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he wont ask me out
theres a guy named russell, and i like him ALOT and he likes me too. well we have bin freinds with benefits 4 a while and i want him to ask me out, but he says that he doesent have time 4 1 right now, and that he dosent know when he can go out with me, but he said that if he could have a girlfreind then i would be his first choice. and the whole ordeal with him not having time to be with me, well asw long as i get to see him at school, which i do everyday, then that would be enough with me. well I want to be with em really badly, but whenever i mention about me and him
dating then he starts saying that if i want someone to go out with, then i should be with someone else and not be freinds with benefits cause he dosent want me to get too attatched and him feel bad cause he cant go out with me. i dont want to make it feel like im pressuring him, but how can i talk to him about us dating without getting him all weirded out? and remember i dont care if he cant see me outside of school very often, im fine with just seeing him at school, i just want to be with him. how do i make him understand that?
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I'm sorry, but you need to respect his decision. I know you want to be with him and everything, but if he says he doesn't have time for a girlfriend right now, he doesn't have time for a girlfriend. And mentioning it over and over isn't going to help the situation at all ; it just might wind up making him annoyed and feeling guilty that he can't date you. He does understand that you want to be with him, but he needs you to understand he just doesn't have the time and he doesn't want to go with you, knowing he can never hang out with you and everything.
I would suggest just stick around to waht you're doing right now. I mean you ARE practically his girlfriend in a way already, he even said you'd be his first choice and everything, it's just not totally offical. Just stick around and wait if you like him enough, and see if in time he is available to have a girlfriend.
But if he winds up like, never having time for one after like, months of waiting or something, I seriously wouldn't wait anymore. I know you like him, but I would just try and move on, cause you can't wait around forever. You're young ; you need to get out there and experience new people and meet new people and have a great time. You can't spend it all sitting around waiting for something that might never be ready for you.
I hope I helped.
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if all he says is that all he wants is to be friends, then thats exactly what he means. you can't keep on pestering him about the same thing over & over again.
you could tell him though that you want to be with him & don't care if you guys wouldn't get to spend that much time together.
but being friends with benefits will more than likely lead nowhere good. & if he isn't willing to commit to something, you shouldn't be either.
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