Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
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Well lets see.. where do i start.. k, i am 14. birthday is may 16... and my boyfriend just turned 17 and his birthday is sept. 4... when he turns 18 i will be 15... is it illegal even if both our parents are fine with it and stuff?? and as long as we arent having sex? yeah i know my parents or someone could get a restraining order... but if my parents were cool with it and so were his...?? you get what im trying to ask?
well yeah i know i have a ways to worry about it because he just turned 17 about 2 months ago.
please give me some info. (link)
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Dating is completley fine, it's just illegal to have sex with a minor. So as long as you two aren't, and your parents are fine with it, everything should be good. If you're worried about others getting out a restraining order, just maybe introduce him to them and let them know he's a good guy and everything.
I hope I helped.
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so i've met this guy last jaunary. we've been dating since march.. and i lost it to him (lets just say i didnt think about it before i let things happend). and well for the past month or so, i've been feeling so annoyed and irritated by him! i've tried breaking up with him twice! its not working!! hes not letting it hapend! he bugs so much! and ive told him im annoyed by him! he just gets mad and says he doesnt do anything to annoy me! half of it is him that bugs to be arownd me, and then the other half is me, that i get annoyed easily! ive tried asking for a break, but he says hes only gona give me my space.. but thats not even working! he still constantly calls, text, ask if he can come over everyday! and i dont know what to do about it! and i feel like hes always trying to win me over from my friends! and i hate it!! please help asap! (link)
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You just need to tell him strongly, NO.
Just let him know that if he wants to continue a relationship with you ( which I'm sure he does ), then by not giving you your space and everything, isn't wanting to make you date him right now. It's making his chances slimmer. So don't call you or anything for awhile, at all, and you guys can talk if YOU text/call/talk to him or whatever, but only if YOU do it ( which I'm sure you're not going to do anyway, but if he thinks he might get called or anything, he won't call you. )
If he still is this persistent and fails to listen, then I would just fully end the whole entire relationship. He's being way too clingy, and that's not healthy at all on a relationship. Just explain to him then that things just aren't working out anymore, and you feel suffocated, and you're sorry, but it's over. And you hope friendship can still be in the future for you two.
I hope I helped.
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first of all i am a freshman and the guy is a sophmore who i like and my evil friends told him that and he told them,
"in a few years."
what the hell does that mean? can i have some insight on this please and please help!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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He probably just means in a few years, he'll be older, and you'll be too. As people tend to get older, the age difference between people doesn't seem so bad. And grades in High School and everything make it sound ten times worse. Like, a 16 year old going out with a 17 year old doesn't sound that bad, right? But if you were to say "A sophmore's going out with a senior!" Everyone would then be like, flabbergasted, haha.
So I don't know HOW he said it, like in a kdiding or serious tone or anything, but if serious, he probably means give it a few years until you're older, and maybe he might like you then like you like him. But if he was just kidding around, he might've just been joking about the age difference and whatnot.
Also, if he's serious, he could also mean,"Wait till you get up to the High School ( unless 9th grade's in your High School, I'm not sure. It's not at ours )."
I hope I helped.
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There this boy eric i like him but he has a girlfriend he liked me first i heard rumors he was goning to ask me out to the dance but then he went out with this girl... this girls really nice and stuff but i liked him first i guess that doensnt matter i dont know if theres an answer to my problem but if there is...
advice please (link)
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Well, the only thing I can really suggest to you is just wait it out, or move on. Just continue to hang with him and maybe even show signs of interest and everythign to keep the momentum of the friendship going, and see what happens later. You never know, they could break up, and you two could get together.
Just don't hook up with him or anything, or flirt heavily while other people are around. First of all, that's a huge drama creator. You're not only hurting the girlfriend's feelings, you're ticking off all her friends too, and you'd probably be tagged as some sort of "man stealer". ( I'm not saying you're going to do this, I'm just listing what some girls tend to do in these situations ).
But just try and sit around with him and hang out and show him what he's missing and just, what a great person you are. But if he doesn't come to his sense sooner or later, I'd try meeting some new guys and giving them a chance. You never know, you might wind up liking another guy more than you do this guy. You can't just sit and wait around forever. You're young!
I hope I helped.
