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My problem is simple. My girlfriend is always pertending to be a lesbian with her friends (in front of me!) . They arent making out with each other and i know that they are definetly not real lesbians (or bisexual). I think that they are just trying to make me jealous. What should i do? By the way, im 14 years old and so is she. Now, im not saying that it isnt amusing to watch, but, i want her to give me some public attention, too. What should i do?

well most guys think it is hott when girls are all over each other. its wrong but true. mayber she wants you to think she is hott or something..also sometimes if friends are really close they act like that just to joke around...next time she does that just like grab her sweetly, but aggressively and say "hey now she's mine you can have her when im done" then like plant a kiss on her. that way it is a sense of hilarity..you know what im saying??
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Ok well when i was wlaking home from school this guy ws flirting with me and I only said two things to him (one thing was my age).

I couldn't hlep it because i always thought I was so ugly and no guys ever talked to me before so it was just a first reaction.

And my neighbor was RIGHT there too walking his dog!!!

Will my parents know? Is it likely he'll tell? It was just a one time thing I swear!

dont worry about the neighbor, how old was the guy?? you should never give personal info to people you dont know..didnt your mommy and daddy teach you that..?? im sorry you should always remember stranger danger!! let me tell you a story..i dont know where your at but there was a game (vanderbilt Vs Kentucky) and we went on a band trip to go see it. me and my friends were all walking in a group through the little thingy in the bottom. This complete stranger comes up to us and started talking to sabra. He was asking her where she lived and her age and he knew her name because she was wearing her letter jacket. he asked if we could be his friends and we ran off in one big chain...i know its kinda funny but it has a point. you should never talk to strangers, it doesnt matter if guys never flirt with you and one just randomly comes up and starts, and i know it is hard to resist but you just have too...o and it all really depends on how much your neighbor and parents talk...
REMEMBER stranger danger

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what was that movie called that aired on Disney Channel [or possibly Zoog Disney?] around Christmastime? It was about how a girl and her friend found Santa's weather machine and Santa and his two very tall elves were on the search to find it. But yeah what was that movie called? Thanks.

THE ULTIMATE CHRISTMAS PRESENT


i love that movie...
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I am thin but i'm wide and how kan i make my width smaller . I don't need to loos weight but my curves are alittle too big .. what can i doo?

its okay that you got curves! they give you definition..at least you aint like those others that are like stick...your fine just the way God made you!! there is nothing you can really do about those curves!!'
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Well my friend is saying she's going to work at beach street and she's only 13.I told her she has to be at least 15 but she said the laws changed and you can work when your 13 as long as your parents say its ok
is this true?
P.S i live in australia if that helps

well in the usa the youngest you can be is 15...now austrailia i dont know about..you could ask a cop, or a worker somewhere, or there is always the faithful old google!!
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I'm in my 20s. She said she was 20 and is actually 18 and a senior in high school.

Those are the very basic facts.

Now, I'm the kind of person who lying is a big deal to me. Trust overall is a big deal. And people who violate that... lets just say that I may not bring it up, but I will remember this.

I like her. I like spending time with her. But I dont know if I should heed the giant warning sign that is finding out she's still a high school chick (and lying about it) and walk now.

Shes not the only woman I'm seeing at the moment. And no, she doesnt know that.

Risk getting deeper or run away now? What do you think?

im sorry, you may not like what im gonna say but about the 5th thingy (she isnt the only woman your seeing) if you dont like lying so much then why are you lying?? just a question..think about this--this girl lied to you about her age..are you hurting?? how bad would she be hurting when she finds out your with two at the same time?? But about the age thing---i say that if you are 22 or under then go for it..if that is what you want..but if you are over that then dont do it...if you runaway and you really like this girl though, you might regret it...so if you really like her then stick around and see what happens...hope i helped!!
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OH I AM SORRY I MISUNDERSTOOD!!! but i say that you need to figure out who you like more..if this young girl is something special then hang on!! you dont come by them often!! just make sure you pick real soon!! because it isnt fair to either the girls or you...

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Long story short, where I live you have to give this important speech at the beginning of your senior year.

I "gave" mine 2 days ago. I put the gave in quotations marks since I didnt follow it through. I started it, but messed up somewhere in the middle, started crying, and left the classroom, and then skipped the rest of the classes that day.

My teacher told me I'll get a new chance to do it this week. I will die. Same speech, same audience. They've all probably been talking about me and how humiliating that was.

The moral of the speech was that the more you believe in your dreams the more like reality they become.

I was wondering if there's any way to turn this into something positive (or atleast LESS embarrassing) by including that little awful preformance in my speech somehow?

OR is there something funny I could say at the introduction of the speech (to make the fact that I'll be repeating that same beginning of the speech less horrible) ??

