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The Question
well okay a few weeks ago here on advicenators i asked if i should tell this guy that was in my driver's ed class that i like him but things got complicated. well he gave me his number & i told him that i called him & he said that he gave me the wrong number & he said sorry. HE ADMITTED IT! & then i told my friend & she went to go tell him to come talk to me & he was like i don't like her & that he already has a girlfriend and he said that infront of everyone. i was so upset i started crying. and my friends were trying to make me feel better but i just got even more upset. my friend had said that he told her that him & his girlfriend have been dating for like 3 years & i was suprised.. and when he weas walking back to his desk when we were at driver's ed class he told my friend that he felt bad but he didn't even apologized. he just walked past me & was looking at me. & that was my last day there & he knew it was because i told everyone that i was going on vacation & im home now from my vacation & driver's ed is over & i'll never get to see him thank god. but im still upset what should i do? i can't seem to get over him & why didn't he apologize to me if he felt bad? & how come he couldn't just tell me that he had a girlfriend instead giving me a fake number? can someone please help me?
The Answer
Oh come on girl. Give the guy a break.
He was trying to spare your feelings and keep himself out of trouble with his girlfriend by giving you a fake number. He was trying to avoid embarrassing or hurting you by saying he had a girlfriend.
He didn't apologize because he was ashamed, embarrassed and worried about causing you even more pain if he spoke up.
Yeah, it wasn't the most mature way in the world to behave. It was actually pretty cowardly but his mistakes are mistakes millions of teens will make. He wasn't trying to play games with you. He was just trying to avoid the whole mess.
He couldn't help the fact you liked him anymore then you could help the fact he had a girlfriend. He might have dealt with it better, but it seems he didn't know how.
Take a deep breath, remind yourself some people won't always treat you the way you want to be treated, and get on with your life.
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I might start dating this guy I like him a lot but he's a virgin and he doesn't want to have sex until he loves a girl. That's good and all but I've never had sex with a virgin.. like does he know what to do lol i don't want it to be awkward. And how am i going to wait until he loves me to have sex with him i dont think i can do that lol.
The Answer
I don't know who you have been with darling, but the first time you have sex with a new person is almost always awkward. You are getting to know eachother sexually, some fumbling is to be expected it.
As your relationship developes (if it developes) you'd likely find yourselves working up to sex slowly and dicussing things. If you find that you care for him, hopefully you will care enough to be loving and considerate as he learns. Any guy can pick up the basics online, it's not exactly brain surgery.
If you don't come to care for him, respect his choices and speak with him openly then you wont end up sleeping with him right? He has said he isn't into that.
If you think you can't wait until he loves you, don't start dating him. You are a bad match if you can't respect AND abide by his choices.
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can someone help me get a password to someone elses myspace?
The Answer
No, we can't.
We do not give advice on illegal acts. A collumnist who does tell you how to do that will likely get banned for it.
You'll need to ask the person who knows or live without.
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this im sure is a very frequently asked type of question but i need people to reasure me so ill stop freaking out..
okay well my ex and i had unprotected sex a few weeks ago and i usually no when im getting my period and its never been irregular, and 2 days after i had sex i started my period but it only lasted for like 3 days.. and it usually lasts at least 5 and it was a week and a half early.. so i know you can spot bleed when pregnant but.. theres no chance of me really being pregnant right? i mean i had my period i think?
The Answer
You had unprotected sex hun. Pregancy is ALWAYS possible when you don't bother to use protection.
Buy yourself a pregnancy test to be certain.
In the future use protection to avoid this mess.