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13/m ok im wondering, for your first gf would you want somebody you really care about. or wuld you want someone who you like just not at that high of a level just to see what its like first so you dont mess up with the one you really really care about, but first letting her know. for the record im not some kind of player that wants alot of girls just to have them. (link)
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I think for your first, and for any girlfriend in the future for that matter, should be cared for on some certain of a high level. I mean yes, it's good to test everything out with girls and see what types you like and everything and what mistakes you first make so you don't with the one you really really really like, but you still gotta have feelings for them and everything.
Just don't treat them and act like their some guinea pig or something. I think the first one should be really nice and cared about cause I mean, it IS your first girlfriend. Your kids might ask about her someday and you don't want your response to just be,"Uh, I don't even remember her name or anything."
So just have a good relationship with your girlfriends, have a good time with them, and just see where it takes you, and just make mental notes of all the mistakes that might ( hopefully they won't ) happen in the relationship, so when that one that you really really really like does in fact come along, you can be like,"Well, I shouldn't do this, or this, or this. If she starts acting like this, that isn't the signs of a good relationship, etc."
I hope I helped.
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This boy really likes me, but the problem is that i do not like him. He is just not my type, he is always cursing and ALWAYS gets sent to the principals office. And he never leaves me alone and now he knows where i live and my parents for some reason loves him. What can i do to keep him away without him getting his hands on me?????
It grosses me out just reading this...
hearts,
DaAdivcePerson (link)
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The most you can really do is be honest with the kid. Not BRUTALLY honest, but honest.
Just the next time he's trying to lay his hands on you and everything, just be like,"What are you doing? I'm sorry, but I don't like you like that, I only like you as a friend."
And just try and limit the time you spend with him if he really seems to get on your nerves that much. Just whenever he tries to make plans, let him know you're sorry, but you can't today, or just make up something. Slowly, as time goes by and he sees you two aren't hanging out as much, he might get the hint and try not to be all over you as much and everything.
I hope I helped.
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so this one boy told one of my good friends that if he doesnt think a girl is good looking then he doesnt want to hang out with her. can someone please tell me why guys are such shallow @$$holes? (link)
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Well, I really can't tell you why, nobody really can. I mean, if every girl knew why guys were like that, they'd know exactly who not to date and everything, and then there'd be no heartache, and that.. that, would be a perfect world, haha.
But the only thing I can really say is, with guys, most guys can just tend to the think they're the bomb or whatever, and they can get any girl they want to. And with every guy, there's competition. Whose the manliest, the funniest, the one who gets the most girls, etc. So guys are probably sitting there going,"HAHA YEAH LOOK AT ALL THESE HOT GIRLS IM HANGING OUT WITH. WHOSE THE MAN, WHOSE THE MAN?" It's all one big competition to them, and they don't even care if they hurt the girl's feelings sometimes.
I hope I helped.
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19/F
This weekend I'm going to be meeting my boyfriend's parents. We've been dating for a month, and I'm going to be staying there for the entire weekend!
Does anyone have any tips? I really want to make a good impression. (link)
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Whenever you first meet the parents, just smile and ( shake their hands is optional ) and just be like,"Hi, it's great to finally meet you guys! Haha, I was so nervous before I got here." And just laugh it off. It shows you have a good sense of humor, and you ARE being honest ; two good qualities in a son's girlfriend.
And just during the weekend you're spending with them, just be polite. Say thank you and everything, and just be careful when hanging around their son. Don't be like, making out on the couch and then have them come home or something! And you know, just be respectful of the house and everything ; like any guest would be.
And during the course of the visit, just let them get to know the real you, and you're interests and what you're interested in and everything. And even ask questions about themselves. I'm sure they'd be suprised you're taking such an interest in them ; and people love to talk about themselves, of course.
And then whenever you're leaving, just tell them you had a great time and thank you so much for inviting you to hang out with you guys over the weekend.
I hope I helped.
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my homecoming is soon and im bringing 2 friends from different schools. they won't know anyone at my school. but i don't really have good friensd at my school and im afraid that they might not talk to me that much at the party and then my 2 friends will think i have no frineds... so i dont know what to do i can't just go up to them and talk it's not that simple tehy'll be too busy taling about other stuff to their other friends or dancing around or having some inside joke.. (link)
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Well, whenever you guys get there, just be like,"I don't want to make anything awkward for you guys, plus I hardly get to see you two since we're always at school and everything, so let's all just hang out together and have a blast!"