Thank you. Please pray for me, I'm really scared to go back to school because of this!!

You need to learn to laugh at yourself so at the beginning of the speech you could put "...So here we are, as you may recall you last seen me with tears rolling down my face, but today i plan to get my message across..." then continue on with what you say...just know that you have your humiliating moments and it comes and passes so dont be afraid to go back to school...the quickest way to get through embarrasment is to laugh at yourself...and if you mess up, dont worry about it--its no big deal, just start where you left off!! good luck!! =]
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Before I start I want to tell you guys that I am 15 about to be 16 in July, and I'm a female...^^
So my two friends and I went to the mall one day, and we were shopping at Hot Topic and this 18 year old guy started talking to us. We started hanging out and we started flirting with each other. He asked for my number and I gave it to him.
And let's just say my mom wasn't happy to the fact that he was 18 and I gave him my number. I really like him, but I have this weird feeling...my mom keeps telling me that she doesn't want me going out with him (which I understand why) but I really do like him and I want to just be friends with him. My mom doesn't even want that. He calls me cute girl, beautiful, things like that, and my friend from Europe told me that her friend got raped from an 18 year old and he was doing the same things that my 18 year old is doing to me.
I asked my friends what I should do because I don't know why he even wants to be my boyfriend because A) I'm a freshmen (though i should be a 10th grader) and B) I'm 15!! What does he want with me?
I really don't know what to do because I really do like him, but I know my mom doesn't like him though she hasn't met him. I want to get my mom to let me hang out with him, and meet him, but...I don't know if hanging with him and all that is the right thing...what do you guys think?
If anyone can give me advice on what to do, or even if hanging out with him is the right think, please help...
So thanks in advance! ^^ Oh! Before I forget, he has already finished high school...XD That's all the info I think I can remember..

since your getting a weird feeling then just leave it...the fact that he is 18 and your 15 (i dont care if your turning 16;nothing personal) it is bad..and im not saying he is too old cause he is just two years older, but i am saying you are a minor and he is an adult,,it is illegal, dangerous, and you should probably listen to your mom..he is probably just after one thing and he could seriously hurt you...since you are getting a weird feeling that is probably not a good sign...that might be your instincts kicking in telling you that he is harmful...i hope i helped!!
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well my dog is getting old and she has cancer and stuff. my family wants to get a new dog, the same kind as my dog, an american bull dog. but its very hard to find cute american bull dogs and we cant find any good breeders. does anyone know of any american bull dog breeders or is anyone selling american bull dogs?

here you go!!

http://www.k9stud.com/bulldogpuppiesforsale.aspx

hope i helped!!
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teardrops7

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okay, so i have a great boyfriend. and he's really sweet and always making me laugh. i wanna show him i really like him..show him that i care =). any suggestions?

sorry i took so long!! spent a weekend wit my friends in nashville...but anyways...i think that this should help you...

http://www.wikihow.com/Show-Your-Boyfriend-You-Care


http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2005/if-20050426p352-care.php



hope i helped!!
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teardrops7

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every few weeks or so i keep getting days where i'll be horribly nauseous and gassy and have awful stomach/intestinal discomfort all day long, sometimes i'll throw up and sometimes not. when i pass gas or burp on days like this it tastes/smells absolutely horrible. i have no idea why this happens every few weeks...i thought maybe a food allergy or something i ate, but honestly i eat the same sorts of foods all the time, and not even very much of them.

has anyone else had this happen? or know why this is happening?

it's starting to freak me out, and it's getting old and it's very inconvenient and frustrating, seeing as how i have to leave work or school early or cancel social plans on these days so that i can go home and writhe around in pain.

any advice?

thanks..

my friend has a problem like that..like every 2 or 3 weeks she gets seriously bad pain in her stomach and she has serious gas...she had something called IBS irritational bowl syndrome..i would suggest going to your doctor..if it is that or even something else, it could be serious and require meds...hope i helped!!
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teardrops7

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Here is my problem ok well I really liked this one guy lets call him M in middle school and high school he never really talked to me but he knew that I liked him. I think he was one of those boys that wouldn't go out with someone unless his friends approved or the girls he would go out with was always jocks or blondes. But the thing is it has been a few years since we had any contact with each other you see I would write to him notes and letters but he never responded. He was told that I liked him and once I had one of my cousins call him and ask if he liked me back and he said "yeah I think she's pretty". Now years later I found him on MySpace and he accepted me as a friend and we have been getting along but he doesn't reall contact me I gave him my cell and he doesn't call. Meanwhile there is this other guy L that use to be his friend and we found out that we have alot in common and we are getting along as friends. I don't know if I should concentrate on the other guy instead of M because L and I like each other too. What Should I Do?

