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How to make friends.
I have a problem making friends. Whenever I think I found a group of friends that like me and I could be friends with for a while, it turns out they none of them like me. I try SO hard to be nice to everyone. I don't like it when anyone hates me, so I try to not cause anything. I had a group of best friends over the summer, but most of them went to college, and we all hardly talk anymore. I want that one friend that I can go to for anything and trust, but I can NEVER trust anyone because once I think I can, they turn around and tell someone else. I already try and be nice to people, and I try to hang out with people that have the same interests in me. I had people from my Cross Country team, but now that Cross Country is over, we don't really talk. I have 3 friends that I've been trying to go out to eat with for about 2 weeks, but it never happens. It really upsets me that I cannot find at least one person who wants to be a good friend of mine, just someone to bashtalk when I leave.
My question is, how can I get friends that actually LIKE me, and want to hang out with me?
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It's easiest if you find people as acquaintances first. Don't focus so much on finding a friend you can trust, but try to interact with many different interesting people and see who you generally end up spending more time with.
Remember that you aren't going to find true friends who will keep all of your secrets right away. People generally tell people things about other people, it's not necessarily insulting or a bad thing (if they are actually being mean to you, though, that's a different story). Try to start off by telling people things that you wouldn't mind being told to other people.
Finding true, close friends requires time. It's probably easier if you get to know groups of people first. Many groups naturally start to form at beginnings and ends of classes, and at lunches. Don't worry about these girls from cross country and stay with these groups moving from class to class, if you find people going in the same direction. In a group, find people on the edges of the group and start talking. Something like "hi, wow I am so unprepared for this test coming up" or "I love halloween I got all this candy", anything, really. Mostly, stay on general subjects until you get to know people, because they will have an easier time relating to you.
Also, now that cross country season is over, other sports teams are staring up. Investigate in things you are interested in. Maybe there is a play for school you'd like to try out for? Once you do get to know people from teams, try finding them at lunch, even if you don't talk as much. At least say hi to them in the hallway, or start conversations with them when you are both alone and bored. Alone and bored people are generally safe to talk to in general, since they are looking for someone to eat lunch with anyway (or talk to in general). Always try to eat lunch with someone, even if you do not really know the person. Don't try to figure out if you could trust them. If anything just don't trust them, then make small talk. Don't worry about what they will think of someone they don't know that well talking to them, either. Most people feel slightly insecure, and are worrying the same about you. Remember that most people are craving some sort of interaction, and won't mind hanging out with you (and if they do, they're being silly so you should move on).
As a final note, online communications are also useful not for meeting people, per say, but for restarting up friendships that died when cross country ended, for example. A simple hello on msn or myspace/facebook/friendster is always good, followed by something like "how are you doing" or "trying out for any more sports?" . If they continue the conversation - if anyone from the interactions above continues the conversation, then voila -friends!
Or maybe it;s not that instant, but you get the idea. Have an open mind, get involved, and try meeting lots of people/ talking to people you have met before.
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