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The Question
hey guys- 16 year old girl, here (=
i feel like an idiot asking this sort of question, because i've always considered myself pretty well-educated when it comes to sex. The thing is, I'm a virgin- but i've lately been having some really wierd things going on down south.
about 2 months ago i hooked up with a stranger. bad choice, i know. it was just up to oral, but i know he's been with pretty many girls.
i started getting a pretty annoying, extreme itch a few weeks after the incident. i didnt think much of it bc i was at the beach, so i figured it was combination sand / shaving / etc.
i went on scratching and it kinda evened out for awhile. it was annoying, but it wasn't anything major. i started putting this hydrocortisone cream around the outside of my vagina, where it was all itchy. within the past week it's gotten really bad. sort of poison ivy-esque, it's all red and raised around my vagina extending right to the general area of my pantyline.
i mentioned it to my mother, but she doesn't know anything about my sexual experience and would probably freak out, so i tried to leave it out. however, she was unconcerned and i'd like to get to a gyno.
long story short, my question: what sort of stds, if any, can be contracted through oral sex? and do you have any clues as to what my problem may be?
this is highly appreciated, as i'm kind of freaking out. (=
The Answer
Mention it to you mom anyways babe, and get to the doctor.
There is no reason for your mother to jump to the idea that you've been sexually active. Many causes of vaginal itching are spontaneous, and have nothing to do with sex. Be totally honest with your doctor, but you can just tell your mom you need to see one.
Herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV and hepatitis A are the main STDs you can be exposed to while performing oral sex. While recieving oral sex, it's pretty much just Herpes that a woman is at risk of.
What you are describing doesn't sound like any of those.
Sounds like you most likely have a very full blown yeast infection. Very, very common, but you've let it go so long now it will need professional treatment. There are a few other things it could be, generally other bacterial infections like vaginosis. Not many STDs have intense itching as a symptom and nearly all STDs have other symptoms you'd likely be noticing as well, or, like herpes and HPV can have no symptoms at all.
The bacterial infections I mentioned can be easily treated by prescription medications any doctor can give you.
Truth be told, it is FAR more likly that you developed this sort of infection running around in a wet bathing suit then because of your sexual activity. Vaginal infections just LOVE bathing suits, it's wet, warm and air tight. ;)
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My cousin met this FINE guy at this party. They clicked instantly & would talk on the phone for hours and laugh. They went to the movies and kissed and held hands. well rite after that she went on vacation for a week. she told him her phone might not work & he still called & left a lot of voicemails. we established that he was "sprung." hehehe... but the bad part is; she kinda used to talk to his year-younger brother, too. she didnt know they were brotheres until after they met. well the little brother 'did her dirty' so they stopped talking. so its been about 2 weeks since the vacation. when she got backed they had a good conversation and he said "oh i'll call you in the morning!" HE NEVER DID. we tried to think of why he hasnt called and i suggested, "maybe he doesnt think that you're that into him because he called you thousands of times?" so she did the same. well, he left her voicemail stating that his mom took his phone and to call the house phoneor cell. she called his cell and left three voicemails and his house phone & talked to his dad because he was at football. N0 CALL... so what do you think happened? why hasn't he called? they were PERFECT for each other but I just don't know about this one!
The Answer
We aren't physic hun. We can't tell you why he didn't call, he just didn't.
Sometimes they don't.
There are a million reasons and you can think of them just as well as I can... Maybe he has a girlfriend; maybe his brother threw some sort of fit, maybe he is engaged to some eleven year old living in Tanzania that he has never met or maybe he'll call next week with an explination like "So-in-so died. Sorry I forgot."
No way to know, besides asking him.
Frankly, why bother?
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The Question
24/f. I am in love with a man who is married to another woman. He is in love with me (I honestly believe we are soul mates, but it is not meant to be because of our situations), but he also loves his wife and does not want to hurt her. I believe he will never leave her and I would never ask him to.
I am leaving the city we both live in very soon, and we want to have sex, just once, before I go (we have kissed before but nothing else). We want to do it because we each fear the connection between us is one in a million and we will regret not doing something about it forever. I love him so much and I desperately want to be close to him, even just for one night. In the back of my mind, I also think it will help me move on from him - "The time I spend with this man was amazing and I will remember it forever, but it's time to get on with my life".
I know it is totally wrong of me to want to do this, but if his wife doesn't find out, what's the harm?
The Answer
The harm is to you.
Go ahead and forget the betrayal you’d be helping him with. Forget the lie he would be telling his wife everyday of his life. Forget how the other people in his life might have their heart’s broken, even if they never really find out.
Just think about you:
Having sex will NOT make it easier to say goodbye. Seriously think about that statement for a second and I'm certain if you can look past your desire for just a moment you'll see how silly that idea is.
