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what should i think?
I think my friend is bi. She has had boyfriends in the past but I feel like she is kinda interested in me. It's weird, we hang out on weekends with other girls and she's fine but in school, it's me me me. I feel her looking at me when I look somewhere else and she texts me ALL THE TIME. Not even kidding. She was in school taking a chemistry test and she texted me saying she couldn't figure out the answer. Like, seriously, your taking a test, why are you texting me? It's like she has no life that's how much she texts me. She always asks what I'm wearing the next day and I'll go to school and she'll be wearing the same thing, like jeans and plaid. It's creeping me out. What should I think about this? What do you think? thanks!
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Hero worship sounds more likely than bisexuality.
Ever heard the phrase "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery"?
She admires you on some level, and seeks to make herself more like you. This is a pretty normal thing to do in small doses, as often and as much as she's copying you you would not be amiss in talking to her about it.
Be up front. Its obvious you're never going to be best friends, so the best bet is a little gentle honesty that upsets her just a bit to hear. Things like "you're smothering me" and "I need space" and "it bothers me when you try to copy me, because I like being my own individual and I think you should give it a try"
Be prepared. People who do this are always insecure, and in telling her to stop you're going to poke her in her insecurity. Its possible you could still be friends, then again its possible she'll freak out a bit and start bad mouthing you. Girls are unpredictable that way (as I'm sure you know from personal experience)
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Hey, this happened to me a few years back. I know it's annoying but at the end of the day, she obviously admires you (I didn't mean that in a bisexual way.. cos that's just a ridiculous conclusion to jump to!)
If it's really bothering you, talk to her about it, there's no need to be a bitch and hurt her feelings.. just say you need a bit of space, or next time she asks what you're wearing, ask why and perhaps make a joke of it.. or say you're wearing an outfit that you know you aren't going to wear.. then if she asks just say you changed your mind.
If she doesn't get the hint, how about you go shopping for example and point out things you think would look great on her. That's helped me in the past.
Remember though, try to feel happy about it.. you have someone "copying" you because they think you look good and value all the time spent talking to you. It's not all bad. :)
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Okay before you jump to conclusions about her being bisexual...Did you ever think that maybe she looks up to you? This might sound a little weird but sometimes girls just want to be just like their friends. In a blunt term copycat. This doesn't mean she has feelings for you or is crushing on you more than likely she likes you as a friend and just enjoys your company. Talk to her, Tell her that you like talking to her but you feel that you also need to have your space sometimes. Be nice about it
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