet. The most the shake weight thing might do is add muscle but again there is no guarantee. You're best bet is maybe buy some weights and do it that way. Hell, You'd be better off safe then sorry
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Ive been having sex for a long time but don't have much experience at being on top. How do you do it right? everytime im on top,it doesn't feel like anything.What's a good tip? (link)
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If you can ride a horse, Then you can ride a man.
That is blunt but that is how you do it.
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I used to have unprotected sex (while on birthcontrol ) a lot last year and the year before but my partner always pulled out on time and it never got inside me.I've been on birth control for 2 years and continue to take it daily,lately ive been more cautious about taking it at the same time everyday .Me and my boyfriend have had unprotected sex 3 times and one of the times he came in me (since it was his first time he didn't know how to control it) and the third time,he claimed he pulled out all the way,which i did witness most of it but i was scared some got in...should I be really worried? (link)
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Whether or whether or not you are on birth control there is ALWAYS a possibility you can get pregnant. I don't know why a lot of young people think the pull out method works... It doesn't. In fact this is one of the many reasons why babies are born. If he did or didn't pull out it DOESN'T made a difference. If you want to be safe then I highly suggest you start using condoms. Birth control and condoms are as safe as your going to get. Don't let the pull out method fool you. Should you be worried...There is ALWAYS a chance the only thing you can do is wait.
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My senior prom is this June. I haven't even thought about it until last night, when I found out that a CRAPLOAD of girls already have their dresses.
Which made me think: What the hell am I going to wear?
No, this is not your average "omg what will i like wearrrrr" girly question.
This concerns me because I HATE dresses with a burning passion. I never wear skirts. The only time I've ever worn a dress was to Sweet 16 parties.
So, what are some good dress styles for girls who aren't so fond of dresses? No strapless things, nothing ridiculously over-the-top, please. Pictures appreciated :) (link)
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Hm...
You could try to wear longer dresses or maybe something that is more in your style rather than going with the typical prom girly look. Here are some nice dresses that I would recommend..
http://www.nexteve.com/shop/cocktail-dresses/pink-halter-vneck-F6236.html
http://www.nexteve.com/shop/cocktail-dresses/blue-halter-ruffle-hem-F6219.html
(I personally like this one a lot..) http://www.nexteve.com/shop/prom-dresses/F6359.html
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i was being fingered by a guy and he touched an area on my vagina like middle of my vagina that just made my entire body shake- but not in a good way. it wasnt an orgasm at alll it like hurt and just made me really shake and twitch NOT IN A GOOD WAY AT ALL. but he thought i liked it which i did not.
what was happeneing?
what was that spot?
can it be fixed? (link)
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Vagina's are sensitive, All woman have a point on their bodies where they don't like to be touched or that is extra sensitive. (I'm not saying you don't like being touched down there) Also, Tell your man to keep his nails clipped. Trust me it helps A LOT and if it hurts tell him to focus on the clitoris part.
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Hi-
So, i have not been fingered that many times (like 3, and it was barely- like the boys who did it did not really no what they were doing) but the other night i got fingered by an older guy who knew what he was doing. he fingered me SO HARD all over my vaginia and in the period hole. like literally jabbing the hole with his fingeres.
HOWEVER-
it did not feel good whatsoever. it never does. it just really hurts like really really hurts. and i hate it.
my hymen is still intact, im a virgin but my friends who r just like me claim it feels AAAMMMAAZZZINNG.
how do i fix my problem?
y doesnt it feel good for me!
i kind of feel like im not a sexual person. (link)
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If a guy jams his finger down there of course it is not going to feel good. For one, It helps if the guys nails are clipped down. That will prevent any cutting and uncomfortableness for you. Two, It helps to focus on the clitoris area after all that is what usually causes the orgasms. It also wouldn't hurt to buy some lubricant if you are under 18 and can't enter a sex store well they sell it at places like Walmart or drug stores in the pharmacy department.