That is the kind of ludicrous thought people get when they want something they know that they shouldn't and can't really ever have. It’s a lie you are telling yourself. It’s nice that this guy is going along with the same lie but just because he agrees with your silly idea, can’t make it true.
Please remember this, if nothing else, for the rest of your life. I promise you it is true:
Sex never simplifies anything.
Sex always complicates things.
If you aren't in a position in your relationship with another person to confidently and maturely deal with those complications then you shouldn’t sex with that person. And you aren't able to that with this guy because you don't have a relationship with him.
You have a connection. Computers have connections hun, human beings have relationships.
You have no relationship with this man. He has already told you he walking away from you. You’ve agreed.
If you do have sex, the next day, he’ll be gone. You’ll be left to deal with all the emotional complications all by yourself.
Unless you think, deep down, that sleeping with him will somehow keep him close to you even after you leave. If that is what you are secretly hoping, then don’t kid yourself. You are trying to create an long term affair with a married man. Do it if you really want to, but at least call a duck a duck.
If you do really believe, deep down, that he isn’t going leave his wife then you need to realize that he isn’t yours to be close to. Never has been. Not even when he was whispering the sweetest things to you. Not even when you felt like you were sharing the same mind and heart. He made a promise, and he held himself back to it. He has decided, in whatever way, to stick to it.
So having sex with this guy will only continue the lie in your own mind that you ever actually had anything more then a ‘connection’ with this guy. That closeness is possible with him.
Drop the connection. If you can keep your mind and heart open, you feel it again. Hopefully with someone use is capable of moving beyond the connection phase, into the relationship phase. Only then will you truly be able to be close to someone else.
Having sex will prolong your pain at separation, and that false feeling of closeness you are chasing with him right now, will only leave you feeling even more alone in the future.
Respect your own emotions and cherish yourself. Respect his decision. Despite his weakness, keep to your strength of spirit. Don’t sleep with him.
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The Question
Okay this may sound stupid to some...but here's my problem.
My husband and I have been married for three years. I love him very much. He's 26 now and I'm 23. I just graduated from Harvard.
My husband comes from a rather welathy family and once he graduated from Harvard he took over his father's company.
Recently he just expanded the company and I really have no clue what that means, but he's so busy now and always so stressed out.
I just found out I am around one month pregnant a few days ago, and I'm so happy, but the thing is I don't know if my husband will be... Landon and I have discussed having children, but we didn't plan for this. He suspects something is wrong...I can rarely hide my feelings from him.
It's just that he's so busy right now and it would break my heart if he wasn't happy about the baby. He told me things would be hectic for a while with his company, he's always gone before I wake up and he comes home around 2:00 AM and sometimes I wait up for him...even though he tells me not to.
Should I tell him now? I probably won't start showing for a few more months. Would it really hurt to wait until he isn't so busy and stressed out with running a whole company. I really don't want to be selfish, because I know that if I told him he would stay home with me and become so overprotective and want to be with me every second.
He already feels bad that we don't have that much time to spend together right now. He says he feels as if he's neglecting me...and being a bad husband. That makes me sad because he's not.
Anyway, should I tell him or not? I don't want him to hinder the whole company because of me, and I guess I'm also kind of scared he'll react badly towards the baby. What if he doesn't want it...
Anyone who can help, please do, and thank you so much.
-Gianna
The Answer
Tell him right now.
The child is his as well, and he deserves an equal share in all the information you have pertaining to it.
There is no garentuee that things will be less stressful in a few months. They very likely could be MORE stressful. Better he knows he has a child on the way right now, so that he can plan for it and make the time he wants to be able to have with his new baby.
Remember the two of you are in this togeather. He has a right to know. Give him a break if he responds a bit negatively at first, he sounds quite stressed out, but he should come around to it. If he doesn't, well, better you know he is a jerk now, then find it out three months from now.
Congratulations and best of luck!
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I have been dating my girlfriend Caitlyn for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know Cait is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to Cait and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other. i guess i left it there that night) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game Cait brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. Cait broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?