If you DO see someone you want to talk to, just run up to them really quick, and just be like,"____, hey! Aw, you look so pretty!" And then introduce your friends and then just be like,"Well, it was great seeing you, you look great. Talk to you in school!" and just continue having a blast with your friends. I doubt they're going to think you have no friends ; they'll just think you want to spend all your time with them, which I'm sure you do anyways!
I mean, I went with a date from another school at my semi-formal and I just hung out with him and a couple of other people the whole night, so it's basically your situation, and the evening was great!
I hope I helped.
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15/f
I like my brother's friend (17 years old), and he's really nice to me (says things like "You're magic" and "You're on fire") and he always opens my doors.
But he doesn't look at me much (unless he's talking to me)...even when he's sitting directly across from me, or when it's just me, my brother, and him. When I point something out to my brother, he looks at where I point but doesn't look at me.
By the way, he's very outgoing.
So, why doesn't he look at me? I'm not sure if he hates or likes me. And, could he like me? (link)
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He could possibly like you ; I've never seen brother's friends just act that way towards their sister on a regular basis to just be friendly.
The reason he probably doesn't look at you that much is because he probably doesn't want you knowing he likes you, let alone your brother. Friends tend to have a little code thing going between them to never date their friends sister. So he just might be worried if your brother suspected he liked you or something, he'd get mad and not want to be friends anymore.
Don't worry ; it doesn't sound like he hates you AT ALL. If he hated you, he wouldn't be saying cute things and holding doors for you ; he'd be slamming them in your face!
So just try talking to him more and make more eye contact so he has to look at you, and see what happens. If nothing happens in front of your brother, try hanging out with him one-on-one or talk to him privately and see if he tends to loosen up whenever your brother's not around.
I hope I helped.
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2day in the morning kevin was trying 2 dap me off but i gave him a hug instead!!!!!! is that good or bad i am totally freaking out?
he didnt talk 2 me none 2 day he talked 2 my friends!!!! wen i left from by my friend cuz some1 called me he went by them and 2 boys were beating me up(playing) and he was about to come help them but they stopped later on the bus he didnt even tell me nothin at all but my friend told him i called him ugly on the bus goin home (i did not) i told him no i didnt but i dont kno itf it hurt his feelings or not please give me some advice on how i should act 2morrow!!!!!!! (link)
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I don't think thats bad at all. If you like him dap you off ( idk what that means but i think you meant tap you, haha ) then he might start to think this might just turn into a friends with benefits type of thing.
I would just IM him or tomorrow, whenever, and just be like,"Hey, you know I didn't really call you ugly, right? I've just been worrying that you thought I did and I was afraid you might've gotten mad at me or something." And then just give him a hug and talk & flirt with him.
If he keeps ignoring you though every now and then, I would ask because that is sort of rude, really. Just be like,"Why do you ignore me every now and then? It hurts my feelings, and makes me feel like you don't want to talk to me or something." And figure out why he's doing it. Best to find out real answers from the source.
I hope I helped.
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I want to give my daughter pink streaks in her hair for Halloween (she's 3). I bought spray on hair color that goes on really nice and bright. But I can't figure out how to give her streaks, like highlights. After I get the streaks right I want to pull back her hair in a ponytail and put glitter on it. It will look really cute if I can ever figure it out.
Any suggestions? (link)
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Here's a site that pretty much explains everything:
http://www.folica.com/Streaks__N_Tips_d1217.html
What I've done in the past is,
is my mom had someone else help her with it, and just sit me down and tell me to hold really still. And obviously, wear a shirt you don't mind getting pink all over and everything.
Then just have her hair sit perfectly straight and have someone hold two pieces of paper flat against the hair, leaving a big space inbetween them for where you want to spray, and just spray that area, and keep on doing it.
Then, obviously, just put your daughters hair in a ponytail, and toss the glitter in there, and there you go!
I'm imagining it now, it's going to look so cute.
I hope I helped.