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so my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 9 months.. in a couple days.. [technically 10] and i have been through so much for him.. for oever a year if you put it all together. people bullied me, i was harassed, my friends turned against me and now i have more enemies than i can count on both of my hands.. all becausehe broke up with his ex for me and i became a "home-wrecker" but she was cheating on him the entire time they were together and all this crap.
well, in the beginning, he was so used to just flirting with girls and having it be okay and normal in a relationship.. he used to call this girl baby and love and beautiful and i found out and i almost broke up with him. he didnt talk to me for 3 months over the summer and was "deciding if he wanted to break up with me or not" listening to what the girls AND HIS ex had to say. it was painful. but then things got good, but then he started talking to this girl from his church and they were flirting majorly and he would talk to her instead of me.. well, that got resolved and he doesnt talk to her anymore. then things were good again, but he started talking to his ex behind my bad [who did the majority of the bad things to me..] and that also got resolved [duh] and now his friend and him were playing xbox and they started playing with his friends "friend" lets call her.. elizabeth. and my boyfriend told me shes amazing and funny and awesome. uhm. pretty sure you shouldnt be telling your girlfriend that another girl is amazing. he doesnt say that about me to his friends.. and then i got mad at him because his friends were saying, "shes afraid of his cock" [meaning my boyfriends because i have morals.] and my brother heard them and stook up for me.. but my boyfriend didnt do anything. and then, i got mad at him because his friends are always so mean to me and he goes along with it, so we werent talking for a day or two until i forgave him, and then a couple days later i found out he hung out with elizabth at his friends aunts house with his firends "girlfriend" and girl cousin. i flipped out because ive been cheated on once before. he said nothing happened and that they werent even sitting next to eachother, but theres no way thats true. and when he was with her, he didnt text me all day until late that night.
and now hes not even trying to gain my trust back. he just gave up. and isnt even trying. when i was with him, i never gave up, ever. i love him, but i dont know if its worth it anymore. he doesnt text me unless i text him first, and im just a mess. im a mess. i was going to break up with him on thursday, but we had a snowday, so then i was gonna do it friday, but we had a snowday, and i dont know if i even want to do it on monday, but i cant because he has lab and then we have testing on tuesday wednesday and thursday. its like .. a sign that i shouldnt break up with him. but i dont know, what should i do, someone help me! please.
him: 16 me: 17 (link)
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The guy can't be honest and faithful to you, Commit to you and only you. Which gives him all the reason why he DOESN'T DESERVE you. In my opinion he is immature and seems to like to toy with your feelings. I think by all means you should end the relationship and after you do CUT CONTACT. Do not keep taking him back because as much as you don't want to hear this...If you do, You are only telling him it's okay to cheat, flirt and show interest in other girls. The red flags are there, You need to stand your ground and let him know you aren't going to put up with it. Don't let him try to sweet talk you because if he really cared all along cheating wouldn't even cross his mind. You deserve better
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Hi, im 14/f and my boyfriends 15. I'm an August baby, and all of my friends are september - even though we're in the same year at school, their almost a year older than me. In septmeber, when they turn 16, they'll be starting to have sex with their boyfriends. Even though i've been with my boyfriend for just as long as them (coming up 9 months)i wont be having sex until august 2011 - im not sure it's worth waiting that long.
We both love each other, and i'm not on about having sex now, maybe may next year? but i wanna know why its such a big deal to be over 16?!? should i wait - obviously i only would have sex if im ready. can i get some opinions?