The Answer
Please do not repeat questions. If you want to ask a question to the public pool, do not ask the exact same question to private users. At least change it around a bit or you will get banned...
I am a very bad person to ask this question too dear. Frankly, if Caitlyn has any self respect, which it sounds like she does, she is not going to take you back.
Getting drunk and sleeping with someone else is deeply immature and inexcusable. If she does give you another chance it WILL NOT be because you deserve it, or earned it through your actions. It will be a gift she gives you because she wants to believe that you are a better person then your actions tell her you are.
You can beg, plead, buy her pretty things and make promises over and over again, but you don't really *deserve* a second chance, so if she doesn't want to give you one, you are shit out luck.
Let her know once what you want and how you feel. Be honest, be apologetic, but then the ball is completely in her court. There is nothing you can say or do to make her take you back. It's all up to her now.
Oh, and stay the hell away from this Becca character. She knew exactly what she was doing with that ring business. Girls like that are crafty and dangerous.
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ok so basically i am arab female. some of the stereotypes of not being as "liberated" as the women of the west do apply to this question and my circumstances:
well i am not supposed to have a boyfriend ...etc. its in my culture. and i never did! and i am totally fine with that.....but i lied...... i told my new "friends" when i moved towns that i did just to fit in and not seem like a weirdo (since i moved countries) .... it made me look wiser and more experienced... and well... liked.....thing is i regret lying about that and i don't know what to do.
if i tell my friends they'll be in shock coz they trusted me. i'll look like a stupid fraud (i know i know... who cares what people say).... and if i didn't somehow i know it'll get to my mother and father. if i tell them first no education -period- for me.
aside from those lies i hung out with a crowd that in my home country would be considered bad and unacceptable... oh and it included guys....now if i dealt with them in a different way i could have still saved the friendship... but since i kind of ignored the "rules" and bent them a bit ... well i sorta regret the image i created for myself... if my mom and dad find out i am gunna look like (in their eyes) a slut who accepts anything, a lier, irresponsible, careless, stupid, and not raised well..... a disappointment....
before anything though, i must say that really i feel guilty SOOO much that i am planning on leaving my life long dream in a philosophy major (since that is where that bad influence according to mom and dad is coming from) and am willing to reconstruct my image.... it hurts so much to leave the major but i guess i deserve this.... i should have seen it coming....
the problem is my brother and sisters know about this (i don't know how much they know or how...) and they don't believe a word i say anymore because of all the lies (i brought this onto my self i deserve this ) so my brother is sacrificing a great chance in building his career to come and live with me and sister so that to ensure i don't cause myself a destruction of my future and get us all sent back without a n edu (i feel like crap)....
my question: how can i keep my friends but restore all the limits and values i had eliminated, one? and prevent them from saying anything (they won't intentionally... but thinking as it is normal to them its normal to mention me and stuff and i am afraid within the community it;ll get to my family...) and two how can i prove myself to my family and fix what i can from the damage.... i really screwed up. and pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee don't tell me talk to my mum and dad it will not work,wher i come from talking to higher figures of authority is not conceivable..... and with my sibs they totally understand what i have to say but again its not enough to show them that i understand what i did..... i really want things to go back to normal... how do i get things back!!
i am doomed right??? :S :S :S :S :S :S
The Answer
You are not doomed. You might feel that way right now, but you aren't doomed.
You made some mistakes. Not even, from the sounds of it, life-altering, doomed mistakes. You aren't pregnant or addicted to heroine. Your mind is perfectly sound and you want to live in accordance with your beliefs. You are doing just fine.
Your mistakes were all made out of confusion and the conflict between who you are or were, and the new place you found yourself in.
I think the most important thing for you to realize is that you might not be able to maintain all of your friendships when you choose to live by different values. This happens to a lot of people your age, not just people with religious influences on their lives. They change the way they were choosing to behave, they reexamine and decide that their values are different from some of those around them.
You can admit your lies to your friends, or not. I don't think it's terribly important either way. What is important is that you make it clear to them how you are now going to behave, and that they can either respect that, or keep their distance.
Know that some of them are going to keep their distance, and that is probably a good thing.