im sorry to tell you this honey but i think that M is that him well M you should let go..it dont seem like he is interested in you that well...and if you and L are getting along and like each other then honey by all means go for it!! hope i helped!!
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well i forgot one of my friends gave me a peice of gum at school and i did'nt eat it cuz i did'nt to get caught (we cant have gum in school) and i put it in my sweatshirt pocket. and my mom washed it with the gum in the pocket and now its all stuck inside. does anyone know any ways to get it out?

you could pull it off with your hands?? and put like maynoise on it like with people do with hair...im sorry they are not really good but i tried!! hope i helped and good luck!!
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I'm a 17/m... So, i have feelings for one of my best friends, who for now we can call her nicole. i get mixed signals from her, so i don't know if she likes me too. i don't really know how to express my feelings to her without making our friendship awkward....thanks for any advice

tell her!! just tell her how you feel..but make sure it is just you guys...if you make it awkward you make it awkward...it will happen...it probably already is...sorry im drowning your confidence aint i?? sorry so yeah just tell her...you gotta try or you will never know...hope i helped!!
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one day i had this dream about this guy named brooks and i used to like him for a long time. anyway in my dream brooks had some kind of heart disease and the doctors gave him these pills to take the pain away but it wasnt going to stop him from dying. so i guess you could say the pills killed him. and the doctor told him he was going to die at 5:48 a.m. so then im at the hospital outside brooks's "dying room". adn he was standing outside the room too and he looked really sad and none of his friends were there with him so it was just me and him. and he was crying so i kissed his cheek and he stopped crying and he hugged me three times and said ill miss you and then i left the room and the same heart disease thing happened to my dad and then i woke up crying. now i dont have feelings for brooks anymore so can you tell me if the dream could mean i still like him and care for him. the second thing is is that brooks used to like me back and he said i could tell him anything and talk to him if i had a problem and now we don't even talk. so i want to start a conversation and ask him why we havent talked but i dont know how to and id feel so nervous because hes been mean to me lately so i dont if he'll block me or not. could you give me some advice so i wont feel so nervous when i do start the conversation and how to ask him why we havent talked. and three. i feel like im over him but somedays i start to really miss brooks and find pictures of him to look at all day but when he has a girlfriend i dont feel jealous. and when he broke up with his girlfriend one day his away message on aim said upset and in a bad mood i need someone to talk to i felt really bad for him and wanted to talk to him but then i remebered that he hates me and probably wouldnt find comfort in me made me feel worse what is this feeling im having and how can i stop it? so here's a recap of my questions: 1. did the dream i have mean that i still care for brooks? 2. how can i get rid of my nervous feeling when i talk to him and how can i ask him why havent we been talking? should i have a friend over when i do it?. 3. do i still have feelings for him if i starting missing him and look at his pictures all day but dont care if he has a girlfriend but then feel really bad for him when he gets his heart broken ? sorry that this is so long but this question has been on my mind for a while and it feels good to let it out

it sounds to me that you like him...and i say if you tell someone you would feel better...and you should tell him!!!! what have you got to lose?? and i think that your dream is telling you that you are not over him and you do still like him, but your afraid to admit it and afraid that if you dont tell him how you feel then time will run out....thats just what it sounds like to me....and you cant get rid of the nervous feeling honey it comes with the territory...you just gotta learn to take that stallion and ride it...just bring up the not talking thing casually...just be sweet and stay calm dont yell or badger him for questions...and dont have a friend over when you do it because then he might not open up all the way...guys dont want their friends to think they are gushy gushy with their feelings--well most guys...hope i helped!!
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15/F
sorry for the length.
please, just read and respond.

Here's the deal. This isn't one of those stories where I ask advice for my friend. It really is him. Alright, well a little while ago I went to my cousins house and I met his neighbor whom I clicked with immedietly. We had this instant atraction that was werid because Iusualy wouldn't go for guys like him. I'm a good girl, because of the choices I make, and he's more of the bad boy who's been through alot. So we liked eachother a little bit, but he lives about an hour away and I have a boyfriend, and he had a girlfriend.The feelings faded how I wanted them too. When we got to know eachother, he told me that he cuts. I got him to stop and he promied me that he'd never do it again, but only because he loves me and that he wants to make sure that I trust him. I got him through alot of stuff and I became his "hero" as he says. A little while after that he told me that he missed his ex and that his life meant nothing to him anymore and I had to convince him to not take his life. I don't say anything inconsiderate and I talk to him about his feelings. I know how to play. He thanked me for the help and everything was fine for awhile. Then, yesturday, he told me that he broke up with the girlfriend that he currently had because they lived far away. I asked him if I could help and he said no, because, "It scares me how much I care about you, and I can't take loving you anymore." I didn't understand what he meant by this and I tried over and over again to ask him but he never gave me the explaination that I wanted. I thought we were over what we had, but maybe he doens't like me anymore. I asked if he still had feelings for me and he said yes, but I just really don't know. I asked him if he broke up with his girlfriend because of me and he said that he didn't know. I'm gonig up to my aunts house on monday and I'm gonig to see him because he is my aunts neighbor. I'm just afraid that things will be different and that I'll make him feel weird. We had somthing, I'll admit. I love the boyfriend that I have right now and I don't want anything to rekindle with my aunts neighbor. I want to be there for him, but I don't wnat to fall for him. I had a big problem with this last time and it almost caused me and my boyfriend to brake up. This kid means alot to me, and he changed me as a person and I see life alot differently. I just recently lost one of my best friends and he helped me get through. Now I want to be there for him. I can't have him take his life or hurt himself. Please...please help me. I sound desperate, but what would you do if you were me.