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my best friend is crazy about my boyfriend. he was her boyfriend first but they only went out for 2 1/2 weeks. he was her first boyfriend. she says hes the only guy shes ever loved. i think shes a little over dramatic. ive been going out with him for more than 2 months now. i love him alot and this is the most serious relationship ive been in, and ive been in a lot of relationships. i love him so much. but now ive been reading on my friends and my boyfriends myspaces. they both admitted to still having feelings for eachother. my best friend came to school and told me the only reason he hasnt broke up with me is because he doesnt know how and he really loves her. she also told him that i wouldnt break up with him because i dont want them going back out. thats not true. i love him. my friend is really mad at me now and i didnt do anything. she gave me her blessing to go out with him. i dont know what to do. they like eachother and my friend is telling me all this crap. my boyfriend says he loves me more than hell ever love her or like her, but how do i know? my friend was with him first. what do i do? please help me. thanks. (link)
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First of all, I wouldn't even consider being a good friend of hers anymore. If she's going to sit there and be this over dramatic and flat out rude to you and try to hurt your feelings like this, after she even gave you her BLESSING, which most friends wouldn't go to get first ( which shows how great of a friend you are to her! ), for her to do this to you? She's not putting the BEST in friend at all. Not even the "friend" part. She's being catty, and I don't think she deserves you as a friend.
Second of all, you need to have a dead-serious talk with your boyfriend about this. Pull him over in privacy where you two can talk face-to-face and ask him exactly what's going on, and not to lie to you. Ask him if he does still have feelings for her, and if he does want to dump you, because you'd rather him dump you now then to let this all linger on as one big lie and have it hurt a thousand times worse in the end. If he says no, then bring up the myspace thing, and why he'd comment her and say that to her, if he didn't like her. And just see what he comes up with. I think it'd have to be like, the peferct excuse, cause there's no excuse you can really say for that and to prove yourself innocent on that one. So if you do trust him enough and his reasoning sounds like it fits in with the story and everything, then have him message her or call her or something WHILE you're there with him and explain to her that he doesn't love her - he's with you, and he loves you. And after that, really pay attention to what goes on between the two of them. Anymore signs of liking eachother or anything, I suggest getting out of the relationship. Too much drama and hurt, that you do not deserve.
If he does admit to liking her though, then break up with him and spare the heartache. Cause if you were to just stick with him goodness knows if they'd be cheating then behind your back, and it's only going to hurt you a thousand times more worse during the relationship. He doesn't deserve you anyways then if he likes her. That'd just show they're both perfect for eachother - inconsiderate jerks.
I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out.
[EDIT: Alright, sure! If you want to ask me, just IM me @ Mel Le Disko, or just drop by and leave a message. Leaving a message might be best, cause I have to get off, so I won't be on AIM to talk to you. I'll be back in like, an hour or so, so whichever you want to do's fine.
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are fishnets too slutty for halloween? in the picture of my costume the girl is wearing fishnets and i was gunna buy them,but my mom is saying if i wear fishnets all of my friends' moms are gunna think ima whore. is that true?? like i know halloween is for dressing up, but my best friend is going as a ninja turtle and ill be walking next to her in fishnets, and people might get the wrong opinoin of me, i dont want my friends mom to get the wrong idea and think im a slut,and tell people that i wore fishnets because they may not let their kids hang around me anymore.im only 14 help??? (link)
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No, I don't think it's slutty at all. I know as a parent, you're mother's concerned, but that's only going to be from a mother's point of view, really. All the kids out there and all the other parents realize it's halloween and you're going to be dressing up as whatever, so if they ask you what you're being, just explain to them and be like,"Yeah, I wasn't sure about the fishnets, but they came with the costume, so I just decided last minute to."
If people aren't going to let you hang out with their kids because for one night on Halloween when you were just dressing up and having fun, they're taking it a little over the top, really.
Now if you were walking out in like, broad daylight, a regular day of the week and wearing fishnets. THEN people should get the wrong impression of you, but not on Halloween, no. I've seen so many people be hookers or something really strange and weird on Halloween, and people don't care and just laugh.
I hope I helped.
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I had this boyfriend once and he asked me out. By the way i am 13 if that helps....anyways..i said yes so we went out for a week but i never really had fun with him. All my friends have boyfriends and talk to them on the phone and invite them places and i dont think anybody is cute in our school. I dont know if i am just not into boys yet or not because whenever i say i am not into boys yet they just look at me like i am a baby or not mature or something...please help? (link)
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It's completely fine to not be interested in guys yet. I mean, you are only 13. Most girls DON'T get interested in guys until around that age. At least, whenever I was 13 they weren't. Kids today are trying to get boyfriends way too quick, and way too fast. So while they're out there living the taken life, enjoy the single!