The best thing you can do it take a very deep breath and calm down a bit. Things CAN go back to normal, but it will likely take a few months. Chances are, other young people in your family (perhaps even your parents, or aunts, uncles or cousins) went through a phase much like yours at your age! Of course they would never admit it, but the truth is people experiment with who they are, they explore, they make mistakes. It might seem like your parents will never get over this, but they likely will and have had too get over similar things before.
Stop dwelling on the past and your self hate. It's not productive. Cut yourself some slack and just make the changes you want to make. If you start living in accordance with your values you will feel better, and your brother, and slowly your parents will realize you are doing alright and things will slowly shift back to the way they were before.
Do NOT leave your major. Your parents are mistaken about it being the negative influence. Prove that too them by remaining in your major and correcting your behavior at the same time. Talk to them if you can, or at least to your sister and brother about the steps you are taking and the way you plan on living in accordance with your values. But some things are worth fighting for. If you can't see that, well then you ARE doomed. Because you'll never find any happiness that way.
Fighting for friends that can't respect your values and can't forgive your mistakes: Not worth it.
Fighting a family that is disappointed with you: Unnecessary. With a few months of perfect behavior, a humble attitude, and a real effort to change, they will come around.
Fighting for your life long dream: You damn well better. No one else is going to help you with that one.
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The Question
Does anyone know any particular sites or if they know an answer to any of these questions about MOTOROLA (sites to back ur answer up is needed):
Does this transnational corporation own any subsidiary companies?
What products does it produce or manufacture?
How many countries throughout the world does this company operate in?
Does this company use foreign labour?
What financial information can you find about this company? How much money is he company worth? Or how much did the company make this year? What are the companies assets valued at?
Does this corporation contribute to world trade in a positive or negative way?
Does this company impact on the environment? If so how?
Any other information you believe it relevant .
WEBSITES ARE ALWAYS NEEDED IN EACH ANSWER TO BACK YOUR ANSWER UP ALL INFORMATION IS HELPFUL THANK YOU! AND PLEASE IF YOU ARE GIVING WEBSITES BE SPECIFIC NOT JUST www.google.com THANKS AGAIN!!!
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Crash Course in How To Do Your Own Homework:
Go to google.com and search for "Motorola Company Profile" Examine the sites for useful information. You may also try “Motorola manufacturing” and “Motorola profits”.
Go to wikipedia.com and search for “Motorola”. Scrolling to the bottom of the page will give you the links from which Wikipedia draws many of their facts on the company.
That should allow you to answer most of your questions, except the last two. For those last two, you might actually need to do some independent thinking. How do telecommunications play a role in world trade? Based on the countries Motorola operates in, what sort of issues might there be? What is the ecological impact of their products?
We are here to help and to advise. We are not here to do your homework for you.
Good Luck.
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The Question
I have liked this guy since 6th grade now, and i am currently in 9th. I have never gathered the courage to talk to him more than a few times in fear of him seeing that i like him. I don't quite know how to catch HIS eye. It seems like every guy BUT the one I like likes me. It is really upsetting. I really like him, what should i do?
The Answer
It's really tough for a guy to notice you when you are working soooo hard to make sure he doesn't notice you like him.
Take a deep breath, summon up all your courage and get over the fear.
It’s okay if he knows you like him. In fact, it would be a really good thing!
The best way to catch someone's eye is to let them know they have caught yours. Simply be friendly, open, enthusiastic and willing to risk a little. Stop playing games and be honest when you deal with him. You don't have to poor your heart out to the guy, but if you want to smile so until your face hurts, or hug him extra tight, or ask him about everything he did that weekend, try doing that!
Playing it safe clearly isn’t getting you anywhere. If you don't take the risk you will NEVER know what could have been.
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Okay so I'm going to take a crack at this advice thing. I'm female.
I want to know what the heck is wrong with me. I dont think I am completely ugly and I even lost weight thinking that if I did that then maybe someone would be interested in me. I'm getting older and I am in high school. I've never even been asked out/ been liked.
Are all guys into blonde, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty type of girls?
I'm tired of seeing all my friends have relationships and stuff and im sitting on the sidelines. I hate this feeling. I dont want the advice that i just need to talk to guys and be friendly, because that doesn't work. Because I do talk to guys.
