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"I love you."
We're both in our mid-20's; female here.
I have been completely jaded for at least a year as far as love is concerned.
I was in a terrible, on-and-off relationship with this jerk, who I finally got rid of. I've started dating this new guy about a month ago, and I feel SO strongly for him, it's kinda shocking. We've been friends for a few years, and I know he really likes me, and he has for awhile. I just hadn't grown up enough to appreciate a good guy VS a jerk. This guy is an incredible man. He's on my level intellectually (which is really important to me), I can really be myself around him, he thinks I'm beautiful even with no makeup on and tears streaming down my face, I say stupid things and he thinks it's cute; when I'm around him, I smile so much that my cheeks actually hurt. We're still in the honeymoon period - I know that, but we have such incredible conversations and such a strong connection...I dunno.
When we were kissing goodnight (which usually takes awhile, because he's...um...really good at that), the words "I love you" almost slipped out of my mouth. I stopped myself, but should I have? We have a very open and honest relationship. When we got together, it was because I said, straight up, "I like you a lot, and I want to be with you."
I don't really have a concern, per se, it's more I want to know what you all think.
Have I been so complacent for so long that I don't even know liking someone VS loving someone?
Am I getting too invested in this?
What if I'm just rebounding (granted, I don't think so much it's this one - I've kinda liked him all along. He was a regular at the coffee shop I worked at, and I was looking for his car out the window even like a year ago)?
Is there, like, a specific timeline for these emotions?
Am I supposed to wait a certain amount of time?
...Should I wait for him to say it first?
I dunno. Feedback? Thanks, everyone!
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I think you should do what you feel is right when you feel the time is good. Think of it this way. You were in this relationship with a complete jerk is this new guy the total oppisite? Could you not see your self with anyone else. have you thought about saying just I like you instead of I love you? We on here cant really tell you when the time is right. All we can say is Love is a strong word and you dont want to toss it out there and get hurt again. bt it sounds to me you have a great guy on your hand and sounds like the two of you are in love.
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There is no time limit for emotions but at the same time you have only been dating a month. A month is pretty quick to say "I love you" after all "I love you" has a very strong meaning to it. I would hold off awhile longer, It's still very early in the relationship. I'm sure you will get a chance to say it but wait until the time is right and you two have been together a little bit longer.
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