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boyfriend doesn't care
Firstly, I should say that I really, really like my boyfriend. [Even if I can't remember why, like right now]. But I am really, really upset with him because he's been bailing on me for the last few nights when he promised me he'd see me. The problem is, we can't see each other on weekdays due to conflicting schedules so we try to see each other on weekends, even if it's just for lunch or something. But lately it just seems like he doesn't even remember me. And this is all at a horrible time, too, because I just met another guy who wants me to just ignore the fact that I have a boyfriend and get with him. I don't want to get with him. All I want is for my boyfriend to care, or even be jealous of this other guy, but he isn't even around. In fact, I talk to the other guy more than I talk to my boyfriend, because he actually makes the "effort" to talk to me, even if it's just a text message. My boyfriend just seems to think that he doesn't need to.
I guess my main question is how do I get my boyfriend to care? I don't want the other guy, I only want him. I just want him to make an effort. I want him to know that he isn't the only one who wants me, and I want him to stop taking me for granted, but I don't want to tell him straight up because he might think I'm overreacting and that would only make things worse. Even if I have to tell him, what should I say?
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i'm sorry to tell you that the only thing you problly can do is be up front about it. don't be afraid to say what you want to- or even have a close friend talk to him for you! or be with you there when you do talk to him. call him or somthing at her house! just incase. my boyfriend& I kind of have those problems to& i just go over a close friends house& if i feel like i want to scream or cry or somthing i give her the phone. it helps alot just having her there !
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You can't make someone care.
If you feel he isn't making the effort the ONLY thing to do is talk to him straight up.
Stay calm and respectful, and it's less likely he'll think you are overreacting.
So there is not 'even if'. You do Have To tell him. There is NO other way this will get any better. Yes, it might make things worse, but face facts hun: Things are getting worse anyways.
So tell him exactly what you told us here: You don't feel like he is putting any effort into speak to you or seeing you. Don't rant or rave, let him respond and don't let your feelings be pushed aside.
If the two of you can't come to some sort of compromise where both of you have your needs met, then you shouldn't be togeather, no matter how much you want to be.
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The best thing for you to do is to tell him everything that you just typed. Call him up or message him and let him know you want to go meet somewhere so you can talk. If you both honestly can't, try talking on the phone although I would suggest you meet in person. Explain to him why you need to talk to him and just be honest and let him know how you feel. He's not making an effort to talk to you, see you, or anything and there might be a reason for that. Maybe there's a chance that he's talking to another girl.. or there is a family situation. Whatever it may be, he shouldn't shut you out. If you do talk to him and he continues his ways, it's best to end it even though you may like him a lot.
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Sweetheart, what you need to do is tell your boyfriend everything you just typed. Call him and meet up with him, tell him it's important. Meet somewhere private, then tell him how much he has upset you. The only thing that is going to make this situation better is talking to your boyfriend and telling him how you really feel.
I'm sure he cares about you, he probably doesn't even know that you feel this way, or realise what he's done. Tell him how much it hurts you that he doesn't even make an effort to talk to you or see you. To have a good relationship you need to be able to communicate with each other. Start now.
::Jasmine::
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well considering the fact you found someone new, that should answer your question. he may have found someone else . or did you evr stop to think that maybe you're to busy for him. when guys find busy girls, they feel pushed away and move on. especially when the boys tell them the same thing. it somebody else or its just you. Talk to him about it. and don't worry yo self. he should answer you if he don't you got somebody else
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