Maybe I'm just unlikeable. I have no clue.
The Answer
Take it from someone who has tried: It's REALLY hard to like someone who thinks they are unlikable.
Think of this way: If you said "I think trees are pretty." and your friend said "No you don't." How annoying would that be?
Probably about as annoying and unappealing as your belief that you are unlikable and unattractive is to people who might find you likable and attractive…
(You would probably stop talking to that friend about trees. You might just stop thinking about trees altogether.)
I know that it’s really difficult to remember that you are a likable person when no one is right up there with two dozen roses and the inability to take their hands and eyes off you. That is exactly the reason that millions of people fall into AWFUL relationships; just so they have the proof from someone else that they are in fact likable!
Sadly, actually being likable is actually something that starts with inside of us, not with anyone else. I know it’s a cliché, but it’s also true.
So, are all guys into blonde, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty girls?
Of course not. Some are into redhead, stick thin, popular, sort of slutty girls.
No. Seriously. You already know that isn’t true. It’s *feels* true, but it isn’t
Just the same way it *feels* to you like you aren’t likable, but that isn’t true either.
It’s easy to blame it all on the guys (especially when you are a teen). Almost as easy as it is too blame all our own little faults (At fourteen I was convinced guys didn’t find me attractive because I wore size 10 shoes. That’s up there with one of the dumbest ideas I’ve ever had...)
I promise you there are far uglier, smellier, fatter and down right nastier people then you can possibly imagine out there right now who are getting loved and getting laid right this minute.
The only difference between you and them (besides the obvious that I’m not calling you any of those things) is opportunity and standards. Some people just get lucky opportunities when it comes to love and others don’t. Some people have basic common sense standards and some people will take any sort of ‘liking’ anyone will give them.
I promise you, someone at sometime, ‘liked you’. You are a human teenager. Unless you smell permanently of some sort of waste facility (and even if you do) some member of the opposite sex thought of you warmly at some point.
You are likable.
Everyone who could, has, or maybe does ‘like’ you, is just as scared and messed up as you are.
So you have to take a tiny little step towards being less scared and less messed up and believe, really believe, that it will happen.
Until you do, it won’t.
In the mean time, be the best you can be. Keep on being likable even just in the friend way. Don’t bet yourself up, but work towards an even MORE likable you. A lack of opportunity for a relationship can be a good thing if you take all this focus you have on yourself and your failings and turn it into something positive! Losing weight for example: Congrats! As long as you doing it and loving yourself, not hating yourself, way to go you.
That was very long and ranty. I hope it makes sense. It’s 4 am. I think I should go to bed now.
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The Question
Whenever we need advice fast, we go here right? Well, it sometimes takes a while to process though Advicenators with all the moderators off and out and about, forgetting about all of the poor people who need quick advice! Well, I'm wondering, what is the best time to ask a question? Weather its 1 in the morning, at 8 at night, What is the best time?
Thank alot [:
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If it's an urgent issue why would you wait around until the best time to ask? It might get up on the site a bit quicker when you do ask, but you still would have waited, likely even longer then you would have if you'd just asked it when ya thought of it.
The most people seem to be on the site in the late afternoon and early evening, but basically a question will just get posted when a moderator desperately finds a moment after being off and out and about with their busy life full of work, school, children or perhaps some mix off all three.
Having said that, I've noticed very few questions getting approved between 1 am and 7 am site time, if that helps you at all! Apparently our mods also sleep a bit between all of that!
I'm not sure if you are talking about questions that NEED quick advice or just questions you want advice for quickly.
EVERYBODY wants good advice as quick as possible, but I think more of that depends on what the columnists who are online right then have to offer then how fast the question gets approved.
Most people can wait an hour or two for their question to be posted. They might not *want* too, but the advice will normally be just as good and useful when they get it.
If someone really can't wait an hour to be approved, then Advicenators.com might not be the best resource for them. Calling someone or finding a chat room would be a better a bet for that person.
