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Im so deeply in love..
My story is too long, So im going to summarize it. I am so in love with this guy, There realy isnt any comparsion to how much we loved eachother. We were together for 2 years, And basicaly legends in our school. All because of how much we loved eachother. people would envy us so much and everyone said there is no way are we ever going to end up seperated.
Well we were going through alot of fights and problems lately, And i had decided to end it. He became furious and full of rage, And he said we shouldnt speak. Its been now 3 weeks and a half..He has tried to make small talk with me. We see eachother EVERYDAY in school which makes it harder to move on. Everyone see's it and as do i, He stares at me alot, Always glancing when my back is turned, He tries to have small talk with me, but always seems just angry during it, And he heard i was dating someone and actualy asked me about it. But though he does all that all his friends and his own brother said taht hes over me. My question is..How could a strong love relationship that was legend had him get over me so quickly? Is it possible that in 3 weeks and a half he could be over me soo soon? Even though he does all that.
I also want to add when he was trying to get over me he went out and did weed, Hung out with sluts ( but never did anything with them, I think it was just to get me jealous) He went out and smoked, and though he never played soccer at school everyday he plays soccer now, And before he had told me that soccer was a way of him keeping his mind off things.
I have no idea whats going on. Or what to do. I dono how to tell if a guy is completely over me or not. I dont know if he is. And its killing me so much to think he could be done. Usualy after every fight if i dumped him hed run after me but this time he was the one saying he didnt want to speak anymore. I just have no idea whats going on.
Help =[ I dont realy ever ask for advice..But im just so hurt, Thankyou in advance =]
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The only way to truly know how he feels is to talk to him. He's already trying to make small talk, right? It is doubtful that he has completely "moved on" but also very possible that he's trying to, and wants to, but then again. How did you feel before he ran after you all the previous times you broke up?
Things aren't ever "meant to be". Yes, there are things that should happen, things that are most likely to happen, but the truth is that the only way for something to work is to make it happen. Relationships are rarely perfect, even those that are legends. Even in your relationship there were fights, were there not? The difference between relationships that work and those that don't is that people in the working ones stay in those relationships despite the fact that it's not perfect and they aren't always getting along, not because this doesn't happen.
The reason he got over this legendary relationship so quickly was because you broke up with him. Simple really, but you did ask. All of the other times this happened he came chasing after you, but he probably doesn't want to keep doing this, even if, say, as I'm writing this he gives you a phone call. No, he probably isn't happy this is over since you said he was "full of rage" when you broke up. Though, to him, it looks like you are moving on, with the rumours of you dating someone especially. Probably the only reason why he isn't out there chasing after you is because he's already done that, and now you've broken up with him. Again.
Right now you should probably think about how much you love this guy. If you did, why did you break up with him? It may actually be easier for you to be broken up if there is a lot of conflict; this is for you to decide. If you want to be out of this relationship, get over the fact that he isn't running after you. You wanted it to be over, right? You had lots of conflicts, right? It will be easier just not to think about him as much as possible if this is the case. Don't work yourself up over how bad the relationship was/ you are if he isn't as worked up as you would have thought. Base your self worth on something other than how fast he'll run when you're running away from him.
If you still love him (there was present tense in the second sentence), and really want to stick it out - not just to be legendary but because you really, truly want to - then it's up to you to do the chasing.
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you broke up with him, and now your sad that hes over you?
im sorry, but thats not how heathly relationships work. if this is what was going on, getting in fights, him chasing you, then you getting back together, throughout your entire relationship, then it was incredibly unhealthy.
if your gonna be in a relationship with someone, and say your in love with them, then you shouldnt always be waiting for them to come back all the time. you should be nice, and dont get in fights and break up, soley because you want him to chase you.
in my opinion, its a good thing that is over you, or trying to be over you. because you seem to be really bad for him. and he should defaintly move on, because you want him to be happy, he wont be happy if hes always chasing you.
sorry if its not what you want to hear, but if you really did "love" him then you would let him go, and do whats best for him, becasue you should put him first in your life.
and personally, judging by the decisions youve made and how you handle your problems, your much to young to comprehend what love is.
sorry if its not the best news, but its the best advice.
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