you could help me, help him save his LIFE.

thankyou and God bless all who resppond.

ok no body wants him to hurt himself we have established that...so mainly your concerns are you falling for him again, and him hurtin himself.. well as for the falling for him...you cant control that your heart decides for you...if it is meant to be, then it will be...and as for him cutting himself and suicidal...make him realize everything he has to live for..all of the good in his life..and remind him of how much everyone would miss him...including you....dont lead him on unless you really do think that maybe this is what you want..he is what you want...hope i helped!!
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PS you are a great person for caring about this boy...dont ever stop being such a good friend!!

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Thanks for answering my other question but now i have another problem, Last night she crushed my heart and today she asked me why i was so depressed, now she hates me cuz im not going not going to homecoming with her, even though we werent goin together. i have know idea what to do now can you help?

Man she sounds confusing!! geez explain to her how you feel and what she did to you...tell her that smart guys dont wait around forever....so just talk to her--you and her alone----explain it all to her...watch her body language...not only what is she saying but how is she acting?? hope i helped!! and good luck!!
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ok 14/f/straight

soome of these shouldnt be in this category, but i have a lot of questions!!

1. what IS oral sex???

2. my bf is having his b-day this coming monday, any ideas of what to get him?

3. what is feeling up mean?

4. im in a school orchestra and so is my bf, we have a concert in December, we will be able to be alone in a room making out,,, HOW DO YOU MAKE OUT/FRENCH KISS??? idk, ive never done that b4, and i KNOW he wants to, and i do too

5. How do i get my bf to put his arms around me, like you know how guys put there arms around their girlfriends waist??? well how do i get my bf to do that to me???

Im sorry i have so many questions, and im sorry if you cant answer them all, but answer what you can please!
thanks!!!

1.like touching sexual parts wit mouth
2.cd,,,dvd,,,,boxers
3. getting sexually hyper you could say
4.http://www.wikihow.com/Main-Page
5.grab his hand and put it there---he should get the idea
6. a guy putting his mouth on a girls downstairs area and like licking and what not....
hope i helped!!
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I have a problem making friends. Whenever I think I found a group of friends that like me and I could be friends with for a while, it turns out they none of them like me. I try SO hard to be nice to everyone. I don't like it when anyone hates me, so I try to not cause anything. I had a group of best friends over the summer, but most of them went to college, and we all hardly talk anymore. I want that one friend that I can go to for anything and trust, but I can NEVER trust anyone because once I think I can, they turn around and tell someone else. I already try and be nice to people, and I try to hang out with people that have the same interests in me. I had people from my Cross Country team, but now that Cross Country is over, we don't really talk. I have 3 friends that I've been trying to go out to eat with for about 2 weeks, but it never happens. It really upsets me that I cannot find at least one person who wants to be a good friend of mine, just someone to bashtalk when I leave.

My question is, how can I get friends that actually LIKE me, and want to hang out with me?

here these could be some help!!

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Friends-Easily-if-You%27re-a-Teen

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Good-Friends

this one helps with finding a best friend:

http://www.wikihow.com/Find-out-Who-Your-Best-Friends-Are

hope i helped!!
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teardrops7

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It seems like all of the girls in west milford high have always been dating assholes who want nothing but sex, then when one sweet guy comes into their lives they dont know what to do and end up hurting him. Why cant nice guys ever have what everyone else has? Do i have to turn into an asshole for girls to like me?

No honey not at all!!! some girls are just stupid and cant see whats good in front of them...they think that if they have this one guy, that maybe they will be higher on the status quo or that this guy really loves them...but let me tell you,,sometimes a girl has to make all the wrong mistakes before she can make a right one....but coming from a girl---show your feelings and dont ever change yourself, because if you change for one girl then you change your whole life...hope i helped!!
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