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The Question
14/f
ok my parents are way too over protective!!
but anyway, they put parental controls on the tv and blocked MTV and VH1, even though im going in to highschool now!!
is this unreasonable? and does anyone else's parents do this??
i really wanna know so i can stop being so mad about it and stop feeling so annoyed about my parents cause its really getting on my last nerve lol.
thanks!!
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Doesn't really matter if it's unreasonable or not. They pay the cable bill right? It's their call.
The best you can hope to do is discuss this with them calmly.
Oh, and of course, you can watch pretty much anything online these days...
I wasn't allowed to watch television (except for the odd Disney movie, the Muppet Show and Star Trek episodes) until I was thirteen, and even then my parents were very restrictive about the TV. I turned out just fine without it, and frankly, all those Simpson's jokes I was missing out on, turned out not to really be all the funny.
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My boyfriend and I were fooling around last Thursday.
I gave him oral sex and so consequently got some semen in my mouth.
We kissed after that, so maybe some sperm got in his mouth?
Then I received oral sex from him when he licked me around my vagina.
My question is, is it possible that I got pregnant if the sperm traveled from my mouth to his to my vagina?
The Answer
Amazingly and shockingly unlikely!
Possible, yeah, techincally. Sperm can survive and swim through saliva but the risk on that has to be around 0.0001%.
Don't stress yourself out.
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okay in the town where i live, all the cheerleaders have these little wooden signs in their yards that say [school name] cheerleader. well i just made cheerleading and my parents wont let me put my sign out because they think its "tacky." and actually, i dont really like it either, cuz i feel like its kind of bragging. but the other girls have been asking me why i dont have my sign out, and i don't know what to say. i dont want to insult them by saying my parents think its tacky. so what should i say?
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I think it's okay to blame it on your parents ;) Parents are great for that. Whenever I didn't want to hang out with someone I blamed it on my parents and then gave them the heads up.
You could also tell them you like it more in own bedroom or some such like that.
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How do you know if your face is breaking out from your hair conditioner.
The Answer
Change your conditioner and see if you are still breaking out.
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when writing the title for a TV show, do you underline it or put quotes around it?
The Answer
In basic MLA formatting of an essay, the name of a TV series is placed in quotation marks and the name of a single episode or a non-series show (like a made for tv movie, or a special documentary) is underlined or italicized.
You could ask your teacher what their preference is, but they will likely not be too obsessive, as long as you are consistent.
If you are writting some sort of show for yourself, do neither. Bold the title if you'd like, but the rest of those are supposed to be reserved for published work.
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Firstly, I should say that I really, really like my boyfriend. [Even if I can't remember why, like right now]. But I am really, really upset with him because he's been bailing on me for the last few nights when he promised me he'd see me. The problem is, we can't see each other on weekdays due to conflicting schedules so we try to see each other on weekends, even if it's just for lunch or something. But lately it just seems like he doesn't even remember me. And this is all at a horrible time, too, because I just met another guy who wants me to just ignore the fact that I have a boyfriend and get with him. I don't want to get with him. All I want is for my boyfriend to care, or even be jealous of this other guy, but he isn't even around. In fact, I talk to the other guy more than I talk to my boyfriend, because he actually makes the "effort" to talk to me, even if it's just a text message. My boyfriend just seems to think that he doesn't need to.
I guess my main question is how do I get my boyfriend to care? I don't want the other guy, I only want him. I just want him to make an effort. I want him to know that he isn't the only one who wants me, and I want him to stop taking me for granted, but I don't want to tell him straight up because he might think I'm overreacting and that would only make things worse. Even if I have to tell him, what should I say?
The Answer
You can't make someone care.
If you feel he isn't making the effort the ONLY thing to do is talk to him straight up.
Stay calm and respectful, and it's less likely he'll think you are overreacting.
So there is not 'even if'. You do Have To tell him. There is NO other way this will get any better. Yes, it might make things worse, but face facts hun: Things are getting worse anyways.
So tell him exactly what you told us here: You don't feel like he is putting any effort into speak to you or seeing you. Don't rant or rave, let him respond and don't let your feelings be pushed aside.
If the two of you can't come to some sort of compromise where both of you have your needs met, then you shouldn't be togeather, no matter how much you want to be.
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