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my best friend and boyfriend
my best friend is crazy about my boyfriend. he was her boyfriend first but they only went out for 2 1/2 weeks. he was her first boyfriend. she says hes the only guy shes ever loved. i think shes a little over dramatic. ive been going out with him for more than 2 months now. i love him alot and this is the most serious relationship ive been in, and ive been in a lot of relationships. i love him so much. but now ive been reading on my friends and my boyfriends myspaces. they both admitted to still having feelings for eachother. my best friend came to school and told me the only reason he hasnt broke up with me is because he doesnt know how and he really loves her. she also told him that i wouldnt break up with him because i dont want them going back out. thats not true. i love him. my friend is really mad at me now and i didnt do anything. she gave me her blessing to go out with him. i dont know what to do. they like eachother and my friend is telling me all this crap. my boyfriend says he loves me more than hell ever love her or like her, but how do i know? my friend was with him first. what do i do? please help me. thanks.
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If I were you I would walk away, >>>RUN. If he has already stated that he has feelings for her, that’s reason enough. Do you really want to fall more in love with a guy that may potentially leave you? I find the best clarity is when you are not in a situation at all. How can you possibly trust your intuition when there thoughts keep making you second guess yourself. Also, by leaving, the question will be answered on its own. He will have to make a choice regardless. He will either pick you or her. But do you really want to know is probably a better question?
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If you actually saw that he wrote he still had feelings for your friend, he is lying to you! If you friend is mad at you for no offcial reason, write her a note saying all the stuff you told us. If she is a good friend she will be ur friend but if she picks the guy over you, forget her, they arent true friends....talk to your boyfriend to...dont tolerate lying. Hope this helps!!
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First of all, I wouldn't even consider being a good friend of hers anymore. If she's going to sit there and be this over dramatic and flat out rude to you and try to hurt your feelings like this, after she even gave you her BLESSING, which most friends wouldn't go to get first ( which shows how great of a friend you are to her! ), for her to do this to you? She's not putting the BEST in friend at all. Not even the "friend" part. She's being catty, and I don't think she deserves you as a friend.
Second of all, you need to have a dead-serious talk with your boyfriend about this. Pull him over in privacy where you two can talk face-to-face and ask him exactly what's going on, and not to lie to you. Ask him if he does still have feelings for her, and if he does want to dump you, because you'd rather him dump you now then to let this all linger on as one big lie and have it hurt a thousand times worse in the end. If he says no, then bring up the myspace thing, and why he'd comment her and say that to her, if he didn't like her. And just see what he comes up with. I think it'd have to be like, the peferct excuse, cause there's no excuse you can really say for that and to prove yourself innocent on that one. So if you do trust him enough and his reasoning sounds like it fits in with the story and everything, then have him message her or call her or something WHILE you're there with him and explain to her that he doesn't love her - he's with you, and he loves you. And after that, really pay attention to what goes on between the two of them. Anymore signs of liking eachother or anything, I suggest getting out of the relationship. Too much drama and hurt, that you do not deserve.
If he does admit to liking her though, then break up with him and spare the heartache. Cause if you were to just stick with him goodness knows if they'd be cheating then behind your back, and it's only going to hurt you a thousand times more worse during the relationship. He doesn't deserve you anyways then if he likes her. That'd just show they're both perfect for eachother - inconsiderate jerks.
I hope I helped, and I hope everything works out.
[EDIT: Alright, sure! If you want to ask me, just IM me @ Mel Le Disko, or just drop by and leave a message. Leaving a message might be best, cause I have to get off, so I won't be on AIM to talk to you. I'll be back in like, an hour or so, so whichever you want to do's fine. <3 ]
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if your friend was any friend at all, she wouldn't be telling you all this stuff. honestly i think she sounds rude.
i hate to tell you this, but if your boyfriend said on his myspace that he still has feelings for her, your best bet is to talk to him about this & see if it's true. he's a guy & he's willing to lie, but you have to trust what he says & go with your heart.
if you think they will cheat behind your back, break up with him now & save your heartbreak.
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