This is a chance to, even if you're not interested in guys, practice and perfect your skills with talking to guys and everything, so you're not so nervous and everything as for when you do! Plus, it'll get you alot of guys friends, which'll make your taken friends jealous, I bet!
So just go around, talk to guys, make friends with them, and see if there's any that suddenly might start to just catch your interest, and you really then start to like, and just get a feel for what type of guy you'd like to hang out most with, so whenever you do want a boyfriend, you'll already know what to start looking for.
As for your friends, they really shouldn't be looking at you like that. I mean, I'm not saying you guy's aren't, but you're only 13, like I said, 13 is NOT a very mature age, anyways. You guys are teenagers. You're supposed to be running around, causing mayhem, being a little immature and having the time of your life. You're not supposed to be like, mature adults sipping mocha frappichinos (sp) and playing chess while discussing the theory of relativity or something.
So like I said, just go out, have fun, meet new people, make new friends ( especially guy friends ), and when the time comes for you to be interested in guys, it'll happen. Save the boyfriends for later whenever they're more meaningful and more mature.
I hope I helped.
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Ive been with my boyfriend for a while now and I love him more than anything but here lately im afraid to lose him I always think he can do soo much better than me like im not good enough for him what do i do. (link)
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This happens with alot of girls whenever they find a really great guy. Especially ( I don't know if you do, I'm not saying you do ) if they already might have low self-esteem to begin with, which most girls already do.
I mean you should already know that your boyfriend loves you! He's with you, isn't he? So there's already so many qualities about you he likes, otherwise he wouldn't have gone out with you in the first place.
If you're really feeling sad about this, just ask him then why he asked you out in the first place, like quality-wise, and what made you stand out. And I know he's going to have alot of great things to say, which I'm sure'll boost your self-confidence right up, and make you feel loads better.
Just remember - out of all the other girls out there, he chose YOU. So there's something about you that he finds amazing, that all the other girls lack.
I hope I helped!
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Ok so i was going out with this guy for 4 days and the 4 night her broke up with me. well i found out earlier that day him and this other girl were flirting mayjorly. well when the girl found out i was going out with him she was pissed because she liked him. so she cussed me out over the internet and when we broke up that night i told her she could have him and she said i dont want him. well the next day i didnt go to school because i felt like crap and she started telling everyone i didnt go because i was afried of her ( which wasnt true) so now i am scared to go to school tomorrow because of what happenend my mom told me to tell her to go to hell but i dont want to make it worst then it already is. so what do i do ? and by the way the guy left me for the girl. (link)
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Go to school! Who cares what all those other people think? If they start talking and come up to you with the problem, just give them the truth. Just be like,"Well, I guess they liked eachother, so me and him broke up. I don't know why she's telling you guys I'm afraid of her, I'm not. I mean, I don't even really care me and him broke up. It was only four days. I didn't have time to GET emotionally attached to him or anything."
And the more you tell people, they'll spread that around between eachother, and they'll all hear the truth sooner or later of what really happened. If they ask why you missed school, just be like,"I felt like crap. I mean, I know I wasn't emotionally attached, but breaking up with someone still isn't the best feeling in the world, you know. Especially breaking up with someone because they were off flirting with another."
And then just ignore the whole situation, and show her she means nothing to you by coming up with no response and just not hearing whatever bullcrap she has to say. The rumors all will eventually subside, and it'll be yesterday's news, and something new'll happen and everyone will forget it ever even happened between the two of you.
I hope I helped.
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14/f
My friend moved to a different state a few years ago and i finally found her, well i mean i looked her up on Myspace and i found her page i messanged her and asked to to be my friend and what i dont understand is she accepted it but she never replied to my message. in it i told her to call me and heave her my phone number and she never called or anything. i asumed she read the message besause im on her friends list now. why hasnt she contacted me bace at all? does she not care about me anymore. we were BEST friends and dont say someting like oh she just shy or something like that because i know her and she is deffanitly not shy to not say something back to me. weve known eachother sence first grade and she moved 4 years ago, we havent talked in i dont even know how long. please what should i do i miss her terribly. (link)
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Since she has moved, what did you say, it's been four years, has it? That's definetely given her alot of time, to change and grow as a person and make new friends, and new goals in life and new everything and move on from her past friends and everything back at home, sadly.