Bearing in mind he'll be 17 next year. Thanks x (link)
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You don't plan to have sex, Sex just happens when the time is right. I have no idea where you heard the whole 16 thing but it is all a bull faced lie. Sex, is NOT a race, A competition or even to see who is better than who. Sex is a very serious thing two people share because they love each other, they trust each other. 14,15,16, in my opinion is all WAY to young to be having sex. If you decide to have sex make sure you are mature enough, You are ready, and you are also ready to take on any responsibilities that could happen. However like I said...People don't plan when they are going to have sex. That is just plain weird
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i have sleep anpena and im addicted to persiction medication. but i cant bitch bea cuase my gf is a cutter together we are like sid and nancy from the sex pistols. what should i do aobut my realtionship. i dont aprove of her cutting but im a drug addict it like the blind lweading the blind please help (link)
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Honestly
Before you can help your girlfriend you need to help yourself first. If you have a problem with prescription medication then you should seek rehab. If she is a cutter then she needs to see a psychiatrist. Someone who will help her, Also I have to agree with the person below me but seriously do you want to be with someone who cuts herself all the time?
The answer is ...You should seek rehab. Focus on getting your problems fixed because you come first. Once you get your problem fixed and straightened out then focus on helping your girlfriend.
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Okay... This guy asked me out yesterday... But he is a Coulerd and i am white. I really like him alot but he broke my heart a few months ago. He aked me out and then told me 3 days later he has a gf. There have been other Boys but none of them took his place and as soon as they said they loved me i backed out. I am 14 and he is 16 and i know my parents wont be okay with it if they found out(the skincolour). No one knows about it yet but soon they will start finding out. I dont know what to do now. Last time the whole school was gossiping about me and i sort of got a bad name. My best friend is black and worried i get hurt again. We always have to be on the lookout but he doesnt care who knows or finds out and i do but im to scared to tell him that... i like him but i am not so sure i love him. He said that he lovez me. Sumhow i trust him but i saw some of the letters him and one of my friends wrote to each other and he said he likes me... alot and i have a talanted body. i Dont understand or really know him and he thinks im really shy but he doesnt even look at me when he talks to me. i like him but i dont love him but i dont think i wanna lose him without even trying to make it all work. I dunno what to do... i am a 14 year old girl from South Africa. HELP!!! (link)
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Look,
First of all don't ever let a guy toy with you the way he did. If he asked you out and then 3 days later he told you he had a girlfriend then clearly not only is he a liar but what the heck?! Who is he to lead you on. You do not deserve a guy who is going to lie to you, and play with your feelings. Yes there are so many fish in the sea and I hate to tell you but he is not the only guy out there. Hun, Look if you like a guy that has a dark skin color that is OKAY. Sometimes there are people who are out there that think differently but in the end everyone is equal. We are all human and we all have feelings and there is nothing wrong with loving or caring for someone who isn't the same color as you. It's okay to love someone who is handicapped, heavyset, big hair, purple eyes, tall, short with green hair etc. We can't help who we love and don't ever let someone tell you that it is not okay.
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I am having such a difficult time in my life right now. Mainly I am just sick of having to deal with the problems I have with my mom. And I feel like all men wants to do to me in sexualize me. Right now it really pisses me off that my mom acts like she wants to be distant from me and when she knows I am too upset she say things like I love you when the way she acts is far from that. I keep remembering what happened to us last year during new years eve that she does not care about me anymore at all . And wanted to leave me for ever . But then I am not working right now nor was I then. Cause the main reason is that I am a foreigner and I just came into this country 12 years ago. And that makes it hard for me to find employment since the only person that could fix my citizenship status to get a job is my mom. So I feel that its the only reason that I am still with her. And this feeling disgust me it just seems like all this feeling is coming from a negative place. Every time a subject comes up about my family I have to really watch what I have to say. I feel like this issue to me is so serious and I dont know where else to find help in las vegas, nv . I told her I go online for problems like this and she does not approve of it. (link)
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Okay try to relax,
First of all, The economy these days makes it hard for everyone to get a job not just people who are coming from another country. Also, I think it would help if you sat down with your mom and tried to explain to her how you feel and how what she is doing is effecting you. Let her know that you need her and you need to support. I am also pretty sure there are places in Nevada that have places that can help you get a counselor to work with you. One of the places we have in my state that helps people is (South Shore) they are great and the provide therapist and counselors to those who need it. Talk to your mom and ask her if she can help you set up a goal.
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