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Won't leave me alone!
I befriended a new girl at my school and have regretted it ever since. At first she was kind of shy and seemed nice, and I didn't listen to my friends who warned me that she would get annoying at one point or another. Now, its come to the point that I dread every second I have to be near her! I have gym with her, whenever I try to go talk to my other friends she literally grabs my arm and DRAGS me away! She'll wait for me outside my class in the middle of the hallway smiling, with everyone trying to go around her. She separates me from my other friends and literally CROSSES HER ARMS and SULKS if I so much as say two words to anyone else! She also has this superiority about her, like she thinks everyone WANTS to be her friend when the truth is that people are starting to jeer at me just for standing next to her. I don't want to be mean, but every moment I spend talking to her (ex- about her bloody tooth being pulled and how she couldn't spit or blood would come out) is TORCHURE! She goes up to me in the hallway and slaps me as I walk by or from behind (hard) just to say hi in her annoying, high pitched voice. I told her during gym one day I didn’t like the ‘touching’ thing. She started sulking and started RUNNING away from me, without saying another word! She’s only talking to me cause I'm the only one who hasn't shoved her away, and we have almost nothing in common. How do I get her to leave me alone w/o making her depressed?
Please, this has been going on for months and every day its getting worse! I don’t know what to do! Please, tell me what you think I should say to her or do to get her to leave me alone without completely hurting her, I’m the closest thing she has to a friend (which is pretty pathetic), and she CANNOT take a hint. I’m in 10th grade, please help!!!
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yeah, she does seem very annoying and that would annoy the H*LL outta me.. i know what it's like to be around a person like that and the best thing to do is to be honest no matter how much it hurts because truth hurts.. you are going to lose your other friends is you hang out with her any longer. sometimes we don't want to judge others from another persons perspective and think that the person can't be that bad. here is something you could say..
"Listen (name) we need to have a chat. i am finding it rather rude not to mention annoying when you drag me away from people that i am talking with. your behavior is getting a little out of hand. when i started being your friend i thought i would ignore what others have said and get to know you by letting you show me who you really are. i don't mean to be mean i am just being honest. i need my space and i need to socialize with other people. we are in grade 10 not grade 1. i don't like it when you run away if i tell you that i dislike something you have done like touching/hitting me when we walk by each other in the hall. ETC ETC.."
you can add or change something....being honest is the only way to get through to someone and you can't go the rest of the year being tortured. she seems to be very immature for her age. she sulks and runs away when she is being told something. the next time she pulls on your arm to drag you away shake your arm free of her and tell her that you are busy talking.
she may do or say things that will make you feel bad but don't buy it. i had a 'annoyances' like her..i told her the truth and she started laying off. she would say she would do things and i ignored it. once she sucks you back in it will be harder the second time.. well i hope i have helped and good luck..
let me know who it goes it might be harder then it seems to be but at least try..get your life back at school loll.
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U should not just give up on her like that at least talk to her and give her the opurtunity to change; get her in a private place and tell her about her behavior and see if she can change her behavior; then if she can't you tried to be a good friend at least.
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Just say this:
"Look, I was nice in the beginning because you seemed like you were nice, but over the last 6 months, your behavior has proven that you are far from nice, and I really don't wanna be your friend. I don't mean to be mean and I hope you don't take it that way, but I just can't be your friend and I don't think it will happen in the future either. Sorry."
It's direct, clear, and nice. Hopefully she'll take the hint. You can't just expect her to know you don't like her, you have to tell her.
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