To tell if she read the message or not ( because you never know, even though she added you as a friend, she might've not read it yet ), just go to your inbox and to the SENT ones, and look at the message you sent her and see if next to it, it says "READ" or not.
And just send her another one being like,"Hey, I miss you so much! What's been up? You have to tell me what you've been up to these past four years, I want to know everything! Knowing you, you're probably giving (wherever) she moved, a great time and meeting so many new people and everything! I don't know if you're busy or anything, but if you ever have the time, please give me a call @ ___________. It'd be really nice to hear your voice again and catch up old times, you know?" And just see what happens from there.
So just give her time and see if she calls or not. I'm sure she wants to, she just might have a really hectic schedule or something, you never know.
I hope I helped.
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This boy
and I had sex, yes i know your going to say it was a dumb idea, I GET THE POINT!
But I still like him alot but he has a girlfriend now
and he like makes fun of me and jokes and all that good stuff.
But then online , or alone hes a completly different person
and somedays when I look good or better than other days, he like talks to me more
and Im wondering if he still thinks about past times,or is still sexually attracted to me?
help! (link)
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It sounds to me like he's definetely still thinking of all those past times and everything, which could be the cause of all the rudeness and jokes about you in school and everything.
Since he has a girlfriend, obviously, he likes her, and he doesn't want you or anybody else thinking probably that he might like someone else or is thinking of them, so what does a person do to someone they like and want nobody knowing about it? The opposite ; being a jerk to them. But since nobody's around on the internet, obviously he's not going to be rude to you then cause he has no reason to prove to anybody he doesn't like you then.
Even though if it does turn out that way that he likes you, even though you like him, don't have sex with him again or hook up with him in anyway if he has a girlfriend ( I'm not saying you're GOING to, I'm just saying ). Just think of it in her shoes and how hurt you'd feel if somebody did that to you?
So just wait and see what happens, and maybe after awhile, let him know you still think of past times and still really like him, and ask him how he feels. If he doesn't like you that way, it's his loss, and just tell him you hope you two can remain friends then. But if he does, that's great! But if you two are going to get togehter then, make sure he's definetely broken up with his girlfriend first!
I hope I helped.
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theres a guy named russell, and i like him ALOT and he likes me too. well we have bin freinds with benefits 4 a while and i want him to ask me out, but he says that he doesent have time 4 1 right now, and that he dosent know when he can go out with me, but he said that if he could have a girlfreind then i would be his first choice. and the whole ordeal with him not having time to be with me, well asw long as i get to see him at school, which i do everyday, then that would be enough with me. well I want to be with em really badly, but whenever i mention about me and him
dating then he starts saying that if i want someone to go out with, then i should be with someone else and not be freinds with benefits cause he dosent want me to get too attatched and him feel bad cause he cant go out with me. i dont want to make it feel like im pressuring him, but how can i talk to him about us dating without getting him all weirded out? and remember i dont care if he cant see me outside of school very often, im fine with just seeing him at school, i just want to be with him. how do i make him understand that?
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I'm sorry, but you need to respect his decision. I know you want to be with him and everything, but if he says he doesn't have time for a girlfriend right now, he doesn't have time for a girlfriend. And mentioning it over and over isn't going to help the situation at all ; it just might wind up making him annoyed and feeling guilty that he can't date you. He does understand that you want to be with him, but he needs you to understand he just doesn't have the time and he doesn't want to go with you, knowing he can never hang out with you and everything.
I would suggest just stick around to waht you're doing right now. I mean you ARE practically his girlfriend in a way already, he even said you'd be his first choice and everything, it's just not totally offical. Just stick around and wait if you like him enough, and see if in time he is available to have a girlfriend.
But if he winds up like, never having time for one after like, months of waiting or something, I seriously wouldn't wait anymore. I know you like him, but I would just try and move on, cause you can't wait around forever. You're young ; you need to get out there and experience new people and meet new people and have a great time. You can't spend it all sitting around waiting for something that might never be ready for you.
I hope I helped.
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